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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

You don't need to be verified to use the site & chat or arrange meets

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn

Getting photo verified is easy.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"Getting photo verified is easy. "

He already is. I think he's complaining about people who don't want to meet unless they're verified - which frankly is their perogative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s clearly frustrating to you but once you’ve been stood up a couple of times you’ll come to understand the logic of it.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Even folk who are verified stand folk up and send nasty text with it but it’s easy to get verified go to a social or club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

You've been here 6 weeks, and your already throwing your teddies out the pram. We're you exspecting a fuckfest? Woman throwing their knickers at you every day? Your gonna go far. Maybe put some effort into your profile?

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire

It’s not stupid at all, we have been stood up by people who have verifications and people who haven’t but never had a bad meet with people who have verifications.

We have had a few bad meets with people who have no verifications so now we only meet people who are verified from meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh dear someone can't read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been here 6 weeks, and your already throwing your teddies out the pram. We're you exspecting a fuckfest? Woman throwing their knickers at you every day? Your gonna go far. Maybe put some effort into your profile? "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Another that can't read lmao

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

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Why is this 'stupid'?

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By *izequeenCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

what are you saying is stupid ? the verification system or the need to be verified ???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

I think it's ridiculous when some people need babysitting. They want someone else to leave a veri to say that they are ok to meet person X.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

No need to be rude to people trying to respond to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No need for me being rude to people being rude to me? Oh ok i won't stick up for myself your absolutely right

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP in my experience people will meet if they see a profile with some decent pictures and a bunch of text that explains who you are and what you can offer.

This isn’t (generally) blind date so if your profile doesn’t show you off in the best light then you are going to struggle - verified or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

Perhaps referring to people as dipshits might lessen your chances even further?

We should clearly all just do things your way.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

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There may be other reasons you can't get a meet, your contributions to this thread might have added to them, just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh no people in the forums are judging me for having an opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, nobody is judging you. Nobody cares enough to judge. You are talking like an asshole when people are here to talk and help.

No wonder why you aren't getting any meets. Look at the way you come across.

Go to clubs and have a chat with people. Ask them if they can verify you. If not, then keep sulking like an asshat and blame everyone but yourself.

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By *ubslut36FWoman
over a year ago

Woodley


"OP in my experience people will meet if they see a profile with some decent pictures and a bunch of text that explains who you are and what you can offer.

This isn’t (generally) blind date so if your profile doesn’t show you off in the best light then you are going to struggle - verified or not."

This exactly, as don’t generally meet non-verified but if a profile looks good I will get a feel for them in chat and May meet and give them that first veri. But the profile needs to be attractive in the first place.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Oh no people in the forums are judging me for having an opinion "

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You're being judged for what you're saying, not having an opinion.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "
exactly don't worry about it, contact people who don't require them, go to clubs etc

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it's fairly easy to get verified, I'm not sure why people make a huge issue of it, pop on cam and ask someone, pop to a local social or club, if someone can't make an effort to get verified I'd expect the same effort for a meet.

We will chat to unverified if they've not been on long, but if it's over a year with no verifications we wouldn't.

Mrs

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument exactly don't worry about it, contact people who don't require them, go to clubs etc "

^this.

OP if you're trying to meet people who require you to be verified of course you'll have a very low success rate.

Try to meet other unverified people first, there's less chance they'll be looking for this requirement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the sentiment of each to their own. Like, if they don't wanna meet people who are unverified then that's their preference, no hard feelings. It's just the same as someone having an age preference or something.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

You've just thrown a tantrum in front of the people you want to meet, and your answer to suggestions is 'I don't want to do that'. Your profile shows no effort, who do you think wants to meet you after that?

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Verified or not, a person's profile is like their advert. You have to think "why would someone meet me?"; is your profile interesting, does it tell people what you're looking for and what you bring to the table?

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opp i agree with you that why cant you leave a varie if your not varied but can see the sites reason for not. It helps cut out fake profiles. I also agree with loads. Getting ratty with people on this foram might show what you could be like in your messages. Just saying.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I admit I made a mistake 6 months not 6 weeks. Adults can own and admit to their mistakes.

Your responces to others on this thread. WILL give them a better and clearer idea, of you as a person. This will help you on your mission to gaining your first veri. I'm sure this will not be long now.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

If you go to a social, which in itself is a good introduction to the scene, it should be quite easy to get verifications. Why all the drama...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, we wouldn't meet you, even if you were verified by a whole range of wonderful people.

A selection of the reasons why:

- You have virtually no profile text

- You list no interests

- The single photo you have is awful, I can't even tell what part of you it is

- You're rude, entitled, and you speak down to others

But sure, it's the verification system that's preventing you from being elbow deep in poontang every night...

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

My first veri was a webcam.

My second was someone I was chatting to in the club.

Neither were arranged meets and didn't fuck either of them.

It's not just about meeting and fucking, it's about being sociable and respectful.

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By *hismMan
over a year ago

Ballygonowhere


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

I'll tell you what is stupid,in my opinion.

Whining and or criticising other fab members because what they ask for doesn't suit what you can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, we wouldn't meet you, even if you were verified by a whole range of wonderful people.

