FabSwingers.com forum: Lost and alone

By *avidNP OP Man
21 hours ago

manchester

Anyone else ever feel that on these forums they are invisible at times? It can be a lonely place that’s full of people talking. Some threads seem like they are only meant for certain ‘cool people’

What yo ur experience?

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By *essica trueTV/TS
21 hours ago

blackpool

"Anyone else ever feel that on these forums they are invisible at times? It can be a lonely place that’s full of people talking. Some threads seem like they are only meant for certain ‘cool people’

What yo ur experience? "

You look quite cute actually xx

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By *onin25Man
21 hours ago

Durham

Everyone gets overlooked in threads sometimes. Even the hot women occasionally. Keep plugging away, build a rapport with people and it happens less

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By *viatrixCouple
20 hours ago

Gatwick

I’m actually finding the forum more diverse at the moment- with many newer forumites posting and starting threads, such as yourself, OP.

As a friend said over lunch the other day, I have always stayed in the periphery of the forum- never been really included, and there was a time I -really- tried, years ago, when I was new and young(er)

but now I think I actually prefer to be the outsider as I don’t get any drama

and I can still benefit from the forum when I am bored haha.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
20 hours ago

andover

I find that as I post during the night, I tend to end most threads I post on 😂 and rarely have conversations with others….but I enjoy reading through, poking my nose in and putting my opinions forward 😬

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By *ellhungvweMan
20 hours ago

Cheltenham

The forums have always been cliquey. I think people should just do their own thing and stop worrying about what other people think.

In my experience the fact that you don’t get much public attention doesn’t mean that people don’t notice. Just be yourself.

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By *apua New GuineaMan
20 hours ago

nearby

Hi OP, I see and hear you.

I pop in and out (which ironically describes my bedtime skills) and try not to take the forums or fab too seriously and have far more time off than on.

Maybe consider what works/ doesn't work for you and see the forum as an extension.

Take care.

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By *dstefiMan
20 hours ago

Solihull

I just take the approach of posting in threads that interest me and I feel I have something to contribute, some of the forum games that tend to attract the regulars and name checkers but by no means all, and if people notice and engage that's lovely but I don't feel offended if they don't.

I tend to value more wordy interactions anyway.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
20 hours ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

Especially when leading a busy life it’s not always possible to keep in a thread & keep banter going so dropping into forums adding a comment or observation & seeing if likeminded responses & connections happen

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By *ealitybitesMan
20 hours ago

Belfast

The only difference I've noticed in my time using the forums is the number of people using them to give a nod and a wink to conversations they are already having in their off-site chat groups.

It just adds to the belief that cliques exist and can often make newbies reluctant to take part and more established members who aren't in on the joke to just roll their eyes.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
20 hours ago

Round the bend

I think we have all felt like this at some point. I know I certainly have. The more you interact, the better chance you have of being seen.

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By *he MinionMan
20 hours ago

Surrey

As a single guy it often feels like you have been overlooked in forum threads, especialy the "erson above" type threads.

It happens. I like to think it it not done on purpose and when it blatantly is, i like to feel that it is noticed and others, will think that persons a bit of a twat for doing it.

But in general, the forums are a friendly, welcoming place. Keep at it and one day, one day in the far future, you too, could be part of the clique 😉

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
20 hours ago

the land of vagina

I wouldnt give an online forum or random people on the internet the power to make me feel lonely and lost. I randomly comment on threads im interested in or for a chuckle. If someone chats or replies to me i will answer if they dont i have still given myself a chuckle thats how i view it.

Some people will naturally gravitate towards each other like they would in real life doesnt always mean its cliquey however there are some cliques on here.

I dont think there are any "popular" people on here and if someone does think that their "popular" then they need to give there head a shake.

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By *iver78Man
20 hours ago

barton upon humber

What yo ur experience? "

If your feeling like this maybe internet forums arnt for you ,

You are correct in the fact that this one is quite clique but wouldent say its the cool people 🤣🤣 not really a cool place is it , let's face it nobody on a sex site could ever class themselfs as cool 😎 in fact it possibly the opposite 🤣

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By *infullyObedientWoman
20 hours ago

Woodley

I take it all with a pinch of salt to be honest. I enjoy interacting on the forums and comment on whatever interests me. Usually just the silly threads and rarely any serious ones.

I dont feel I'm in any of the 'cool people' groups but equally I dont want to be. I dont post here to be popular, just to have fun and join in. I often get passed over but suxh is the way, I dont let it stop me joining in.

Sorry you are feeling invisible though, thats not a nice feeling. You are seen though and are a welcome addition.

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By *heron ShanMan
20 hours ago

Durham

I don't think you should take too much stock in people you do not know or their opinions of you.

Define what you think are the 'cool people', some people post more then others, some people seem ok and others not so much.

If you are looking to genuinely connect with people then I would advise other ways to do it, if you are in to clubs, there are socials, even meeting people in vanilla activates.

You might connect with people on here but given the distance of people, you are only seeing what they choose to project.

Nobody really knows me on the forums or my live, If I feel a connection with someone then I let that person closer and take it away from forums and fab. That's when true connection begins.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
20 hours ago

Round the bend

"As a single guy it often feels like you have been overlooked in forum threads, especialy the "erson above" type threads.

It happens. I like to think it it not done on purpose and when it blatantly is, i like to feel that it is noticed and others, will think that persons a bit of a twat for doing it.

But in general, the forums are a friendly, welcoming place. Keep at it and one day, one day in the far future, you too, could be part of the clique 😉"

I have mainly found that it's guys who skip posts on those kind of threads. And yes, I think a lot of it is mis-timing. I've done that more times than I care to remember 😅

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
20 hours ago

Lincolnshire

Yes, sometimes.

I try and be funny in a lot of my comments, but really I think Im just here to amuse myself 😂

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
20 hours ago

Round the bend

Forums are in general clique based, the people who deny this often don't realise they are part of the clique, the cool people as you put have put the hours in to be noticed, some don't have to try as hard as others do.

Look at it like walking into a new pub, it takes time to become part of the furniture, before other people say high or chat to you.

