FabSwingers.com forum: Social meets first

By *otwifeCarterx OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Rotherham

We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?

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By *he Old School RockersCouple
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

We like to have an attraction first, and part of that is chatting and meeting socially. We don't dive straight in, without some interaction first.

We also don't do single guys, as most are just walking dicks, who want sex at the drop of a hat, and think everyone is the same.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Dartford

A lot of profiles are fake on here. Don't understand what they get from it to be honest.

Mrs x

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By *wingerjay1987Man
6 weeks ago

Cumbria

I’d fully expect a social meet first, you’ve got to see if there is that attraction and chemistry.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
6 weeks ago

Next Door

Occasionaly it could be that they are horny and want a quick fuck.

Often send to many profiles hoping for 1 reply

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By *arcstudMan
6 weeks ago

reading

I love a social meet first and lots of flirting

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

We also won't meet without a social & we were getting the same issue as you.

Now it's there in the profile so when someone messages now the first thing I say is that I dunt want to wasting their time so have they read the profile.

We either never hear from them again or they say yes & we go from there.

It'd worked well for us recently. It's not perfect but it definitely sorts the wheat from the chaff

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

When I was single and meeting more, I often found some men would go quiet as soon as I said I'd want a social only first.

I figured they either wanted a quick shag or weren't single, so couldn't be seen out with another woman.

Some men thought I'd just invite them straight to mine, after a few messages.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
6 weeks ago

Dudley...kinda

Because they just want to fuck. They have no interest in getting to get to know you any better, they just want to fuck.

We are just holes essentially.

Milage may vary.

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By *TinRedCouple
6 weeks ago

Reading

A social first is a non negotiable with us.

A couple of times it's paid dividends as the people we've met have soon shown their true colours when the penny has dropped that the social really was only just a social!

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By *ootnootboopCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

"We like to have an attraction first, and part of that is chatting and meeting socially. We don't dive straight in, without some interaction first.

We also don't do single guys, as most are just walking dicks, who want sex at the drop of a hat, and think everyone is the same."

This is exactly our way of using fab too.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
6 weeks ago

South Wales

We like a social first, sometimes solo or sometimes as a couple and find most guys are quite happy to do this. I do chat on here for a while first though and you mostly get a feel for who’s genuine…..does take time and patience though xx

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By *ustcallMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

I’ve always said this place would work so much better and more people would just have a socials

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By *tlanshiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Chatham

I always have a social first, if there is no connection or attraction then there is no interest.

Noticing a lot of profiles expecting play without much or any effort

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By *xfordjohnMan
6 weeks ago

Oxford

I certainly expect to have a social first, for my own sake as well as the other party.

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By *renzMan
6 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I would always expect a social first, you can see if you're going to be compatible. Plenty of flirting and everyone can go away, especially couples and discuss between themselves if they're both on board.

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By *aster and HWCouple
6 weeks ago

Derby

We have a quick social and if everyone is happy go back to ours to play.

Works to ease nerves, ensures everyone is comfortable, but also we want to see the sort of person we are inviting into our home!

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By *ev_1Couple
6 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Social first for us even a social at a club tends to sort out the wannabes lol

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
6 weeks ago

Portstewart

"We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?"

Op we wouldn't agree to meet anyone for fun unless they have met us for a social you can't get vibes from just chatting to an anonymous messaging on the Internet you need to meet them and connect in real life and if a person isn't willing to do so then they have no chance of being invited into our bed

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By *w funwifeWoman
6 weeks ago

near taunton

its mixed with me sometime i /we do socials and sometimes i/we dont its just a mix bag know plenty of couples and singles who dont too so the scene is very mixed with this id say

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By *ittlebirdWoman
6 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?"

Not just happening to you OPs. And mostly they will be fake profiles / playing away / keyboard warriors / wanting a wank.

* delete as appropriate.

Don’t take it to hard. It’s a great filter

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

We don’t care so much for the socials, we enjoy getting to know through messaging and build up etc, but at the end of the day we are not on here to make friends, we just want to meet a couple for fucking for our pleasure! Each to their own lol!