A selection of the reasons why:

- You have virtually no profile text

- You list no interests

- The single photo you have is awful, I can't even tell what part of you it is

- You're rude, entitled, and you speak down to others

But sure, it's the verification system that's preventing you from being elbow deep in poontang every night... "

Sums it up pretty well. Last sentence made me almost spit out my coffee. Haven't heard poontang in a while.

I'm going home, demanding some poontang from Alice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. To be honest, you could have phrased your post better to make it clearer. You can get verified over cam, so it is not that difficult. We are not verified by others yet as we don't bother with cams. You have to be verified by others who are verified because otherwise everyone would have 2 accounts and verify themselves (still possible). I personally think cam verification is pointless because it's only based on appearance.

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Bottom line is this. As a single man it's hard, accept that because there's loads of men on here and women /couples get loads of messages. The best thing to do is send polite well constructed messages and eventually you'll get a reply, get to chat and then meet. It's a long haul job, thats how it is. However the flip side is I've met some really nice people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, we wouldn't meet you, even if you were verified by a whole range of wonderful people.

A selection of the reasons why:

- You have virtually no profile text

- You list no interests

- The single photo you have is awful, I can't even tell what part of you it is

- You're rude, entitled, and you speak down to others

But sure, it's the verification system that's preventing you from being elbow deep in poontang every night...

Sums it up pretty well. Last sentence made me almost spit out my coffee. Haven't heard poontang in a while.

I'm going home, demanding some poontang from Alice. "

I'm trying to bring it back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

Charm school obviously didn’t teach you manners. Hardly surprising no one wants to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP. To be honest, you could have phrased your post better to make it clearer. You can get verified over cam, so it is not that difficult. We are not verified by others yet as we don't bother with cams. You have to be verified by others who are verified because otherwise everyone would have 2 accounts and verify themselves (still possible). I personally think cam verification is pointless because it's only based on appearance. "

In person veris are only based on a snapshot in time. Even serial killers have good days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP. To be honest, you could have phrased your post better to make it clearer. You can get verified over cam, so it is not that difficult. We are not verified by others yet as we don't bother with cams. You have to be verified by others who are verified because otherwise everyone would have 2 accounts and verify themselves (still possible). I personally think cam verification is pointless because it's only based on appearance.

In person veris are only based on a snapshot in time. Even serial killers have good days. "

Exactly.. So it begs the question, what benefit are they above and beyond site photo verification?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Why it's personal preference. Granted if your in a position of power/selection you can successfully set your filters quite specifically. It's not to say unverified people can't be awesome however logic, experience and the ability to get some 3rd hand opinions gives you more chance of picking a good one from a pool of verify v an upstart with no history. People haven't got the free time in the world so anything you can do to mitigate against a bad experience the better.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"If you go to a social, which in itself is a good introduction to the scene, it should be quite easy to get verifications. Why all the drama...?"
well yes good introduction sexually but not necessarily verification wise unless you wear a name plate with your username on it lol I'm quite chatty but I've not gained verification from clubs and I've been to many, guess it comes down to whether you yourself want verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've met people who are unverified, we have no issue with it. Its easy to tell who's real and who isn't from chatting to them - that's not the issue.

As for photo verification, it's a good step, nice to see on a profile, but lets be honest - it's not beyond the realm of possibility that filters, editing and photoshop could be used for nefarious gain.

However, OP demanding and expecting meets from an unverified, sparse, uninformative and dull profile, coupled with his approach to discourse and the way he speaks to people who dare offer an alternative viewpoint... Well, make up your own mind!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP. To be honest, you could have phrased your post better to make it clearer. You can get verified over cam, so it is not that difficult. We are not verified by others yet as we don't bother with cams. You have to be verified by others who are verified because otherwise everyone would have 2 accounts and verify themselves (still possible). I personally think cam verification is pointless because it's only based on appearance.

In person veris are only based on a snapshot in time. Even serial killers have good days.

Exactly.. So it begs the question, what benefit are they above and beyond site photo verification? "

Some people see them as a benefit. Some people see any veris - even photo veris - as irrelevant.

Some people won't meet anyone with less than 4 veris, some won't meet anyone with more than 4.

It's all about compatibility.

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By * plus SCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

I personally don’t meet those without verifications for 1:1 meets, in clubs however it’s irrelevant as my husband is with me. A lot of women on here get multiple messages daily, verifications are a handy way of sorting out which accounts are fakes, time wasters or general nutters.

Clubs can be very daunting granted, but you can be verified by just chatting, you don’t have to play.

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By *ravelcpleCouple
over a year ago

ipswich


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

Calling people dipshits won’t get you very far either...!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To be fair the veris are 90% the same anyway "treat x with respect" or the cringy ones that go into explicit detail about what you got up to. And as for my profile, i dont want people to know all about me before they met me, thats the whole point of conversation isn't it? Hi I'm x i work as y i like z in my spare time. Nout to talk about if you read it all my photo is literally my thumb over the lense because fab decided i needed a photo to message anyone for sone reason and I don't want everyone to see me and my tickle tackle i do have enough self respect to be ashamed if i was recognised on here i'm from a small town after all. I don't really care if i offended people that decided to give me grief first. I wouldn't talk to people like that normally but don't give it if you can't take it

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Yep fortunately I have verifications but that means very little in the real world. Just because someone speaks well.of you dosnt mean.that makes you better than the next person.