Sooner or later though you become familiar enough to others to ask how you are, unless your the dickhead that no one wants to share a drink with.

Mr 🐺

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By *parklingeclipseWoman
20 hours ago

Lincolnshire

"Forums are in general clique based, the people who deny this often don't realise they are part of the clique, the cool people as you put have put the hours in to be noticed, some don't have to try as hard as others do.

Look at it like walking into a new pub, it takes time to become part of the furniture, before other people say high or chat to you.

Sooner or later though you become familiar enough to others to ask how you are, unless your the dickhead that no one wants to share a drink with.

Mr 🐺 "

First paragraph 100% true Mr. W

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By *cott45hullMan
19 hours ago

Hull

Look at it like walking into a new pub, it takes time to become part of the furniture, before other people say high or chat to you.

Sooner or later though you become familiar enough to others to ask how you are, unless your the dickhead that no one wants to share a drink with.

Mr 🐺 "

Nailed it. And whilst the loud outgoing flamboyant types get noticed and involved quickly. That doesn’t last if they’re dickheada.

Stick around, say hi, get involved, be a decent person.

Trust me I’ve been through it

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By *iCurvCPLCouple
19 hours ago

Newport

Do find on certain threads that the 6 packs and lip fillers do get the most attention and conversation but nah to Their own. If someone is worth speaking to them they will message and not need public attention to feel appreciated

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By *earditallWoman
19 hours ago

Lancaster

I wouldn't read too much into it,just keep getting involved.

I've been on and off here for years and at times some people interact some don't I just get involved anyway.

I think Mr Wolves has it right in what he wrote

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By *evious daveMan
19 hours ago

cheshire

"As a single guy it often feels like you have been overlooked in forum threads, especialy the "erson above" type threads.

It happens. I like to think it it not done on purpose and when it blatantly is, i like to feel that it is noticed and others, will think that persons a bit of a twat for doing it.

But in general, the forums are a friendly, welcoming place. Keep at it and one day, one day in the far future, you too, could be part of the clique 😉"
... ah now the person above i just cant type fast enough

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
19 hours ago

Here. There.

OP you’re not claiming everyone is bi, you’re not moaning about needing to pay site support to watch people wank over an elbow in cam chat, you’re not asking incessantly if you should have a beard or whether a dick the girth of a Pringles can is enough, and as far as I can tell you’re not tiredly and performatively simping over every woman on here and calling it ‘flirting’.

Frankly you’re just not trying hard enough 🫵

Get with the program. Individuality will not be tolerated.

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By *onsensicalNamesMan
19 hours ago

Stoke-on-trent

It isn't worth worrying what strangers think about you, especially on a forum.

I have the same approach everywhere I go, I might get on with a few people, I might get on with only one or no one at all, I'm not for everybody so I don't worry about it. But the people I do get on with, I'll get on very well with.

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By *ersatilefoxMan
19 hours ago

Notts

Not all topics are for all people. I take part in quite a few and rarely get a response. But it doesn't stop me. If I can give someone some helpful information at some point then that's fine with me.

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By *quirrel54Man
19 hours ago

oldham

Totally agree posted a few times even answered directly and not a murmer. I also agree it appears to be very clicky.

The last time I was on here was the same for a few years then I got the odd reply.

So don’t give up keep posting

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By *evious daveMan
19 hours ago

cheshire

those bloody clickety clicks

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By *okingham WillMan
19 hours ago

It’s a cliquey fuck site forum, OP.

Wouldn’t worry about too much tbh.

You be you

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By *parkle1974Woman
19 hours ago

Garden of Eden

I don't put that much thought into the forums...if it makes you feel lost and alone, I would take a step back.

I usually drop a comment in then forget about it. It's when a forum topic turns into a conversation between a select number of people (which could be taken to DM's) happen, I find off putting...and when I see it, I just won't interact with that thread.

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By *actile TensionMan
19 hours ago

Sussex

Im content with being dull n overlooked. Ive never really known how to integrate anyways

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
19 hours ago

London

It's difficult to reply to every comment without dominating the thread. And sometimes people only respond if they have something to say. It doesn't mean your comment is overlooked or ignored. Feeling lost or alone is normal. I've felt like that sometimes too. I either take a break or I get stuck in. I hope you're feeling better OP. As a geek, I was never cool. But now being geeky/nerdy is cool. Express yourself 👍🏾😊

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By *oe up northMan
19 hours ago

Blackpool

I try to contribute, if I get engagement, good, if not, also good

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By *vaRoseWoman
19 hours ago

Ankh-Morpork

Everyone gets skipped and ignored on here, kind of the nature of the forums really

Keep posting and don’t fret about what others do

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By *iver78Man
19 hours ago

barton upon humber

Simple way to get attention is go against what one of the ' cool ' people say 🤣 works wonders and is quite funny when they get passive aggressive over a text and use really big words in an effort to try to intimidate you with there knowledge of the English language 🤣

But I dont see you (OP) being that way inclined .. and never go against who you are

Is funny though 🤣

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By *tubbsy85Woman
19 hours ago

ipswich

I enjoy being invisible. I like being able to write my own thoughts down, and bugger off 🤣

Being a lurker as well, I have found that new posters who instantly want to gravitate towards the "cool bunch" don't particularly have a better time on here. There's no denying, that comments made daily, are not particularly in favour of some poster's behaviours and would you want to be associated with that?I think concentrate on creating threads that get people interested and talking. Make your own group of people to be cool with. The "cool people" are outnumbered, so you'll have more success and people to talk to, if you concentrate on the ones who don't want to be part on this so called in crowd.

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
18 hours ago

In a galaxy far far away

I wouldn't say people are invisible on the forum, as their comments are still read, even if not replied to.

On a lot of my threads, I'll create a topic and rather than replying to everyone who posts, I prefer to get people talking amongst themselves and I sit back and enjoy reading the replies.

There a lot of threads I avoid, like the smash or pass games, the secret message game, or other matchmaker ones. They can get a bit clique.

But I generally just post random rubbish and try to be funny to make me laugh. I like improv comedy and if I can make a quick joke on a reply it makes me laugh.

