FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked for being bi!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've just been blocked because I'm not straight. I get it that everyone is entitled to their own preferences but seems strange that someone is into swinging but put off but by someone who isn't straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you’re interpretation of swinging might differ then. If someone isn’t into bi guys they aren’t into bi guys. That’s nothing to do with swinging.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Think you’re interpretation of swinging might differ then. If someone isn’t into bi guys they aren’t into bi guys. That’s nothing to do with swinging. "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about it this way, they've saved you some time.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"I've just been blocked because I'm not straight. I get it that everyone is entitled to their own preferences but seems strange that someone is into swinging but put off but by someone who isn't straight. "

We block people because their cock is too bent or funny looking. That's the beauty of this place you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Or at least you shouldn't have to.

Blocking is a very useful tool to avoid wasting time in the future, if doesn't necessarily mean they are offended or anything negative.

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By *callycatMan
over a year ago

Mid Wales

Works both ways...I often block profiles of women who say no bi guys

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We tend to block bi guys. We’re not looking to play with them so we respond to any message, to be polite, then block them so we don’t bother each other again.

Don’t see anything strange in that to be honest and nothing to do with swinging just preference as others have said.

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

"Think you’re interpretation of swinging might differ then. If someone isn’t into bi guys they aren’t into bi guys. That’s nothing to do with swinging.

Totally agree

Ditto

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"Works both ways...I often block profiles of women who say no bi guys "

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

Such is life OP…. onwards & upwards!

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Think you’re interpretation of swinging might differ then. If someone isn’t into bi guys they aren’t into bi guys. That’s nothing to do with swinging.

Totally agree

100%

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Anyone can block anyone else and nobody has to give a reason.

We proactively block when we're looking to meet as if we come across profiles we'll never be interested in then it stops them coming up in future searches. Saves us time and stops them ever potentially wasting theirs.

As for being blocked because you're bi? It amuses me that folks think that bi people can't play straight (generally men rather than women) but it's a common occurrence. Nothing you'll ever be able to do to change that mindset so don't let it bother you.

A block is just a permanent filter. Use it as you wish and if others use it on you...that's life!

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By *eekin NSAMan
over a year ago

Ireland /Kilkenny areas

Been blocked loads of times and Iam not bi or gay It’s just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone identifies as a swinger, doesn't mean they have to indulge everyone and everything.

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By *reedy JamesMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Being blocked is cool; if people don't want to meet me to that extent then I'm not missing out on anything at all.

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

We block people because their cock is too bent or funny looking. That's the beauty of this place you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Or at least you shouldn't have to.

Blocking is a very useful tool to avoid wasting time in the future, if doesn't necessarily mean they are offended or anything negative. "

Isn't every cock funny looking in fairness

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

As you say, they are entitled to their own preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This idea that some men have that just because people are on here that they should be into everyone who messages them, it's so strange

People are allowed their preferences, just because people are swingers doesn't mean that they should put their preferences to one side to accommodate you

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By *reedy JamesMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

For example, Tess has blocked me. I've no idea why, but *whatever* the reason she was right to do so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you are open and honest about being bi OP. So many guys on here are not.

As an example there is actually someone on this thread (who I won’t name of course) that has messaged my joint profile recently stating they are really bi but won’t admit to it as it puts people off.

Funny old world!

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By *achel SmythTV/TS
over a year ago

Farnborough

Get used to being blocked and just move on.

Politeness costs nothing, but as you can see from this thread, there are some incredibly rude people in here… it’s a fact of being here.

R xx

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Curious do women get blocked/refused meets for being bi, and if not, why?

I've never heard of it happening, unlike men getting blocked/rejected for being bi which seems to happen a lot.

Just curious.

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

I've been blocked many times, it's all down to other people's preferences, saves time and looking at people who are not interested in meeting, swinging is about freedom and choice no judgements on others just good fun with the right people

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

It's a swing site = we should be crawling over eachother like a box of hamsters?

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

I block anyone who says they'll only meet straight guys because I'm only interested in meeting open minded people. It saves us all time. ?????

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I block anyone who says they'll only meet straight guys because I'm only interested in meeting open minded people. It saves us all time. ?????"

So straight men aren't open minded?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I block anyone who says they'll only meet straight guys because I'm only interested in meeting open minded people. It saves us all time. ?????

So straight men aren't open minded?"

That's not what he said

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

"I block anyone who says they'll only meet straight guys because I'm only interested in meeting open minded people. It saves us all time. ?????

So straight men aren't open minded?

That's not what he said"

No you're right, I misread it.

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent

Everyone has their right to choose what sort of people they meet or indeed block.

We use the block button for lots of reasons…..

People we’ve chatted to and have no wish to meet.

Those that post crude and unnecessary status’

People that evidently haven’t read our profile.

Those that pester with repeat messages and lots of other reasons.

It’s just another form of filter as far as we’re concerned that saves everyone’s time and effort. Nothing to be taken personally OP.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Don't take it personal OP, just move on and forget it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see an issue with it. I regularly block people that have profiles that indicate I'm obviously not what they're looking for, I'd rather all parties be enthusiastic to interact with each other than begrudgingly tolerating each other.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Curious do women get blocked/refused meets for being bi, and if not, why?

