FabSwingers.com forum: So how many of you........

By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response

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By *ositiveVibesWoman
10 weeks ago

here there and everywhere

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

Never.

Have had a plan to meet someone, that fell through for travel reasons so I met someone closer, but never have I been disrespectful enough to ditch someone for “better”

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
10 weeks ago

Norwich

I don't totally understand your question tbh...

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By *abs Big BangersWoman
10 weeks ago

Cotswolds

Nope, never done this.

I book them in for the following day instead

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By *IXEN200Woman
10 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I won't cancel a planned meet if I was asked by someone better, I'd arrange another time with them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Travel arrangements is a fair enough reason I'd say 👍

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
10 weeks ago

Brum

We have.

We were all set to meet Raven and then Bad nanna messaged to say she was in town and wet for us.

It happens.

We’re all adults, Raven understood.

She even asked for pictures.

Fruity little tart!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

"Nope, never done this.

I book them in for the following day instead

Good thinking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

"We have.

We were all set to meet Raven and then Bad nanna messaged to say she was in town and wet for us.

It happens.

We’re all adults, Raven understood.

She even asked for pictures.

Fruity little tart!

Fair enough at least your honest about it 👍

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By *orthern StarsCouple
10 weeks ago

Durham

Never. If we make plans with people then we would never let them down for to meet someone else. That's a low trick to pull.

We only let people down if there is a very genuine reason why (family, illness, work).

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

One time I hadn't seen someone who matters to me for months, but suddenly an opportunity came up at short notice. So I did ask the person I had plans with that evening (who I'd seen plenty for the previous weeks) if he'd mind postponing.

I don't think I've ever ghosted someone because something 'better' came along 💜

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By *immers123Woman
10 weeks ago

South Molton

No I wouldn't do that but imagine I've probably had it done to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Nice to see most people stick to there word. Do think this can be transcribed to society in general? Most people stick to there word?

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By *ollyPocket75Woman
10 weeks ago

Aberdeen

No, i wouldn't do that. If I've made plans to meet that person then I'll meet them. I'd arrange another time for the other one

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I reckon you've got to have integrity...of all the meets I've had (previous profiles too) I've always turned up when i said I would.

You say you are gonna do something, you do it.

It's simple in my world...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Nicely put

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

I have been genuine and gone to social meet in the past

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
10 weeks ago

North West

Unless an emergency happens if I have made plans with someone I stick to those plans.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

Never.

I've previously mentioned on here that I'm a slow burn. I meet people after weeks...months... I'm not going to undo all that effort, chemistry and due diligence to meet someone else on a whim.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
10 weeks ago

London

If I say I'm going to be somewhere then I will be.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

Report users who fail to meet when planned and agreed.

I don't do things quickly, so would plan and organise, with nothing else of interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Never.

But I think it's been done to me a few times...

The lame excuses I've had.

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By *uzzieboyMan
10 weeks ago

taunton

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

Well I’ve been let down but personally I’ve never let anyone down for meeting them

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By * aime la biteWoman
10 weeks ago

wonderland

Not my style.

I'm sure it happens and probably happened to me!! But I see it as a lucky escape.

I don't give second chances, ever!!

You should treat people as you wish to be treated in my world.

I rarely meet these days because of game playing, I'm not desperate so I give it a miss unless I'm 100% sure.

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

Her favourite game is Backgammon... ... ... ⬆️

⚫⚪🔴

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Oh no I wouldn't do that. I would lose a lot of respect for myself if I did that.

That's before I get into how disrespectful that is to the other person.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Lucky to get a meet let alone an emergency one too lol

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By *haron1701ETV/TS
10 weeks ago

Southport

Never, but pretty sure it's been done to me almost every time something was planned.

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By *oughmanMan
10 weeks ago

Sunderland

I personally would never do that. It's just a shitty thing to do. But even if people here did that good luck getting them to admit to it openly.

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By *orphia2003Woman
10 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I haven't. But I've certainly had it happen to me several times.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

Define “better”, in my eyes that means the person you had planned to meet was never good enough anyway so why even talk to them or set up a meeting

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By *oxychicWoman
10 weeks ago

Nottinghamshire

Ive never done it to anyone and never would do , but before covid I had a regular that did it to me , his reasoning was it's a once in a lifetime offer , and she was way out is league and he couldn't turn it down etc etc etc let's say we parted ways that day haha 😂😂😂😂

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
10 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

I have never done that, nor would I.. it's totally disrespectful to the person you'd arranged to meet first. I've had to cancel a couple of times due to ill health but never cancelled for " a better option"

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

No. It's seems quite an immature attitude to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

What about turning up to a meet to be completely cinrsdhised...

