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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x"
Happens to most single guys mate, welcome to the club lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only meet single guys so i dont think they are wierdos or sex pests, however there are going to be some that are t**ts, but some couples and women are too, i dont see all men the same cause some are pushy and rude, i wouldnt be here if i did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys have definitely got there place in swinging, it is horses for courses though, some peoples turn ons are other peoples turn offs

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

Lots of nice people on here so just be patient

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess I just keep plugging away! haha! Hopefully will meet some great people on here....I know your out there!

And I understand the horses for courses part, but I am careful and read profiles, so when you get certain replies from people saying they are looking for single males its a bit like banging your head against a wall (not that I have ever done that......I'm not a wierdo.....haha!) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i only meet single guys but they have to be upfront and honist or they stand no chance with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess I just keep plugging away! haha! Hopefully will meet some great people on here....I know your out there!

And I understand the horses for courses part, but I am careful and read profiles, so when you get certain replies from people saying they are looking for single males its a bit like banging your head against a wall (not that I have ever done that......I'm not a wierdo.....haha!) xx"

the main thing that will always hold you back from your profile at present is these 2 things

1) cannot accomodate

2) no face picture

if you dont accomodate and dont show your face people publically then alot of couples and singles assume your attached or have something to hide so they tend to bother with someone else instead.

now usually most people will reply and give reasons why they cant accom or show their face, and what ever reasons you have are your reasons. but it will not stop people making the assumptions you have a partner and thats why you cant show your face or accom. and alot of couples dont want to help people cheat or dont want someones wife contacting them if they find out.

so when 2 guys email in and one can accomodate and shows their face and another cant then if they are a equal match usually its the guy whos open about everything and willing to accomodate that gets the nod.

so if you want to get more regular action then i would suggest making it so you can accomodate and show your face pic publically.

some people get away with not showing their face, but you will probs need a nice list of verifications and your going to take along time to get a long list if your only sending face pics etc privately or not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess I just keep plugging away! haha! Hopefully will meet some great people on here....I know your out there!

And I understand the horses for courses part, but I am careful and read profiles, so when you get certain replies from people saying they are looking for single males its a bit like banging your head against a wall (not that I have ever done that......I'm not a wierdo.....haha!) xx

the main thing that will always hold you back from your profile at present is these 2 things

1) cannot accomodate

2) no face picture

if you dont accomodate and dont show your face people publically then alot of couples and singles assume your attached or have something to hide so they tend to bother with someone else instead.

now usually most people will reply and give reasons why they cant accom or show their face, and what ever reasons you have are your reasons. but it will not stop people making the assumptions you have a partner and thats why you cant show your face or accom. and alot of couples dont want to help people cheat or dont want someones wife contacting them if they find out.

so when 2 guys email in and one can accomodate and shows their face and another cant then if they are a equal match usually its the guy whos open about everything and willing to accomodate that gets the nod.

so if you want to get more regular action then i would suggest making it so you can accomodate and show your face pic publically.

some people get away with not showing their face, but you will probs need a nice list of verifications and your going to take along time to get a long list if your only sending face pics etc privately or not at all"

I have my face pic on my profile but I won't accommodate, so going by the above puts me at a disadvantage or I have something to hide.......

I used to accommodate but I was then harassed by a couple and a single female from another site some years back I decided that my accommodation days were numbered, not worth the hassle.

So now I will play at hotels........ And my private space remains private or available to those whom I feel comfortable inviting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awful to say this but it is a " buyers market" . There are so many single males that couples/women can take their pick. Does not make your profile particularly wrong.

X

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I guess I just keep plugging away! haha! Hopefully will meet some great people on here....I know your out there!

And I understand the horses for courses part, but I am careful and read profiles, so when you get certain replies from people saying they are looking for single males its a bit like banging your head against a wall (not that I have ever done that......I'm not a wierdo.....haha!) xx

the main thing that will always hold you back from your profile at present is these 2 things

1) cannot accomodate

2) no face picture

if you dont accomodate and dont show your face people publically then alot of couples and singles assume your attached or have something to hide so they tend to bother with someone else instead.

now usually most people will reply and give reasons why they cant accom or show their face, and what ever reasons you have are your reasons. but it will not stop people making the assumptions you have a partner and thats why you cant show your face or accom. and alot of couples dont want to help people cheat or dont want someones wife contacting them if they find out.

so when 2 guys email in and one can accomodate and shows their face and another cant then if they are a equal match usually its the guy whos open about everything and willing to accomodate that gets the nod.

so if you want to get more regular action then i would suggest making it so you can accomodate and show your face pic publically.

some people get away with not showing their face, but you will probs need a nice list of verifications and your going to take along time to get a long list if your only sending face pics etc privately or not at all

I have my face pic on my profile but I won't accommodate, so going by the above puts me at a disadvantage or I have something to hide.......

