FabSwingers.com forum: Am i doing something wrong on here?

By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

As the title says, am i doing something wrong? Been on here for a good while and nobody seems interested or wants to meet.

Looking for help and advice.

Thanks in advance.

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By *ineteen89Man
13 weeks ago

Swindon

Attending socials is your friend - sometimes you just have to pluck up the courage to do so. It’s a good way to meet people and you can get yourself out there better than any typed up bio and photographs can ever do

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By *cottish guy 555Man
13 weeks ago

London

Don't only rely on solely fab to meet people

Get out to clubs or organised group socials.

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By *ineteen89Man
13 weeks ago

Swindon

I might add, socials still won’t guarantee a meet or anything, but it’s still a great way to get yourself known

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Thanks a bunch. I will look into attending socials. Bit nerve racking going on my own to clubs. Not a problem one to one though.

Any suggestions on my profile?

Just been told that i come across as unfriendly.

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By *tsAmiiWoman
13 weeks ago

Mevagissey

Sometimes less is more.

I'd like to be honest and just say what i think .. that messy beard is probably putting a good few off..

And not even half a smile on either of your photos is also to me a little unfriendly.

Less is more .. ( says the one with an empty profile..

Mines empty because I got disappointed and moody, so I'm definitely not saying follow that pattern haha.

Clubs and socials are the way to go.

It really is hit and miss to find company.

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By *ermithimCouple
13 weeks ago

christchurch

I would also say the lack of a smile in your profile pic is off-putting. Additionally, if you can't accommodate some women will assume you're married and playing away, so won't be interested. If that's not the case, worth clarifying in your profile.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

i have loads of interest from guys and tv/ts. I shall try to take some better photos with me smiling. I will admist i am not a natural smiler though.. lol

as for the beard. that stays for the time being. lol

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Does your profile represent you well OP?

Are you happy with it?

There's lots of people's profiles to read here, have a look and see what others do with theirs.

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By *CExeCouple
13 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

Definitely needing some smiles on your profile. Sometimes less is more; you only really need one or two face pics otherwise it's a bit samey.

Chat on the forums and cams, get to some socials or a club and build your confidence and get to know folks. Bear in mind Fab has a very high abundance of single guys and it takes a while for anyone to get a meet when they start out.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Thanks everyone. I will take on board what you've said.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
13 weeks ago

London

I'm never sold on the wisdom of cock pics. But that's just me.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

"I'm never sold on the wisdom of cock pics. But that's just me.

It's not just you.

👍

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By *andystick72Man
13 weeks ago

kinky Street

Get to a club

Chat to people ,man and women

Have a laugh with great banter

Most important don't be pushy or needy

Just enjoy this crazy exciting lifestyle

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By *oy4women2Man
13 weeks ago

Biggleswade

"As the title says, am i doing something wrong? Been on here for a good while and nobody seems interested or wants to meet.

Looking for help and advice.

Thanks in advance. "

Doesn't matter what you write in your profile mate. Women get bombarded with messages every day and minute on here, so you can imagine how hard it is for them to read them all, but I can guarantee they don't read even half of them which can be understandable when they are only getting messages that are rude and abusive messages to them. Saying "fancy a fuck" or something along those lines. But also most are very fussy on who they will or want to reply back to. You could send out 200 messages to women and I can guarantee you might get 3 replies back from 200

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

Yes it matters what's on your profile, I can guarantee women read them. A bad profile gets you exactly nowhere.

Sending scattergun messages isn't the path to success either.

Good Luck OP.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Shaved off ma beard. Look weirder than before..

Atleast i am smiling. (Kind of)

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

"most are very fussy on who they will or won't reply back to".

How dare people be selective.

🤦‍♀️

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

""most are very fussy on who they will or won't reply back to".

How dare people be selective.

🤦‍♀️ "

Dont blame them being selective to be fair..

Just disheartening that i have had no replies or interest from women or couples.

I understand people get bombarded with tonnes of messages. Im just eager to please lol

Going to hopefully edit my profile tomorrow.

Ty for the advice.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

""most are very fussy on who they will or won't reply back to".

How dare people be selective.

🤦‍♀️

Dont blame them being selective to be fair..

Just disheartening that i have had no replies or interest from women or couples.

