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By *he_virgin_mary OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

Couldn't you have treated it as foreplay and got him to pleasure you with fingers and tongues before going again

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By *he_virgin_mary OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

I sucked him as foreplay and then he was straight into missionary, about 4 pumps and he was done.

I instantly got the feeling that it wasn't going to get better let alone him going down on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say sorry it was a mistake and won't be repeated

It's not you it's me now kindly go practice into a tissue

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Just say it was a one off for you, and you don't normally get involved with work colleagues.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Do you fancy training him to get better.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Just say you're very busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sucked him as foreplay and then he was straight into missionary, about 4 pumps and he was done.

I instantly got the feeling that it wasn't going to get better let alone him going down on me. "

It's hard for guys especially younger ones to control themselves, even more so if he's not had his hole in a good while. Give the guy a break and and meet him again a few times if you liked him. If he's still shit then bin him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block his number lmao

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I sucked him as foreplay and then he was straight into missionary, about 4 pumps and he was done.

I instantly got the feeling that it wasn't going to get better let alone him going down on me. "

What happened after he had finished? Did he roll off and go to sleep with no attempt at satisfying you?

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

You could ask him to put a wank in the bank an hour before you next meet, he will last for ages then. Xx

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Maybe he was inexperienced, as nice as orgasming is, all that leads up to it is just as nice and trying to prolong that is pretty key to mutual satisfaction.

I know (as I'm sure most lads do) when I'm gonna erupt, it's then you have a choice to carry on or slow down to make the whole thing last...

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By *lim Jim 69Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

maybe give it a 2nd meet and see if the standard goes up so to speak..if it's still shite then just so nah sorry it just ain't working out..

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

What did he do afterwards?

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Keep him for quickies

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

Give him another go, it could of just been the drink.. u never know he might turn out to be an incredible shag

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By *uttercup and WestleyCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

I think meet up with him again and see if you have a connection. He may have been a bit nervous.

If you still aren't feeling it or he doesn't bother to even try to please you then move on. Don't waste precious time having crap sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest and tell him you just wanted a bit of fun..nothing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"
just mention the irritations on your chin

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

I sucked him as foreplay and then he was straight into missionary, about 4 pumps and he was done.

I instantly got the feeling that it wasn't going to get better let alone him going down on me.

"

I get the opinion that you didnt ask for your foreplay or stop him going straight into missonary position.

Not everyone likes foreplay, how do you or they know this if you dont tell them so.

A bit of guidance to what your wanting helps as no one can read your minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him another go, if the same things happens then I would politely let him down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he was just a shag then the solution is obvious and easy. You mentioned he is a "Doctor" which would appear to be the factor that is making the decision a little bit tougher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell him - nicely of course, that his technique could be better. Put him on the right path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just message and say yes you've got another 2 minutes spare, I'm sure he'll get the message haha.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’d give him a second chance. And tell him you want more foreplay and stuff this time.

Some men just see a fanny and tits and get over excited about it all.

Take the lead. Show him what you like, how you like it.

He could be an amazing shag given the opportunity.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I wonder what the response would of been if a bloke had started this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he was just a shag then the solution is obvious and easy. You mentioned he is a "Doctor" which would appear to be the factor that is making the decision a little bit tougher. "

She’s asked how to let him down gently, not whether she should keep seeing him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm chuckling at all the people suggesting the OP gives this guy another try when she asked for advice on how to politely say "no thanks".

Personally, I'd be honest and say something like "thanks for asking, but it was a one time thing for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he was just a shag then the solution is obvious and easy. You mentioned he is a "Doctor" which would appear to be the factor that is making the decision a little bit tougher.

She’s asked how to let him down gently, not whether she should keep seeing him "

I had the same reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he was just a shag then the solution is obvious and easy. You mentioned he is a "Doctor" which would appear to be the factor that is making the decision a little bit tougher.

She’s asked how to let him down gently, not whether she should keep seeing him "

I know. She added the doctor detail, not me. That means it is a factor in this decision. I am suggesting if he were a porter for example, that the solution would be obvious and easy.

