FabSwingers.com forum: My body is making us having to take a back seat :(

By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

I’ve been vocal in the past about my entrometiosis and how it can affect play but it’s taken a massive turn for the worse , been bleeding constantly since 5th June, had to cancel all meets or club events we were due to go to and only been able to even be intimate with each other on the lighter days where I’ve used a Beppy sponge.

Got a hospital biopsy Wednesday so will find out more but has meant apart from commenting in the forums we have had to take a massive step back from swinging. It’s really got us down as we love having people over and playing. Love meeting couples etc.

Has anyone else had medical conditions where they have had to step back from play for a significant amount of time ?

Really missing being intimate with my partner let alone with playmates and there is only so much patience couples have for waiting for me to be ‘ able’ to do a meet.

Thoughts ?

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By *ylesburyvoyeurMan
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer 12 years ago and the subsequent surgery definitely ruined my self confidence for some time. I went from a guy with, when hard, 7” penis to having a soft 4” ( they pull part of your penis inside to reconnect the plumbing) permanently soft and infertile.

Since getting my head outta my backside and realising that I’m still alive. Still no sign of cancer returning. That I can still enjoy life. So I’ve had many compliments on my oral and hand skills from quite a surprising number of ladies. Life finds a way and you have to celebrate the wins when you can.

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think that your health and relationship are the most important things in your life.

Having sex with other people is way down the list of priorities and as annoying as it feels right now this will pass.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also can you find other ways to maintain intimacy with your partner?

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By *lassiccokeorpepsimaxCouple
3 weeks ago

Cardiff

Firstly I'm so sorry you're suffering OP and do hope the hospital can help at your appointment. ❤️

Not the same but I had a few months out due to an operation and those I knew from Fab were very understanding and never ever pushy about meeting. I certainly wouldn't worry about meets/clubs etc because your health comes first.

Everything else can wait.

Although I can understand how frustrating it is... because you sort of feel you're on pause for a while.

I wonder if you'd still enjoy the social side for the time being if playing is off the table? I took a great deal of joy in chatting to others from Fab (especially those whom I'd consider friends and not just those from the community I hadn't met) either over message or F2F. No pressure to play (obviously) but still had a lovely time and felt less like I was on 'pause'.

All the best 💐

Mrs x

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By *ear_TinkerbellCouple
3 weeks ago

The lost village

Hey OP,

Endometriosis was the original reason we stepped away too. Started long before I knew for sure what it was but has been an ongoing rollercoster since. I'm sorry you're suffering. Fingers crossed you're able to access much needed help with your symptoms ❤️

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By *anda2018Couple
3 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I am 3 weeks post op from a double mastectomy and reconstruction.

Missing the intimacy with Mr and having the option to play.

It's boring and I swear my virginity is growing back!!

But, new cancer free titties are worth the wait. Hope you get sorted sweet, xx

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 weeks ago

merseyside

"I was diagnosed with prostate cancer 12 years ago and the subsequent surgery definitely ruined my self confidence for some time. I went from a guy with, when hard, 7” penis to having a soft 4” ( they pull part of your penis inside to reconnect the plumbing) permanently soft and infertile.

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊"

What a wonderful post and an even more wonderful view of life and all its rewards.

So happy that you are cancer free and mentally very robust.

To the OP.

Many, many people will have times in life when the road ahead looks rocky and uncertain but its all about priorities and this gentleman has it bang on.

Hope your biopsy results are favourable and any problems sorted quickly.

Good luck.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
3 weeks ago

in Lancashire

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊"

Sir, I truly doff my cap to you..

A very positive attitude which is to be applauded, very best wishes..

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By *ylesburyvoyeurMan
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

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By *ylesburyvoyeurMan
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊

What a wonderful post and an even more wonderful view of life and all its rewards.

So happy that you are cancer free and mentally very robust.

To the OP.

Many, many people will have times in life when the road ahead looks rocky and uncertain but its all about priorities and this gentleman has it bang on.

Hope your biopsy results are favourable and any problems sorted quickly.

Good luck.

Thank you so much for the beautiful words and encouragement xx

It is truly appreciated xx

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 weeks ago

merseyside

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊

What a wonderful post and an even more wonderful view of life and all its rewards.

So happy that you are cancer free and mentally very robust.

To the OP.

Many, many people will have times in life when the road ahead looks rocky and uncertain but its all about priorities and this gentleman has it bang on.

Hope your biopsy results are favourable and any problems sorted quickly.

Good luck.

Thank you so much for the beautiful words and encouragement xx

It is truly appreciated xx"

You are very welcome.

We've both been through cancer these last 2 years. To be honest swinging was the last thing on my mind, staying alive was in the forefront.

My advice to anyone going through a life changing illness.