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I think they're pretty important. Say you meet a woman, but she brings along her bf. She may not have it in the profile but her veris say that her and her bf are great. It could be one that slipped through the net but it makes you aware what the person is like.

That's obviously an example more catered for yourself, for me it tells me that the person is real, polite, turns up, and if they're gonna push for play or if they're up for socials. Also, if they attend clubs and a general idea of the person.

I've met unverified people, and some have been great but the majority have left me drinking my lemonade alone.

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By *aughty VicarMan
over a year ago

Bamber Bridge, P R E S T O N, Lancashire

I think the verification system is an important part of Fab.

A high percentage of people are either pic collectors, nosey-parkers, keyboard wankers, time-wasters or just don’t have the bottle to turn up for a social.

People verified by meet tell me that they have walked through the minefield of Fab sorting the wheat from the chaff and are genuinely making connections in this secret lifestyle.

Quality well written verifications also give some clues as to the type of people they are and the type of people they want to meet.

At the end of the day, you never know who is going to turn up to that initial meet but at least verifications give you some confidence.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"OP in my experience people will meet if they see a profile with some decent pictures and a bunch of text that explains who you are and what you can offer.

This isn’t (generally) blind date so if your profile doesn’t show you off in the best light then you are going to struggle - verified or not."

This, and if you send a polite first msg. Veris don't always mean much

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"I think it's ridiculous when some people need babysitting. They want someone else to leave a veri to say that they are ok to meet person X.

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Absolutely NOT the reason we want to see meet verifications. We simply want to know that the person turns up and isn't simply a seventeen year old fantasist that never leaves the bedroom of his mum's house.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

No need to be abusive, people are only giving you there experiences hence why they don't meet anybody with out veris, your going to filter yourself out if you carry on calling ppl dipshits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Another point with the system is it can be faked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Read all the comments before you add, i haven't just started randomly arguing, if someone is a dick with me I won't sit there and take it, don't give it if you can't take it

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Mate, been here over 2 years managed to acquire one cam Veri yet as I'm the wrong side of 60 struggle to get social or other meets - it's life, look inwardly and see if there's anything you can do with your profile to change the impression folks get. If not or you can't be bothered with a bit of inward reflection accept the situation with grace, move on and be happy. No body owes you anything here it is ultimately what you make of it.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you.

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By *eet-la-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Bishop STORTFORD

This is like watching a slow motion car crash. Don't think lack of veris is your main issue OP x

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Read all the comments before you add, i haven't just started randomly arguing, if someone is a dick with me I won't sit there and take it, don't give it if you can't take it"

Apart from a 9 inch cock, why would anyone want to meet you?

You have appeared to assume that this will cause the ladies of Lancashire to beat a path to your door.

If it's not working after six months, maybe think about adding more details to your profile, such as your interests and maybe something more specific than 'looking for fun'

If you are not selling yourself in your profile, don't complain about the lack of buyers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you. "

Bet you £5 and a Mars bar that he didn't....

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By *ootnootboopCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"OP, we wouldn't meet you, even if you were verified by a whole range of wonderful people.

A selection of the reasons why:

- You have virtually no profile text

- You list no interests

- The single photo you have is awful, I can't even tell what part of you it is

- You're rude, entitled, and you speak down to others

But sure, it's the verification system that's preventing you from being elbow deep in poontang every night... "

Poontang!!!!! That's a new one! Definitely filing that away for later use!

Ax

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you. "

There you go pal someone being nice and willing to give you that initial veri

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

Being verified won't change that much

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

90% of our no shows or lame excuses have all been from veriefied users ?? and the overwhelming numbers of unveriefied have actually showed up to get veriefied ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was annoying for me when I was looking for meets. Some profiles stating you are not serious about meeting if you have no meet verifications and so on.

I thought to myself.. hold on a minute I can't even get a message never mind meet someone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

Put some pics of yourself on your profile. Different body pictures, pictures in boxers, pictures in the shower, pics in a shirt and also put in your bio more about yourself, what your looking for and what you have to offer.

People will look at your profile and think not for us and won't message back.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8


"It’s not stupid at all, we have been stood up by people who have verifications and people who haven’t but never had a bad meet with people who have verifications.

We have had a few bad meets with people who have no verifications so now we only meet people who are verified from meets."

Can’t believe anyone would stand you up!!! Eediots!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

Being verified does help as you've mentioned others won't be interested if not . That's only half of the hurdle then try connecting with those whom fit around your and their criteria remember you also need to have some attraction between both. It's how life works

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

Maybe it’s not that your not verified. I’ve met a few unverified men on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read all the comments before you add, i haven't just started randomly arguing, if someone is a dick with me I won't sit there and take it, don't give it if you can't take it"

Good luck op, your going to go far on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

I've used it as an excuse not to meet someone. It's a nicer reason than the truth if people want to know why I've said no

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

I think we all know why you're not getting any meetings

You're missing a vital item of apparel from your ensemble...

www.crocs.co.uk/c/men/footwear

You know what to do

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

Are they explicitly telling yiu that the lack of verification is the reason? Or are yiu assuming that?