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

Just tell him, soz mate, but you were crap, id rather sort myself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You could ask him to put a wank in the bank an hour before you next meet, he will last for ages then. Xx"

Lol never go out with a loaded gun !!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Those who leave verifications for men saying they are a shit shag ought to be soundly spanked.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London


"

I know. She added the doctor detail, not me. That means it is a factor in this decision. I am suggesting if he were a porter for example, that the solution would be obvious and easy. "

I think you might be reading a little too much into it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sucked him as foreplay and then he was straight into missionary, about 4 pumps and he was done.

I instantly got the feeling that it wasn't going to get better let alone him going down on me.

What happened after he had finished? Did he roll off and go to sleep with no attempt at satisfying you?

"

I’ve had that before. Even gave the guy a second chance and it was exactly the same.

The third time I told him exactly why I wasn’t going to meet him

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

Tell him your pregnant

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Short answer OP, is you can't.

Doesn't really matterhow you tell him, he's likely to be gutted, especially if he thinks it went well.

Be honest with him though.

I'd suggest perhaps acknowledging that he might have enjoyed it, but it wasn't what you were hoping it would be and that it won't be happening again

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge


"If he was just a shag then the solution is obvious and easy. You mentioned he is a "Doctor" which would appear to be the factor that is making the decision a little bit tougher.

She’s asked how to let him down gently, not whether she should keep seeing him

I know. She added the doctor detail, not me. That means it is a factor in this decision. I am suggesting if he were a porter for example, that the solution would be obvious and easy. "

I don't think it's a class warrior thing at all. She's a nurse. He's a doctor. He has more clout at the hospital then she has. It's not just "sorry, you're useless in bed" when the backlash can be "sorry, from my senior job titke I can say you're useless at your job." Even "I don't want to work with this staff member" can be just a damning when it comes from higher up.

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By *andlingswingersCouple
over a year ago

Woodbridge

I've assumed her rank at the hospital is lower then the doctor's as the OP mentioned it as an issue...

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

Be honest and just say he is not for you otherwise he will continue to pester you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck Me badly once shame on him

Fuck me badly twice shame on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recommend fab to him

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Depends if you like him or not. If you do tell him , fuck him again, one last chance to improve

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

I think you need to say - "thanks but no thanks - second thoughts and all that. I wouldn't want it compromise our working relationship together - you know the problems that come with that blah blah blah!"

Because you know it will at some point ( we"re 2 married nurses & that's complicated enough!)

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By *he_virgin_mary OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

For more info we both work at the same hospital, he is a junior doctor and a few years younger than me, I work in a different department and technically I'm a higher grade than him.

Foreplay was a blowjob from me with some fondling and a fingering from him. I wasn't unhappy with this but would have liked a lot more.

Condom went on, we started and all too soon he finished. A bit of a snuggle and then he had to call a cab to get home to get some sleep as he was working today.

If I called it a day from here it's easy to say it was a tipsy mistake, but if we go for round two when sober it's a lot harder to say no too.

Either way right now I'm horny!

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull


"For more info we both work at the same hospital, he is a junior doctor and a few years younger than me, I work in a different department and technically I'm a higher grade than him.

Foreplay was a blowjob from me with some fondling and a fingering from him. I wasn't unhappy with this but would have liked a lot more.

Condom went on, we started and all too soon he finished. A bit of a snuggle and then he had to call a cab to get home to get some sleep as he was working today.

If I called it a day from here it's easy to say it was a tipsy mistake, but if we go for round two when sober it's a lot harder to say no too.

Either way right now I'm horny! "

Is he on rotation and likely to go to a other hospital? If so I'd think about giving him another whirl!

Me & Mr KC were a tipsy assignation on a night out - sort of bubbled off after the first night but we gave it another whirl and well - here we are all these years later!

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By *he_virgin_mary OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

Yes he is, and he is also on an exchange program from South Africa so no idea how long he will be around for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shag after a party....had he been drinking? Can lead to disappointing performance

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull


"Yes he is, and he is also on an exchange program from South Africa so no idea how long he will be around for.

"

So you said you "pulled" - is he someone you've been watching a while?

You sound undecided if I'm honest - let him go cos he was a crap first shag or because he's prob going to leave anyway (which is a bit more than the usual rotation!).

How about just a coffee because at some point as his senior you're going to come across him at some point - at least it will.give you a chance to chat and put it to bed as it where with no awkwardness whenever that professional meet happens?

