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"To do whatever you want to them? 100% never. Everything is agreed ….. But 100% aftercare for both after " Thanks for the ‘everything is agreed’ I suppose that’s also known as consensual…😏 Yes. Whatever I want!!! …. You see, whatever I want to do with her is exactly what I know is going to get her off. Do you think I or you would do something you wouldn’t want to do with them??… 100 percent after care is bang on for myself and you also it seems. But I do stand by 100 percent care during too.  | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you." And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you | |||
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"Hmm. I rarely allow for that in negotiations for that kind of dynamic. But then, I'm a fucking terrible sub, and I'm happier just dealing with sadists and primals than doms 💜" No kissing? 😯 *cries | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you" Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal | |||
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"And aftercare is as important for the Dominant as well as the submissive " Yeh, that’s something I found out, hence why I’m personally against meeting someone I don’t know that way. | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal " Now that is THE answer. | |||
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"Yes! Aftercare is a huge part of being a Domme. Kiss and cuddles are one of my Basic aftercare tools Kink (Mrs) " What they said. | |||
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"Specifically for those Doms that scratch those itches for those that want to submit etc. It's just a simple question - do you Kiss and cuddle those that have given themselves to you to do whatever you want with them? " Well he knows my limits so anything he does to me he knows I really really really like. So it's not exactly what HE wants and if he wants to try something new we talk about and if we both agree it is something that can be done in the future. In regards to the kissing and cuddling, this is a must for me. Any play done needs after care for both of us and one way is reconnecting via kisses and cuddles. | |||
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"Specifically for those Doms that scratch those itches for those that want to submit etc. It's just a simple question - do you Kiss and cuddle those that have given themselves to you to do whatever you want with them? Well he knows my limits so anything he does to me he knows I really really really like. So it's not exactly what HE wants and if he wants to try something new we talk about and if we both agree it is something that can be done in the future. In regards to the kissing and cuddling, this is a must for me. Any play done needs after care for both of us and one way is reconnecting via kisses and cuddles. " That’s good to know, aftercare is vital | |||
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"Specifically for those Doms that scratch those itches for those that want to submit etc. It's just a simple question - do you Kiss and cuddle those that have given themselves to you to do whatever you want with them? " only in after care not during the domming as it can break what ever deal you already have agreed on but part of after care ues ovbcours | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal " tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts " So the Dominants feelings and concerns are not considered. Take impact. The sub is asking for more but the Dominant is uncomfortable in doing that. They may not feel happy or comfortable bruising someone, but the sub is saying “harder” For me the Dominant has as much right firstly to say no, whether that is using a safe word, to protect themselves or to actually protect the submissive for entering sub frenzy. Surely both parties have to have equal gratification from it rather than as you say the dominant being an extra dildo | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts So the Dominants feelings and concerns are not considered. Take impact. The sub is asking for more but the Dominant is uncomfortable in doing that. They may not feel happy or comfortable bruising someone, but the sub is saying “harder” For me the Dominant has as much right firstly to say no, whether that is using a safe word, to protect themselves or to actually protect the submissive for entering sub frenzy. Surely both parties have to have equal gratification from it rather than as you say the dominant being an extra dildo " no they are considered etc just am so easy to please that just doing it brings me pleasure etc thus I'm always happy as for sub frenzy no I know that if they do that it's reign it back and control etc but for me the sub is in control of most fo the play unless sporadic thoughts come to me of how to play with tools given to me in way unexpected not done before but its all horses for course each room environment mentality and sub is different making each situation different | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts So the Dominants feelings and concerns are not considered. Take impact. The sub is asking for more but the Dominant is uncomfortable in doing that. They may not feel happy or comfortable bruising someone, but the sub is saying “harder” For me the Dominant has as much right firstly to say no, whether that is using a safe word, to protect themselves or to actually protect the submissive for entering sub frenzy. Surely both parties have to have equal gratification from it rather than as you say the dominant being an extra dildo " As I said for me it's all about exploring other fantasys nit my own I'm just a person along for wild ride | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts So the Dominants feelings and concerns are not considered. Take impact. The sub is asking for more but the Dominant is uncomfortable in doing that. They may not feel happy or comfortable bruising someone, but the sub is saying “harder” For me the Dominant has as much right firstly to say no, whether that is using a safe word, to protect themselves or to actually protect the submissive for entering sub frenzy. Surely both parties have to have equal gratification from it rather than as you say the dominant being an extra dildo As I said for me it's all about exploring other fantasys nit my own I'm just a person along for wild ride " As you say horses for courses and each to their own but if you’re exploring other peoples fantasies and you’re along for this so called wild ride for me that’s a no. Fantasies are to be explored together. What if you don’t like their fantasy, you still going for the wild ride. Any fantasy, for me, needs to be explored before, limits set, and for both to have the ability to stop it You do it your way. I’ll do it mine. Have a great day | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts So the Dominants feelings and concerns are not considered. Take impact. The sub is asking for more but the Dominant is uncomfortable in doing that. They may not feel happy or comfortable bruising someone, but the sub is saying “harder” For me the Dominant has as much right firstly to say no, whether that is using a safe word, to protect themselves or to actually protect the submissive for entering sub frenzy. Surely both parties have to have equal gratification from it rather than as you say the dominant being an extra dildo " I’m with you. If I thought I was being used as a dildo, I’d walk away. As a very wise fabber has said on other threads. I’m not a kink vending machine. I have my very strong wants & desires. And they must absolutely feed into my playmates. I wouldn’t be at all happy if they changed their boundaries for me & the same consideration should be shown for mine. | |||
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"Aftercare is absolutely vital. Sometimes that'll involve cuddles and kisses, sometimes it won't, especially if they're touch overloaded. What it never involves is "whatever you want"; everything in a D/s dynamic has to be within the lines the sub has drawn for you. And there in that last sentence is the thing people who want to dom don't understand far too often. The one who gives the power over to the other is the one who is in control,its their show, you are just playing a part they have given you Could not disagree more with you Power is shared. Whether D or s both have a responsibility to look after each other before, during and after and play and outside of play. There are no “parts” that you speak of. At that moment you are one, mentally, emotionally and physically entwined. Power of submission and Dominance is a two way thing both with equal rights and voice to say “no” For one person to hold all the power means that this can be manipulated in a negative form or way Dominance does not mean strength nor submission mean weakness, it’s an equal joining of mind and body, it is not one persons “show”, it is totally equal tbh I think the sub has all the power and control as of safety wors are used it all stops for me as a dom I see myself is another sexual object for sub to use for their gratification and extra dildo if she will am just human being its their fanatsys I perform it's just me commenting the acts So the Dominants feelings and concerns are not considered. Take impact. The sub is asking for more but the Dominant is uncomfortable in doing that. They may not feel happy or comfortable bruising someone, but the sub is saying “harder” For me the Dominant has as much right firstly to say no, whether that is using a safe word, to protect themselves or to actually protect the submissive for entering sub frenzy. Surely both parties have to have equal gratification from it rather than as you say the dominant being an extra dildo I’m with you. If I thought I was being used as a dildo, I’d walk away. As a very wise fabber has said on other threads. I’m not a kink vending machine. I have my very strong wants & desires. And they must absolutely feed into my playmates. I wouldn’t be at all happy if they changed their boundaries for me & the same consideration should be shown for mine."  | |||
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