I used to accommodate but I was then harassed by a couple and a single female from another site some years back I decided that my accommodation days were numbered, not worth the hassle.

So now I will play at hotels........ And my private space remains private or available to those whom I feel comfortable inviting "

Sir feels exactly thr same about not accomodating, its your home, your rules, dont change to fit others.

We dont think single men are sex pests at all, however it doesnt mean we reply to every messge, some just get missed or are too short or daft to bother.

Just accept you are not going to be everyones cup of tea and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been argued many times before, but there should be NO difference between a single male, female or a couple when it comes to accommodating and public face pics.

If (because this is a 'buyers market' where single guys are concerned) this means that I have to compromise my security, safety or principles then, quite frankly, anyone who expects me to do so just to get laid can just go fuck themselves, because I wont be doing so.

If its got to the point where the scene is so distrusting of single males that in order to stand any chance you have to play by someone else's rule set; I'm out.

One of the biggest complaints I hear is the 'any holes the goal' mentality of certain single males - where they will say anything or do anything to get in there. Well, just as insidious are those who would compromise the principals and values for the same end.

I see two clear choices :

a) Lets go to town on anyone suspected of cheating; who cant accommodate; who doesn't have a public face pic. Couples, single fem, single males, fuck buddy couples or couples who are married (but not to each other). You're all fair game.

or

b) Treat everyone fairly and as individuals. Realise that there are a myriad of reasons why someone doesn't post a public face pic or cant accommodate and stop assuming that single guys must be playing away from home or have something to hide.

I'm tired of the single guy bashing; its got old. Reading so many threads about it along with all the bad feeling and vitriol that is levied against guys has actually had a negative effect on me to the point where I no longer feel I can email couples or single fems to introduce myself. What's the point - I have no public face pic.

So there you go, one less genuine single guy messing up your in-boxes folks. Mission accomplished.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"This has been argued many times before, but there should be NO difference between a single male, female or a couple when it comes to accommodating and public face pics.

If (because this is a 'buyers market' where single guys are concerned) this means that I have to compromise my security, safety or principles then, quite frankly, anyone who expects me to do so just to get laid can just go fuck themselves, because I wont be doing so.

If its got to the point where the scene is so distrusting of single males that in order to stand any chance you have to play by someone else's rule set; I'm out.

One of the biggest complaints I hear is the 'any holes the goal' mentality of certain single males - where they will say anything or do anything to get in there. Well, just as insidious are those who would compromise the principals and values for the same end.

I see two clear choices :

a) Lets go to town on anyone suspected of cheating; who cant accommodate; who doesn't have a public face pic. Couples, single fem, single males, fuck buddy couples or couples who are married (but not to each other). You're all fair game.

or

b) Treat everyone fairly and as individuals. Realise that there are a myriad of reasons why someone doesn't post a public face pic or cant accommodate and stop assuming that single guys must be playing away from home or have something to hide.

I'm tired of the single guy bashing; its got old. Reading so many threads about it along with all the bad feeling and vitriol that is levied against guys has actually had a negative effect on me to the point where I no longer feel I can email couples or single fems to introduce myself. What's the point - I have no public face pic.

So there you go, one less genuine single guy messing up your in-boxes folks. Mission accomplished. "

message me any time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"message me any time "

theres an offer you can refuse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up just yet, there's someone out there for everyone. I wouldn't like to go to someone's house unless I knew them very well. I don't mind face pics sent via mail, I totally understand why some people wouldn't want to show a face pic. You just never know who's out there that might see it.

Personally I go for the whole package, I like the person not just a cock or boobs pic. I like a bit of chit.chat. however some people love cock pics and don't want any chat, just fuck and go. So keep looking as you're bound to find someone.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't mind if a single guy doesn't have a public face pic, as long as I see one at some point. There is a problem if he can't accommodate as neither can I. However I actually prefer hotel meets as I feel uncomfortable going to someone elses house, especially if they are not handy for a quick escape if things go wrong!

Like Naughtynymphos, I really only meet single guys now, and I really don't enjoy seeing posts where people say that ALL single guys are timewasters, or ALL single guys are cheating, and so on. If it wasn't for single guys I would have a lot less fun on here than I get right now.

Lets hear it for the single guys - horny buggers the lot of 'em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a part of it is there are just so many single guys compared to fems and couples that there will be more no's than yes's for them simply on numbers.

We do gangbang nights and look for the right single guys. We check all messages, only delete when people are rude. Reply to most, often no thanks and sometimes yes here is our number. I guess its no slightly more than yes.

We do not say yes to anyone with no pic because we do not know who we are saying yes to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has been argued many times before, but there should be NO difference between a single male, female or a couple when it comes to accommodating and public face pics.

If (because this is a 'buyers market' where single guys are concerned) this means that I have to compromise my security, safety or principles then, quite frankly, anyone who expects me to do so just to get laid can just go fuck themselves, because I wont be doing so.

If its got to the point where the scene is so distrusting of single males that in order to stand any chance you have to play by someone else's rule set; I'm out.

One of the biggest complaints I hear is the 'any holes the goal' mentality of certain single males - where they will say anything or do anything to get in there. Well, just as insidious are those who would compromise the principals and values for the same end.

I see two clear choices :

a) Lets go to town on anyone suspected of cheating; who cant accommodate; who doesn't have a public face pic. Couples, single fem, single males, fuck buddy couples or couples who are married (but not to each other). You're all fair game.

or

b) Treat everyone fairly and as individuals. Realise that there are a myriad of reasons why someone doesn't post a public face pic or cant accommodate and stop assuming that single guys must be playing away from home or have something to hide.

I'm tired of the single guy bashing; its got old. Reading so many threads about it along with all the bad feeling and vitriol that is levied against guys has actually had a negative effect on me to the point where I no longer feel I can email couples or single fems to introduce myself. What's the point - I have no public face pic.

So there you go, one less genuine single guy messing up your in-boxes folks. Mission accomplished. "

Great post, saved me writing a similar one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does not matter if you are a paying member or you have a face picture or you are verified nobody replys to message they just get ignored most of the profiles are fakes so it makes it even harder.

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By *eviantExplorerWoman
over a year ago

northampton

Well I have just read ALL of your profile (as I'm sure every other women on here will!) and actually died laughing! The bit at the end is so true & so funny! Good luck singles males! I've only blocked you as I've found 2 lovely guys but still require a couple! Before that I was full steam ahead! Lol!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

"

I must admit if it wasn't for the fact you are a whole country away from me your profile would be the sort I respond to. It really does matter how people present themselves sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

"

Good profile...one off the better ones xxx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

"

Yeap another single female who read it and loved it lol

I would reply to your message, just a shame your the other end of the country!

I'm another single female looking for singles guys, so for me, the starting point is your profile, so make an effort with your profile and you'll reap what you sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yogatoned you seem to have a speech impediment that effects your typing...

Never use text speak, and get help with punctuation if you need it.

I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"

I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

"

As long as your not to knackered by the time you get here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yogatoned you seem to have a speech impediment that effects your typing...

Never use text speak, and get help with punctuation if you need it.

I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

"

Baldrick, I have a cunning plan....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So cunning you could stick a tail on it and call it a weasel ?

and Minx, I think I might possible have enough motivation....;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha yeah i txt speak if ppl dnt like it they can kiss my toned ass :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is that the toned ass you can't get verified they can kiss ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yogatoned you seem to have a speech impediment that effects your typing...

Never use text speak, and get help with punctuation if you need it.

I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

Baldrick, I have a cunning plan.... "

about time somebody did

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet single guys, just has to be the right one so not all will appeal to us.(mainly angels choice)

Not acomodating isnt an issue as we meet in hotels anyway, if your married thats your problem not ours

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By *on-bazCouple
over a year ago

rushden


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha"

A good way to get verified is to attend some of the socials that are regularly advertised.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha"

Here are three very easy ways to get verified by lots of people...

1. Go to a social.

2. Go to a social.

3. Go.... well, I think you get the idea!

Now, I admit some people dont like socials for a number of reasons, but if you are happy to go to a public place, meet other like-minded individuals, chat, make friends and have a good night out, then chances are you will have a hatfull of verifs by the next day.... job done!

*Disclaimer... no responsibility will be accepted for you getting no verifs... its probably because you is a hedge-pig with breath like an open sewer, and manners like a d*unken BNP supporter!!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Haha yeah i txt speak if ppl dnt like it they can kiss my toned ass :p"

((puts boots on...))

Oh, kiss, I really should get my eyes checked, thought it said summat else.... oh well, I got my boots on now so mind if I kick it instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

A good way to get verified is to attend some of the socials that are regularly advertised."

Great idea. The last social I attended, the music was so loud the only way to have any conversation was to stand outside with the smokers.

You had to be anti social to be social!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

Here are three very easy ways to get verified by lots of people...

1. Go to a social.

2. Go to a social.

3. Go.... well, I think you get the idea!

Now, I admit some people dont like socials for a number of reasons, but if you are happy to go to a public place, meet other like-minded individuals, chat, make friends and have a good night out, then chances are you will have a hatfull of verifs by the next day.... job done!

*Disclaimer... no responsibility will be accepted for you getting no verifs... its probably because you is a hedge-pig with breath like an open sewer, and manners like a d*unken BNP supporter!! "

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

Here are three very easy ways to get verified by lots of people...

1. Go to a social.

2. Go to a social.

3. Go.... well, I think you get the idea!

Now, I admit some people dont like socials for a number of reasons, but if you are happy to go to a public place, meet other like-minded individuals, chat, make friends and have a good night out, then chances are you will have a hatfull of verifs by the next day.... job done!

*Disclaimer... no responsibility will be accepted for you getting no verifs... its probably because you is a hedge-pig with breath like an open sewer, and manners like a d*unken BNP supporter!!

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses"

Yup, but no matter what excuse they come up with, I can translate it for ya....

The wife wouldnt let me out!

The organisers of the Cardiff social have a rule now, if you are on the list and drop out, you must have informed them before the social or else you go on the nawty list and dont get to go next time. Its unfair to those who are on the reserves list (the venue is huge but the social is always over-subscribed!!), so that should help. Personally I would also keep a list of the nawties, and have a "three strikes and you are out!" rule too.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha"

Go to a social..get verified...stop complaining

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Is that the toned ass you can't get verified they can kiss ? "

my thought exactly...some people really dont help themselves do they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is that the toned ass you can't get verified they can kiss ? "

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

A very good profile by all accounts......such a shame so far away

"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"

I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

As long as your not to knackered by the time you get here!! "

He will be.

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

A very good profile by all accounts......such a shame so far away

I'll say it again and again (as i do to ALL folk who contact me, complaint about the lack of meets....its simpl - get into chat rooms and/or go to a social! Works everytime!

"

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i don't think there is such as thing as tarring all single blokes with the same brush... and if you think there is then the trick for you is to show people you are different from the others, in your profile.. in your actions, in your words and in your deeds....

give people a reason to pick you and say "yes i have to meet that person!".. what seperates you from other people... whats your selling point...

see.. generalisations are too easy an excuse to lean back on... you shoulder some of the responsability... you get out what you put in!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"

I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

As long as your not to knackered by the time you get here!!

He will be. "

Bugger off lol - Save some for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am going on road trip to York, Sheffield, and then Aberdeen, which is where I think I might stay.......

"

Excellent profile. Perhaps you can start by heading down to Plymouth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldnt be hard 2 get verified if i wanted 2 be dishonest but im not...n im kind ov picky who id meet...unlike sum on ere that been ere a few month n got 30+ verifieds

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Wouldnt be hard 2 get verified if i wanted 2 be dishonest but im not...n im kind ov picky who id meet...unlike sum on ere that been ere a few month n got 30+ verifieds"

People having sex on a sex site? The nerve!!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses"

Too true.

The Beach Party is exactly the same. The ones that don't turn up are always the single men.

Femme is running this years Party, I know she is also going to run a "if you don't turn up and don't tell us" list they will be put on a "you won't be allowed to come to the next party" list.

We know who never turns up and its always the ones whinging that they can't get verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No hun that aint my issue was regards 2 the earlier post about me! not been verified.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"No hun that aint my issue was regards 2 the earlier post about me! not been verified."

I did get that, and I don't think its fair to comment about people not being verified. I meet non-verified men so it doesn't bother me. However its just as bad to comment on people having too many verifications and suggesting that they aren't fussy because of it. I have a LOT of verifications - doesn't mean I aint choosy!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Wouldnt be hard 2 get verified if i wanted 2 be dishonest but im not...n im kind ov picky who id meet...unlike sum on ere that been ere a few month n got 30+ verifieds"

Another male slut shaming...and ppl wonder why some get annoyed with single men

Its a site for people to meet to have sex, if people have lots of veris they are simply using the site to do that.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses

Too true.

The Beach Party is exactly the same. The ones that don't turn up are always the single men.

Femme is running this years Party, I know she is also going to run a "if you don't turn up and don't tell us" list they will be put on a "you won't be allowed to come to the next party" list.

We know who never turns up and its always the ones whinging that they can't get verified."

ohh i wondered when the next party was, if your absence would mean a break.

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over a year ago


"Wouldnt be hard 2 get verified if i wanted 2 be dishonest but im not...n im kind ov picky who id meet...unlike sum on ere that been ere a few month n got 30+ verifieds

People having sex on a sex site? The nerve!!"

My thoughts exactly!! Not sure someone is quite understanding the site they are on

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses

Too true.

The Beach Party is exactly the same. The ones that don't turn up are always the single men.

Femme is running this years Party, I know she is also going to run a "if you don't turn up and don't tell us" list they will be put on a "you won't be allowed to come to the next party" list.

We know who never turns up and its always the ones whinging that they can't get verified.

ohh i wondered when the next party was, if your absence would mean a break."

Femme is going to post the Beach Party details next week. I'll be there in spirit....

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses

Too true.

The Beach Party is exactly the same. The ones that don't turn up are always the single men.

Femme is running this years Party, I know she is also going to run a "if you don't turn up and don't tell us" list they will be put on a "you won't be allowed to come to the next party" list.

We know who never turns up and its always the ones whinging that they can't get verified.

ohh i wondered when the next party was, if your absence would mean a break.

Femme is going to post the Beach Party details next week. I'll be there in spirit.... "

Beach party spirit surrounded by marines...is that safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand wot the site 4...n male slut? lmao thats wot im trying 2 say i aint .hence i aint met any1 on ere as yet.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I understand wot the site 4...n male slut? lmao thats wot im trying 2 say i aint .hence i aint met any1 on ere as yet."

you really don't get how you are being offensive do you...

btw why the text speak, honest question, is it a way of being "cool"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand wot the site 4...n male slut? lmao thats wot im trying 2 say i aint .hence i aint met any1 on ere as yet.

you really don't get how you are being offensive do you...

btw why the text speak, honest question, is it a way of being "cool"?"

that would put me off chatting more than the lack of veri's...too much like hard work to translate it into english!! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well soz if i caused any offence...n no hun txt speak not 2 be cool thats jst how i chat like alot ov ppl...n i know sum dnt like it but thats there prob not mine.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Well soz if i caused any offence...n no hun txt speak not 2 be cool thats jst how i chat like alot ov ppl...n i know sum dnt like it but thats there prob not mine."

fine if u want to go through life being considered immature and uneducated, as you say not your problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol go through life like that?? u 1 ov 1st ppl ever 2 mention it n im doing nobody any harm n its never caused me a prob.so few ppl on ere dnt like it am sure i can live wiv that..n i could be uneducated..n if that puts sum1 off me cos i av spelling issues soz my bad.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Lol go through life like that?? u 1 ov 1st ppl ever 2 mention it n im doing nobody any harm n its never caused me a prob.so few ppl on ere dnt like it am sure i can live wiv that..n i could be uneducated..n if that puts sum1 off me cos i av spelling issues soz my bad."

who cares about spelling, its the attention seeking nature of choosing to write in a way that many cannot understand that comes across as immature and uneducated.

btw the offensive comment was re your use of the term slut, but i think i am sick of banging my head against a bricj wall...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol go through life like that?? u 1 ov 1st ppl ever 2 mention it n im doing nobody any harm n its never caused me a prob.so few ppl on ere dnt like it am sure i can live wiv that..n i could be uneducated..n if that puts sum1 off me cos i av spelling issues soz my bad."

maybe one of the first to mention it, but doubt one of the first to think it! i was only just pipped to the post with a similar comment. uneducated doesn't mean you can't spell...lots of educated people can't spell...it just comes across as lazy and as if you can't be bothered to put any effort into a conversation in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well thank you for your valuable information will leave you to it...

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"

the biggest problem here is when you do sort out socials the single guys who are winging on about not having verifications dont turn up to them and come out with alsorts of bull as excuses

Too true.

The Beach Party is exactly the same. The ones that don't turn up are always the single men.

Femme is running this years Party, I know she is also going to run a "if you don't turn up and don't tell us" list they will be put on a "you won't be allowed to come to the next party" list.

We know who never turns up and its always the ones whinging that they can't get verified.

ohh i wondered when the next party was, if your absence would mean a break.

Femme is going to post the Beach Party details next week. I'll be there in spirit....

Beach party spirit surrounded by marines...is that safe "

16,500 soldiers and a couple of hundred women.......... 53 degrees heat..... sand, sand and sand....... 82 hour weeks.

Like I'm gonna be fit for the Marines

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I assume it wasn't my original post you are referring to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh man another can't get to meet people post.....

here is a test, read my profile pick out the 3 most important words in it.

Oops! Should have attached the quote I was asking about.....so......I assume it wasn't my original post you are referring to?

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I have my face pic on my profile but I won't accommodate, so going by the above puts me at a disadvantage or I have something to hide.......

I used to accommodate but I was then harassed by a couple and a single female from another site some years back I decided that my accommodation days were numbered, not worth the hassle.

So now I will play at hotels........ And my private space remains private or available to those whom I feel comfortable inviting "

well it does put you at an disadvantage, but from what you said there you can accomodate, your just selective who you accomodate for, maybe its worth keeping it on your profile and just judge each case as you normally do

showing your face though is a good thing, its when u dont show and dont accomodate that the real alarm bells should ring that someone has something to hide.

you cant accomodate but anyone can see who you are so i wouldnt say you have anything to hide. but not accomodating does put you at a disadvantage.

stops you playing with people who need you to accomodate, and also they are some who only play at their own place, but if you wont accomodate they think why should i.

if i was you i'd probs put down you can accomodate and if any one asks you to after chatting just decide then and if you dont want to just tell them you dont like to until you met them at least once before and got to know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has been argued many times before, but there should be NO difference between a single male, female or a couple when it comes to accommodating and public face pics.

If (because this is a 'buyers market' where single guys are concerned) this means that I have to compromise my security, safety or principles then, quite frankly, anyone who expects me to do so just to get laid can just go fuck themselves, because I wont be doing so.

If its got to the point where the scene is so distrusting of single males that in order to stand any chance you have to play by someone else's rule set; I'm out.

One of the biggest complaints I hear is the 'any holes the goal' mentality of certain single males - where they will say anything or do anything to get in there. Well, just as insidious are those who would compromise the principals and values for the same end.

I see two clear choices :

a) Lets go to town on anyone suspected of cheating; who cant accommodate; who doesn't have a public face pic. Couples, single fem, single males, fuck buddy couples or couples who are married (but not to each other). You're all fair game.

or

b) Treat everyone fairly and as individuals. Realise that there are a myriad of reasons why someone doesn't post a public face pic or cant accommodate and stop assuming that single guys must be playing away from home or have something to hide.

I'm tired of the single guy bashing; its got old. Reading so many threads about it along with all the bad feeling and vitriol that is levied against guys has actually had a negative effect on me to the point where I no longer feel I can email couples or single fems to introduce myself. What's the point - I have no public face pic.

So there you go, one less genuine single guy messing up your in-boxes folks. Mission accomplished. "

its not single guy bashing, the guys asking for opinions on why he dont get the resposnses he hopes for and what he could do to improove this. i looked at his profile and these were the two major things guys get judged on that he was lacking in, other than that his profiles pretty good.

its not really about treating people fairly or anything, everyone has their preferences and what they prefer. if it was a dating site it would still be the same, those who dont show their face never stand a chance against those who do. people like to see who they are talking to, and they want someone genuine, so every negative point adds up , and if ur a single guy then netagive points count alot more than couples or women. its not fair but then its pointless moaning about it as its not something you can change.

i dont get why you dont feel like you cant email couples or singles though, nothings stopping you. sure you might not get the response you want because you dont show your face but at the end of the day it wont stop you getting meets if your what people are looking for, you will just find it takes alot longer in between each meet until you have enough verifications from the right people to make people over look the fact you only send pics in private.

not worth getting upset about as the people who not replying if your not going to change, they arnt and you were never meant to meet as your personal preferences dont match.

its far from single man bashing though, people think they are crap guys on here spoiling it for everyone else. but fact is if your one of the good genuine guys and can show that over your profile and messages you will find that people soon recognise that and you stand out above the crowd. you just have more of an uphill battle as you dont show your pics publically and have limited verficiations so your limited to people who dont mind no public pics who give people a chance. stick in and im sure things will get better as you go along.

no ones saying you have to change your principles to get laid, but if people ask why they get ignored or are struggling and they have stuff like that on their profile then they should know as not everyone realises how alot of people think.

you cant blame them if they want to avoid attached guys claiming to be single, its a pretty good way of cutting alot of them out even if its at the expense of genuine guys, but its not worth getting upset about as you probs were never going to meet them.

but i dont think you should be this down about things and not message anyone, if your not for them then you've lost nothing and someone will take a chance on you again as seems like you had a few meets anyways so dont know why you so down on trying for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It does not matter if you are a paying member or you have a face picture or you are verified nobody replys to message they just get ignored most of the profiles are fakes so it makes it even harder."

to be fair i never really have much a problem with fakes, i think some people assume alot more are fake profiles when alot are probs just people swamped with messages or they arnt interested. for me fakes would be ones that are overly too keen and talking way too much but with no action happening or if there is they change the goal posts and maybe female aint playing, but you can normally spot these sort of couples a mile off by reading the status updates and meet requests and remembering which of them advertised for MM meets only at one point or another

but even when messaging genuine profiles you don't get totally ignored, sure they are plenty who wont reply back, but looking at your profile what is there to reply back to you, you just have 2 photos of yourself which dont really show what you trueley look like and have next to nothing wrote for them to know what your like, just a rhyme about fucking lol! if you put more effort into your profile im sure more people would reply back to you as you do seem like you got a decent figure etc, but thats all you can see, your profile says kind of these are my two pics this is all you need to know about me, and most women want to know and see alot more before wanting to meet. if they cant they might not strike up that conversation you were hoping for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

A good way to get verified is to attend some of the socials that are regularly advertised.

Great idea. The last social I attended, the music was so loud the only way to have any conversation was to stand outside with the smokers.

You had to be anti social to be social!"

you could goto a club too, thats a good place to get verified, or look for local partys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol go through life like that?? u 1 ov 1st ppl ever 2 mention it n im doing nobody any harm n its never caused me a prob.so few ppl on ere dnt like it am sure i can live wiv that..n i could be uneducated..n if that puts sum1 off me cos i av spelling issues soz my bad."

yeah but they are probs the first people you come accross in a thread which is asking for profile advice and you were moaning about not getting meets, they are right they will be alot of people who start reading your profile and stop before they even get to the pics, as it can be hard to read

the people you message or who read your profile and dont message or reply, are the ones that dont say anything but think this.

it might be how you talk and type, but imagine if you were applying for a job you wouldnt write like that on your cv, even if thats how you text. because you woulnd want a potential employer to think the same

its not doing any harm but i bet it is costing you replies when you obv a good looking fella who probs could get some meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

A good way to get verified is to attend some of the socials that are regularly advertised.

Great idea. The last social I attended, the music was so loud the only way to have any conversation was to stand outside with the smokers.

You had to be anti social to be social!

you could goto a club too, thats a good place to get verified, or look for local partys "

I went to a local club. It was probably the most vile experience I had in my swinging life.

I will not play in an environment where there are jumbo rolls of industrial towelette and bottles of Dettol Anti-Bacterial spray next to each of the vinyl wipe-clean beds. Made me want to vomit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make your profile as truthful and representative of your personality as you can and those who you appeal to will be in touch or reply to messages sent.

Or thats whst I find anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

A good way to get verified is to attend some of the socials that are regularly advertised.

Great idea. The last social I attended, the music was so loud the only way to have any conversation was to stand outside with the smokers.

You had to be anti social to be social!

you could goto a club too, thats a good place to get verified, or look for local partys

I went to a local club. It was probably the most vile experience I had in my swinging life.

I will not play in an environment where there are jumbo rolls of industrial towelette and bottles of Dettol Anti-Bacterial spray next to each of the vinyl wipe-clean beds. Made me want to vomit.

"

I'm sure if you have a word with them they'll provide a bucket next time

It's people sat munching bloody cheese and onion crisps noisily whilst I'm trying to compose myself and get my end away I object to

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's people sat munching bloody cheese and onion crisps noisily whilst I'm trying to compose myself and get my end away I object to

Wolf

"

i'll take salt and vinegar with me next time then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's people sat munching bloody cheese and onion crisps noisily whilst I'm trying to compose myself and get my end away I object to

Wolf

i'll take salt and vinegar with me next time then "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's people sat munching bloody cheese and onion crisps noisily whilst I'm trying to compose myself and get my end away I object to

Wolf

i'll take salt and vinegar with me next time then "

Them smell of scampi frieswould be slightly off putting too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's people sat munching bloody cheese and onion crisps noisily whilst I'm trying to compose myself and get my end away I object to

Wolf

i'll take salt and vinegar with me next time then

Them smell of scampi frieswould be slightly off putting too!"

you are obviously a man of some experience !

nothing quite like being kissed by someone who has had a cider and scampi fries lunch !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just sicked a bit in my mouth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot pisses me off is if u aint verified most woman wont even chat 2 u. but how can u get verified if u cant even get a chat never mind a meet 2 be verified haha

A good way to get verified is to attend some of the socials that are regularly advertised.

Great idea. The last social I attended, the music was so loud the only way to have any conversation was to stand outside with the smokers.

You had to be anti social to be social!

you could goto a club too, thats a good place to get verified, or look for local partys

I went to a local club. It was probably the most vile experience I had in my swinging life.

I will not play in an environment where there are jumbo rolls of industrial towelette and bottles of Dettol Anti-Bacterial spray next to each of the vinyl wipe-clean beds. Made me want to vomit.

I'm sure if you have a word with them they'll provide a bucket next time

It's people sat munching bloody cheese and onion crisps noisily whilst I'm trying to compose myself and get my end away I object to

Wolf

"

Slightly off topic but are all clubs like this then? Is it all wipe clean vinyl and Dettol spray-guns or did I just manage to pick the worst club in Christendom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x"

I meet single men and i never shun them. ok some are tits and crazy but arent we all like that at times.

have fun and forget about the negative x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x

I meet single men and i never shun them. ok some are tits and crazy but arent we all like that at times.

have fun and forget about the negative x"

Tits, tits........ Who mentioned them mmmmm lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x

I meet single men and i never shun them. ok some are tits and crazy but arent we all like that at times.

have fun and forget about the negative x

Tits, tits........ Who mentioned them mmmmm lol"

im a tit at times when mine arent out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x

I meet single men and i never shun them. ok some are tits and crazy but arent we all like that at times.

have fun and forget about the negative x

Tits, tits........ Who mentioned them mmmmm lol

im a tit at times when mine arent out "

Should keep them out more often then ...... Think that's the lesson there

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over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x

I meet single men and i never shun them. ok some are tits and crazy but arent we all like that at times.

have fun and forget about the negative x

Tits, tits........ Who mentioned them mmmmm lol

im a tit at times when mine arent out

Should keep them out more often then ...... Think that's the lesson there "

i was told to keep warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, are all single males tarred with the same brush as being wierdos that are sex pests? I have only been on here a short while and whilst being lucky to have had a fantastic meet I am mostly ignored, deleted or politly turned down.

I realise a good percecntage of them might be cos I am no oil painting but I always seem to be shunned as soon as the single male part is mentioned......any thoughts? x

I meet single men and i never shun them. ok some are tits and crazy but arent we all like that at times.

have fun and forget about the negative x

Tits, tits........ Who mentioned them mmmmm lol

im a tit at times when mine arent out

Should keep them out more often then ...... Think that's the lesson there

i was told to keep warm "

Put the heating on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to many males to even consider meeting.Thats the truth. It's not a syndrome .

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Slightly off topic but are all clubs like this then? Is it all wipe clean vinyl and Dettol spray-guns or did I just manage to pick the worst club in Christendom?"

Well....yes. Unless you think its more hygienic to play on cotton sheets, which soak up all the bodily fluids of the people who play on there.

*heave*

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