FabSwingers.com forum: Paying for it...

By *asterTheWay OP Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Hi all, this isn't an offer to pay for sex before any mods get angry

I'm just curious if anyone here ever has paid for it, and what their thoughts are? Was it worth it, did you enjoy it, how was the experience?

To give some context, I'm extremely sexually frustrated at the moment and feel that I kinda need to get rid of that frustration BEFORE trying to slow things down and work at finding some FWB or casual sex partners, otherwise my obvious desperation will just deter every one I meet.

Thoughts?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in the 80s I sometimes visited male prostitutes when I was feeling frustrated in a sexless relationship. In those days you could fuck a rentboy for £20, now you'd have to add an extra zero or more. The boys were good at their job and I loved the experience.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I'd you don't mind the hole about 6 years years ago when I was single I used grindr there are loads of guys on there who are just as hard up and looking for just a quick hookup.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

I have used quite a few prostitutes over the years & generally enjoyed the experience, also did a bit of male escort work when younger

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ed velvet thornWoman
over a year ago

over the rainbow

There are a few guys on here offering to pay for it ..... so coming from the other side of things why do guys feel the need to pay a lady for fun on here x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've paid for sex many times ( technically invite only gang bangs and not prostitution) and I'll continue to do so if and when I have the need. The way I see it, paying, is easier than going to a club (which you always have to pay to get into initially anyway) but without the hassle of then working your socks off to find a lady to play with. And when you're finished you part ways and go about your business.

I have pulled at clubs many times, which has ended in fun play. More than often though, unless I had arranged a meet at a club I've left without having sex. Bottom line, I still paid to travel to the club and get in, so money has been spent.

Imho; Paying for sex in the UK is an untapped revenue/health service for men and women. The adult werk hub proves that, and that's the tip of the iceberg. Fact, good sex has amazing health benefits that drug/s or any amount of money cannot replicate. Many other countries have legalized paying for sex and the girls and guys who work in them even have unions and pay taxes (wiki world prostitution). The UK has nothing like that and more than often the whole prostitution scene is frowned upon, ridiculed, and people that admit to using those services are often made to feel bad, which is insane. As long as everything is above board what's the real issue here? If you don't like something and it's not affecting you don't get involved.

Another fun fact, we often forget that men can get paid to jerk off in UK (sperm donors).

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterTheWay OP Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"There are a few guys on here offering to pay for it ..... so coming from the other side of things why do guys feel the need to pay a lady for fun on here x"

Sadly the women on here are impossible to chat to and meet up with.

If I ever do get a response from someone, it's never an attempt to move the conversation along, it's usually one word answers with nothing to go on.

Then when I try to start chatting about anything sexual, I get ghosted.

I get that the women on here are harassed by men, but really, I'm out of ideas to try and get through.

I'm not exactly a stunningly handsome guy, so maybe it'd be easier if I was. Maybe the women on here are spoilt for choice.

So it boils down to just wanting to simplify everything. If you're paying for it, it's just a service without the preamble then.

Anyway...mini sort-of rant over

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterTheWay OP Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"To be fair I'd you don't mind the hole about 6 years years ago when I was single I used grindr there are loads of guys on there who are just as hard up and looking for just a quick hookup."

Honestly if I was gay life would be SO MUCH EASIER. When finding hookups anyway.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

My husband and I have paid for an escort when there was a particular kink we wanted to fulfil, we enjoyed ourselves & id do it again if we felt it was the easiest way to fulfil a particular fantasy

My husband has also seen escorts on his own but says he'd rather meet on here or via clubs as he feels they are going through the motions, there's not the same intimacy, no kissing etc

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *niformed professionalMan
over a year ago

Exeter

VWE Exeter Escort here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be fair I'd you don't mind the hole about 6 years years ago when I was single I used grindr there are loads of guys on there who are just as hard up and looking for just a quick hookup.

Honestly if I was gay life would be SO MUCH EASIER. When finding hookups anyway."

Ermmm you still get people that mess you about so much like most guys loves the chase if there isn't any chase they don't want it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterTheWay OP Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"My husband and I have paid for an escort when there was a particular kink we wanted to fulfil, we enjoyed ourselves & id do it again if we felt it was the easiest way to fulfil a particular fantasy

My husband has also seen escorts on his own but says he'd rather meet on here or via clubs as he feels they are going through the motions, there's not the same intimacy, no kissing etc"

That's cool, I love the idea of a couple getting an escort together.

I'm also very curious what kink you fulfilled

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say just do it if it’s something you want to do. You don’t have the thrill of the chase but if it’s just meaningless sex you want there is no worries.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *amba2000Man
over a year ago

Ware

Hi all,

I must admit I have been considering offering a paid service. I have very limited time due to work and care responsibilities, and find that meeting on here usually requires that I take time off work (which I don't get paid for) and have to travel. So why not kill two birds with one stone... We both get to have some hot fun and I don't lose income, win win.

Thoughts?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *g16funMan
over a year ago

eastwood

[Removed by poster at 29/10/21 05:59:26]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *g16funMan
over a year ago

eastwood

"Hi all,

Thoughts?