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By *eo PublicMan
10 weeks ago

Lincoln

Not done it and can't see that I would, although I have arranged a different meet when one has been cancelled for whatever reason.

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By *ildTimes.Man
10 weeks ago

Wherever I May Roam

Someone better?....😂😂😂😂 Please..,😂😂😂🥪

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
10 weeks ago

1313 Mockingbird Lane…

Pfft! 🙄 Never 😄

I’ve always wanted a Harem

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
10 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

I've had it done to me and it's a horrible feeling. I wouldn't do it to anyone

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By *aron Van WinkleMan
10 weeks ago

The Velvet Den of Desire

Oh no. Bad form.

If I plan to meet anyone that is the person I’m going to meet unless they cancel. I would’ve arranged to meet somebody because they excite me. The other person should’ve took a chance first😅

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
10 weeks ago

Gillingham

Absolutely not! Totally not cool.

If there is someone else we deem to be "better" then we'd schedule them in for another day.

Keeping a close eye on this thread though to make a note of those that do it haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

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By *ozzybear1981Man
10 weeks ago

preston

Nope, that’s disrespectful!

If you have an indication that you aren’t fully committed to meeting someone in the first place or have doubts then say.

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By *issilia AmoriWoman
10 weeks ago

St Albans/ North Welsh Borders

"I've had it done to me and it's a horrible feeling. I wouldn't do it to anyone"

And no, there was no rescheduled meet. If I wasn't good enough at that time I sure as hell won't be good enough the 2nd time

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

We wouldn't do that as we aren't complete bellends.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

No.

I wouldn't do that, if I'm meeting someone they are my priority.

There isn't a someone better.

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By *eorgesdad69Man
10 weeks ago

Long Eaton

I had both of them had to tell the first guy that he had to leave as my next guy was coming to fuck me 🤪 no problems and both were satisfied as well as me 🤪👍

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

"I've had it done to me and it's a horrible feeling. I wouldn't do it to anyone

And no, there was no rescheduled meet. If I wasn't good enough at that time I sure as hell won't be good enough the 2nd time"

Good for you, what an awful thing to do.

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By *ewtfaceMan
10 weeks ago

Bracknell

If I sign up for something, I'll be there. Unlike some of the ghosts around here who sound all keen and then disappear when the time comes.

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By *ustAnotherMan
10 weeks ago

brumish

Definitely has it done to me 😂

Never done it, only time I've cancelled was a time I'd got stuck in traffic for five hours

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By *uckslut and MCouple
10 weeks ago

Derby

We're a couple who prefer more than 1 or 2 guys at once. We're send out invites. Always get the last min excusses and lets downs from some. If we see they get a veri from someone else, for the same same day / time as they we're gonna met us, we block them.

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By *ouble-SidedCouple
10 weeks ago

Voldsøy

God, no. I couldn't do that. I've only, and will only meet people I've built a connection with. I'd never do that to them.

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By *eorgesdad69Man
10 weeks ago

Long Eaton

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By *EAT..85Woman
10 weeks ago

Nottingham

Not quite your scenario OP, but I've had a situation where I had to pick between two people before. I invited them both out last minute for a pint after a planning meeting. Neither lived in Nottingham and TBF, I didn't expect EITHER to be available at such short notice! They both responded "yes, I'll see you there" and I had to choose one to let down. He was understanding and did meet me at a later date, so no harm was done.

All of this I was sorting whilst in my planning meeting, I was not very focused! 🤦‍♀️

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By *hil most chillMan
10 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

The simple solution is meet them both. Book 2 rooms in the same hotel, and keep making excuses why you need to leave the room (grandma died, you need ice, you need to take a huge dump and don't want to disrespect the woman by blocking the room toilet etc). In my experience no woman needs more than 15 minutes of me at a time, so everyone will be happy and no one will suspect a thing

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By *tubbsy85Woman
10 weeks ago

Ipswich

No. I'd never do anything like that

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Motherwell

If I agree to meet a guy I will meet him, the second option if he is also someone I want to meet,then make future arrangements with him. If I have been ghosted for 'better' that's just fab, but I would also consider it my lucky escape from a selfish person. Mx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

Surprised this thread got so many posts.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
10 weeks ago

Beverley

You seriously think I'm gonna get porpositioned twice in one day?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

"Definitely has it done to me 😂

Never done it, only time I've cancelled was a time I'd got stuck in traffic for five hours "

Never done it to anyone either. Pretty sure it's been done to me, hence the post lol

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By *gent CoulsonMan
10 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Had it done to me, messaged to say we're not feeling well, then the day after posted a veri.

