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By *r some might say OP   Man
4 days ago

Near

Hello.

Wondered if there was anyone out there that has been through depression and self confidence issues?

I'm a single guy, 39. I'm a bit overweight, no Brad Pitt and not particularly Hung. But don't think I'm ugly, not smelly and clean.

I've always been okay with sex and women, but since my ex wife cheated and we divorced, my self confidence is a all time low.

Feeling lonely and depressed but not wanting a relationship again. All I want is honesty and good sex. Is it me or is that not alot to want?

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By *elNRoobsCouple
4 days ago

Swansea

Being completely honest with you; this is probably not the best place to be if you’ve confidence issues. You’ll get a lot more knock backs on here than Yes’.

I do feel for you as I’ve had anxiety for many years xx

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By *am122765Man
4 days ago

Blackwood

Echo the above, this site is not going to lift your confidence. For every woman, there are 30 guys chasing her, woman can take their pick so many rejects are ahead - If you consider yourself Mr Average my advice would be get yourself on POF it's casual and far more balanced between women and men, Good Luck

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By *adyinred696969Couple
4 days ago

Brecon

You might find getting along to some of the organised socials might help, whilst its by no means a guarantee of some action, you will at least be able to chat with people, and it will be a lot less harsh on your feelings compared with the responses you might get if you try approaching people on here.

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By *coutDWoman
4 days ago

Pontypridd


"Hello.

Wondered if there was anyone out there that has been through depression and self confidence issues?

I'm a single guy, 39. I'm a bit overweight, no Brad Pitt and not particularly Hung. But don't think I'm ugly, not smelly and clean.

I've always been okay with sex and women, but since my ex wife cheated and we divorced, my self confidence is a all time low.

Feeling lonely and depressed but not wanting a relationship again. All I want is honesty and good sex. Is it me or is that not alot to want? "

Id agree with you have said. If you do stay on here maybe have a rethink about your profile writing and photos.

You give quite a lot away about what you like and that will either match or not for others. Youve called it your rules, which indicates that’s the way it has to be. That’s the first few messages not required between yourself and others. Also as you’re not in a couple you might want to rethink your photos. My first thought is who are the women and have you got their photos on here with their consent. Your first photo being a very close up is quite off putting too.

I hope your situation improves

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By *r some might say OP   Man
4 days ago

Near

Thank you 😊

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By *ardigan SpiceWoman
3 days ago

Cardigan/Aberystwyth


"Hello.

Wondered if there was anyone out there that has been through depression and self confidence issues?

I'm a single guy, 39. I'm a bit overweight, no Brad Pitt and not particularly Hung. But don't think I'm ugly, not smelly and clean.

I've always been okay with sex and women, but since my ex wife cheated and we divorced, my self confidence is a all time low.

Feeling lonely and depressed but not wanting a relationship again. All I want is honesty and good sex. Is it me or is that not alot to want?

Id agree with you have said. If you do stay on here maybe have a rethink about your profile writing and photos.

You give quite a lot away about what you like and that will either match or not for others. Youve called it your rules, which indicates that’s the way it has to be. That’s the first few messages not required between yourself and others. Also as you’re not in a couple you might want to rethink your photos. My first thought is who are the women and have you got their photos on here with their consent. Your first photo being a very close up is quite off putting too.

I hope your situation improves

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On the back of this and just having a look at your profile which I'm assuming you've now changed - now there's nothing on it to differentiate between and the next unsuccessful guy. "Any questions, please ask", I can guarantee you that you won't get many people asking you questions as now there's literally nothing to read there.

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By *issP69Woman
3 days ago

Neath

Get off here

It will do absolutely nothing for your self esteem

Work on taking are of yourself

Join a gym, take walks. Get yourself in a better place before even entertaining looking for sex on here. It will make you feel 10x worse

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By *issP69Woman
3 days ago

Neath

Apologies, taking care*

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By *are2xploreMan
3 days ago

Cynon Valley

Hi.

Firstly I have to say that it has taken alot of courage to come onto the site and tell your story. Total respect mate.

Im in a similar situation to you except for me its due to underlying health conditions. Ive given up asking for meets as there are alot more fitter men than me and im too old now. I use the app just for chatting.

Get yourself to a social and meet others. Its a big world out there and not everyone wants model. We all have different tastes.

I wish you good luck.

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By *ortney CocksWoman
3 days ago

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"Get off here

It will do absolutely nothing for your self esteem

Work on taking are of yourself

Join a gym, take walks. Get yourself in a better place before even entertaining looking for sex on here. It will make you feel 10x worse "
sometimes it’s good for someone to give an honest opinion to someone else

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By *penmined40Man
3 days ago

Carmarthen

I'm finding it's not the best for self esteem,I've send a few a face pic and been instantly blocked,not sure if it's my pics because in real life I don't think im that bad and normally do ok 😅

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By *copioMan
2 days ago

near neath

Like others have said already . Really think if this is the place for you right now and come back when you’re feeling better about things . This place can be addictive and the more you look at profiles and read verifications and send messages and not get reply’s or get the odd message that gets your hopes up to lead to nothing it’s only going make you feel worse mate trust me

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By *carlett CumslutWoman
2 days ago

cardiff

Fab as an online forum can be a killer for self esteem if you are relying solely on messaging.

Women and couples get far too many messages everyday so unfortunately you are judged on your profile and message.

Think of it as book shopping - would you buy a book with a generic picture and one liner say ask for more information. Flip the book over to read hey how are you?

You really need to make your book stand out. Add pictures, add text. Describe yourself, what experience you have, what you are looking for and more importantly sell what you can give a lady/couple.

Those who chat in the forums and web rooms will get more out of fab as just being online.

Those who attend socials will go a lot further - you are no longer a book but a film. You become a real person who’s more likely to be able to show personality and make friends. With friends comes confidence and often advice.

Anyone who’s struggling I wish you luck.

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