I've never heard of it happening, unlike men getting blocked/rejected for being bi which seems to happen a lot.

Just curious. "

Don't be daft.

Everyone knows bi women are perfectly capable of playing straight, unlike bi guys who'll be lunging for a guys cock the second it's out of his boxers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This idea that some men have that just because people are on here that they should be into everyone who messages them, it's so strange

People are allowed their preferences, just because people are swingers doesn't mean that they should put their preferences to one side to accommodate you "

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We use a second sight abroad there you can set the research as a filter from outset. Which stops any genders or other choices that do not meet your reseach from seeing your profile. Saves

any of these disappointments. Its also save you from that wasted time telling people what your preferred reseach is and what your not into only to have them constantly asking for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being into swinging doesn’t mean you have to be into everyone.

I personally only want to meet men who are straight, I have nothing against anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curious do women get blocked/refused meets for being bi, and if not, why?

I've never heard of it happening, unlike men getting blocked/rejected for being bi which seems to happen a lot.

Just curious. "

Probably because women are more picky than men?

Men are more likely to be into bi women more so than women are into bi men.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

We block people because their cock is too bent or funny looking. That's the beauty of this place you don't need to justify yourself to anyone. Or at least you shouldn't have to.

Blocking is a very useful tool to avoid wasting time in the future, if doesn't necessarily mean they are offended or anything negative. "

100% this blocking is not offensive its just a tool ... and nobody owes anybody anything this site is about matching people for fun n sex if you dont match then block is the easy no hassle option

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By *ootprints1629Couple
over a year ago

somewhere in moray

Oh dear...just because we swing doesn't mean we will have sex with anyone and that our sexuality is wide open..Jesus everyone has their preferences and I don't quite understand why this would bother you so much.

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By *lecom1Couple
over a year ago

Stornoway

Bi guys we would never block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I been blocked as some people don't like Tattoos and so on I don't worry as we all got a kind we like just think there are nice people on this site u find them I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though its 2022 sadly even on a swingers site where you would expect open mindedness been a bi lady is far more acceptable than been a bi male.

Often you get couples with a bi fem be via anti bi male which whilst it is there right it smacks of a little hypocrisy.

This in turn makes a lot of bi males hide thier bi sexuality especially on fab. I find it funny that often women and couples who say straight guys only when you check there verifications the "straight on fab" guys they have meet / slept with previously are incredible active having sex with other men on fabguys and yes there's some examples of this in this very thread.

At the end of the day though people are entitled to preferences so just consider thier block of you a favour because werent going to be right type of match for you anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block people all the time because they are not what I look for their sexual orientation is unrelvent

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Even though its 2022 sadly even on a swingers site where you would expect open mindedness been a bi lady is far more acceptable than been a bi male.

Often you get couples with a bi fem be via anti bi male which whilst it is there right it smacks of a little hypocrisy.

At the end of the day though people are entitled to preferences so just consider thier block of you a favour because werent going to be right type of match for you anyway.

I think people’s idea of open mindedness varies. I don’t agree that bi males are unacceptable just because some people don’t want to have sex with them. There are lots of people I don’t want to have sex with and I hammer the block button daily to limit the contact I get from people who I’m not interested in, that doesn’t mean I see them as lesser people, or that I’m not open minded. I’m blocked by loads of profiles too, i assume because they don’t want to have sex with me. There’s nothing wrong with using the tools the site provides.

I think the idea that being attracted to a certain type of person and not being willing to entertain having sex with everyone who approaches you means that you’re narrow minded is silly. We all like what/who we like, there’s nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even though its 2022 sadly even on a swingers site where you would expect open mindedness been a bi lady is far more acceptable than been a bi male.

Often you get couples with a bi fem be via anti bi male which whilst it is there right it smacks of a little hypocrisy.

At the end of the day though people are entitled to preferences so just consider thier block of you a favour because werent going to be right type of match for you anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We tend to block bi guys. We’re not looking to play with them so we respond to any message, to be polite, then block them so we don’t bother each other again.

Don’t see anything strange in that to be honest and nothing to do with swinging just preference as others have said. "
please block me yu are way to old for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i block if bi its not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop playing the victim. All people have preferences and discrimination when it comes to dating. This is not new and not just unique to you because you are bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stop playing the victim. All people have preferences and discrimination when it comes to dating. This is not new and not just unique to you because you are bi. "

Bit harsh. How is the OP “playing the victim “? He’s sharing an experience on the forums.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

It just makes it easier to filter out for what they are looking for

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By *redandwilmaCouple
over a year ago

blackburn

I'm sure we've been blocked in the past because we are both bi. So be it,we have had people not play with us in clubs because we are both bi(the guys think I'm going to jump on them at every opportunity).

We don't know these people and it's their choice we just politely move away and get on with life.

We've also had couples only want to play because we are bi,but we haven't felt the chemistry so we politely decline, its all a personal choice but there is no way we ever take it personally.

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By *ekked JackMan
over a year ago

South Lanarkshire

"I block anyone who says they'll only meet straight guys because I'm only interested in meeting open minded people. It saves us all time. ?????"

So because someone doesn't want to meet/have sex with men who have set with men they are close minded. That's a bit of a closed minded statement. I have no issues chatting to bi or gay men if we are in a group social setting or interacting on the forums . But I am not here looking for them. So why waste anyone's time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block bi men who message, they aren't for me. If that offends then hard luck. I don't have anything against bi men but I have no wish to meet them myself.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish

Just move on......

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By *oltruckMan
over a year ago

Buxton

"Curious do women get blocked/refused meets for being bi, and if not, why?

I've never heard of it happening, unlike men getting blocked/rejected for being bi which seems to happen a lot.

Just curious. "
When women are listed bi it seams ok its sexy a turn on and seams its in thing in couples eyes but when it's a guy the said couples find it off putting disgusting etc, not sure why that is made there slightly scared of something different who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded. "

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because someone identifies as a swinger, doesn't mean they have to indulge everyone and everything."

Too true

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Curious do women get blocked/refused meets for being bi, and if not, why?

I've never heard of it happening, unlike men getting blocked/rejected for being bi which seems to happen a lot.

Just curious. When women are listed bi it seams ok its sexy a turn on and seams its in thing in couples eyes but when it's a guy the said couples find it off putting disgusting etc, not sure why that is made there slightly scared of something different who knows."

How do you know they find it disgusting or scary? Maybe they’re just not looking for someone who’s Bi

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Think you’re interpretation of swinging might differ then. If someone isn’t into bi guys they aren’t into bi guys. That’s nothing to do with swinging. "

Hear here

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded. "

That’s a very broad generalization of pansexual as yeah I’m pansexual but can’t set that on here haha

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded. "

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know you were blocked for being bi as the only reason, they may of just said that but there were other things too.

I've blocked loads of people and lots have blocked me. It saves on wasted messages or being ignored.

Look at the positive messages and people and enjoy

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?"

I’d go for the straight one. I don’t go for bi guys. As a large women I worry that bi guys like me because they think I’m masculine and I don’t like that.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

That’s a very broad generalization of pansexual as yeah I’m pansexual but can’t set that on here haha"

It’s a generalisation of course. But there’s lots of comments here that suggest that it’s narrow minded if you’re not attracted to a bisexual person. I don’t agree it is. I think it’s fine to be attracted to whoever happens to be the person you’re attracted to.

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

"Think you’re interpretation of swinging might differ then. If someone isn’t into bi guys they aren’t into bi guys. That’s nothing to do with swinging. "
well said we are not into bi sexual couple's really

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By *avrick180Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

Iv been blocked by people for just looking at there profiles so don't worry about it

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

We have been blocked for being straight but it's fine by me mrs m

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By *avrick180Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

I don't blame you just carry on and enjoy the ones that will talk to you and be happy

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?

I’d go for the straight one. I don’t go for bi guys. As a large women I worry that bi guys like me because they think I’m masculine and I don’t like that. "

Interesting. That's not one I've heard before. I'm a bi (well queer but that's not an option on this site) guy and I don't go for masculine in any way. I go for pretty, regardless of gender.

For what it's worth, I don't think anyone would ever consider you anything but feminine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?

I’d go for the straight one. I don’t go for bi guys. As a large women I worry that bi guys like me because they think I’m masculine and I don’t like that. "

You maybe tall but you are all female and gorgeous too

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?

I’d go for the straight one. I don’t go for bi guys. As a large women I worry that bi guys like me because they think I’m masculine and I don’t like that.

Interesting. That's not one I've heard before. I'm a bi (well queer but that's not an option on this site) guy and I don't go for masculine in any way. I go for pretty, regardless of gender.

For what it's worth, I don't think anyone would ever consider you anything but feminine."

Thank you. My stature is a huge hang up for me.

I’ve been called a bigot before because I don’t play with bi guys, which I’m not. My issues are entirely my own.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?

I’d go for the straight one. I don’t go for bi guys. As a large women I worry that bi guys like me because they think I’m masculine and I don’t like that.

You maybe tall but you are all female and gorgeous too "

Thank you

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Possibly other issues as well as the bisexuality, they could’ve just used that as an excuse. Couples or singles will block for a variety of reasons and make exceptions to their preferences as well.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

People do and don't like different things and that's about it. If nothing else, at least you know to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think people are confusing being open minded with being pansexual.

We don’t all fancy everybody. But that doesn’t make us close minded.

So, a hypothetical situation for you:

You're talking to two identical twin brothers and you fancy both. One is bi, one is straight. Which one do you go for and why?

I’d go for the straight one. I don’t go for bi guys. As a large women I worry that bi guys like me because they think I’m masculine and I don’t like that. "

Interesting! I’d never even considered this and I’m 5ft11.

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall

I agree with blocking whoever you choose to. I may block someone if they've become too pushy or aggressive in chats, or because sexually I'm not into BBC or A. It's my profile, and I don't want to waste mine, or THEIR time.

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