As relative "newbies" to swinging in general, and FAB in particular, I guess we should comment. I think its all about your first experience of contacting others, mixed with your own personality.
If you "sit in a corner" either at social meets, or in a chatroom, and dont try to interact with others (perhaps because you are shy, nervous etc), then you will find that the convo just "passes you by". People are not deliberately ignoring you, but are usually very busy trying to chat, gossip, and generally do the "interacting" thingy!! I find the best way to get going, either at a social meet or in the chatroom is to say hi to as many ppl as possible, and tell them you are new, ask for advice on etiquette etc and dive right in. its true that some newbies can be viewed with a little suspicion, especially single males, but thats just because many ppl have had a bad experience with being messed about by the few guys on here that are a waste of time. Once you start to chat to ppl, and especially once you meet them face-to-face, perhaps at a social meet, then you will find yourself chatting away with no problems. |
