FabSwingers.com forum: Venting

By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Afternoon fellow fabbers hope you’re all well.

When it comes to ‘venting’ frustrations / thoughts/ outbursts….

Where do you tend to direct it?

Do you speak with friends?

Do you put it out in the social media world / fab ?

Are you a go the gym and vent it out physically?

Always curious

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Hmm.

Sometimes sex.

Sometimes the emotional support junkie.

Sometimes I just save it for therapy.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
18 weeks ago

Newmill

Generally I'll talk things out with my wife. I have a few friends I can vent to if needed as well. (And they can do the same with me)

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By *r John WickMan
18 weeks ago

The Continental

For the most part, it stays bouncing round my head until it’s forgotten about.

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By *imply DeeWoman
18 weeks ago

Wherever

Give myself an inner pep talk and move on.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
18 weeks ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

I open a window

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By *weetiepie99Woman
18 weeks ago

cardiff

Always talk to my friends/family

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Hmm.

Sometimes sex.

Sometimes the emotional support junkie.

Sometimes I just save it for therapy."

I mean… get them earning their money right

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I open a window

Every window open every day… clear it out

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Hmm.

Sometimes sex.

Sometimes the emotional support junkie.

Sometimes I just save it for therapy.

I mean… get them earning their money right

I like to think I give him a nice change from his usual patients

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
18 weeks ago

Southampton

"Afternoon fellow fabbers hope you’re all well.

When it comes to ‘venting’ frustrations / thoughts/ outbursts….

Where do you tend to direct it?

Do you speak with friends?

Do you put it out in the social media world / fab ?

Are you a go the gym and vent it out physically?

Always curious

I turn it inwards... unhealthy I know

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By *hilloutMan
18 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'll generally vent through exercise or roll things over in my head until things are better.

I don't like to burden others with my problems if I can help it. Very much the old school stoic type.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
18 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

I normally call my ex

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
18 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I don't really vent that probably could do with changing

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

I try to get it 'onto paper', which in reality is a note in my phone

Then let it sit a couple of days and come back when I'm less inflamed and then logically work through the issue and figure out what i need to do to be happy

I write out what i want to do and then calmly execute, when i am ready, on my timetable. Once my head is happy, delivery is easy.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
18 weeks ago

Herts

I update my Big Spreadsheet of Grievances.

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By *viatrixWoman
18 weeks ago

Redhill

People have been testing my patience this week.

I have an incredibly strict social media policy at work, so mostly I vent with my family, mostly my husband…. it is so hard because I used to love having a good moan on social media and my friends/followers used to enjoy it and get a good laugh but you never know who’s watching. So I have to keep schtum!

I used to vent with my FWB, and he used to do as well. That is how we survived the lockdown. But now he’s gone

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

I write it out. Either go back to it after 24 hours, or share it with a friend. Logically breakdown the frustration and come up with a plan to move through it.

Go on really long runs.

Have sex.

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By *issmorganWoman
18 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I usually have a rant to my other half.

I'm careful what I share on social media, I never share anything relating to work,even after a bad shift.

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By *issmorganWoman
18 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I also keep a journal, where I can safely air my thoughts too.

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I try to get it 'onto paper', which in reality is a note in my phone

Then let it sit a couple of days and come back when I'm less inflamed and then logically work through the issue and figure out what i need to do to be happy

I write out what i want to do and then calmly execute, when i am ready, on my timetable. Once my head is happy, delivery is easy. "

I saw something online the other day about making notes / writing things down. It said about it making it reality that way and so something to deal with rather than it just being a thought (r something like that) so maybe I’ll get a diary

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
18 weeks ago

Next Door

Rarely talk to others about any problems.

I deal with it by going very quiet, mull things around until i get a solution

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
18 weeks ago

Newcastle

It depends what kind of a vent it is. I’ll moan about my kids to my husband, moan about my husband to my friends, moan about work to other colleagues.

The big things I often don’t vent to anyone about really. More work them out in my head by myself.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
18 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

My manager if it's work related, she's my safe space. I don't really vent at home, unless it's to the dog about muddy paw prints or leaving his toys around

I don't really vent though, if someone has pissed me off or done something I usually tell them and move on

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By *batMan
18 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I keep an online diary for writing out my frustrations. Most of them aren’t as bad when you revisit them.

Those that are, then you can go do something about them!

Gbat

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By *uriousscouserWoman
18 weeks ago

Wirral

Sometimes I cry.

Sometimes I eat.

Sometimes I wank.

Sometimes I do more than one of those things at the same time.

They're my go-to coping strategies for any strong emotion.

I do sometimes vent with friends, but I quickly get sick of listening to myself and figure they must be even more sick of it, so it doesn't last long.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
18 weeks ago

Wirral

"I update my Big Spreadsheet of Grievances. "

I love the idea of a Big Spreadsheet of Grievances. I may adopt this!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
18 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I tend to just go off grid and disappear

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
18 weeks ago

Reading

Family usually

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
18 weeks ago

Herts

"I update my Big Spreadsheet of Grievances.

I love the idea of a Big Spreadsheet of Grievances. I may adopt this!"

It’s great. A few clicks and I can visualise all the things which boil my piss…in a graph

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By *B69Woman
18 weeks ago

Wiltshire

I’ve always dealt with it myself, never felt the need to bring someone else into my problems, usually over it in a couple of days

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By *ros40Man
18 weeks ago

Bedford

People use me to vent, which is fine

I've no one to vent to and that's fine also

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By *oadsafun1960Man
18 weeks ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

I no longer trust friends, after my very best friend stabbed me in the back, then ran and hid. I never got closure just hurt and manipulation of the truth, that continues to this day.

So I just go for a long walk, away from everyone, until I've buried an issue or thought of a way to deal with it.

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Rarely talk to others about any problems.

I deal with it by going very quiet, mull things around until i get a solution"

A problem shared…

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I tend to just go off grid and disappear "

Love going off grid

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I keep an online diary for writing out my frustrations. Most of them aren’t as bad when you revisit them.

Those that are, then you can go do something about them!

Gbat "

Writing them down seems popular

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"People use me to vent, which is fine

I've no one to vent to and that's fine also "

There’s always someone

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By *enegadeM OP Man
18 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I no longer trust friends, after my very best friend stabbed me in the back, then ran and hid. I never got closure just hurt and manipulation of the truth, that continues to this day.

So I just go for a long walk, away from everyone, until I've buried an issue or thought of a way to deal with it."

Sorry to hear that

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