Definitely missed me off a wee bit

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan
10 weeks ago

Beverley

"Not quite your scenario OP, but I've had a situation where I had to pick between two people before. I invited them both out last minute for a pint after a planning meeting. Neither lived in Nottingham and TBF, I didn't expect EITHER to be available at such short notice! They both responded "yes, I'll see you there" and I had to choose one to let down. He was understanding and did meet me at a later date, so no harm was done.

All of this I was sorting whilst in my planning meeting, I was not very focused! 🤦‍♀️"

So you were planning in a planning meeting and your plan went tits up. Did the other plan you were planning go to plan?

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By *eliWoman
10 weeks ago

No. I'm a bit of a dick but not a full on one.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
10 weeks ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

I've never done this myself but have had it done to me a few times and not in a honest way, the verifications that popped up after are a giveaway and not just with those who cancelled last minute but also those who didn't even have the courtesy to do that

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By *JandCMCouple
10 weeks ago

cardiff

Never done that.

If we're having a meet we post it out there n who ever shows interest we put them in our hotlist n tell them we'll be in touch a day or 2 before the meet if we choose them.

But once we choose someone n chat on the phone then that is it, would never cancel just to replace them with someone else.

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By *ik11Man
10 weeks ago

Worcester

Happened so many time with me. Nice conversation happening nd after sharing my pic no more messages

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

We would never do this, if we’ve a meet planned then it’s after a lot of messaging and something we’re looking forward to so there wouldn’t be someone better if that makes sense? Xx

Pretty sure we’ve had someone do this to us though 😄

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
10 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

Never.

We don’t plan meets in advance as they never happen, we arrange on the day we’re looking and meet others who are looking that day. Because of this we could be talking to quite a few people who are interested in meeting but can’t meet them all obviously. So we could be leading people to think we are gonna meet them and not do so, but we’ve never cancelled a meet once arranged.

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By *ansoffateMan
10 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

"No. I'm a bit of a dick but not a full on one."

Well said.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
10 weeks ago

Castlebar

I have never done that. Even if the second person was someone I really wanted to see. I've actually never stood anyone up or cancelled for any other reason that weather/safety for travelling. I've been cancelled on and I couldn't do it to someone else.

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By *ena AmourTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Chard

Someone once chose fishing over me! Really helped my confidence 🤣

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By (user no longer on site) OP
10 weeks ago

"Someone once chose fishing over me! Really helped my confidence 🤣"

Oh god that is a dick move. I know which I'd rather be doing, and I don't own any fishing gear 😉

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
10 weeks ago

South Wales

"Someone once chose fishing over me! Really helped my confidence 🤣"

I had someone choose playing football…..😄

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
10 weeks ago

Reading

Never that's just rude.

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By *ife NinjaMan
10 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Better? Nope. I always attend any meets 🤓

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By *lueDressWoman
10 weeks ago

Bath

Ive met someone while on a summer break in a nightclub, and we exchanged numbers.We chatted about meeting up again.Planned for him to travel 164 miles to My home.This was many years ago.I cancelled our meet due to meeting My current LTR partner.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

I take my time getting to know someone & wouldn't waste all the effort or be so disrespectful

It is doubtful I would view someone else as better anyway especially if we had not conversed 🩵

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By *teff_RedTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Greenhouse or Attic

"Have planned a meet with someone, then had a message of someone "better" and cancelled your planned meet ? Lol I bet this gets no response "

Struggle to get one nice meet never mind the luxury of 2 offers.

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

"You seriously think I'm gonna get porpositioned twice in one day?

😂😂

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By *dalisqueWoman
10 weeks ago

land of make believe

All of this I was sorting whilst in my planning meeting, I was not very focused! 🤦‍♀️"

Have more confidence in your ability to secure a date.

Of course they were both going to say YES!! 🩵

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By *uriousscouserWoman
10 weeks ago

Wirral

Nope. If I'm meeting someone it's because I want to meet them specifically, not because I want cock and any cock will do.

When I first signed up here I suspect I was someone's back-up plan on more than one occasion though; kept on the back burner in case nothing better came along on the day and cancelled at very short notice if it did.

Thankfully insisting on a social has changed that.

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By *WANDTGCouple
10 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We've not done this but had it done to us, we found out because they put their verification up the following day regarding their meet. They used the excuse that they had to see family, maybe it was true.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
10 weeks ago

Next Door

I've not cancelled my plans to meet another. I have had someone cancel on me in the morning with a crappy story and then they had a veri the next day saying how wonderful yesterday was.

🤣🤷‍♀️

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