I understand people get bombarded with tonnes of messages. Im just eager to please lol

Going to hopefully edit my profile tomorrow.

Ty for the advice."

Good luck OP.

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By *ineteen89Man
13 weeks ago

Swindon

Wait, hang on - did you really just now shave your beard off?

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

"Wait, hang on - did you really just now shave your beard off?"

Haha yeah its just a beard.. can grow it back if theres still no interest after a month.

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By *um n raisinWoman
13 weeks ago

taunton

you have to be you its that simple ..advice will only get you what others have and the majority still wont get anywhere,,,

simple maths is your main problem followed closely by no one will ne interested until they are ..simply put there is NOT someone for everyone..

dont put all your eggs in one basket but also bear in mind going to a social or a club is not going to guarantee anything either there still has to be attraction of sorts..

i find it best to be blunt rather than feed false hope this scene for men is for most very hard to crack .. gook luck

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Thanks again for the help everyone

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By *addyjonMan
13 weeks ago

Thurrock

"As the title says, am i doing something wrong? Been on here for a good while and nobody seems interested or wants to meet.

Looking for help and advice.

Thanks in advance. "

Think the odds are worse that the lottery

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By *nsert user name hereMan
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Shaving your beard was your biggest mistake. Trying to be someone you're not will only leave you dissapointed.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

"Shaving your beard was your biggest mistake. Trying to be someone you're not will only leave you dissapointed. "

It is just a beard.. not hard to grow back to be honest.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

Central

Your profile is best when it's uniquely you, rather than what someone else would write, in my opinion. It's great to get advice but the best thing is to have realistic expectations, to support your wellbeing.

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people and so almost all messages will not be replied to.

Good luck!

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By *ockdownlickdownMan
13 weeks ago

paisley

"i have loads of interest from guys and tv/ts."

Of course you do. Most guys on here would fuck a muddy puddle

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Thanks again everyone. Gonna hide my profile whilst i retool it.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Retooled my profile slightly. Anymore suggestions would be great.

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By *sagent81Man
13 weeks ago

Leeds

Your first mistake was being a man on fab

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

"Retooled my profile slightly. Anymore suggestions would be great."

Good job OP.

Unlike many others seeking advice, you've tweaked your profile.

I'd still suggest finding a social group to hang out with.

Good luck.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
13 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Retooled my profile slightly. Anymore suggestions would be great."

Wow you look great! I’d take the original beard photo down, personally. Kudos for taking on suggestions and making changes. It is tough out there. You’re off to a great start though. Good luck with the socials and clubs they really are great and the best way of meeting IMO.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

"Retooled my profile slightly. Anymore suggestions would be great.

Thanks!

Still going to update my profile abit more. Looking at getting out there for clubs and socials.

All the advice has been taken onboard

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By *rightonsteveMan
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By *rightonsteveMan
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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Oh well. I don’t need profile advice but was willing to offer.

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By *ull of PuddinWoman
13 weeks ago

isle of munters

Everyone's gonna say the same thing, lots of threads already on profile advice so use the search function to read them, and at the same time just be yourself.

I personally and probably strangely don't like profiles that talk about sex and the size of their wanger.

It shows no personality or possible shared interests and hobbies

And just to add, the 100s of advice threads 80% of them say use the timer on your phone so you can be more creative with pics

Good luck op

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By *eeds Horny BuggerMan
13 weeks ago

Leeds

100% recommend getting yourself to a club, have a search on Fab Club reviews and see what one you fancy. Will say don’t be nervous about going alone, treat it like going to a pub just get chatting to people in there. Don’t come across to forward tho just general chat and if things go well you might get to play. Swinging has always been a great social experience and you definitely meets loads of great people in clubs. Another option have a look at the meet section on here see if anyone has put meet requests up near you, always worth a friendly message if any take your fancy. Good luck and sure will all come good for you

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By *a-deepMan
13 weeks ago

Thailand

Go to a club walk around and talk to people you don’t need to be pushy Just chill and chat and dress smart.

Don’t be a street yob.

Get out and see like minded people instead of sitting at home wasting your life and energy away on this website.

