FabSwingers.com: s (40) , Woman in Ipswich , East Midlands, UK

I will try to make this short, but as I am actively looking again it won't be.

After 15 years on here I've learnt what best suits me and what my expectations involve, when selecting a suitable fuck buddy. And yes it's a fuck buddy. While I can communicate efficiently and be friendly, I don't genuinely want to develop past this stage into FWB. Although I feel some may confuse the 2, judging by statuses and verifications on here. My private life is my own which I am very content in. I have no desire to interrupt that or involve myself in other's lives. I do however like to be abit more involved in general communication, rather than sex talk.

My expectations, when looking for potential playmates, may seem excessive but again, after 15 years I would rather have these expectations over making horrible choices. I have done my time racking up numbers and having extreme experiences. They no longer appeal to me. I am at a place where achievement for me is fucking someone that not everyone else can. I don't believe in quality over quantity, I do however believe in standards over popularity . I don't seek to be wanted by everyone, I prefer to be respected by a mere few.

Actions and behaviour appeal to me more than looks and body type. Although looks, in a general sense should play a deciding factor( atleast it should!),I have a varied taste, but again how you behave and come across on here is what I look at. Forum posts, statuses, profiles etc is what I watch, plus frequency of online activity. I also look at verifications and how frequent and different they are.While i'd never judge other people's choices they play a part in looking at our compatibility.

I've learnt the difference between capturing someone's attention and being in line for standard replies. These will bore me and I will just stop communication. As I am not big on communication myself, I expect the initial talking stage to be capturing and consistent. My attention is limited. Because of this, I will not reply to most messages, especially those who only communicate on the day they are looking to meet. While spontaneous is fun, it is only fun with people who I already have some sort of situation with.And even then it would be unlikely depending on approach. Effort= reward.

Some may say my expectations are very high considering the nature of the site ( and they do tell me this every 3-6 months when they circle back round). My standards are set high to ensure I make choices that I wouldn't regret. My self confidence and my own self worth is enough to not warrant validation through pointless sex. For me I can't rationlize the need for sex that risks not only my physical wellbeing, but also my mental.

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