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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think every guy we have met for a 3sum has been married..

So just keep looking

We no longer really do 3sums though lol

Cali

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

We don't and specify the fact on our profile.

If stating that you are playing away on your profile is putting people off its because they don't want to play with a guy who is playing away. Some do, some don't.

So what is your real question?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

The meaning of life, the universe and everything? Obviously

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

no

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some it will some it won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I'd say many are playing away but don't say so.

At least your giving people the choice.

You will find people.... There are people that prefer married or attached.. I know I do.

Cali x

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By *icboyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Honest is by far the best policy, give them a choice by being honest.

I personnally find that it works for me, if the couple find out up front your situation they are more likely to speak to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do and some don't

Some also meet married guys and don't even know they are married because they've been lying snakes in the grass and said that they're single.

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By *ondafirestormMan
over a year ago

heckington

I always say up front im married,dosnt make any difference,i can still fuck lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do meet married guys we are all human after all.i know i dont play as a couple but i just wanted to answer this x

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By *enaughty2Couple
over a year ago

colchester

no and never would

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By *attoo loversCouple
over a year ago

norwich

NO !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a chap for a social drink with a view to playing if we got along with him as we were staying at the hotel were we met him that night.

There had been no mention of him being married on his profile or in the messages we exchanged.

When he arrived we got on well until myself and Maxi noticed his wedding ring

We didn't play and both felt a little cheated as we have very limited time to play and the meeting time could have gone to one of the other guys on our list had we known he was married.

However I guess to be fair it doesn't specifically say we don't play with married guys. It just doesn't sit right with us having been married so long ourselves.

Each to their own though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason most guys can't accomodate on here is because they are married - doesn't both us as long as they are honest about it.

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off"

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

"

Just because you are 'liberated sexually' doesn't mean that you will want to get involved in a situation that could potentially cause someone a lot of pain and heart ache.

Personally I wouldnt want to play with a married man as I would be thinking about what would happen if/when his wife found out he was cheating. And the impact that could have on her and the family.

Like you say everyone should have a choice in swinging, but their wife (or husband, coz women do cheat too) doesnt have a choice about having a cheating partner. I dont see cheaters as scum but like I said I dont want to get in the middle of someone else relationship.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Don't these people realise what a relief it is for your wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

"

So let me get this right...if I have a preference not to allow a married man to use my home as a knocking shop whilst he plays happily families in his I'm not liberated and judgemental?!! If I choose not to play with bi/short/bearded/Dom men I'm not liberated and judgemental?!!

Well, I learn something new on these forums every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very few do most won't, it's their choice n I respect it, clubs are probably ur best port of call to be honest

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

If you look at it this way, the risk is all theirs really, i'm sure a lot of the guys we have played with are married but it is their choice to take that risk of being caught. Each to their own i say x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't... not unless he brings his partner with him anyway...

Neither of us play alone, and we feel that if someone has a partner that they shouldn't be playing alone either. We know that some have very legitimate reasons, and others by and large have very legitimate excuses for their justifications.

If we met someone and their partner and he or she gave us their blessing, then I'm sure we'd consider on those grounds - it would have to be special circumstances like that, and we're aware that there genuinely are always people with such special circumstances on this site.

Wolf & Devil

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

we dont and it's a choice not a judgement, we dont tell them their wrong, adults know right from wrong all of us, i wouldnt like it done on me so i choose not to do it on others it's very clear on out profile, each to their own but not for us x

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By *obb2upCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We dont ....once got a phone call of a guys wife(he said he was single)not a nice thing poor woman had just had their baby,

although the phone call was the 1st we knew of his wife, i felt a right bitch ..all respect to her she was lovely to me and just asked that we send him away with a flea in his ear should he come back....so from now on we make a point of asking.....we are not here to judge but our preference is single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off"

Have you told your wife that you are having sex with other women? Because if you haven't then irrespective of how many other people you tell this to, then you are not being honest, you are being dishonest.