It is very easy to assume a reason for a lack of success: not verified, not a BBC, only meet white people, not got a six pack, only want dad bods, too old, too young, too tall, too short... People easily fixate on something they don't have and believe it is the reason for a lack of success rather than consider could they be doing differently with the factors they can control

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich (just for Sat)


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

Users like yourself are you own worst enemy. Moaning about not getting replies or a meet when you've made absolutely no effort with your profile.

Maybe it's time to go back to T1nder?

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you.

Bet you £5 and a Mars bar that he didn't...."

I could kill for a Mars bar right now

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


" And as for my profile, i dont want people to know all about me before they met me, thats the whole point of conversation isn't it? Hi I'm x i work as y i like z in my spare time. Nout to talk about if you read it all"

..................................

Not understanding the difference between writing a CV and creating a profile on here that will engage the people you're looking for might be another problem for you to add to the list.

Ps you're current approach isn't working for you, digging your heels in about it will make it work even less, it's not rocket science.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Erm!! No! We're taking a break but, OP you have one indescribable picture, no verifications and frankly you'd be pretty far down our list of 'go to people' if we were meeting atm!

Get to some socials, make the effort to go to a club?? Even if that's just to meet people.. Then hey presto, verifications..

Many, including us have been stood up with meeting people purely on their word and ask yourself would you meet you?

Also in our opinion, you are doing yourself no favours by insulting folk on the forums..

You leave footprints here, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand the frustrations of trying to get verified by other members, as I to have not yet been verified and as much as its frustrating not getting replys and engaging in conversations over the messages the best thing to do is be patient, keep your Profile updated and just put more public pics up, write more about yourself what you like and dont like, maybe include a fantasy and just sort of open yourself up to the world in a way.

People will always mess people about its just the way of the world and yes it shouldnt happen but it does.

Go to events and clubs and socialise and meet new people face to face is the best way to get verified. Just be patient.

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Even as a single guy I will only chat to those who are photo verified. Even then when arranging a meet I swap a personalised photo verification. If you are going to meet someone for play and put yourself in a potentially vulnerable position, this in itself is the bare minimum I would expect. It's easy and simple and no reason why anyone can't do it. Unless.....

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

What a charmer! You'll do really well on here..... NOT

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you.

Bet you £5 and a Mars bar that he didn't....

I could kill for a Mars bar right now"

Well we lost that bet - out of Mars bars…. Toffee crisp?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha could of been worse could of been a freddo …. Damn expensive things them lol

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"Haha could of been worse could of been a freddo …. Damn expensive things them lol"

Simples, we just watched this man in the cam room, charming & funny - verification done in less than 5 mins.

It’s not difficult gentlemen.

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By *es_ivebeen_hereb4Man
over a year ago

I'm always around here


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you.

Bet you £5 and a Mars bar that he didn't....

I could kill for a Mars bar right now

Well we lost that bet - out of Mars bars…. Toffee crisp? "

Have yo got a wispa or wispa gold maybe? ????

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you.

Bet you £5 and a Mars bar that he didn't....

I could kill for a Mars bar right now

Well we lost that bet - out of Mars bars…. Toffee crisp?

Have yo got a wispa or wispa gold maybe? ????"

Erm we’ve got Red Bounty’s or Turkish delight.. they are always last to be taken

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By *es_ivebeen_hereb4Man
over a year ago

I'm always around here


"If you want to get verified, jump into the south east cam room in 5 mins & we will verify you.

Bet you £5 and a Mars bar that he didn't....

I could kill for a Mars bar right now

Well we lost that bet - out of Mars bars…. Toffee crisp?

Have yo got a wispa or wispa gold maybe? ????

Erm we’ve got Red Bounty’s or Turkish delight.. they are always last to be taken "

Don't mind the Turkish to be fair ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haha could of been worse could of been a freddo …. Damn expensive things them lol

Simples, we just watched this man in the cam room, charming & funny - verification done in less than 5 mins.

It’s not difficult gentlemen. "

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Even as a single guy I will only chat to those who are photo verified. Even then when arranging a meet I swap a personalised photo verification. If you are going to meet someone for play and put yourself in a potentially vulnerable position, this in itself is the bare minimum I would expect. It's easy and simple and no reason why anyone can't do it. Unless....."

No chance I'd do that. The photo could end up anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wowzer. This is a shite show.

OP people gave you some very good advice and you seem to have taken it as a personal attack. Not sure why.

I also won't meet profiles that aren't meet verified, however if they're profile was interesting and they seemed nice and respectful. I would maybe meet for a social.

Your attitude on here would put me off instantly tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Even as a single guy I will only chat to those who are photo verified. Even then when arranging a meet I swap a personalised photo verification. If you are going to meet someone for play and put yourself in a potentially vulnerable position, this in itself is the bare minimum I would expect. It's easy and simple and no reason why anyone can't do it. Unless.....

No chance I'd do that. The photo could end up anywhere. "

It doesn't have to be a sexy photo, or anything with a reference to swinging. I've sent a selfie with a agreed word written on a piece of paper, something like SpongeBob ! Lol

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By *lick9Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Best way to be verified is to go to a swingers club. Many people in the clubs are on fab and will gladly give you a veri even if you have not played with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Even as a single guy I will only chat to those who are photo verified. Even then when arranging a meet I swap a personalised photo verification. If you are going to meet someone for play and put yourself in a potentially vulnerable position, this in itself is the bare minimum I would expect. It's easy and simple and no reason why anyone can't do it. Unless.....