If it makes someone else laugh it's a bonus.

But don't take it to heart if your not always replied to, it's not possible to reply to everyone.

The best advice I can give you if you do feel a bit ignored, is to make threads yourself. That's the best way to talk to people on the forum on a subject you like, as you can reply to them, and they reply to you etc

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By *ore_Than_VanillaMan
18 hours ago

Cheddar

I have actually found this forum surprisingly less cliquey than most, as long as you stay in the lounge

During my first couple of months of posting I've had several side pm conversations from members who have messaged me first. Plenty of my comments quoted and replied to.

However, if 3 members say basically the same thing, it's natural for a member to reply to the person they know best, that is not ignoring the other 2 comments, just subconscious human nature.

I would add that, just because your comment hasn't been replied to, doesn't mean that it hasn't added to the quality of debate. So keep contributing.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

What yo ur experience?

You look quite cute actually xx"

Thank you

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Everyone gets overlooked in threads sometimes. Even the hot women occasionally. Keep plugging away, build a rapport with people and it happens less "

Thanks

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I’m actually finding the forum more diverse at the moment- with many newer forumites posting and starting threads, such as yourself, OP.

but now I think I actually prefer to be the outsider as I don’t get any drama

and I can still benefit from the forum when I am bored haha. "

Thanks I’m trying to get invited and show a bit of who I am

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I find that as I post during the night, I tend to end most threads I post on 😂 and rarely have conversations with others….but I enjoy reading through, poking my nose in and putting my opinions forward 😬"

I’m open to chat anytime you like. Both if you welcome to chat.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"The forums have always been cliquey. I think people should just do their own thing and stop worrying about what other people think.

In my experience the fact that you don’t get much public attention doesn’t mean that people don’t notice. Just be yourself."

Yeah I think you are right

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Hi OP, I see and hear you.

I pop in and out (which ironically describes my bedtime skills) and try not to take the forums or fab too seriously and have far more time off than on.

Maybe consider what works/ doesn't work for you and see the forum as an extension.

Take care."

Thankk on a mate for the advice

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By *rikAndFreyjaCouple
9 hours ago

Llanbrynmair

We do this! We're thread killers 100% 🤣

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By *elvet RopeMan
9 hours ago

by the big field

There’s a certain freedom of not being part of the clique and needing to be popular, or using the forum in any way to meet people- therefore you can say what the hell you like with zero fucks given if someone gets their grouch on

Just paddle your own canoe

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"The only difference I've noticed in my time using the forums is the number of people using them to give a nod and a wink to conversations they are already having in their off-site chat groups.

It just adds to the belief that cliques exist and can often make newbies reluctant to take part and more established members who aren't in on the joke to just roll their eyes."

I have wondered that myself

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I think we have all felt like this at some point. I know I certainly have. The more you interact, the better chance you have of being seen. "

I am trying

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

We do this! We're thread killers 100% 🤣"

Oh that’s a shame I’m always open to chat

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"There’s a certain freedom of not being part of the clique and needing to be popular, or using the forum in any way to meet people- therefore you can say what the hell you like with zero fucks given if someone gets their grouch on

Just paddle your own canoe

I like a canoe

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"As a single guy it often feels like you have been overlooked in forum threads, especialy the "erson above" type threads.

It happens. I like to think it it not done on purpose and when it blatantly is, i like to feel that it is noticed and others, will think that persons a bit of a twat for doing it.

But in general, the forums are a friendly, welcoming place. Keep at it and one day, one day in the far future, you too, could be part of the clique 😉"

They are friendly I agree

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By *ustBoWoman
9 hours ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have been on here over 7 years now and I rarely get any interaction on the forums. I'm not posting in the hope of becoming a popular forumite I just post on topics that I want to. I wouldn't let the fact that I rarely get replies etc off here upset me. Most are just random people anyhow the same as I am to them.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I wouldnt give an online forum or random people on the internet the power to make me feel lonely and lost. I randomly comment on threads im interested in or for a chuckle. If someone chats or replies to me i will answer if they dont i have still given myself a chuckle thats how i view it.

Some people will naturally gravitate towards each other like they would in real life doesnt always mean its cliquey however there are some cliques on here.

I dont think there are any "popular" people on here and if someone does think that their "popular" then they need to give there head a shake. "

Good advice

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By *elvet RopeMan
9 hours ago

by the big field

Just paddle your own canoe

I like a canoe "

Then paddle yours whichever direction you want and enjoy the solitude, or see who you encounter that just happens to be paddling a similar direction

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By *urry BlokeMan
9 hours ago

I've experienced both sides of this coin

When I was younger, properly single, attending socials and had free time to spend on here, I often received responses to comments made as well as private messages from forumites

Now, I wear the cloak of invisibility

It doesn't bother me because I don't really have the time,the inclination nor the patience to keep up the

impetus

So bobbing in saying a few words and leaving kinda works for me

However, I do see how others would become frustrated by their lack of perceived visibility

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

What yo ur experience?

If your feeling like this maybe internet forums arnt for you ,

I am actually not feeling list or alone I just wondered if people r er did is all.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I take it all with a pinch of salt to be honest. I enjoy interacting on the forums and comment on whatever interests me. Usually just the silly threads and rarely any serious ones.

Sorry you are feeling invisible though, thats not a nice feeling. You are seen though and are a welcome addition. "

Some days I doo feel like what’s the point

It’s nice of you to say I’m a welcome addition

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By *ntelligent Gent.Man
9 hours ago

Solihull

OP you do have a point. I havent quite clicked on these forums 99% of the time - but it is very normal and happens and many do not do the forum.

Just like any social playground. People obviously know each other so more likely ppl they know or those they fancy.

It doesnt stop ppl being often great. Also there are lots of other sites forums - which are very easy so there are lots out there!

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I don't think you should take too much stock in people you do not know or their opinions of you.

Define what you think are the 'cool people', some people post more then others, some people seem ok and others not so much.

If you are looking to genuinely connect with people then I would advise other ways to do it, if you are in to clubs, there are socials, even meeting people in vanilla activates.

You might connect with people on here but given the distance of people, you are only seeing what they choose to project.