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By *he_virgin_mary OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

We bump into each other a couple of times a week depending on our shifts. We've had chats previously with i guess some innuendos thrown about.

He is nice looking and has a great body but I've got no idea how long he will be around for so probably not relationship material and based on last night's display possibly not fuck buddy standard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We bump into each other a couple of times a week depending on our shifts. We've had chats previously with i guess some innuendos thrown about.

He is nice looking and has a great body but I've got no idea how long he will be around for so probably not relationship material and based on last night's display possibly not fuck buddy standard! "

Thank him for a good night but suggest that a relationship would not be professional and that you think it should end there.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull


"We bump into each other a couple of times a week depending on our shifts. We've had chats previously with i guess some innuendos thrown about.

He is nice looking and has a great body but I've got no idea how long he will be around for so probably not relationship material and based on last night's display possibly not fuck buddy standard! "

Coffee it is then - thanks very much & let's leave it behind us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would use the not getting involved with people you work with chat.

Or tell him that you are actually seeing someone and it was a mistake that can't be repeated.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would use the not getting involved with people you work with chat.

Or tell him that you are actually seeing someone and it was a mistake that can't be repeated. "

Ahhhh - give him another go!! He may have just been nervous....sometimes the first shags are the worst!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesnt it always take two to make it either good or crap?...

And is it really a decision that others can make for you no matter how many give such widely varying advice on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you shouldn't be so sexy. Wear something a bit dowdy, don't shave your legs and eat a clove of garlic two hours before meeting him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give him a hint that his bedside manner needs improvement, but it sounds like your instinct is to bin him off?

Or do you want to be his Mrs Robinson?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

When will women stop being pussies, tell him how you feel and give him a change to speak his side and go from there. Men have to put up with women either bullshitting the truth or not even replying to them. Guys would much rather appreciate you standing out from 99% of women by being completely honest.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You can't reject somebody without upsetting them a little bit at least.

Just say "thanks for a nice evening but I don't want to meet again"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

just mention the irritations on your chin "
ahhh but he's a doctor he'll want to examine you damnit...... you can't win....... awkward or what...... is he your boss?

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"
Tell him to bring a friend. Then say when your done he can finish you off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is a guy supposed to know they disappointed if you don't tell him? Communication is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him.the true reasons why you do not want to meet again

Could be he was iver excited, maybe he an fuck you prooerly.

Maybe he would go down on you and blow your mind.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

When will women stop being pussies, tell him how you feel and give him a change to speak his side and go from there. Men have to put up with women either bullshitting the truth or not even replying to them. Guys would much rather appreciate you standing out from 99% of women by being completely honest."

Actually in my experience men’s egos totally can’t take the truth in this area. I think a lot of men would prefer to be physically kicked in the testicles than be told they hadn’t satisfied me sexually. So I don’t think it’s the women that are being the pussies!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show him what you want in bed. Give him one more try

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Doesnt it always take two to make it either good or crap?...

And is it really a decision that others can make for you no matter how many give such widely varying advice on here?"

I'd diagree. I've had similar a few times. In particular a long term relationship and someone I was sleeping with for a while where it didn't matter what I did or said, it made no difference. With the first he would shame me for not having an orgasm insisting that what he did worked for every other woman he'd been with and therefore I must be the problem. With the second he wasn't mean about it but I kept repeatedly asking for more foreplay and he'd go down on me or finger me for about 30 seconds and be reaching for a condom. If I said I wasn't ready yet he'd say no problem but then just kiss me a bit and end up just sat there awkwardly. When after sex I'd say I hadn't finished and was still horny he'd say sorry and promise to make me orgasm too next time. Eventually I just gave up. If people are either unwilling to change anything or don't care about your pleasure then there's not a great deal you can do about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

There is much more to life and a relationship than good sex, better for you both if you dont meet again, you obviously need good sex more than anything and your not even prepaired to see if it was a bad night for him and a one off bad sex move

you have no mention of how you actually feel for him, is he a good guy, is he fun to be with, caring, loving, takes two to have good sex, maybe he also thought it was a mistake and just wanted it over with

If you make choices via a one off bad time then maybe he isn't the one for you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve experienced this and met again. This depends on the person and the situation. If I’ve clicked with him, and was a nice guy, then it’s worked itself out. If he turned out to be a little knob, then there’s no hope. You said it was at a party, may be he had too much to drink, over excited or nervous. Is it worth meeting him again for a social without alcohol being involved and getting to know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say that you need a 2nd opinion or may even go private?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesnt it always take two to make it either good or crap?...