No chance I'd do that. The photo could end up anywhere.

It doesn't have to be a sexy photo, or anything with a reference to swinging. I've sent a selfie with a agreed word written on a piece of paper, something like SpongeBob ! Lol"

I still wouldn't do it though.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth


"Best way to be verified is to go to a swingers club. Many people in the clubs are on fab and will gladly give you a veri even if you have not played with them "

Didn't happen for me

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I take not having any kind of verification as a red flag, but not a deal breaker.

People aren't obliged to do anything they aren't comfortable with. Whether that's getting verified or meeting people who aren't verified. Nobody is in the wrong for having their own preferences.

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By *onaldandjacquelineCouple
over a year ago

wirral


"It’s clearly frustrating to you but once you’ve been stood up a couple of times you’ll come to understand the logic of it. "

Nail on the head

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"Best way to be verified is to go to a swingers club. Many people in the clubs are on fab and will gladly give you a veri even if you have not played with them

Didn't happen for me"

If we are free and able we will verify anyone that needs one, first one only - and it will state met in the cam rooms for verification purposes. Etc - if you have a nice smile/make us laugh etc then that will get added to.

If you go into the cam rooms and simply ask someone, in one of them will help you.

You must turn your cam on to get verified, not just be in there as one chap thought earlier.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I can’t tell you the amount of bullshit accounts on here that are fake

Well verified at least shows that they are real and I mean proper veris from decent accounts

Helps sieve through the wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can’t tell you the amount of bullshit accounts on here that are fake

Well verified at least shows that they are real and I mean proper veris from decent accounts

Helps sieve through the wasters "

Fake profiles don’t put club meets on their profiles. I have though - just saying

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

People can meet who they wish, if they only want black or white or sky blue that's their choice and the same goes for verified or not. If your finding it too hard to meet anyone without them I guess you have 2 choices buddy

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I can’t tell you the amount of bullshit accounts on here that are fake

Well verified at least shows that they are real and I mean proper veris from decent accounts

Helps sieve through the wasters

Fake profiles don’t put club meets on their profiles. I have though - just saying "

Haha I wish that was the case !

They put meets up and sometimes even have fake veris

9 years on here and I’ve seen it all

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Yep, totally agree mate.

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It’s not stupid at all, we have been stood up by people who have verifications and people who haven’t but never had a bad meet with people who have verifications.

We have had a few bad meets with people who have no verifications so now we only meet people who are verified from meets."

Which begs the question, how are people supposed to get meet verified if people won't meet them if they are unverified.?

So it IS a vicious circle in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i touched a lot of nerves today lol cam verified isn't meet verified, and i have had a meet, but she wasn't verified so couldn't verify each other, I'm not on here 24/7 looking for "poontang" lol I'm just talking about the profiles that specifically say no unless you're verified lol. Tell you what though i had almost 100 views today haha

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


" i touched a lot of nerves today lol cam verified isn't meet verified, and i have had a meet, but she wasn't verified so couldn't verify each other, I'm not on here 24/7 looking for "poontang" lol I'm just talking about the profiles that specifically say no unless you're verified lol. Tell you what though i had almost 100 views today haha"

If you'd accepted the offer of the cam verification you'd have then been able to verify your previous meet and as she was then verified she could meet verify you.

I think that makes sense. So maybe see if the cam verification is still an option

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the offer of cam veri btw but unfortunately i wasn't online, plus i don't think cam veri is worth doing (too easy to fake) and im not on here begging for veris either just wondering what everyone's stance is on the whole veri thing on here, just seems a bit of a pointless thing to me

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire


"It’s not stupid at all, we have been stood up by people who have verifications and people who haven’t but never had a bad meet with people who have verifications.

We have had a few bad meets with people who have no verifications so now we only meet people who are verified from meets.

Which begs the question, how are people supposed to get meet verified if people won't meet them if they are unverified.?

So it IS a vicious circle in that respect. "

Not really there is plenty of people on here that will meet people who have no verifications or there is always clubs and socials to get a verification.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Thanks for the offer of cam veri btw but unfortunately i wasn't online, plus i don't think cam veri is worth doing (too easy to fake) and im not on here begging for veris either just wondering what everyone's stance is on the whole veri thing on here, just seems a bit of a pointless thing to me"

.................................

It's not pointless to the people who value them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the offer of cam veri btw but unfortunately i wasn't online, plus i don't think cam veri is worth doing (too easy to fake) and im not on here begging for veris either just wondering what everyone's stance is on the whole veri thing on here, just seems a bit of a pointless thing to me"

How would someone fake a cam veri? Whole pint of any veri is to demonstrate you are real, and who you present yourself to be. Social, cam, meet all will achieve the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drives me nuts the profiles that have that, they want a meet verified profile but you can't get a meet and about 90% of the people will only meet verified by a meet.

I've had it where they've said yeah I'd love to meet you but message me back once I know your real. ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet people who don’t state they won’t meet unverified people.