Forget the old cliche, stay positive. It's OK to scream, shout, cry and have every negative thoughts.

The journey you are about to experience doesn't care what you or anyone else is feeling. Just stick with the programme, do everything the medics say, join every exercise programme during and after.

I found some of the groups helpful, some full of whiners, turning into a pissing contest of who is the most ill.

You will meet those who are stoic and those who are whiners, cancer doesn't care.

But I'm cancer free, fitter than ever before and hornier as hell, seems a decent outcome to me.

Good luck to anyone going through it.

To those who are not and sometimes get tongue tied and not knowing what to say.

Don't say "I'm sure it will be fine "

The reply in my head was "oh fuck off, how on earth do you know it will be alright".

Best something like "hope the biopsy results are good".

You learn to use your time wisely.

Thanks why we are galavanting naked on the beach and pool in Vera Playa shagging like Mad March hares. 🤣🤣

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By *orthampton jamesMan
3 weeks ago

Northampton

My best wishes to all you ladies and gentlemen that are going through or have been through the mill, I know how you're all feeling, I've had 7 bowel and bladder ops in 20 year's, took it's toll, but you're all get there, I'm just glad to wake up every morning still breathing, best wishes to you all

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By *hamallamadingdongMan
3 weeks ago

London

Life is unexpected. Health problems are common these days. Focus on your health. Fab can wait. It's amazing people are able to share information like this on here. It's not just dicks, tits and pussies (bums too).

Health is wealth. I wish all of you a successful recovery and unlimited orgasms.

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊"

I admire you and glad you have come through it, thank you for your words and sharing

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Also can you find other ways to maintain intimacy with your partner? "

We do play on top of knickers and I play with him but it’s not the same as making love, I miss it x

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Firstly I'm so sorry you're suffering OP and do hope the hospital can help at your appointment. ❤️

Everything else can wait.

Although I can understand how frustrating it is... because you sort of feel you're on pause for a while.

All the best 💐

Mrs x

Sorry to hear you went through this , yes we have thought about attending socials but none that local and not really cam people, we were going to go to one tonight but a friend texted to say it was dead as a do do x

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Hey OP,

Tink "

Thank you, I guess you understand more than most and sorry you have it too. Thanks for your kind words

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"I am 3 weeks post op from a double mastectomy and reconstruction.

Missing the intimacy with Mr and having the option to play.

It's boring and I swear my virginity is growing back!!

But, new cancer free titties are worth the wait. Hope you get sorted sweet, xx "

Such a strong woman and thank you for sharing, I know the feeling about virginity growing back lol ! Thanks for reaching out x

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊

What a wonderful post and an even more wonderful view of life and all its rewards.

So happy that you are cancer free and mentally very robust.

To the OP.

Many, many people will have times in life when the road ahead looks rocky and uncertain but its all about priorities and this gentleman has it bang on.

Hope your biopsy results are favourable and any problems sorted quickly.

Good luck.

Thank you, I’m shocked at how many lovely people have wished me well. I will update when I know more , today it seems might be the lightest day off all and might even be able to make love to my partner. Let’s see !

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

With a choice between a reasonable size penis and erections and probably less than a year to live and having surgery with all the associated complications, well you can see the no-brain choice 😊

What a wonderful post and an even more wonderful view of life and all its rewards.

So happy that you are cancer free and mentally very robust.

To the OP.

Many, many people will have times in life when the road ahead looks rocky and uncertain but its all about priorities and this gentleman has it bang on.

Hope your biopsy results are favourable and any problems sorted quickly.

Good luck.

Thank you so much for the beautiful words and encouragement xx

It is truly appreciated xx

You are very welcome.

We've both been through cancer these last 2 years. To be honest swinging was the last thing on my mind, staying alive was in the forefront.

My advice to anyone going through a life changing illness.

Forget the old cliche, stay positive. It's OK to scream, shout, cry and have every negative thoughts.

The journey you are about to experience doesn't care what you or anyone else is feeling. Just stick with the programme, do everything the medics say, join every exercise programme during and after.

I found some of the groups helpful, some full of whiners, turning into a pissing contest of who is the most ill.

You will meet those who are stoic and those who are whiners, cancer doesn't care.

But I'm cancer free, fitter than ever before and hornier as hell, seems a decent outcome to me.

Good luck to anyone going through it.

To those who are not and sometimes get tongue tied and not knowing what to say.

Don't say "I'm sure it will be fine "

The reply in my head was "oh fuck off, how on earth do you know it will be alright".

Best something like "hope the biopsy results are good".

You learn to use your time wisely.

Thanks why we are galavanting naked on the beach and pool in Vera Playa shagging like Mad March hares. 🤣🤣

Life’s a journey right? Glad you out the other side

thanks for sharing x

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"My best wishes to all you ladies and gentlemen that are going through or have been through the mill, I know how you're all feeling, I've had 7 bowel and bladder ops in 20 year's, took it's toll, but you're all get there, I'm just glad to wake up every morning still breathing, best wishes to you all

That’s a lot of ops and I’m sorry it’s took it’s toll, life is for living and thank you for sharing xx

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Life is unexpected. Health problems are common these days. Focus on your health. Fab can wait. It's amazing people are able to share information like this on here. It's not just dicks, tits and pussies (bums too).

Health is wealth. I wish all of you a successful recovery and unlimited orgasms."

Love this

thanks for replying and being a lovely forum member and making me smile x

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
6 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Update not that anyone probably cares , still waiting for biopsy results but I’m now on day 41 of constant bleeding. I’m fed up, I’m exhausted, constant pain, constant bloating, leaking underwear, same on the bed. Can’t be overly intimate with the partner apart from touching but so miss making love. Miss being able to be free with no knickers or pads in. All you fellow female sufferers out there I feel for you I really do.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
6 days ago

Norwich

I hope you feel better soon. It’s not something I have any experience of (indirectly, obviously) but it sounds awful.

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
6 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"I hope you feel better soon. It’s not something I have any experience of (indirectly, obviously) but it sounds awful. "

Thank you. I also feel sorry for my partner he’s been so understanding but he’s actually got a phobia of blood so he’s done so well to even be close to me when I’m like this

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By *ockferryguyMan
6 days ago

CH422AJ

Had a triple heart bypass just before Christmas so stepped back till a couple of months ago

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
6 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

Thanks for all the lovely people who have inboxed me with encouragement , advice and support.

What I won’t tolerate is people who have a go at me , mock me and say some very nasty things about this post but rather than comment in the forum have decided to take it upon themselves to message me direct, especially as a man they will never know what this particular condition feels like , they have been blocked but clearly they know had they messaged what they said to me on here they would have either been reported or least a few people would have put them down a peg or two!

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By *hris-m.1964TV/TS
6 days ago

Colwyn Bay

Fell a few hrs ago and damaged 6 discs in back, due to damage now bone on bone 5 lumber vertebrae, side effects of this know use a wheel chair, and if nerves pinch suffer with cauda equina syndrome lose feelings in penis anal area also pre op M2F trans woman so hrt and testosterone blockers mean very hard to get hard it's all shrunk .

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
6 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"Fell a few hrs ago and damaged 6 discs in back, due to damage now bone on bone 5 lumber vertebrae, side effects of this know use a wheel chair, and if nerves pinch suffer with cauda equina syndrome lose feelings in penis anal area also pre op M2F trans woman so hrt and testosterone blockers mean very hard to get hard it's all shrunk . "

Ouch and I’m sorry about that. Hopefully you can find other ways to have some fun and enjoyment. Good luck with all the transition

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By *WB85Man
6 days ago

Staffordshire

My wife's suffered with Endometriosis for 30 years.

Several operations later and it got so entangled she had to have a section of her bowel removed.

Shes now on the depo to stop periods, as Endometriosis apparently feeds on blood?

I hope you get the results you're hoping for.

Good luck.

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By *eautyandthebeast86 OP Couple
6 days ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

"My wife's suffered with Endometriosis for 30 years.

Several operations later and it got so entangled she had to have a section of her bowel removed.

Shes now on the depo to stop periods, as Endometriosis apparently feeds on blood?

I hope you get the results you're hoping for.

Good luck. "

I am so sorry she’s experienced and is experiencing that.

Some women really do get it tough!

Thank you; me too !

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By *ouse_of_Earthly_DelightsCouple
6 days ago

Cardiff

My friend has suffered for years with endo and finally last year she found a surgeon who would perform a hysterectomy. She was 29 yo and had to try and manage the pain, bleeding and the awful attitude from professionals who didn’t want to know because ‘you might want kids’ ‘you’re too young to decide’ ‘what if you meet someone who wants kids?’. Her endo took 3 months to reappear but she handles it because at least she doesn’t have to manage the bleeding and that pain anymore.

Any woman dealing with endo deals with it for YEARS and with little support, so I salute all you ladies and hope you continue to fight.

Vikki.

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By *orphia2003Woman
5 days ago

Tonypandy.

A back injury in 2012 followed by spinal surgery in 2016 left me with serious mobility issues for years. I recovered, but past few years there has been some spinal deteriorating which can again affect my mobility. This coupled with knee and ankle issues have left me having to modify how I play a lot.

I just get on as best as I can, but it does frustrate me and affects my moods sometimes.

Still, I'm here and still going, so that's what matters

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