And is it really a decision that others can make for you no matter how many give such widely varying advice on here?

I'd diagree. I've had similar a few times. In particular a long term relationship and someone I was sleeping with for a while where it didn't matter what I did or said, it made no difference. With the first he would shame me for not having an orgasm insisting that what he did worked for every other woman he'd been with and therefore I must be the problem. With the second he wasn't mean about it but I kept repeatedly asking for more foreplay and he'd go down on me or finger me for about 30 seconds and be reaching for a condom. If I said I wasn't ready yet he'd say no problem but then just kiss me a bit and end up just sat there awkwardly. When after sex I'd say I hadn't finished and was still horny he'd say sorry and promise to make me orgasm too next time. Eventually I just gave up. If people are either unwilling to change anything or don't care about your pleasure then there's not a great deal you can do about it. "

Lacy what you wrote means you do agree that it takes two because he clearly wasn't listening properly and meeting you half way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally?

I’d give him another chance but make sure he gets to know every single detail of your anatomy.... include all medical names for them, before you lay him straight out with his 4 pumps!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

When will women stop being pussies, tell him how you feel and give him a change to speak his side and go from there. Men have to put up with women either bullshitting the truth or not even replying to them. Guys would much rather appreciate you standing out from 99% of women by being completely honest.

Actually in my experience men’s egos totally can’t take the truth in this area. I think a lot of men would prefer to be physically kicked in the testicles than be told they hadn’t satisfied me sexually. So I don’t think it’s the women that are being the pussies!!"

You clearly aint got testicles then (obviously haha thank god) to say that lmao. Plus not all men are arsed if they satisfied you or not. As long as they got what they want, and of course there are plenty of women like that too. Sadly alot of women especially the pretty ones will be quick to say a man was shit yet they had put no effort in to make the sex good. A lot of hot women are shit in bed because they just think im hot. But same with guys too. Anyway I'm digressing my point is no man or woman wants to hear that they was shit in bed but if you're a decent non stuck up human being you wouldn't just say you was shit and leave it at that, you would say it constructively but truthful. So you say for me i don't think we are compatible because i found the sex lacking because of a b or c and explain. Its then up to him to construct his reply. He may agree he may say well actually you were lacking too because of a b or c and then you can both decide to give it another try. Like i say every person would love to hear they were great each and every time but if it was a choice out of soneone being straight with them or just keeping them hanging on because you can't be honest then they would much prefer the first option. If you do the last option you are just stringing the guy along because he will not know anything is up so he will keep messaging as normal and in the end he will be left wondering why he's being ignored. So best all round to do the honest thing. No guy would rather be kicked in the balls lol.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Doesnt it always take two to make it either good or crap?...

And is it really a decision that others can make for you no matter how many give such widely varying advice on here?

I'd diagree. I've had similar a few times. In particular a long term relationship and someone I was sleeping with for a while where it didn't matter what I did or said, it made no difference. With the first he would shame me for not having an orgasm insisting that what he did worked for every other woman he'd been with and therefore I must be the problem. With the second he wasn't mean about it but I kept repeatedly asking for more foreplay and he'd go down on me or finger me for about 30 seconds and be reaching for a condom. If I said I wasn't ready yet he'd say no problem but then just kiss me a bit and end up just sat there awkwardly. When after sex I'd say I hadn't finished and was still horny he'd say sorry and promise to make me orgasm too next time. Eventually I just gave up. If people are either unwilling to change anything or don't care about your pleasure then there's not a great deal you can do about it.

Lacy what you wrote means you do agree that it takes two because he clearly wasn't listening properly and meeting you half way. "

The comment I replied to said it always takes two to make it either good or crap. So you've pointed out what he did to make it crap, what did I do to make it crap?

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I had this a couple of times last year. One guy where I repeatedly communicated that he was making me feel rushed and he ignored this, and another who finished very quickly and when I had my toys out to finish myself off clearly thought it was taking too long and said “you’re going to have to leave that for next time”

Both of them asked to see me again and saying no letting them both know why their shitty behaviour was not acceptable was quite satisfying

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

When will women stop being pussies, tell him how you feel and give him a change to speak his side and go from there. Men have to put up with women either bullshitting the truth or not even replying to them. Guys would much rather appreciate you standing out from 99% of women by being completely honest.

Actually in my experience men’s egos totally can’t take the truth in this area. I think a lot of men would prefer to be physically kicked in the testicles than be told they hadn’t satisfied me sexually. So I don’t think it’s the women that are being the pussies!!

You clearly aint got testicles then (obviously haha thank god) to say that lmao. Plus not all men are arsed if they satisfied you or not. As long as they got what they want, and of course there are plenty of women like that too. Sadly alot of women especially the pretty ones will be quick to say a man was shit yet they had put no effort in to make the sex good. A lot of hot women are shit in bed because they just think im hot. But same with guys too. Anyway I'm digressing my point is no man or woman wants to hear that they was shit in bed but if you're a decent non stuck up human being you wouldn't just say you was shit and leave it at that, you would say it constructively but truthful. So you say for me i don't think we are compatible because i found the sex lacking because of a b or c and explain. Its then up to him to construct his reply. He may agree he may say well actually you were lacking too because of a b or c and then you can both decide to give it another try. Like i say every person would love to hear they were great each and every time but if it was a choice out of soneone being straight with them or just keeping them hanging on because you can't be honest then they would much prefer the first option. If you do the last option you are just stringing the guy along because he will not know anything is up so he will keep messaging as normal and in the end he will be left wondering why he's being ignored. So best all round to do the honest thing. No guy would rather be kicked in the balls lol. "

I am always happy to give constructive criticism, but no matter how carefully it is worded the reaction on receiving it is usually the same as being mentally kicked in the bollocks. However those who truly do care about my pleasure will then attempt to change things for the better.

Some people just can’t take criticism no matter how constructive it is and how carefully it is worded.

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By *oney_Bee_xTV/TS
over a year ago

Teesside


"I’d give him a second chance. And tell him you want more foreplay and stuff this time.

Some men just see a fanny and tits and get over excited about it all.

Take the lead. Show him what you like, how you like it.

He could be an amazing shag given the opportunity.

"

Exactly this...... it could have been nerves, it could have been stress, or all kinds of factors.

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

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By *hamCouple30Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I thought this would be about having a shit while shagging.

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By *he_virgin_mary OP   Woman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!


"I thought this would be about having a shit while shagging. "

Erm, alright then!

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

A very inconsiderate lover who is only looking for his own needs being met. Ah the joy of meeting older guys who know that long slow sensuous meets gets the lady to want more.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I tend to douche before hand. Safes all that crap happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time do suck till he's made you cum once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Next time do suck till he's made you cum once"

Ditch him! Who's got time to train someone especially from work? A man should always insure the woman is satisfied first or multiple times before he blows his load in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

"

Suggest a MFM?

Mind you that could be shite aswell.

A lot of it around at the moment

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

Suggest a MFM?

Mind you that could be shite aswell.

A lot of it around at the moment

Hahaha "
i blame Asian restaurants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

Suggest a MFM?

Mind you that could be shite aswell.

A lot of it around at the moment

Hahaha i blame Asian restaurants "

Haha what are you like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've all had them but what do you do when they want another go?

I pulled a cute doctor last night at a party run by the hospital we both work in, he certainly enjoyed himself but it was over before I was even warmed up so to speak!

He has text this morning to see if I fancy meeting again. How do I let him down gently without upsetting him?

When will women stop being pussies, tell him how you feel and give him a change to speak his side and go from there. Men have to put up with women either bullshitting the truth or not even replying to them. Guys would much rather appreciate you standing out from 99% of women by being completely honest."

just be honest, if the roles were reversed and us guys were debating giving a woman 'another go' because she's got a nice body but was akin to pumping a sack of spuds / lying about seeing someone else etc we'd be slaughtered.

Tell him it wasn't that enjoyable and you don't want to repeat it. Upon hearing this if he has any self respect he'll give you a wide berth himself....string him along and he'll keep thinking he's got a chance....

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