Simple.

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire


"Drives me nuts the profiles that have that, they want a meet verified profile but you can't get a meet and about 90% of the people will only meet verified by a meet.

I've had it where they've said yeah I'd love to meet you but message me back once I know your real. ??"

Would you meet a 90 year old gay guy for sex?

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"Thanks for the offer of cam veri btw but unfortunately i wasn't online, plus i don't think cam veri is worth doing (too easy to fake) and im not on here begging for veris either just wondering what everyone's stance is on the whole veri thing on here, just seems a bit of a pointless thing to me"

As I explained above if yiu accept the offer of a cam veri, you can meet verify your previous meet and they they can verify you.

Which then makes the whole "people will only meet verified people" no longer an issue for you

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

thers a reason why most explain quite well ... there are so many men on here that believe it or not nobody needs to meet unverified / cam verified and can meet a verified play meet person instead its that simple why waste valuable time messing around when you can have a guy whos proven to turn up and proven to be fun ...

most of my meets are people i know from clubs and the odd play meet verified person on here..

so its a fact we dont have too or indeed need to look at the unverified or the cam verified or the social meet verified when there are more than enough play meet verified to go around ...

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By *ickey73Man
over a year ago

cardiff

I’ve not been on here long and am only photo verified. Did think how am I going to get verifications from others if the ladies I message don’t reply but by reading the above comments there is light at the end of the tunnel. Some great advice has been given, cam verifications are easy enough to do, club meet as I have one local to me. The verifications show others from what I’ve read give peoples opinions of who they’ve met and how. Just like a review I guess of the person.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

It's just you verification is so easy and s out the fakes

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

wish they would get rid of the cam veri it proves nothing as all youve done is cammed there used to be a phone veri but they got rid of that wish they do the same with the cam one

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I’ve not been on here long and am only photo verified. Did think how am I going to get verifications from others if the ladies I message don’t reply but by reading the above comments there is light at the end of the tunnel. Some great advice has been given, cam verifications are easy enough to do, club meet as I have one local to me. The verifications show others from what I’ve read give peoples opinions of who they’ve met and how. Just like a review I guess of the person. "

But is also the meet section a casual meet with no expectations leaving the door open

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"wish they would get rid of the cam veri it proves nothing as all youve done is cammed there used to be a phone veri but they got rid of that wish they do the same with the cam one "

Cam veri is interactive, proves that someone is real. Proves a couple isn't just some dude. Proves a woman isn't a dude.

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

Chin up, OP. There are bound to be some women with a humiliation fetish who would love demeaning themselves by noticing that you exist.

To give you real advice, though you'll ignore it: stop whinging. Stop being aggressive. Show yourself to be better than you have thus far, or give up and leave, but for God's sake stop bleating about how much of a failure you feel yourself to be. No one, in all the long annals of history, has ever found pitying self-regard attractive.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there


"wish they would get rid of the cam veri it proves nothing as all youve done is cammed there used to be a phone veri but they got rid of that wish they do the same with the cam one "

what’s the difference in having a chat in a coffee shop on a social or having a chat via a video link?

You see their face, mannerisms, reactions to jokes - we have met some great people because they made us laugh & intrigued us via the cam rooms that we would have completely ignored if we had just seen their profile.

We don’t entertain the wanking dead, just like those that do it in clubs.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

#justmyopinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been here 6 weeks, and your already throwing your teddies out the pram. We're you exspecting a fuckfest? Woman throwing their knickers at you every day? Your gonna go far. Maybe put some effort into your profile? "

Came here to say something exactly like this

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest load of crap on site to hear. These forums crack me up!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich (just for Sat)


"Thanks for the offer of cam veri btw but unfortunately i wasn't online, plus i don't think cam veri is worth doing (too easy to fake) and im not on here begging for veris either just wondering what everyone's stance is on the whole veri thing on here, just seems a bit of a pointless thing to me"

It's pointless to you because you haven't got any yet.

It's absolutely braindead to think verifications are pointless. If they weren't a thing on here then just imagine the amount of catfishing etc that would happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Drives me nuts the profiles that have that, they want a meet verified profile but you can't get a meet and about 90% of the people will only meet verified by a meet.

I've had it where they've said yeah I'd love to meet you but message me back once I know your real. ??

Would you meet a 90 year old gay guy for sex?"

No no no haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s a fair thing to ask for but frustrating when you’re genuine and not had a chance to be verified. There’s always video chat prior to meeting though. Just saying

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By *tewedbeefMan
over a year ago

visiting

Personally, I’m still seeking my first verification from here. But I’m happy To take things slowly.

One day I might be in the right bar at the right time. Or even the right hotel ( yes I heard them fucking at 2am and 6am)

But happy to tease a mind, sexually Exploring in their messages. I’ve had a few nice chats but no meets or webcams.

Here’s to 2023.. happy fabbing everyone.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

You jave lemons so make lemonade

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By *inkyKouple40Couple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"You've been here 6 weeks, and your already throwing your teddies out the pram. We're you exspecting a fuckfest? Woman throwing their knickers at you every day? Your gonna go far. Maybe put some effort into your profile? "

Brilliant!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, we wouldn't meet you, even if you were verified by a whole range of wonderful people.

A selection of the reasons why:

- You have virtually no profile text

- You list no interests

- The single photo you have is awful, I can't even tell what part of you it is

- You're rude, entitled, and you speak down to others

But sure, it's the verification system that's preventing you from being elbow deep in poontang every night... "

At least you said it how it was - now will it be rectified !!

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
over a year ago

Hull


"Cuz you can't meet without a veri, can't get veri without a meet and don't suggest social i tried that literally nobody wants a meet without veri round my end super frustrating and for the dipshits that can't read i been here 6 MONTHS not 6 weeks lmao "

Just a thought but maybe it's the dick attitude stopping you from getting meets. I was on here a week and I got veri'd, same with previous profiles, I've no idea why guys find it so hard on here - but something is amiss.

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire


"Drives me nuts the profiles that have that, they want a meet verified profile but you can't get a meet and about 90% of the people will only meet verified by a meet.

I've had it where they've said yeah I'd love to meet you but message me back once I know your real. ??

Would you meet a 90 year old gay guy for sex?

No no no haha"

It must drive that 90 year old gay guy nuts when no straight young man wants to meet him.

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Not sure about the vicious cycle bit but must admit a persons verifications or if they have any verifications means nothing to me. I never read them or look to see if they have any. Apart from being verified by the site, I’m more inclined to feel that someone is genuine to me by their profile and if they’ve provided some content. Even if it’s just a profile picture as it shows they are at least, even if just a small way. Invested in meeting someone else

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By *ot_so_newbiesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Maybe make an effort in your profile or have better public pics. Yes it’s a site for sex but as a verified couple we get hundreds of messages a day so can afford to be picky. Not only that the reason we want meet verified males is because we accom at our home so it’s a safety thing for us as well.

We tried the no verification meet and the guy was nothing like his pics and the whole experience nearly put us off swinging completely.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

The funny thing is, arranging to meet a verified person is no guarantee they won't stand you up or go quiet on the day of the meet. Happened to me recently with a profile that has 5 veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even with people being verified doesn’t stop the time wasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cam veris can be faked, seen it mentioned in forums I won't go into how but they can be same with photo veris they can also be faked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cam veris can be faked, seen it mentioned in forums I won't go into how but they can be same with photo veris they can also be faked"

Meaningful verifications from several couples attesting that the guy turned up, was able to get it up and was “real” is better than a guy that promises the earth with no qualification whatsoever.

You will disagree of course but we have found this to be true by sad experience.

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By *ove2PlayLincsCouple
over a year ago

Gainsborough

It's sex, people can be as selective as they like, simple as.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"Even folk who are verified stand folk up and send nasty text with it but it’s easy to get verified go to a social or club "

We had more crap off verified people on here than unverified to be honest. And also let down last minute by verified to.

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

There are too many fake profiles which are verified!

Something needs to be done about it....

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

these fake profiles are run by men ruining it for men ,,

take a old couples account that started as a real couple got loads of veri's and for some reason the female half has stopped swinging or broke up and the guy carries it on thats the ones letting people down and there are 10000s of those accounts on here

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By *inks_n_GigglesMan
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"these fake profiles are run by men ruining it for men ,,

take a old couples account that started as a real couple got loads of veri's and for some reason the female half has stopped swinging or broke up and the guy carries it on thats the ones letting people down and there are 10000s of those accounts on here"

Yes! I've come across this too! that's why I always ask for the personalised photo verification up front.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

If you can’t get replies or meets then have you considered it may not be the other people who are the issue?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely just putting a pic up to prove your being honest is OK? We have relied on it up to now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"these fake profiles are run by men ruining it for men ,,

take a old couples account that started as a real couple got loads of veri's and for some reason the female half has stopped swinging or broke up and the guy carries it on thats the ones letting people down and there are 10000s of those accounts on here"

+1 for this. Anyone without the verification summary showing or without a veri in the last 12 months automatically goes in the 'sceptical' pile.

In these instances, or non-verified profiles, we normally ask for a live kik photo, nothing naughty, just faces. And 90% of people can't do that, so it shows our scepticism is valid.

Alternatively, meet at a club, then if they turn out to be fake/an arsehole/a catfish/ Barry whacking off in his mums basement, then nothing is lost as we just spend the night as we normally would!

Its easy to keep yourself safe and sane, and the verification system is the first 75% of that.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Just to throw a bit of balance into the debate or as some like to call it, whataboutery...

I know of numerous women who have multiple verified accounts including male profiles with a list of excuses as to why they think it's acceptable.

I also know of one couple who had a public falling out and she advertised for a replacement and found one within a couple of weeks.

The couples profile was then ammended ever so slightly with the new man's details and they carried on as if nothing had changed.

Anyone unaware of this would have looked at the 50+ verifications and made the obvious assumption that they applied to the couple as it currently is rather than as it had been.

It's not just men who manipulate verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so much of a problem for women to get meet verified verifications, but for men it's not easy.

I know I can't speak for all men, but I've been here awhile now and I've only recieved messages from two women and that was about something forum related.

On the other hand a woman could have a blank profile like me and get a million messages and offers.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Most of the time it just polite excuse to say you look like a bulldog chewing a bee...

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Then don't go buy into it.

You do you.

Others will continue to do what they want though, you know you have no control over others' choices, right?

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Is it just me that thinks this is stupid? The old vicious circle argument "

Why is it stupid? As a single female it helps me to gauge the type of person they are and get an idea of compatibility.

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By *nforagoodtimeCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"
I would make a bit more of a effort of your profile and pics

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By *nforagoodtimeCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all I would make a bit more of a effort of your profile and pics . "
Your one pic is not even worth putting on to be fair

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Surely just putting a pic up to prove your being honest is OK? We have relied on it up to now x"

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Odd thing to say since some of your images have been clipped from the Internet (reverse image search) and other members profiles!

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Surely just putting a pic up to prove your being honest is OK? We have relied on it up to now x

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Odd thing to say since some of your images have been clipped from the Internet (reverse image search) and other members profiles!"

Don't you just love Fab?

(Bry)

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Is this still going.... Wow! Popcorn please

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Surely just putting a pic up to prove your being honest is OK? We have relied on it up to now x

..........................

Odd thing to say since some of your images have been clipped from the Internet (reverse image search) and other members profiles!

Don't you just love Fab?

(Bry)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, nobody is judging you. Nobody cares enough to judge. You are talking like an asshole when people are here to talk and help.

No wonder why you aren't getting any meets. Look at the way you come across.

Go to clubs and have a chat with people. Ask them if they can verify you. If not, then keep sulking like an asshat and blame everyone but yourself. "

But he doesn’t want to go to clubs. Easier solution please lol

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Best way to be verified is to go to a swingers club. Many people in the clubs are on fab and will gladly give you a veri even if you have not played with them

Didn't happen for me"

Did you ask for one? People aren't mind readers and may not realise you were on fab and needed one. Most club owners will verify you if you ask if no one else will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, nobody is judging you. Nobody cares enough to judge. You are talking like an asshole when people are here to talk and help.

No wonder why you aren't getting any meets. Look at the way you come across.

Go to clubs and have a chat with people. Ask them if they can verify you. If not, then keep sulking like an asshat and blame everyone but yourself.

But he doesn’t want to go to clubs. Easier solution please lol "

Pussy should just be offered. This is all too difficult!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok can i just clarify something, I'm not looking for a verification, i am not complaining i can't get a meet. I am just pointing out that i think verifications are pointless, they are easily faked and the only way to get one (without going to a club obviously) is to meet someone else that is verified. So i. My opinion i think it is a broken system.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Ok can i just clarify something, I'm not looking for a verification, i am not complaining i can't get a meet. I am just pointing out that i think verifications are pointless, they are easily faked and the only way to get one (without going to a club obviously) is to meet someone else that is verified. So i. My opinion i think it is a broken system."

Sorry don’t agree with you and it’s quite easy to decide if veris are faked most arnt

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"Ok can i just clarify something, I'm not looking for a verification, i am not complaining i can't get a meet. I am just pointing out that i think verifications are pointless, they are easily faked and the only way to get one (without going to a club obviously) is to meet someone else that is verified. So i. My opinion i think it is a broken system."

Well you got the attention sought..

Unsure it's good attention mind. All the best x

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"OP, nobody is judging you. Nobody cares enough to judge. You are talking like an asshole when people are here to talk and help.

No wonder why you aren't getting any meets. Look at the way you come across.

Go to clubs and have a chat with people. Ask them if they can verify you. If not, then keep sulking like an asshat and blame everyone but yourself.

But he doesn’t want to go to clubs. Easier solution please lol "

We've all got a fair idea, a flouncing "I'm out of here" post followed by a new unambiguous profile set up with 12 to 72 hour's

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Its not easy to get verified, thats my point 90% of messages just don't get read and the ones that do say verified only i can't even get a social meet its so frustrating this site and I don't really want to go to a club at all tbh it just doesn't appeal to me at all"

Those are your preferences, just aa others prefer the likely greater reliability of meeting verified people.

Focus on what you can influence about your results - your approach. Including setting realistic expectations

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By *isfun2023Couple
over a year ago

wakefield


"It’s clearly frustrating to you but once you’ve been stood up a couple of times you’ll come to understand the logic of it. "

Ladies don't want to chat unless verified ... understandably but frustrating for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s clearly frustrating to you but once you’ve been stood up a couple of times you’ll come to understand the logic of it.

Ladies don't want to chat unless verified ... understandably but frustrating for us "

Many women read profiles and look at pics too. It's not just about verifications.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Ok can i just clarify something, I'm not looking for a verification, i am not complaining i can't get a meet. I am just pointing out that i think verifications are pointless, they are easily faked and the only way to get one (without going to a club obviously) is to meet someone else that is verified. So i. My opinion i think it is a broken system."

You can get a verification tick by being verified through the chatrooms through camming, so meeting up Is not the only way, just takes an amount of effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just seen a profile that said verified profiles only best bit is SHE WASN'T VERIFIED HERSELF! The hypocrisy hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll meet unverifiable ppl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just seen a profile that said verified profiles only best bit is SHE WASN'T VERIFIED HERSELF! The hypocrisy hahaha"

Perhaps she wants to get verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll meet unverifiable ppl "

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

They would meet you if they really wanted to.

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