FabSwingers.com: Stef (62) , TV/TS in Shirley, West Midlands, UK

Hi, I'm a crossdresser but not a sissy. Prefer male pronoun although Stefi is my CD name. I'm not remotely thirsty, I'm very happily married, but am open to a FWB scenario with somebody (preferably a fellow crossdresser) who's nice, sane and prepared to accept that nothing will threaten my primary relationship. My wife isn't in play here (unless she decides to be) so don't bother asking! I'm not interested in clubs or scene stuff either. Just quiet, polite company and respectful (gay) sexual exploration, ideally with just one regular trusted partner. She also rightly insists anyone I may meet be clean, sane and safe (as am I). We're only interested in ENM, with openness and consent on all sides, and any cheating or sneaking around is a deal-breaker, sorry.

I'm not remotely interested in single "straight" men tranny-chasing; I'm not the surrogate woman you're looking for at all sunshine. However, if you can make a sensitive and articulate case as a genuine gay or bi male who's accustomed to being respectful, try your luck by all means! Also, CDs who use pejoratives to describe themselves e.g. whore/bimbo etc: you're not acting like a woman, you're acting like a misogynist.

Bodywise I'm sort of slim but with a bit of middle age belly, no sags or wrinkles, naturally finely haired. My head hair headed north a long while back but the upside is a wig wears fairly convincingly! I'm also not at all stuffy or middle-aged in attitude unless you count preferring people having an education and being able to spell and write grammatically.

I'm a social drinker, mostly wine, but don't do any drugs and am not interested in anybody who does. Gave up tobacco years ago although I do vape, so habitual smokers are out. Similar pet peeves are anal gape pics (eww), one-liner no-effort profiles or conversations, "hey" as an attempt at an introduction, being addressed as baby/hun/sissy/ho etc.

For what I like, I'm kind of fussy. I prefer crossdressers to retain some of their masculinity and natural self, although I'm also not enamoured of chunky hairy blokes in lingerie. Bit of a Goldilocks thing, not an excess of either masc or fem, just the sweet spot in the middle! I'm partial to some light BDSM (ropes, nipple play, spanking, whipping etc, as long as you can hit straight and not shred my testicles). I really like lingerie on myself and others, as may be evident. I have quite the bucket list of gay sex experiences to try but won't bore you with them here; message me and we'll talk! I'm probably more bottom than top but that depends on the relative sexual energies when the rubber hits the road, so to speak.

That's the War and Peace of profiles written. If you've got this far and don't feel yourself written out of the script, are prepared to be vetted and screened by us both and want something less than a relationship but more than just casual, fire away. I have very limited experience with men but I know what I do and don't want and am not here to go hog-wild with a million penises (but one nice one would be brilliant) ;-)

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