Nobody really knows me on the forums or my live, If I feel a connection with someone then I let that person closer and take it away from forums and fab. That's when true connection begins."

I learning a lot from this thread

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Yes, sometimes.

I try and be funny in a lot of my comments, but really I think Im just here to amuse myself 😂 "

Well I’m open to chat anytime.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

Look at it like walking into a new pub, it takes time to become part of the furniture, before other people say high or chat to you.

Sooner or later though you become familiar enough to others to ask how you are, unless your the dickhead that no one wants to share a drink with.

Mr 🐺 "

I really hope I’m not a dickhead

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Do find on certain threads that the 6 packs and lip fillers do get the most attention and conversation but nah to Their own. If someone is worth speaking to them they will message and not need public attention to feel appreciated "

Lip fillers not thanks

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
9 hours ago

SW1A1AA

I post for my own entertainment abs to make myself laugh. If others enjoy my threads it's a bonus

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I wouldn't read too much into it,just keep getting involved.

I've been on and off here for years and at times some people interact some don't I just get involved anyway.

I think Mr Wolves has it right in what he wrote

Thank you

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"OP you’re not claiming everyone is bi, you’re not moaning about needing to pay site support to watch people wank over an elbow in cam chat, you’re not asking incessantly if you should have a beard or whether a dick the girth of a Pringles can is enough, and as far as I can tell you’re not tiredly and performatively simping over every woman on here and calling it ‘flirting’.

Frankly you’re just not trying hard enough 🫵

Get with the program. Individuality will not be tolerated.

🤣🤣🤣 all I am doing is being me

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By *hunkymonkey81Man
9 hours ago

Sheffield

Very cute

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By *tannersMan
9 hours ago

stanley

Sometimes, but usually one of my fab chums will spot I’m a bit off and reach out

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"It’s a cliquey fuck site forum, OP.

Wouldn’t worry about too much tbh.

You be you

All I can be is me

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By *emptme1993Man
9 hours ago

manchester

I reply to forums to keep myself entertained mostly, if other people are interested in what I say then great, if not it’s no skin off my nose. I’m on here for me, speak to some great people from the forums separately some that there’s a sexual attraction to some is purely platonic, and there’s some not so great people. And I’m sure people put me in all 3 categories as well depending on who you speak to. It’s a big world on fab so at some point most people will probably feel invisible, don’t take it personal or to heart

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By *0lfie25Man
9 hours ago

Wolverhampton

I constantly feel alone and or disconnected, online and in real life - even with loads of people I know well in the same room.

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By *opeye89Man
9 hours ago

London

You don’t want to make the forums be your be all and end all. The forums are just a place for you to do your own thing and if you connect with someone through your posts, that’s just an added bonus. But, don’t let it take control of your emotions. If it is, you might need to step away.

I post everywhere and anywhere. On posts I like, topics that interest me or if I have a viewpoint I want to get across. And sometimes just to flirt and catch someone’s attention.

It’s meant to be fun at the end of the day. If it stops being fun, then it’s time for a breather.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I don't put that much thought into the forums...if it makes you feel lost and alone, I would take a step back.

I don’t feel lost and alone. I have felt left out of some forums. I’m still learning and just wondered what everyone else thought.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"It's difficult to reply to every comment without dominating the thread. And sometimes people only respond if they have something to say. It doesn't mean your comment is overlooked or ignored. Feeling lost or alone is normal. I've felt like that sometimes too. I either take a break or I get stuck in. I hope you're feeling better OP. As a geek, I was never cool. But now being geeky/nerdy is cool. Express yourself 👍🏾😊"

Thanks mate I’m all good

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 hours ago

Garden of Eden

"I don't put that much thought into the forums...if it makes you feel lost and alone, I would take a step back.

I don’t feel lost and alone. I have felt left out of some forums. I’m still learning and just wondered what everyone else thought. "

It was a generic "I" not aimed at you specifically

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I enjoy being invisible. I like being able to write my own thoughts down, and bugger off 🤣

Thank you

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I wouldn't say people are invisible on the forum, as their comments are still read, even if not replied to.

On a lot of my threads, I'll create a topic and rather than replying to everyone who posts, I prefer to get people talking amongst themselves and I sit back and enjoy reading the replies.

There a lot of threads I avoid, like the smash or pass games, the secret message game, or other matchmaker ones. They can get a bit clique.

But I generally just post random rubbish and try to be funny to make me laugh. I like improv comedy and if I can make a quick joke on a reply it makes me laugh.

If it makes someone else laugh it's a bonus.

But don't take it to heart if your not always replied to, it's not possible to reply to everyone.

Good advice thanks

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By *hickthighs-26Woman
9 hours ago

the land of vagina

I also think its not neccessary to comment on peoples looks to make a point

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
9 hours ago

SW1A1AA

Anyway op. You started a very successful thread yesterday

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I have been on here over 7 years now and I rarely get any interaction on the forums. I'm not posting in the hope of becoming a popular forumite I just post on topics that I want to. I wouldn't let the fact that I rarely get replies etc off here upset me. Most are just random people anyhow the same as I am to them. "

Thank you for the advice

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Very cute"

Who is?

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"You don’t want to make the forums be your be all and end all. The forums are just a place for you to do your own thing and if you connect with someone through your posts, that’s just an added bonus. But, don’t let it take control of your emotions. If it is, you might need to step away.

I post everywhere and anywhere. On posts I like, topics that interest me or if I have a viewpoint I want to get across. And sometimes just to flirt and catch someone’s attention.

It’s meant to be fun at the end of the day. If it stops being fun, then it’s time for a breather.

Thanks for the advice

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I don't put that much thought into the forums...if it makes you feel lost and alone, I would take a step back.

I don’t feel lost and alone. I have felt left out of some forums. I’m still learning and just wondered what everyone else thought.

It was a generic "I" not aimed at you specifically "

No worries

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I also think its not neccessary to comment on peoples looks to make a point

I hope I don’t do that?