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Thank you everyone. Updated my profile, seems everyone is being more positive about that and my updated pictures.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

Your profile looks good. Try experimenting with your photos. Maybe a torso one or a smart dressed one. It's good your showing your face but they are all the same

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
13 weeks ago

Wirral

"Your profile looks good. Try experimenting with your photos. Maybe a torso one or a smart dressed one. It's good your showing your face but they are all the same"

Thank you. I shall work on that in the coming days

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By *andystick72Man
13 weeks ago

kinky Street

I need help on mine

I'm struggling

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
13 weeks ago

SW1A1AA

"I need help on mine

I'm struggling "
why are you trying to hijack his thread when its obvious you dont need help

Start your own thread

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
13 weeks ago

South East

Must say, it was a good idea to shave the beard

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By *andystick72Man
13 weeks ago

kinky Street

"I need help on mine

I'm struggling why are you trying to hijack his thread when its obvious you dont need help

Start your own thread"

Ooooppps sorry

Just light hearted fun

I have helped on this thread with the op

He's doing OK

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By *dam and slutCouple
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Just being objective, people suggesting clubs as a way of meeting people.

I'd suggest attending munches..what are munches, they are non play events where people can meet, chat drink etc in plain sight but discreet venues

As for clubs, there are clubs that provide crossover events, swinging and bdsm. Swinging is more socially driven, whereas bdsm is more protocol driven. For instance If bdsm people are scening , do not approach, interrupt, but wait until the scene has finished before asking questions, engaging conversation. Sorry, I'm old school, spectators are welcome but you don't interrupt when a sub is being flogged asking the sub if they are alright

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By *oiluvfunMan
13 weeks ago

Birmingham

I’ve been to several clubs OP, and while they offer an alternative night out to a Friday night down the pub, don’t go getting all excited about the potential for meeting lots of women. You are statistically more likely to meet more ladies in your local Wetherspoons, which doesn’t have a waiting list for single guys membership, and doesn’t charge have a gender-biased charging system designed to put off single guys as much as possible…..

You’ve listed yourself as bi-curious, so I would respectfully recommend you try FabGuys, where I am sure you will experience the little-known phenomenon of a busy inbox. Good luck! 😎👍

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By *ralPleasureForYou OP Man
9 weeks ago

Wirral

Been awhile since i posted on here. Had some interest off of people, but alot of them say i need to be verified before meeting.

So i was wondering if someone would be willing to verify me via cam on the chat rooms?

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By *harAndBryCouple
9 weeks ago

Downham Market

"Been awhile since i posted on here. Had some interest off of people, but alot of them say i need to be verified before meeting.

So i was wondering if someone would be willing to verify me via cam on the chat rooms?"

Most (including us) who ask for verifications before a meet, will only consider meet verifications.

A cam verification might prove you look like your pics, but our issue is being stood up over half the time. A meet verification shows that you leave the house and go places - that you're not just in it for the keyboard jollies and that you're maybe a little less likely to be tied down to a partner.

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By *issP69Woman
9 weeks ago

Neath

"Been awhile since i posted on here. Had some interest off of people, but alot of them say i need to be verified before meeting.

So i was wondering if someone would be willing to verify me via cam on the chat rooms?"

You need to think about what it is you offer compared to other men i.e why would a woman or couple choose you out of the 10s of 1000s of men on here. That approach may help your perspective

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By *axine82TV/TS
9 weeks ago

Bedford

Many ladies on here have 100s of messages a day. What are you doing to stand out? What can you offer that no one else can?

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By *cottish guy 555Man
9 weeks ago

London

Get down to the newbies and notsos event at Townhouse. Bound to get a verification from someone there.

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By *aughty But nice..Man
9 weeks ago

Staffs

Get your self I to a club .... daunting I know but once inside you'll find folks of all shapes and sizes who just want to socialise chat ...have fun

My first time in a club I was petrified but now it's no different than going down my local

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By *ulsaKinggMan
9 weeks ago

stafford

"i have loads of interest from guys and tv/ts. I shall try to take some better photos with me smiling. I will admist i am not a natural smiler though.. lol

as for the beard. that stays for the time being. lol"

Good on ya for the beard!

Its just luck of the draw my friend, u can spruce up ur profile, attend socials, have veris, its all just part of the bigger picture that its actually quite tough out there on this site! Do what u can of course to improve ur chances, we all do. But if ur not a natural smiler so be it, dont drastically change urself for anyone!

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