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By *punk n gushCouple
6 weeks ago

deal

We prefer to do social meets first and always after chatting on fab for a bit first

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By *each needs some creamWoman
6 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I don't care for socials if someone, suggested it, I would most likely end the conversation, as I am not here to mix my social life with my sex life.

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By *tr8MrEMan
6 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

I won't do anything without a social first....I do have my own self respect

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By *VANDYMan
6 weeks ago

Dawlish

I’m not lucky enough to have had a one to one meet yet but I would really want a social first. It must be great to get that spark and then the excitement of imagining what might happen between you rather than just turning up and shagging. Each to their own though

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By *achelTheAnalSlutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Haywards Heath

I won't meet for the fun stuff without a social meet first. And like you, the suggestion of that often leads to being ghosted or blocked.

So I learned to bring it up very early on.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I just dont think the whole site is genuine tbh. Last weekend we couldnt even get a single meet social wise whilst in york. Nothing well couples anyway. Its becoming hard work. Weve asked for scarborough blackpool york unless our profile is off putting.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Stockport

So no social ?

What's the plan ??

Knock on some random door and say , I'm here , let's fuck

Not sure that's gonna work for us !

We like to know who were jumping into bed with

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By *ycleguy300Man
6 weeks ago

Ely

"Social first for us even a social at a club tends to sort out the wannabes lol"

Agree with a social first. Mutual attraction to talent further is better long term. I’m a bit too nervous/introverted to do a club social though! Not my bag unfortunately which rules out a number of people.

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By *cottyl1983Man
6 weeks ago

Tyne and Wear

Always a social first no way could just go straight into a random play meet. Looking for one this Saturday if anyones up for one? North East areas x

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By *uzzieboyMan
6 weeks ago

taunton

Well even though I love a good social and I definitely think it’s a good idea for the vibes and connection if there is any and go from there OP

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

The accounts that stop talking once a meet is discussed or arranged at just either fake or time wasters.

Sadly there's a lot of them, and its so frustrating.

For us, the social initially is crucial....we aren't desperate to fuck people.....we also dont want any regrets. We spend time finding the right people.

Those that think socials aren't important....its absolutely fine. It's a good way to know that someone isnt compatible.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Just use it as a filter OP.

It just clearly indicates you're not compatible.

Personally from a safety aspect, the need to identify proper interest and compatibility, the chance to talk openly about what all parties are looking for and the simple fact that most want to know the online persona and images actually represent the same person in real life....a social is a non negotiable for me/us.

Anyone not willing is a guaranteed no. 🤷‍♂️

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
6 weeks ago

Norwich

I agree a social first is necessary. Plus it adds to the foreplay if you're going to take them home later..

I'm not always good though and I have my weaknesses. If he gives massages, eats, makes you cum and leaves then it's hard to say no!

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By *orester891Man
6 weeks ago

I like a social first but I’m also up for straight into it anonymous fun, but I respect what other people prefer, we’re all different

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By *cgmcgMan
6 weeks ago

kingston

The three times I have been asked by a couple for a social first, the guy has turned up on his own, and has failed to follow up.

I remain happy to offer a social, but am sceptical of the outcome.

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By *ueen of beesCouple
6 weeks ago

North West

Socials prior to any meet are important to us, as at the end of the social we can walk away if things don't go to plan or no connection x

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By *ynamicnatureMan
6 weeks ago

Doncaster

"We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?"

Hi guys,

Sorry to hear about your experiences of being ghosted.

There's probably many reasons for it. work/ life commitments can get in the way sometimes?

I hope you find a decent fella, you seem like a lovely couple

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
6 weeks ago

scunthorpe

We absolutely prefer a social first!

Donna x

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
6 weeks ago

Middle Earth

we always do a social 'only' . first we see the face pics, if that appeals to us we chat, get an idea of the person, then social. Never would we invite anyone into our home ,let alone bed, before sussing them out. and wev also had our fair share of no shows and ghosted, but there's always someone else on the horizon willing to put the effort in.