We don't like dishonest people and we certainly wouldn't consider a man who is playing behind his wife's back.

And to the poster who thinks that a 'liberated' person wouldn't condemn a dishonest person, we would say, get a dictionary and look up the meaning of the term.

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

If we were looking for a male for 3sum we wouldn't meet a married man and equally we don't meet married females either.

Too much hassle

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By *en_minxCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

What a fine post!


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

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By *anther10158Couple
over a year ago

Burgess hill

oh yeah !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off"

i would say yeah its putting some people off.. if you are doing something behind your wifes back, alot of swingers dont wanna get involved in the drama of that if you get found out. some dont care. we personally dont think its swinging if you cant be honest with your partner about what your doing its cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it's a choice not a judgement"

That's the way I look at it. I wouldn't dream to lecture a married person on the whys and wherefores of being on this site. I'm not a Relate counsellor - and I simply don't care.

I just don't want to play with a married person...been there done that - it wasn't fun for me. You can't wear perfume in case the wife smells it, you can't mark...in case the wife sees it...you can't call outside office hours...in case the wife picks up...you can't go to theirs, but your house is ok to be a knocking shop...where's the fun in that.

I set out what I want, other's can set out what they want - if never the twain shall meet have the good grace to accept it and go onto the next one. People who say you're not liberated for having choices do annoy me somewhat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

Just because you are 'liberated sexually' doesn't mean that you will want to get involved in a situation that could potentially cause someone a lot of pain and heart ache.

Personally I wouldnt want to play with a married man as I would be thinking about what would happen if/when his wife found out he was cheating. And the impact that could have on her and the family.

Like you say everyone should have a choice in swinging, but their wife (or husband, coz women do cheat too) doesnt have a choice about having a cheating partner. I dont see cheaters as scum but like I said I dont want to get in the middle of someone else relationship.

"

Here here, prefer free singles not someone who might be clock watching nor who have to be careful of perfume, lipstick etc, mustn't forget there is a wife somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off"
Some , Yes ,

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

We don't meet single guys anymore, simply because so many of them were married or cheating on their partners and our personal choice is not to meet people who do that.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

Fact is that to some you are and always will be a social pariah, a low life to be avoided at all costs and they will vocalize that opinion at every opportunity.

However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?

Luckily there are some who have no such hang up and some who actively prefer married guys. For whatever reason.

At least you are being open about the fact so those that see you as scum can avoid you. Their choice.

Just like some wont play with bearded guys or prefer only black guys it’s a question of choice. Keep being honest with yourself, there are lots of nice folk out there that won’t be put off.

_rummps x

"

Simple answer; get a divorce then you really are a single guy. Or are you scared of the divorce settlement she might get?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

it probabley does make them judge you without knowing you and they just label you as a cheat . i myself am married 26 years next year but due to an accident my wife is now disabled not her fault but she now cannot have sex i still need sex so at first i had affairs and it caused nothing but upset to us both so here seems the best way to find sex for me totally upfront .her only fear is i fall in love which i respect and know the diffrence between sex and love and am never going to leave her or stop loving her but i like sex and enjoy sex which she understands and i hope you all do to theres probably a reason everyone is here and we should not just judge without asking

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

no I couldn't but then again we met some men at a club and had some fun with two of them and tbh didn't even think to ask them if they are married or not so although we wouldn't meet married men who were playing away I guess its different in a club.

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

Our thing is dont do to others what you wouldnt like done to you. As in would you like your partner to sleep about behind your back????

We wont play with anyone who is cheating on their partner.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Your missus is cool with it, she had a great time with us last night! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you really trust a guy who is cheating on someone who trusts amd proberbly loves him?

We dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell us and bring her along she might enjoy it .Whats good for the goose .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

guess i should just fetch her along to watch in her wheelchair dont think ive seen the disabled ramp or lift at lechambra although she actually has offered to go

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"Your missus is cool with it, she had a great time with us last night! Z"

???