"
ill be front of the queue

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

Not a man on this earth that doent pay for sex Every time If its a meal out the washing up or tidying a pair of socks away

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"VWE Exeter Escort here"

Do you have sky ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

Imo if you want near enough guaranteed sex (with someone who knows what they're doing

) then definitely paying a brass is the way to go. The only caveat I'd add is it can be addictive.

Same applies for gangbangs, reliable paid events where guys attend regularly.

We had more fun and action at a 'paid for' gb party than anything on fabs.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Every male in a relationship / dating has paid for sex.

Wether it’s a meal out, drinks, cinema, clothes shopping, paint balling, kite surfing, it’s all about getting access to some pussy !

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oAnCouple
over a year ago

Streatham

When we want a single female to join us we always use an escort as it is easier than endless chatting and worrying about age differences!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are also thinking of paying a female to join us, single females on here seem to be like unicorns

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

"Every male in a relationship / dating has paid for sex.

Wether it’s a meal out, drinks, cinema, clothes shopping, paint balling, kite surfing, it’s all about getting access to some pussy !

Dont you read the forums answers before posting or theres an echo in here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ands solo 300Man
over a year ago

Gibraltar

For me its the biggest turn off ever.

If someone is only willing to have sex with me for financial gain no thanks. Sex is about mutual enjoyment and desire for me.

Sex is not a selfish act about my needs.

I know friends that used them and they felt used lol.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Every male in a relationship / dating has paid for sex.

Wether it’s a meal out, drinks, cinema, clothes shopping, paint balling, kite surfing, it’s all about getting access to some pussy !

Dont you read the forums answers before posting or theres an echo in here"

Just skip past yours as there pretty boring

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Paid for quite a few some years ago, some good, some not. Had some good ones in Spain.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men pay for sex one way or another.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

Surely isn't going to a club similar to paying for it you pay your entrance fee and hopefully you get the action.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely isn't going to a club similar to paying for it you pay your entrance fee and hopefully you get the action.

"
Exactly and behind the scenes , that’s exactly what some clubs are all about. It must be disheartening for some guys to pay maybe £50 notes on the door then find themselves ermm dissatisfied .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Cannes, France and not in

Every other week, I het offered money, presents, outfits etc for sex. It gets very tedious blocking people

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *etfuntodayMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

Have paid for sex never been satisfied only interest is the money and time time for the next customer goodbye thanks for your money. Been to clubs paid for membership 68 years old no longer gets hard but still always played

A lot comes down to your attitude made friends spent time socially someone will always play if you show them some respect and get time to know them

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY

"Every other week, I het offered money, presents, outfits etc for sex. It gets very tedious blocking people "

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

"Not a man on this earth that doent pay for sex Every time If its a meal out the washing up or tidying a pair of socks away"

Right on the nail and still "paying" for it today..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a strange kink I've suddenly developed, never acted on it, mainly because I dont want to use a prostitute, but the idea of a straight up business transaction is an odd kink I've developed. Maybe it's a power/corruption thing.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oyandJulieMan
over a year ago

blackburn

I have paid and still would

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *955vintageMan
over a year ago

itchen stoke

"Hi all, this isn't an offer to pay for sex before any mods get angry

I'm just curious if anyone here ever has paid for it, and what their thoughts are? Was it worth it, did you enjoy it, how was the experience?

Thoughts?"

I have done so for many years and experiences have varied. It's a bit like anything do your research and be specific about what you want before parting with your cash.

Window girls in Holland were amazing for choice but again find one that suits you.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ver the hill for fabMan
over a year ago

LONDON

Being with loads of bar girls in Thailand great experience never in Europe to mechanical plus to expensive for what you get prefer to have a wank than pay for it here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *isandhers691127Couple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Only emotionally lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asterTheWay OP Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

I have made use of a "worker" since making this original post.

Weirdly, I found it rather empty. It lacked connection. I didn't like that it was simply a transaction.

It didn't help that I wasn't particularly attracted to the worker, but that's more my fault than hers!

I'm not sure I'll do it again, but at least I learned something about myself.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I considered it years ago because I just wanted sex, I didn't want to have to listen to someone's life story and pretend to feelings that weren't there, or to act like I was looking for anything more than a cock. I also wanted to be sure I could get rid of them afterwards with minimum fuss and no drama. A pro seemed the way to go.

It was pre-internet days and I found it impossible to find a hetero male escort rather than a rent boy, so I ended up giving up on the idea.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

I’ve payed for escorts on Adult Work & have met some lovely people but when it’s £140 a hour its abit much .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Central

Sex work is reputable, as is the need to want to enjoy the services, as it's so simple. I enjoy the company of the right gentlemen, which is aside from any sex - and most guys are interested in just sex - so employing someone who offers company, some security etc, is a no brainer. As it would be if I didn't want to enjoy my dildos yet again. I've employed guys who look good as hosts at events, so it's just the transaction that's a little different.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *educeusforfunCouple
over a year ago

London

Interesting idea I bet you would get some custom from members on here lol

"Hi all,

Thoughts?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok 14 weeks ago I needed to of load could not get a fix of here so I was going to Watford to pick up a mate so I booked an escort to go and see when I was down there she was 25 Japanese very pretty when I got there I went up to flat she text he number when I got to door it opened she was behind it door closed and she looked nothing like the picture she was well over 40 ok body.

