FabSwingers.com: John Kanaka (52) , Man in Not all that North of North London, South East, UK

Bonus points to anyone that recognises where my name comes from.

I've been around the swinging and kink scenes for longer than I care to admit, I've been to clubs and events all over the country, even organised the occassional social, I'm far from an inexperienced newbie.

The about me bit - marathon runner, cyclist, tea drinker, tattooed, opinionated, left winger with a massive social conscience, ofen described as odd, punk fan, gig goer, a big fan of kindness empathy and humility, and my heros tend to be flawed (that last one is quite significant as it probably reflects my choice of friends too). There's probably a lot more I could mention but that should give you a fair idea. On the flipside if you read the Sun, like Nigel Farage or Piers Morgan, use snowflake or WOKE as an insult, vote Tory or listen to Razorlight I'm fairly confident we won't get along. There is some negotiation in that, except Razorlight, that's a hard limit!

I play primarily as a Dom, I have a specific kink for floggers and impact play with a sadistic streak but (and this bit is important) am more than comfortable enough in my own skin being one of the least alpha males you could imagine meeting, I do not meet the Domly Dom stereotype and realy don't aspire too. On Fab I am only interested in meeting submissive women for kink focussed meets (and all the better if you come with a willingness and ability to discuss topics such as consent, hard limits, the difference between SSC and RACK, subdrop and aftercare)

I am half of a couple. We both have solo profiles and there is also a rarely used couple's profile. They are 3 separate entities as are the people we meet. I am here with her consent and knowledge, I fully appreciate how incredibly fortunate I am to be in this position and have zero interest in anyone not respecting my partner and my relationship. To be clear, she is my number one priority.

I live north of London and south of Cambridge, my preference is to travel to one of these places to meet and although I wouldn't totally rule out local meets being realistic they aren't all that likely. This is just a small part of my busy life, anyone seeking instant or frequent meets probably are best looking elsewhere. I'm not a fan of drama amd have very limited tolerance of those who may bring it in to my life

What I am looking for is something specific while completely unspecific, something different or unusual or someone that piques my interest but after so long on the scene it's very much about connections and new experiences and definitely not about more notches. I'm not a fan of uninvited vulgarity in any context. And I massively value intelligence, humour, humility and the ability to hold a good conversation in those I connect with. I'm not overly keen on one-offs but clearly am not looking for anything more than a regular play partner or partners, that said there definitely needs to be a connection and a level of friendship that supercedes the sexual element.

I firmly believe in writing too much rather than too little, well done of you made it this far

Looking For

Meeting

Interests