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By *helamontsCouple
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Social first for us two ...

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By *akedMMan
6 weeks ago

Witney

Social first for me as well. There has to be a attraction for both sides

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By *oughmanMan
6 weeks ago

Sunderland

Well getting that far would be nice. But yeah, a social it perfectly fine and probably preferred.

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By *erbys_coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Derby

We get a lot of “are you free tonight” messages and that’s not our thing. For us it’s about connection and mutual attraction. If that not what the other party are looking for then no problem. It’s clear we aren’t looking for the same type of experience.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
6 weeks ago

surrey

I always suggest a social meet first after chatting online for a bit. Have to make sure the chemistry is there before agreeing to go any further…

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By *each needs some creamWoman
5 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I tried to social once I don't particularly enjoy it not planning on doing it again.

After all it's a swinging site meeting are for sex not chatting.

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By *tr8MrEMan
5 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

"I tried to social once I don't particularly enjoy it not planning on doing it again.

After all it's a swinging site meeting are for sex not chatting. "

FAF then 😉😉

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By *ndecided99Man
5 weeks ago

Peterborough

"We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?"

I find it difficult to message but I build relationships with people for my job and I am good at it, it’s so impersonal sending a message where as in person you can gauge the body language and respond accordingly.

I am always up for a chat in person

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By *ugehandsMan
5 weeks ago

Fife/ Newcastle

A social is always a good way to find out if theirs at least some kind of attraction between people. Unless your a any holes a goal type of bloke.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
5 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

"I tried to social once I don't particularly enjoy it not planning on doing it again.

After all it's a swinging site meeting are for sex not chatting.

FAF then 😉😉"

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By *luecuteWoman
5 weeks ago

Brighton

I’m bi women look first social media with women

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I've experienced this a good number of times now.

I try to chat and suggest maybe meeting IRL for a social or few to see if we get along well enough and they go silent and/or block/delete the message.

Chatting on here is one thing but it can all change mood wise in person e.g you might think that they are ok but when you meet in person you suddenly have the hots for them

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By *ustcallMan
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

Asking for a social separates the boys from the man

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By *orty and niceMan
5 weeks ago

Rochdale / York

Social meetings are wonderful as you get to know the lady or couple concerned and makes play if it happens more fun too

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By *ecky and justCouple
5 weeks ago

Godalming

Social meet first for us, unless at a club or party.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Social meets always 1st, sometimes that connection just isn't there in person and id not meet to do the sex without any meeting beforehand.

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By *ecky and justCouple
5 weeks ago

Godalming

We have been known to go straight from the social meet to playing. Sometimes the attraction and tension is there right from the outset..!

One couple we met, we were their first experience of swinging and Fab. They left our place at around 3am and we’ve been friends since.

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By *ndymac888Man
5 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I always like a social meet 👍 but yeah some people just don’t want to mix fab with anything resembling real life.

I also kind of think they are secretly cheating and don’t want spotted if it’s a big issue

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By *ooking5364Couple
5 weeks ago

Wymondham norfolk

No happens to us all the time. Social very important.

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
5 weeks ago

Leicester

We do like a social first unless we meet someone in a club.x

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By *ustus5555Woman
5 weeks ago

Mansfield

"Social meets always 1st, sometimes that connection just isn't there in person and id not meet to do the sex without any meeting beforehand."

⬆️ this. 100%

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By *uncouple153Couple
5 weeks ago

Abergavenny

Already a social first. This rule may slip at a club x

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By *pinningfasterWoman
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

I wouldn't meet someone without a social first. They could be weird (not in the good way) or smell. You need to meet someone in person and get the measure of them first in my view x

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By *y serendipityCouple
5 weeks ago

Warrington

Absolutely a social first. We like to have a connection first x

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By *arkRichMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester City Centre

Socials are great… dissolves nerves, and can be a laugh… I prefer to be relaxed, and build up a bit of a rapport. And sometimes it leads you to finding out some interesting bits of info that can help when the fun starts… I get why some people can’t or won’t do socials… especially couples. But I think it just adds to the experience, and can lead to regular meets. I’ve also got work via a social meet… a few times - what’s not to like??

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By *each needs some creamWoman
5 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Are you not worried about a member of your family seeing you on a social and asking who you are with?

I am single so in a way it doesn't matter, but still I don't want my family knowing about my sex life.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
5 weeks ago

Dudley...kinda

"Are you not worried about a member of your family seeing you on a social and asking who you are with?

I am single so in a way it doesn't matter, but still I don't want my family knowing about my sex life. "

No, our family are aware we swing.

But it can be handwaved with a simple old this is an old friend from school/work/etc

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By *infullyObedientWoman
5 weeks ago

Woodley

I prefer a social first. Some have led to great meets later or on the same day. Some have not gone any further because vibe wasn't there or recent one was a nice walk where he lit up a joint... yeh no thanks. 🤣

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By *r lotharioMan
5 weeks ago

newcastle-under-lyme

always open to social first - how else will you test an ooooft response or find out if they're real, and not 63 pretending to be 23

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

It's beyond me why anyone would go to any effort to meet without establishing any chemistry

Now we don't like to chat alot because you never really can tell if it'll work till you meet in person. So we don't do endless back and forth, especially as it may take some time till we can actually meet. However we do like enough chat to establish if there is a connection before meeting in person. Once we have established that connection and its mutual we put the chat on the back burner until we meet in person. But again why would we go out our way to meet without establishing a connection or a warm fuzzy feeling?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
5 weeks ago

Coventry

As to a social we like to keep the pressure off. Go for a drink and see how it goes. While at the same time having booked a room which we keep to ourselves. If it goes well, the chemistry is right and the heat is clearly on now we can simply say we have a room if you fancy coming back. If not or unsure we can keep that to ourselves and enjoy the room (and being away from the kids) ourselves after the social.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We prefer to look each other in the eyes with a no strings social.

We're open to taking things further there and then if the vibe is right.

Unfortunately there are quite a few guys on here that only message when their balls are blue.

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By *xstaceyxxTV/TS
5 weeks ago

longeaton,ng10

Yes sure it will give you a good chance of seeing if your compatible to all concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I actually prefer socials first as it’s a good ice breaker and everyone is a bit more comfortable if it’s to be taken further. Also gives you a chance to charm and flirt your way into a sexier second date

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By *ongAndThick123Man
5 weeks ago

Leeds

A lot of people (including me) don’t like socials, because it feels too much like a date.

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By *eyeYCouple
5 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?"

If someone's unprepared to meet with zero expectations we're not prepared to invite them for more.. 👍

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By *isser36Man
5 weeks ago

fylde Coast

Personally I'd always choose to have a social first, meet for a drink and a chat and flirt see if there's an attraction/spark there. If there's not then no harm done and you've avoided a potentially awkward sexual encounter...if there is i find it increases the anticipation for a second more adventurous meet.

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By *osh bitch n hornyCouple
5 weeks ago

Warrington

We always have a social first to see if there is a connection. We were chatting with a couple yesterday and they would not send a picture before meeting. I said how do people know who they are meeting. They said they just know. Do we look like swingers lol

P&K

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By *averockrockMan
5 weeks ago

purton

Well a social meet is always the best way to see if there is chemistry and attraction..it goes both ways

"We get quite a few messages everyday, we reply to some, not all cos saying "hi" just doesn't cut it with us. But when we do reply why do guys suddenly ghost you when you suggest a social meet first?

We've not had a meet for ages cos nobody wants to hold a conversation in person.

Is it only happening to us?"

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By *ustyb555Couple
5 weeks ago

leeds

We find it really hard getting to know someone through messaging so social is a must much better face to face

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By *oomlMan
5 weeks ago

Fareham

Only had 1 meet without a social first but that was after quite a few messages and a video chat. It went well but as a general rule I would prefer a social first.

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