We got naked i lay in n bed she started playing with cock and nuts but they where not playing was in shock that this was not her she got vibrator on cock to make hard no go she started to sick my cock still no go I did finger her and sucked her Rita but that was it was so pleased to get out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oung GunnerMan
over a year ago

Cleckheaton

"Ok 14 weeks ago I needed to of load could not get a fix of here so I was going to Watford to pick up a mate so I booked an escort to go and see when I was down there she was 25 Japanese very pretty when I got there I went up to flat she text he number when I got to door it opened she was behind it door closed and she looked nothing like the picture she was well over 40 ok body.

Use adult work for your area , that site has some great escorts .

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oubleCookieeWoman
over a year ago

West Bromwich

If I have a great connection with a guy and they want to spoil me with gifts or cash I happily accept….

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have paid for a few, not worth it in my eyes, no feelings, seedy, generally pretty crap

Most have jumped up adverts but in reality are rubbish in bed!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *reedMePrettyWoman
over a year ago

Crystal palace

There's an assumption that the experience will be disconnected and all about the renumeration. For me, I enjoyed the meets I had. I also recognised that 9/10 were not do much after sex but rather intimacy so made that a priority. Shouldn't be too difficult to gauge from a conversation beforehand if you can bothered to do that.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Double unicorn...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *955vintageMan
over a year ago

itchen stoke

In my experience you can find working girls tgat provide a good service and there are some who are not in the game just for the money. If you use the adult work site read reviews and field reports. Do you homework and you should get value for money.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *955vintageMan
over a year ago

itchen stoke

Remember guys there is no such thing as a free fuck!

You wife/girl friend requires maintenance and even people you meet on here deserve at least some flowers and wine

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve payed for escorts on Adult Work & have met some lovely people but when it’s £140 a hour its abit much . "

I need to change my profession

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

It is essentially a very honest transaction so long as the person offering the service is doing so with full consent.

My concern is that so many are being forced into selling sex by someone else.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *arleyQuinn89Woman
over a year ago

Bristol

Nothing wrong with paying for sex or taking payment for sex. Its very honest and no one gets hurt

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with paying for sex or taking payment for sex. Its very honest and no one gets hurt "

agreed xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

My hubby and I have done before for a Bi female escort. Trying to find a single female is very hard on here. We now have a female that we play with regularly so no need to pay for one now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entNEMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I’ve payed for escorts on Adult Work & have met some lovely people but when it’s £140 a hour its abit much . "

That's cheaper than a hotel and meal although not as much fun.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entNEMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I get turned on paying for sex. I get turned on by the dirtyness of it. I am hoping to meet a couple for a regular arrangement.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *oyandJulieMan
over a year ago

blackburn

I've paid for it a few times

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I want too... and make a right good night of it aswell

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been offered money before, but insulting amounts, would like to try it tbh

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Hi all, this isn't an offer to pay for sex before any mods get angry

I'm just curious if anyone here ever has paid for it, and what their thoughts are? Was it worth it, did you enjoy it, how was the experience?

Thoughts?"

Sounds like a very good reason

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ictoriaathomeTV/TS
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I have been paid for it and still accept it!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Hi all, this isn't an offer to pay for sex before any mods get angry

I'm just curious if anyone here ever has paid for it, and what their thoughts are? Was it worth it, did you enjoy it, how was the experience?

Thoughts?"

The fact you pay for it would deter most women sorry

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entNEMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I have been paid for it and still accept it! "

Shame you are so far away.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I've paid for sex many times ( technically invite only gang bangs and not prostitution) and I'll continue to do so if and when I have the need. The way I see it, paying, is easier than going to a club (which you always have to pay to get into initially anyway) but without the hassle of then working your socks off to find a lady to play with. And when you're finished you part ways and go about your business.

Another fun fact, we often forget that men can get paid to jerk off in UK (sperm donors).

I watched a film recently about a retired woman paying an escort and saying afterwards, it should be part of our nhs. It probably solve afew world issues and put smiles on grumpy frustrated men lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Hi all, this isn't an offer to pay for sex before any mods get angry

I'm just curious if anyone here ever has paid for it, and what their thoughts are? Was it worth it, did you enjoy it, how was the experience?

Thoughts?

The fact you pay for it would deter most women sorry"

I agree that if i knew a man paid for it, it be a turn off.

So sex toys to satisfy isn't the way forward?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"Not a man on this earth that doent pay for sex Every time If its a meal out the washing up or tidying a pair of socks away"

How funny

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rown bummerMan
over a year ago

yours

I'd pay for a junkie whore to suck my cock frustrated ain't the word

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread