FabSwingers.com forum: How to politely say no

By *annessa OP TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Denham

I met a 24yr old lady a few times last week, we had a great time, chatted for hours and ended up in bed together most nights for sex. BUT since then she has been on the phone almost every hour pleading to meet again, ringing me nearly 24/7 and when Im at work etc etc.

I want to see her again, but what is the polite way to say slow down please……….she is not from this list BTW

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By *oeBeansMan
2 weeks ago

Derby

Dying of thirst watching other people drown smh

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By *hickthighs26Woman
2 weeks ago

funky town

Stop being so good at the sex OP.

Maybe just say its moving a bit fast for me

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By *wcoMan
2 weeks ago

West Midlands

"I met a 24yr old lady a few times last week, we had a great time, chatted for hours and ended up in bed together most nights for sex. BUT since then she has been on the phone almost every hour pleading to meet again, ringing me nearly 24/7 and when Im at work etc etc.

I want to see her again, but what is the polite way to say slow down please……….she is not from this list BTW"

When I get a cold call; I just say in a very hushed tone "I can't talk now, I'm at a funeral". Gets rid of them straight away. They just apologise and then can't get off the phone quick enough. You could try that, it might work.

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
2 weeks ago

London

You said it yourself OP. Slow down. Then you can talk about it in depth over the phone or face to face. Whichever you prefer. Well done though 👍🏾☺️

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

Sounds intense. The best way is to be gentle but direct with no room for misreading. Explain you'd like to see her again but the communication style needs to change as it's overwhelming. Something along those lines.

I hope it goes well for you.

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By *Effy-Woman
2 weeks ago

Scotland

No is a complete sentence.

She sounds a bit full on are you not worried that meeting her again will only make that worse?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Herts/Leeds

Best advice I can give you, is advice once given to me by someone very very dear to me. Me.

Ask yourself ‘what would Glowupdoll do?’

Then do that.

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By *ampireWolvesMan
2 weeks ago

Essex

"Best advice I can give you, is advice once given to me by someone very very dear to me. Me.

Ask yourself ‘what would Glowupdoll do?’

Then do that. "

I find this one to be very wise. I would listen to her!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I want to see her again, but what is the polite way to say slow down please……….she is not from this list BTW"

She seems clingy , needy and quick to attach to me.

I find honesty to be the best way forward,

So you say , I'll call YOU when I have time for a meet. I'm not ready for all this contact we are having.

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By *ysteriousGirlOGWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

People invest time and energy into others and wonder why they get attached. It is a bit full on and im guessing they can't separate fun and feelings. For this reason, I wouldnt see them again, it will only get worse the more times you meet.

Just be honest, I think most people would rather have that even if they don't want to hear it.

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By *a LunaWoman
2 weeks ago

Wales

“Look babes, the sex was off the charts, but enough with the neediness now ok? Ok.”

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By *hinstrapMan
2 weeks ago

sheffield

...like chill yasen. Defo needy ain't a good vibe.

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By *actile TensionMan
2 weeks ago

Sussex

I love you to bits, but you're gonna have to chill out or fuck off

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By *nmyknees69Man
2 weeks ago

Rushden

Just fuck her again.

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By *rHotNottsMan
2 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I want to see her again, but what is the polite way to say slow down please……….she is not from this list BTW"

You might have left it a little bit too late to do it nicely. Just be honest as soon as possible, set some boundaries and expectations , then be prepared for her sulking or maybe even getting angry and feeling like you're losing interest

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

This has red flags all over it. I wouldn't be that polite but I would completely cut it off.

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By *ino200Man
2 weeks ago

Bournemouth,london and Sienna

Put a ring on it its the only way 📯

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By *ornyguy666Man
2 weeks ago

Nottingham

Just say sorry need to slow down

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By *BW_Hotwife_And_HimCouple
2 weeks ago

South Shields

She is 31 years younger than you.

There might be a difference in what she expects from this?

She sounds like a passionate, "all in" type of girl.

Can you sustain her energy levels going forward?

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By *irthandgirthMan
2 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Get into her language.

Tell her you are on a digital detox as its bad for your mental health and you will have specified communication windows.

Or set clear boundaries. Then mute her conversation. You control when you pick up your phone. You are not welded to it nor compelled to answer every beep or ping. Reply when you are giving a considered answer. You are adapting to her communication style. She needs to learn any relationship has compromises.

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By *angled up in twoCouple
2 weeks ago

West Mids

Ohh, I'm sure you can make something up. Something tells me you've got it in you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

I feel sorry for her .

Just be honest and then cut contact. She deserves better

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By *ussexcouple40Couple
2 weeks ago

Sussex

I wouldn't worry to much. Made up people don't normally get upset either way

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By *ellinever70Woman
2 weeks ago

Ayrshire

And I thought them 20 somethings these days didn't like actually talking on the phone

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
2 weeks ago

Crumpet Castle

"I wouldn't worry to much. Made up people don't normally get upset either way"

I'm going to ask my psychiatrist why I laughed at that

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By *hunderaceMan
2 weeks ago

Dudley

I used to get dramas like this when I was young, thing is I'm so old now I forgot what I did about it and even who I am... can someone tell me is it my medication time yet..? 💊

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By *atinaChica54Woman
2 weeks ago

Marlborough

"I wouldn't worry to much. Made up people don't normally get upset either way"

🤣🤣🤣

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Central

I would stop the engagement and say not for you

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By *rasshopper201Man
2 weeks ago

kendal

Is she just coming out of a long term relationship with a former boyfriend or husband but nice to get attention though !!

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By *annessa OP TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Denham

Thanks for all the comments, Ive thought long and hard, not come up with a definitive answer yet.

Its only 10AM and she has rung 4 times already, were going to meet tonight and I think I’m going to suggest a holiday, we both wanted to go to Martinique on a water skiing holiday, maybe such an intense few weeks will open the picture a bit wider

For those that think I’m to old, let me say no one thinks I look my age and, as a pilot instructor I have regular medical and all is good.

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By *wcoMan
2 weeks ago

West Midlands

"Thanks for all the comments, Ive thought long and hard, not come up with a definitive answer yet.

For those that think I’m to old, let me say no one thinks I look my age and, as a pilot instructor I have regular medical and all is good."

Good stuff, I've got a mate who's got a place on Pluto if you'd like to take her somewhere out of the ordinary. It's very quiet but the views are out of this world.

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By *kphooey43Man
2 weeks ago

Barnet

"Thanks for all the comments, Ive thought long and hard, not come up with a definitive answer yet.

For those that think I’m to old, let me say no one thinks I look my age and, as a pilot instructor I have regular medical and all is good."

Donald Trump also has regular medical...

(just saying)

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Ohh, I'm sure you can make something up. Something tells me you've got it in you."

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By *haft10Man
2 weeks ago

Wandsworth

One of those either a blessing or a curse situation

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
2 weeks ago

North Welsh Borders

"Thanks for all the comments, Ive thought long and hard, not come up with a definitive answer yet.

For those that think I’m to old, let me say no one thinks I look my age and, as a pilot instructor I have regular medical and all is good."

As long as she doesn't go all Kathy Bates on you I guess it's all good

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By *ermite12ukMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull and Romford

"Thanks for all the comments, Ive thought long and hard, not come up with a definitive answer yet.

For those that think I’m to old, let me say no one thinks I look my age and, as a pilot instructor I have regular medical and all is good."

You know when you book a table at a restaraunt for you both, while on Martinique. Should the maitre d' make the reservation in your partners name, or yours? What is it again: Walter Mitty? Askin obvs. for a fweind.

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By *uliette500Woman
2 weeks ago

Hull

You really want to make this worse by going on holiday?

This type of behaviour would be a massive red flag for me and I would have run miles in the other direction and you want to keep seeing her?

If she is like this now things will only get worse.

She see this as acceptable and I doubt you will change her at all.

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