FabSwingers.com forum: First impressions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so come so a guy or woman sends a message to u but u either ignore or read never responds why is that ? What do u need to respond to someone just saying people have feelings on here too and if in a low state of mind being ignored can also effect them mentally

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By *ighty_tightyMan
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk

Because no reply is a polite no.

This has also been covered many many times before.

Ladies can get hundreds, even thousands of messages. Do you think there is enough time to read and reply to all of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the message is rubbish

Because I’m not interested in the person sending it

Because the person sending it didn’t read my profile

Many other reasons.

If people are in a ‘low state’ as you put it…..how does a no message improve that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a low state of mind it’s probably best to take a break from fab. People aren’t going to guess your mental health, and no one owes a complete stranger on the internet anything. Blunt but facts.

And a no reply is a polite no.

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By *eliusMan
over a year ago

Henlow

This has been done to death. And don’t want to appear harsh, as I do have some mental imperfections - this is not the place to seek a confidence boost, although there are some kind souls on here.

Professional help is the preferred course rather than a swingers site.

Have a good day, and don’t fret over the non replies

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Ok so come so a guy or woman sends a message to u but u either ignore or read never responds why is that ? What do u need to respond to someone just saying people have feelings on here too and if in a low state of mind being ignored can also effect them mentally "

Well no-one is obligated to reply.

And it's actually a method of showing no interest.

Read no reply delete.

Take a hint it's not personal, your just not for them.

And trying to guilt people into replying due to low self esteem is a bit off to be brutally honest.

I can understand feelings getting hurt if someone messages back giving abuse,but it's generally understood on here no response means no interest.

When we first started on here we tried to respond to every message,the biggest issues where some guy's just won't take no for an answer and and bombard with constant messages even when told not interested, then end up blocked.

Then there's the one's who get abusive.

So for many, particularly women not answering is the easiest option.

Lastly don't forget some women get hundreds of messages a day.

So it's not personal it's just fabs.

Hope this helps.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
over a year ago

Debauchery

We try to reply to everyone but there are some that just leave us scratching our heads!

'Hi...' dozens of these turn up daily. If I have time they'll get a hi back but generally it's a delete.

'Been rubbing my cock all morning..' Great!

A statement doesn't warrant a reply! You might get a thumb

Read your message back to yourself. Can you honestly expect a reply?

Cherry x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I won't respond if they clearly:

haven't read my profile

Are outside of my age range

If it's just a "hi hun etc"

Are miles away

..and many more reasons x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Whilst users should act responsibly, people are not here to look after your feelings. If you are hurt by people not responding, that's on you, not on them.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

If you are struggling with mental health I think this can be a really unhelpful environment. I'd honestly suggest maybe getting stuck in to the forums could be a more beneficial and positive outcome for your mental health than messaging random people and hoping for a reoky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something that speaks to my personality, will get a quicker response.

Even guys get replies if they are quirky enough. Even if it’s copy and pasted, I don’t care if it’s witty or polite. Some people like interacting.

Some people like to be asshats too, they get a different response.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Just because someone chooses to message me, it does not earn them the automatic right of an response from me.

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I won't respond if they clearly:

haven't read my profile

Are outside of my age range

If it's just a "hi hun etc"

Are miles away

..and many more reasons x"

Is One reason because you think you may already be head over heels in love with them and fighting it?? Asking for a friend xx

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I won't respond if they clearly:

haven't read my profile

Are outside of my age range

If it's just a "hi hun etc"

Are miles away

..and many more reasons x

Is One reason because you think you may already be head over heels in love with them and fighting it?? Asking for a friend xx"

I think you mean lust

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I won't respond if they clearly:

haven't read my profile

Are outside of my age range

If it's just a "hi hun etc"

Are miles away

..and many more reasons x

Is One reason because you think you may already be head over heels in love with them and fighting it?? Asking for a friend xx

I think you mean lust

I’ll definitely take lust as an answer!! Ready for. Any lusting from you - as and when you see fit!! Sooner the better obviously - gives more time to repeat until we get it right!! Xx

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