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Anyway op. You started a very successful thread yesterday "

Oh which one?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
9 hours ago

SW1A1AA

"Anyway op. You started a very successful thread yesterday

Oh which one? "
what has fab given you or something like that

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By *weetiepie99Woman
9 hours ago

cardiff

I think the perceived 'popular' forum posters are simply the ones who spend a lot of time on here and start a lot of threads, therefore becoming more prevalent or 'well known'. I think it actually has nothing to do with popularity at all.

I would just dip in and out, as and when you feel like, and if its having a negative affect on you, maybe step away for a bit.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"Anyway op. You started a very successful thread yesterday

Oh which one? what has fab given you or something like that"

Ah yes it was popular for a while

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I think the perceived 'popular' forum posters are simply the ones who spend a lot of time on here and start a lot of threads, therefore becoming more prevalent or 'well known'. I think it actually has nothing to do with popularity at all.

I would just dip in and out, as and when you feel like, and if its having a negative affect on you, maybe step away for a bit."

Good a as device thank you

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By *allipygousMan
9 hours ago

Leicester

People who use the forums regularly notice everyone.

If you're a single man that spends most of your time blowing smoke up the arses of single women and couples then you'll be generally ignored.

If you're a single man and you come across as 'weird' you'll be generally ignored.

Some people just aren't cut out for this online malarkey and telling someone to just be themselves can sometimes be the worst advice you can give them.

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By *obilebottomMan
9 hours ago

All over

The thing is that as an OP you have to strike a balance of answering every post yourself or leave people to interact. I post on topics that I have somethin to say even if is just a bit of banter. I create threads that I enjoy like lots of food ones and tbe like. If one person posts fine, if not still fine too. The friendly thread I have been doing for years, one day there might be 100 and more people on, other days nobody at all. I usually still post to just say hello, good morning etc. I just like interacting with nice people with no agenda and there are lots here. There are some that after all these years they have never once responded to anything I said even though few minutes later responded to same comment from someone else. Noticed, yes, bothered me, no. As others said some threads have become the playground of a few people but hopefully not anyone is intentionally excluded though perhaps the point is that everyone should feel included. I no longer do those as when I used to do one I genuinely put a lot of effort into ensuring everyone felt included and even then I probably missed one or two. Everyone gravitates to different people topics and tribes just like in the real world. It is what it is, never let it affect your emotions and if it does, withdraw for a bit and come back. I did that once for some time as I let someone, dare I say one of so very popular ones here, get to me and I felt harassed. I will never do that again or let anyone on here affect me that way. So many nice people here, takes time to know them. Give it time. Incidentally your last 4 threads in just a day or so averaged over 60 posts each, so can't be bad

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By *peedyGMan
9 hours ago

Telford

I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

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By *oul_Man_501Man
9 hours ago

Kent

Swings and roundabouts 👍

Yes to feeling invisible at times 🫥

Yes to feeling lonely and left out at times 🙄

Some threads I avoid 🥴

Other times it's the opposite 🙂

Lots of threads/challenges I've joined in on 😁

Lots of people I've enjoyed chatting with 🤗

Made a few friends 💕

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By *obilebottomMan
9 hours ago

All over

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it."

👋👋👋

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By *artorialMan
9 hours ago

weymouth

An awful lot of folks read the post but don't always get involved, so I'd say your perception of being lost and alone is just that - perception. Carry on posting and as the contributor above has said try not to overdo think it

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By *aven.Woman
9 hours ago

"popular" = has boobs/flirts with anything with a pulse/doesn't have a life so posts constantly.

The forums isn't a popularity contest, just come and talk shite and leave.

Don't overthink it.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"The thing is that as an OP you have to strike a balance of answering every post yourself or leave people to interact. I post on topics that I have somethin to say even if is just a bit of banter. I create threads that I enjoy like lots of food ones and tbe like. If one person posts fine, if not still fine too. The friendly thread I have been doing for years, one day there might be 100 and more people on, other days nobody at all. I usually still post to just say hello, good morning etc. I just like interacting with nice people with no agenda and there are lots here. There are some that after all these years they have never once responded to anything I said even though few minutes later responded to same comment from someone else. Noticed, yes, bothered me, no. As others said some threads have become the playground of a few people but hopefully not anyone is intentionally excluded though perhaps the point is that everyone should feel included. I no longer do those as when I used to do one I genuinely put a lot of effort into ensuring everyone felt included and even then I probably missed one or two. Everyone gravitates to different people topics and tribes just like in the real world. It is what it is, never let it affect your emotions and if it does, withdraw for a bit and come back. I did that once for some time as I let someone, dare I say one of so very popular ones here, get to me and I felt harassed. I will never do that again or let anyone on here affect me that way. So many nice people here, takes time to know them. Give it time. Incidentally your last 4 threads in just a day or so averaged over 60 posts each, so can't be bad

I’m just asking questions I would like to know answers to.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it."

I am not ignoring you thanks for the input

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

""popular" = has boobs/flirts with anything with a pulse/doesn't have a life so posts constantly.

The forums isn't a popularity contest, just come and talk shite and leave.

Don't overthink it."

I’m starting to realise a lot about how it all works

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By *peedyGMan
9 hours ago

Telford

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

👋👋👋

Not you ever MB, always give me the time of day pal

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By *peedyGMan
9 hours ago

Telford

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

I am not ignoring you thanks for the input "

I know and thank you OP

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By *arbonaraKingMan
9 hours ago

Leeds

I have seen many come and go over the different times I have been on here. There will always be a school element of cool kids who all talk to each other, pick each other in games and reply continuously, re quoting each other for half the thread. While certain people get ignored entirely. Usually newer people.

Some people come in, make some relevant or amusing comments and get noticed, some people come in here and get noticed because they are very attractive (or just nearly any female really), some people come in and comment relentlessly in every thread and make 8 new threads a day and just try way too hard to get noticed but it basically has the opposite effect and people steer clear of them.

Pick threads you have something to add to. A joke, a helpful comment, sarcastic but clever wit, a reference to your personality trait. Don’t chase every woman that posts in your thread or act ‘overly nice’ to them all.

We can’t all be in the top 10 most popular, there are so many people in the forums, some will get left out, just purely because of numbers

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By *tannersMan
9 hours ago

stanley

For me the forums are a microcosm of wider life.

Do I expect everyone in life to like me or what I have to say, or agree with my views, absolutely not. Does that stop me from trying to be a decent bloke, find common ground with people, make new connections. Also absolutely not. So why would I expect Fab Forum to be any different.

I don’t do anything for popularity, anyone who has got involved in my threads would know that, most of them are on the silly side and many of them “fail to launch “

I also recognise that without interaction the forums fail, so I try to engage with as many threads as I can where I have something relatively sensible to say.

I have not observed any clique like behaviour, maybe I’m too naive to spot it. I do know that there is rarely a week goes by where I don’t interact with someone new and I think that’s a real positive.

Everything on Fab is optional, so people should make the choices that suit them best.

Anyway that’s my thoughts, opinions and experience here. I make no claim to them being any more right or valid than anyone else’s.

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

I am not ignoring you thanks for the input

I know and thank you OP

You are welcome mate.

I hope you are having a good evening?

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By *avidNP OP Man
9 hours ago

manchester

"I have seen many come and go over the different times I have been on here. There will always be a school element of cool kids who all talk to each other, pick each other in games and reply continuously, re quoting each other for half the thread. While certain people get ignored entirely. Usually newer people.

We can’t all be in the top 10 most popular, there are so many people in the forums, some will get left out, just purely because of numbers"

Thanks for the advice

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By *peedyGMan
8 hours ago

Telford

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

I am not ignoring you thanks for the input

I know and thank you OP

You are welcome mate.

I hope you are having a good evening? "

Very chilled after working in this heat tbh... yes very nice though

Hope you are having a goo evening too

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By *peedyGMan
8 hours ago

Telford

*Good

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

I am not ignoring you thanks for the input

I know and thank you OP

You are welcome mate.

I hope you are having a good evening?

Very chilled after working in this heat tbh... yes very nice though

Hope you are having a goo evening too

I’m fucked working in this heat has killed me

I’m a gardener

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By *tannersMan
8 hours ago

stanley

Anyway OP i don’t know if my opinion carry’s any weight with you or not. But for me you have made and do make a positive impression and contribution here. I have very much noticed you , all for positive reasons.

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

"Anyway OP i don’t know if my opinion carry’s any weight with you or not. But for me you have made and do make a positive impression and contribution here. I have very much noticed you , all for positive reasons. "

Of course your opinion matters. I like to know what people think of me good or bad. I’m here to make friends and learn and become a better person if that’s possible as I’m awesome 🤣

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By *obilebottomMan
8 hours ago

All over

I’m just asking questions I would like to know answers to. "

Of course as that is usually why we all ask them but only some people answer us, some people don't. I used to notice it a bit while back, no I don't

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

I’m just asking questions I would like to know answers to.

Of course as that is usually why we all ask them but only some people answer us, some people don't. I used to notice it a bit while back, no I don't

Learning all the time

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By *peedyGMan
8 hours ago

Telford

"I've been here long enough to know i will mostly be ignored on threads OP... it is what it is i guess... I just post and don't over think it.

I am not ignoring you thanks for the input

I know and thank you OP

You are welcome mate.

I hope you are having a good evening?

Very chilled after working in this heat tbh... yes very nice though

Hope you are having a goo evening too

I’m fucked working in this heat has killed me

I’m a gardener "

Ahh.. well been shite for you too pal

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
8 hours ago

In a galaxy far far away

Following on from a point MB made.

There was a popular thread the other day and everyone got a reply from the OP, except me, despite posting twice.

Another one yesterday, and one today.

Do I care?

I couldn't give a flying fuck, I'll still post my nonsense

Post for your own amusement Dave 👍

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

"Following on from a point MB made.

There was a popular thread the other day and everyone got a reply from the OP, except me, despite posting twice.

Another one yesterday, and one today.

Do I care?

I couldn't give a flying fuck, I'll still post my nonsense

Post for your own amusement Dave 👍"

Your great I like you

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
8 hours ago

North West

Who are the “cool people”?

What exactly are you expecting in terms of interaction and who from?

A little light external validation feels great but seeking it too hard isn’t good for you. Also it often feels like everyone else is chatting in messages but they’re not. Or at least I’m not 😅

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
8 hours ago

In a galaxy far far away

"Following on from a point MB made.

There was a popular thread the other day and everyone got a reply from the OP, except me, despite posting twice.

Another one yesterday, and one today.

Do I care?

I couldn't give a flying fuck, I'll still post my nonsense

Post for your own amusement Dave 👍

Your great I like you "

It's the best way

Like I mentioned in my original comment, and also by Diamond.

Use the forum to be daft, silly, funny, don't take anything too seriously.

I find with comedy in the forum a lot of people naturally engage with it, leading to everyone quoting eachother being stupid.

But if no one replies, don't worry about it, just continue being silly to entertain yourself.

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

"Who are the “cool people”?

What exactly are you expecting in terms of interaction and who from?

I just wondered how people feel. I’m not looking for anything other than a laugh and some new friends. Maybe cool wasn’t the best choice of words but it kind of fits with those who get lots of interaction to things they post.

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

"Following on from a point MB made.

There was a popular thread the other day and everyone got a reply from the OP, except me, despite posting twice.

Another one yesterday, and one today.

Do I care?

I couldn't give a flying fuck, I'll still post my nonsense

Post for your own amusement Dave 👍

Your great I like you

It's the best way

Like I mentioned in my original comment, and also by Diamond.

Use the forum to be daft, silly, funny, don't take anything too seriously.

I find with comedy in the forum a lot of people naturally engage with it, leading to everyone quoting eachother being stupid.

But if no one replies, don't worry about it, just continue being silly to entertain yourself."

You are always good for a laugh and interesting comments

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
8 hours ago

Reading

Just don't worry about it. There are certain threads I avoid as I know I'll just get ignored. So I stick to other ones and don't worry if anyone answers me or not. They are just a bit of fun the forums, really not that deep.

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By *peedyGMan
8 hours ago

Telford

"Who are the “cool people”?

What exactly are you expecting in terms of interaction and who from?

Me either... it's great!😉😁 x

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By *peedyGMan
8 hours ago

Telford

"Just don't worry about it. There are certain threads I avoid as I know I'll just get ignored. So I stick to other ones and don't worry if anyone answers me or not. They are just a bit of fun the forums, really not that deep."

Exactly this.

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

Thanks for all the advice it’s really helpful

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
8 hours ago

In a galaxy far far away

Anyways, who want to be cool?

Everyone knows nerds are the best 🤓

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By *avidNP OP Man
8 hours ago

manchester

"Anyways, who want to be cool?

Everyone knows nerds are the best 🤓"

Can I just be me please?

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By *avidNP OP Man
7 hours ago

manchester

How’s everyone this evening?

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By *ustFunUKMan
7 hours ago

London (Any)

Yes. Be good to hear from people who are keen to meet up

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By *actile TensionMan
7 hours ago

Sussex

"Anyways, who want to be cool?

Everyone knows nerds are the best 🤓"

Its hip to be square

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By *avidNP OP Man
7 hours ago

manchester

"Yes. Be good to hear from people who are keen to meet up "

Not sure this is the thread for that?

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By *ssexlad36!Man
7 hours ago

Hullbridge, Essex

All im going to say is that im just myself in the forums, whether thats to peoples taste or not doesnt really matter, and lets face it I can cause enough trouble when needed haha nothing I do has ever got anything bad behind it, but I dont worry about fitting in!!

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By *avidNP OP Man
7 hours ago

manchester

"All im going to say is that im just myself in the forums, whether thats to peoples taste or not doesnt really matter, and lets face it I can cause enough trouble when needed haha nothing I do has ever got anything bad behind it, but I dont worry about fitting in!!"

I know you don’t

Be you it’s cool

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By *inkPomPomWoman
7 hours ago

Isle of Man

Never spotted you but you can join in any thread you like 🩷

Echo previous post also, you are pretty cute

Just get chatting

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By *avidNP OP Man
7 hours ago

manchester

"Never spotted you but you can join in any thread you like 🩷

Echo previous post also, you are pretty cute

Just get chatting

Thanks lovely to meet you.

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By *ookie46Woman
7 hours ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I post on some threads and some I don’t

I’ve posted on serious and the funny

Sometimes I get replies sometimes I don’t

Been in and out the forums for nine years now and it’s never much bothered me

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By *avidNP OP Man
6 hours ago

manchester

"I post on some threads and some I don’t

I’ve posted on serious and the funny

Sometimes I get replies sometimes I don’t

Been in and out the forums for nine years now and it’s never much bothered me "

Thanks for you comment lovely

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
6 hours ago

Sunderland

I think it depends on the thread, some I really engage with but then some I post n run 🤷

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By *avidNP OP Man
6 hours ago

manchester

"I think it depends on the thread, some I really engage with but then some I post n run 🤷 "

Don’t run from me

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By *dstefiMan
6 hours ago

Solihull

Haven't read the entire thread because of what I'm about to say:

Nobody should need an exclusive sense of validation from others. Yes it's nice if people see you. They don't always, straight away, but maybe if you keep on being yourself and not trying to pander to the imagined audience, one or two other real people might see the real you that you are and reach out.

It might only be a friendly non-sexual DM or a reply in forum that tells you they read what you said and felt a response, and that's OK too.

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By *olyGlamorousWoman
6 hours ago

Sunderland

"I think it depends on the thread, some I really engage with but then some I post n run 🤷

Don’t run from me "

As if!

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By *avidNP OP Man
6 hours ago

manchester

"I think it depends on the thread, some I really engage with but then some I post n run 🤷

Don’t run from me

As if!

Aww run to me

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 hours ago

North Welsh Borders

"The only difference I've noticed in my time using the forums is the number of people using them to give a nod and a wink to conversations they are already having in their off-site chat groups.

It just adds to the belief that cliques exist and can often make newbies reluctant to take part and more established members who aren't in on the joke to just roll their eyes."

Yep, it's all a willy waving exercise

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 hours ago

North Welsh Borders

Some people will naturally gravitate towards each other like they would in real life doesnt always mean its cliquey however there are some cliques on here.

I dont think there are any "popular" people on here and if someone does think that their "popular" then they need to give there head a shake. "

And also this....The Fab Famous is a myth....Only famous in their head.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 hours ago

North Welsh Borders

"those bloody clickety clicks

I hope they get eaten by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

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By *avidNP OP Man
6 hours ago

manchester

"those bloody clickety clicks

I hope they get eaten by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli "

I’m not sure they taste nice

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
6 hours ago

North Welsh Borders

"those bloody clickety clicks

I hope they get eaten by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

I’m not sure they taste nice "

I should have said stung by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

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By *avidNP OP Man
6 hours ago

manchester

"those bloody clickety clicks

I hope they get eaten by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

I’m not sure they taste nice

I should have said stung by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli"

Oh being stung isn’t fun

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
5 hours ago

North Welsh Borders

"those bloody clickety clicks

I hope they get eaten by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

I’m not sure they taste nice

I should have said stung by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

Oh being stung isn’t fun "

Not by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli no it is not

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By *avidNP OP Man
5 hours ago

manchester

"those bloody clickety clicks

I hope they get eaten by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

I’m not sure they taste nice

I should have said stung by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli

Oh being stung isn’t fun

Not by a Pysgod Wibli Wobli no it is not"

Oh ok well if it’s fun I’d have go

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By *erts NaturistMan
5 hours ago

royston

Back in the day I was a moderator on the BeNaughty forum. Very cliquey sometimes, but we tried to be welcoming to newbies and shut down the bullies.

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By *radually_RetiringMan
5 hours ago

Bury

Always the way on internet forums in my experience.

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By *rumbly BadgerWoman
5 hours ago

Whoville

The forum hasn't changed in 14 years. Just different people doing the same things. The forum attracts a certain type. I'll leave it there.

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By *avidNP OP Man
5 hours ago

manchester

"The forum hasn't changed in 14 years. Just different people doing the same things. The forum attracts a certain type. I'll leave it there. "

Very cryptic

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By *avidNP OP Man
5 hours ago

manchester

Thanks for all the advice today

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
4 hours ago

What yo ur experience? "

I don't give it much thought. I share my thoughts on topics that interest me. I don't care if others disagree or ignore me.

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By *avidNP OP Man
4 hours ago

manchester

What yo ur experience?

I don't give it much thought. I share my thoughts on topics that interest me. I don't care if others disagree or ignore me."

I need to be more like that.

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By *xSirenaxxWoman
4 hours ago

What yo ur experience?

I don't give it much thought. I share my thoughts on topics that interest me. I don't care if others disagree or ignore me.

I need to be more like that. "

I would recommend the menopause you have no more fucks to give 😂😂

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By *huskofamanMan
4 hours ago

nowhere

Yes but that's how I prefer it

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By *avidNP OP Man
4 hours ago

manchester

What yo ur experience?

I don't give it much thought. I share my thoughts on topics that interest me. I don't care if others disagree or ignore me.

I need to be more like that.

I would recommend the menopause you have no more fucks to give 😂😂"

I am not sure that’s possible 🤣

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By *ision21Man
4 hours ago

Newcastle Under Lyme

What yo ur experience? "

Best to take this site with a pinch of salt tbh

Forums are ok but it's normally the same people complimenting each other over and over again. Dependent on the topic of course.

But yeah mostly invisible myself unless I stir the pot a tad.

Just be yourself though, I refuse to be fake, you either like me or you don't.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
4 hours ago

Crumpet Castle

I find that feelings such as this are less about the place ( forum ) and more about how a person connects with others. It may very well be that those who feel they are not getting interaction here feel very much the same elsewhere.

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By *avidNP OP Man
4 hours ago

manchester

What yo ur experience?

Best to take this site with a pinch of salt tbh

Forums are ok but it's normally the same people complimenting each other over and over again. Dependent on the topic of course.

But yeah mostly invisible myself unless I stir the pot a tad.

Just be yourself though, I refuse to be fake, you either like me or you don't.

I am always just me

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By *avidNP OP Man
4 hours ago

manchester

"I find that feelings such as this are less about the place ( forum ) and more about how a person connects with others. It may very well be that those who feel they are not getting interaction here feel very much the same elsewhere."

I am doing well on here just wondered how it is for others.

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By *uicy_peach79Woman
4 hours ago

Edinburgh

I am doing well on here just wondered how it is for others. "

Most if not all of what I post is ignored, do I care? No

Did I used to care? Fuck yes

I am at that age where I don't give a fuck about things I used to and honestly it's bliss my brain is so much quieter

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By *avidNP OP Man
4 hours ago

manchester

I am doing well on here just wondered how it is for others.

Most if not all of what I post is ignored, do I care? No

Did I used to care? Fuck yes

I am at that age where I don't give a fuck about things I used to and honestly it's bliss my brain is so much quieter "

I’m pleased you have been able to quiet the mind

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By *izandpaulCouple
4 hours ago

merseyside

What yo ur experience? "

Don't think that way.

Lots of people on here may look like they are having a ball, chatting away, photos flashing their bits or at least their best bits.

But look at it this way.

Its a weekend night, they are at a keyboard or a mobile typing away with people they have never met, probably never will meet and trying to be sexy.

Its quite sad, so don't envy them, get yourself out.

You live in or around a very vibrant city, there are loads of things to do.

If nothing fits the bill, set something up yourself.

I'm positive if you put a post on here for a pub meet in your area for singles and couples, everyone welcome. You'd be banged out.

We did it some years ago, first pub meet about 6 attended, few months later almost 60.

You will get a massive amount of dreamers and timewasters but ignore them, do what's good for you and other like minded people will follow.

Never do yourself down and think everyone else is having the fun, because they ain't, its all smoke and mirrors.

Very sad as its so easy to have a great time, just a tiny bit of effort and good humour.

Good luck.

Always happy to chat.

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By *avidNP OP Man
4 hours ago

manchester

What yo ur experience?

Don't think that way.

Lots of people on here may look like they are having a ball, chatting away, photos flashing their bits or at least their best bits.

But look at it this way.

Its a weekend night, they are at a keyboard or a mobile typing away with people they have never met, probably never will meet and trying to be sexy.

Its quite sad, so don't envy them, get yourself out.

You live in or around a very vibrant city, there are loads of things to do.

If nothing fits the bill, set something up yourself.

I'm positive if you put a post on here for a pub meet in your area for singles and couples, everyone welcome. You'd be banged out.

We did it some years ago, first pub meet about 6 attended, few months later almost 60.

You will get a massive amount of dreamers and timewasters but ignore them, do what's good for you and other like minded people will follow.

Never do yourself down and think everyone else is having the fun, because they ain't, its all smoke and mirrors.

Very sad as its so easy to have a great time, just a tiny bit of effort and good humour.

Good luck.

Always happy to chat.

Good advice thank you

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By *izandpaulCouple
4 hours ago

merseyside

What yo ur experience?

Don't think that way.

Lots of people on here may look like they are having a ball, chatting away, photos flashing their bits or at least their best bits.

But look at it this way.

Its a weekend night, they are at a keyboard or a mobile typing away with people they have never met, probably never will meet and trying to be sexy.

Its quite sad, so don't envy them, get yourself out.

You live in or around a very vibrant city, there are loads of things to do.

If nothing fits the bill, set something up yourself.

I'm positive if you put a post on here for a pub meet in your area for singles and couples, everyone welcome. You'd be banged out.

We did it some years ago, first pub meet about 6 attended, few months later almost 60.

You will get a massive amount of dreamers and timewasters but ignore them, do what's good for you and other like minded people will follow.

Never do yourself down and think everyone else is having the fun, because they ain't, its all smoke and mirrors.

Very sad as its so easy to have a great time, just a tiny bit of effort and good humour.

Good luck.

Always happy to chat.

Good advice thank you "

You're welcome.

Your verification shows you are a friendly, chatty guy.

Great strengths, never underestimate them and use them as a strong platform to build strengths in other areas.

Good luck.

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