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"guess i should just fetch her along to watch in her wheelchair dont think ive seen the disabled ramp or lift at lechambra although she actually has offered to go "

If you have her permission, then thats a different matter. Its the cheats we wont play with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldnt be here without her full permission she is still the boss lol

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds


"wouldnt be here without her full permission she is still the boss lol"

Well said x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I have been looking for my first 3 sum but currently not getting any joy. I'm wondering if the fact I have been honest and said I'm married puts couples off

it probabley does make them judge you without knowing you and they just label you as a cheat . i myself am married 26 years next year but due to an accident my wife is now disabled not her fault but she now cannot have sex i still need sex so at first i had affairs and it caused nothing but upset to us both so here seems the best way to find sex for me totally upfront .her only fear is i fall in love which i respect and know the diffrence between sex and love and am never going to leave her or stop loving her but i like sex and enjoy sex which she understands and i hope you all do to theres probably a reason everyone is here and we should not just judge without asking "

Then put on your profile she agrees with you being here and that people can speak to her first.

Many do...Or visit an escort and stop pretending you are a swinger.

Dont tho ask for sympathy for choices you have made.Thats called being a grown up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then put on your profile she agrees with you being here and that people can speak to her first.

Many do...Or visit an escort and stop pretending you are a swinger.

Dont tho ask for sympathy for choices you have made.Thats called being a grown up.

why do i have to put it on my profile just so i get approval

and you think i should have to pay for sex by using an escort

and as to sympathy wouldent dream of asking anyone or wish any from anyone ime not that shallow

and sorry if you think ime pretending to be something ime not ime here for sex arnt you

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Then put on your profile she agrees with you being here and that people can speak to her first.

Many do...Or visit an escort and stop pretending you are a swinger.

Dont tho ask for sympathy for choices you have made.Thats called being a grown up.

why do i have to put it on my profile just so i get approval

and you think i should have to pay for sex by using an escort

and as to sympathy wouldent dream of asking anyone or wish any from anyone ime not that shallow

and sorry if you think ime pretending to be something ime not ime here for sex arnt you"

There are many places to get sex,this however is a swinging site....a owing people to peak to your wife isnt about approval but understanding and respecting that for most swinging is about openness and honesty...yes sex too but we choose yo do it in a certain way,with certain attitudes to others.

i think if you just want sex then visiting an escort is the honest thing to do.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

*allowing people to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i state i am married ,

what i find funny on here is those that state one thing and do another ,

i have met people with no issues to the fact that i am married but then say they dont meet married ,

errr bit of a larf really jumping on the forum bandwagon , xx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"i state i am married ,

what i find funny on here is those that state one thing and do another ,

i have met people with no issues to the fact that i am married but then say they dont meet married ,

errr bit of a larf really jumping on the forum bandwagon , xx "

i assure you the fact some people are hypocritical does not surprise me.However if youpare accusing me,then i think even those foumites who dont like me would agree i am jumping on no bandwagon, i am consistent to the point of boring everyone to tears on this issue.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

we have no issues with it and knowingly meet married men - it's our choice to do so, just as it's others choice not to..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe you guys can meet me then as it would seem no other couples are interested

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By *riapus4uMan
over a year ago

Charlestown, Cornwall

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By *riapus4uMan
over a year ago

Charlestown, Cornwall

Not very often but I have enjoyed great times with couples-I just wish it was more often.

Previous message removed due to typo

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

One of the tricky ones in swinging this

Personally, I believe swinging should be hassle free for anyone doing it. And if hassle free for you is to steer clear of cheating swingers, then you should be at liberty to do so.

Nobody needs the hassle of having an irate wife or girlfriend ringing them up to curse down the phone, or worse still turn up at their house. For some it spoils the meet if the guy is staring at his watch every 2 seconds. And for others, it is simply a case of guilty conscience. All valid reasons in my opinion.

For me however, hassle free means I don't want to take on the role of a marriage counsellor. It isn't my role to sustain and nurture anyone's marriage relationship. I've met a few couples who say they only swing together as a couple, and then I get a call a week or two later from the female asking if I'd like to meet her on her own. For those who I thought were going to be worth, I of course took up the offer, because my hassle free swinging lifestyle means I don't worry myself about other people's marriage issues and I'm certainly not one to look a gift horse in the mouth.

But hey, that's me.., and like I said, each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting this thread only mentions cheating men?? Just saying?? If women outnumbered men 10 to 1 would it be role reversal??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting this thread only mentions cheating men?? Just saying?? If women outnumbered men 10 to 1 would it be role reversal?? "

no, read my reply further up and say him/her, for us its the same thing, cheating is cheating male or female it still hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting this thread only mentions cheating men?? Just saying?? If women outnumbered men 10 to 1 would it be role reversal??

no, read my reply further up and say him/her, for us its the same thing, cheating is cheating male or female it still hurts"

True but u are dedfinately in the minority there I think??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we would meet a married man aslong has his wife turned up with him that is!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Interesting this thread only mentions cheating men?? Just saying?? If women outnumbered men 10 to 1 would it be role reversal?? "

Probably because the question was " do couples meet married guys "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

am sure they do !

some knowledgeably, some not so

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By *ce-cplCouple
over a year ago

bexhill

If we knew they were married..no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we don't,our profile says so but still get contacted by married guys,is that dyslexic married guys?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Ah, OP's monthly weep.

If he ever found out what we all see when we click that green arrow....

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Ah, OP's monthly weep.

If he ever found out what we all see when we click that green arrow...."

lol - just let me have a little click! Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ah, OP's monthly weep.

If he ever found out what we all see when we click that green arrow...."

I don't get it? What's so fantastic by clicking the green arrow

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters."

+ one bloody million

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Ah, OP's monthly weep.

If he ever found out what we all see when we click that green arrow....

I don't get it? What's so fantastic by clicking the green arrow"

Shows all previous posts. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters."

One of the best posts ever written on here.

I friggin' hate it when folk try and shove "you can't be sexually liberated if you won't shag a man/woman that's playing behind their partners back" down our throats

What people choose to do when they are offered 'fun' with a married 'single' is up to them.... I won't judge their choices....

.....but give us a break with the old "you can't be a swinger if you judge and won't meet a cheater" lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like drama and hassle in my life. I fear that married men could potentially bring that in to my life. So why bother? plus i sometimes get the impression singlemen are more interested in fucking boho-j than having a threesome, with married men that suspicion is stronger. But mainly its because. Judgemental and cant abide cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no matter which way you look at it this no one wants someones wife phoning up telling you he's got a wife and kids and asking what he's doing etc,

this website is pretty easy to stay logged in on,

alot of cheating men as stupid sometimes, it only takes them ticking the auto log in box the last time they logged in,

their partner goes on the pc types facebook in the top bar, see's fabswingers come up on the second key press, goes to that site, see's his messages, and gives you a phone call!

its as easy as that! for someone who's not computer savy at covering their tracks to get caught, hell even sites like google crome will show you on squares when you load up the browser what your most popular websites are, chances are fab could show on that too!

pretty easy to get sussed and thats not taking into account texts or phone call records on a mobile as well.

best to stay away from them i think lol

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet


"No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters."

Sadly it’s not my chips you are pissing on, it’s probably your own.

Had you bothered to read and understand the post you refer to, you would have seen that doesn’t at any point claim that “sexual liberation has got ought to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.”

What it does question is the constant, self opinionated, judgemental attitude toward others when in reality it is none of their business.

If any member doesn’t like the look of another, they are not obliged to meet or even speak to them. Such is the nature of the site. Fortunately none of us have to meet with your approval and we all have a choice.

_rummps x.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters."


"Sadly it’s not my chips you are pissing on, it’s probably your own."

I very much doubt that. I stick to my own code and I am very happy with that.


"Had you bothered to read and understand the post you refer to, you would have seen that doesn’t at any point claim that “sexual liberation has got ought to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.” "

So pray tell...... what your previous quote from your first post on this thread meant....... here it is in case you can't be arsed to go and find it.


""However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?""

I, and a few others (read above), took it to mean that just because we are sexually liberated that we cannot be judgemental of others lifestyles and ergo, we should shag anyone who takes our asthetic fancy, regardless of whether or not they are likely to embroil us in their own sordid and seedy shinanigans.


"What it does question is the constant, self opinionated, judgemental attitude toward others when in reality it is none of their business. "

Of course it is our business.

What if said partner rings, crying and calling you everthing under the sun because they didn't know that their spouse was cheating.

What if you find out that said spouse has taken the kids and walked out.

What if you find out said spouse has tried to commit suicide (ok thats extreme but you get my point).

What if said spouse is pregnant.

What is said spouse has been ill.

What if said spouse turns up on your doorstep looking to reek revenge.

It can (and does for some) have huge repercusions on their own lives.

I've had the woman turn up on the doorstep because a man who perported to be single and showed me his weekday flat, not mentioning that he worked shifts and the wife and kids lived 250 miles away, was her husband of 10 years and she was pregnant. She was in a terrible state and I very nearly got named in a divorce petition....... so yes, it is my fucking business if some lowlife decides they ain't getting it at home and decides to 'cheat' on their unsuspecting partner.


"If any member doesn’t like the look of another, they are not obliged to meet or even speak to them. "

We are not talking about liking the look of someone, we are talking about honesty, respect and openess. Fancying someone is one thing..... not wanting to play with them, even though they are dam attractive, because they are married, is another.


"Such is the nature of the site. Fortunately none of us have to meet with your approval"

And some of us don't have to agree with you or meet your approval or your insane suspicions that just because we are liberated sexually, we shouldn't have opinions and we can't be human and judgemental.


" and we all have a choice."

Exactly. I just wish that the single, but really married or with a partner, whingers on here would give us the choice of not having to read yet another thread about why they ain't getting no meets.

And don't tell me to not read if I don't want to see it....... By the time I've opened a thread and realised what it's about, I want to see what others think..........

I think thats why it's called a forum

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet


"No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.

Sadly it’s not my chips you are pissing on, it’s probably your own.

I very much doubt that. I stick to my own code and I am very happy with that.

Had you bothered to read and understand the post you refer to, you would have seen that doesn’t at any point claim that “sexual liberation has got ought to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.”

So pray tell...... what your previous quote from your first post on this thread meant....... here it is in case you can't be arsed to go and find it.

"However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?"

I, and a few others (read above), took it to mean that just because we are sexually liberated that we cannot be judgemental of others lifestyles and ergo, we should shag anyone who takes our asthetic fancy, regardless of whether or not they are likely to embroil us in their own sordid and seedy shinanigans.

What it does question is the constant, self opinionated, judgemental attitude toward others when in reality it is none of their business.

Of course it is our business.

What if said partner rings, crying and calling you everthing under the sun because they didn't know that their spouse was cheating.

What if you find out that said spouse has taken the kids and walked out.

What if you find out said spouse has tried to commit suicide (ok thats extreme but you get my point).

What if said spouse is pregnant.

What is said spouse has been ill.

What if said spouse turns up on your doorstep looking to reek revenge.

It can (and does for some) have huge repercusions on their own lives.

I've had the woman turn up on the doorstep because a man who perported to be single and showed me his weekday flat, not mentioning that he worked shifts and the wife and kids lived 250 miles away, was her husband of 10 years and she was pregnant. She was in a terrible state and I very nearly got named in a divorce petition....... so yes, it is my fucking business if some lowlife decides they ain't getting it at home and decides to 'cheat' on their unsuspecting partner.

If any member doesn’t like the look of another, they are not obliged to meet or even speak to them.

We are not talking about liking the look of someone, we are talking about honesty, respect and openess. Fancying someone is one thing..... not wanting to play with them, even though they are dam attractive, because they are married, is another.

Such is the nature of the site. Fortunately none of us have to meet with your approval

And some of us don't have to agree with you or meet your approval or your insane suspicions that just because we are liberated sexually, we shouldn't have opinions and we can't be human and judgemental.

and we all have a choice.

Exactly. I just wish that the single, but really married or with a partner, whingers on here would give us the choice of not having to read yet another thread about why they ain't getting no meets.

And don't tell me to not read if I don't want to see it....... By the time I've opened a thread and realised what it's about, I want to see what others think..........

I think thats why it's called a forum

"

We all have our crosses to bear.

_rummps x.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"No.

In my eyes it begs the question......

"Since when has cheating on a partner become justifiable because someone hangs the swinging hat on it?"

To me:

If you have an affair with a work colleague..... It's called cheating.

If you have a one night stand with someone you pull at ya local....... It's called cheating.

If you have a quick shag up the back ally next to Lidl with the checkout girl....... It's called cheating.

If you are shagging your next door neighbours spouse while said spouse is at work...... It's called cheating.

If you come on to a swingers site and expect sex but haven't told your partner...... It's called cheating.

It does make my blood boil to see people cheating and justifying it by saying "I'm swinging" and I'm sorry to piss on ya chips Grummps, but sexual liberation has got nowt to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.

Sadly it’s not my chips you are pissing on, it’s probably your own.

I very much doubt that. I stick to my own code and I am very happy with that.

Had you bothered to read and understand the post you refer to, you would have seen that doesn’t at any point claim that “sexual liberation has got ought to do with people refusing to shag cheaters.”

So pray tell...... what your previous quote from your first post on this thread meant....... here it is in case you can't be arsed to go and find it.

"However, you must ask yourself, would you really want to play with folk who claim to be liberated sexually but who are so judgemental of others lifestyle?"

I, and a few others (read above), took it to mean that just because we are sexually liberated that we cannot be judgemental of others lifestyles and ergo, we should shag anyone who takes our asthetic fancy, regardless of whether or not they are likely to embroil us in their own sordid and seedy shinanigans.

What it does question is the constant, self opinionated, judgemental attitude toward others when in reality it is none of their business.

Of course it is our business.

What if said partner rings, crying and calling you everthing under the sun because they didn't know that their spouse was cheating.

What if you find out that said spouse has taken the kids and walked out.

What if you find out said spouse has tried to commit suicide (ok thats extreme but you get my point).

What if said spouse is pregnant.

What is said spouse has been ill.

What if said spouse turns up on your doorstep looking to reek revenge.

It can (and does for some) have huge repercusions on their own lives.

I've had the woman turn up on the doorstep because a man who perported to be single and showed me his weekday flat, not mentioning that he worked shifts and the wife and kids lived 250 miles away, was her husband of 10 years and she was pregnant. She was in a terrible state and I very nearly got named in a divorce petition....... so yes, it is my fucking business if some lowlife decides they ain't getting it at home and decides to 'cheat' on their unsuspecting partner.

If any member doesn’t like the look of another, they are not obliged to meet or even speak to them.

We are not talking about liking the look of someone, we are talking about honesty, respect and openess. Fancying someone is one thing..... not wanting to play with them, even though they are dam attractive, because they are married, is another.

Such is the nature of the site. Fortunately none of us have to meet with your approval

And some of us don't have to agree with you or meet your approval or your insane suspicions that just because we are liberated sexually, we shouldn't have opinions and we can't be human and judgemental.

and we all have a choice.

Exactly. I just wish that the single, but really married or with a partner, whingers on here would give us the choice of not having to read yet another thread about why they ain't getting no meets.

And don't tell me to not read if I don't want to see it....... By the time I've opened a thread and realised what it's about, I want to see what others think..........

I think thats why it's called a forum

We all have our crosses to bear.

_rummps x."

True,but some of us dont start forum posts looking for sympathy week after week.

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