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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

We wouldn't, but feel its a topic that gets a disproportionate response to others (like male bisexuality usually does too, for example).

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not to but from - doh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safe sex is always best. If your meeting people you dont really know, then you dont no who they been with. Keep the bareback for just you 2. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safe sex is always best. If your meeting people you dont really know, then you dont no who they been with. Keep the bareback for just you 2. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never ,,ur health is more important than sex ,,always use protection ,,,u cant always c infections so safe sex is best way

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

You may not wish to sleep with lots of people and those you meet may not say they sleep with lots of people, but they may have slept with someone who has.

So, I guess numbers don't really come into it.... as it only takes 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No Glove No Love.. simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do not bareback on meets with the meets.. we only ever bareback with each-other... whether that me at a meet or on our own...

and we don't think anyone else should.. but its their own choice... its a silly game to play but if you want to do it your gonna do it no matter what people say and what STI/D statistics say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok this is really not to judge but u say mature couples so i get that pregnancy may not be a risk but older generations is were the fast growth is for sexual dieases as now with internet and viagra its exactly this attuitude well pregnancy is not a worry and 'i don't sleep with many attitude i would risk it but u have to make the right choices for u x

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

as a soft swing couple its never really been an issue with us, but we did play the weekend, and the make half of th ecouple kept begging Em for a fuck, with no condom in sight.

i actually felt physically sick and, if i had heard it at the time, i would have called a stop to proceedings then and there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If its bare i dont go there simple

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

oo oo, i got one,..

if you wanna be a lover, put it under cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no brainer really, how much do you value your sexual health?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safe sex is always best. If your meeting people you dont really know, then you dont no who they been with. Keep the bareback for just you 2. Have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

You are both adults.. there are always risks in life.. You do what is right for you... just be honest with people and get yourself checked out.

Sex for me never feels right with a condom on...

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, thats what we were thinking, older doesnt mean wiser lol

and everyone is right its not about numbers

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Never accept with own partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah, thats what we were thinking, older doesnt mean wiser lol

and everyone is right its not about numbers"

To be honest most people are going to tell you that your mad to consider it... However I know that many say safe sex but don't practise.

Just discuss it and work out what is right for you.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not now, not ever....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to way up the pros and cons, how much you want to risk. We can only offer our view and advise. I always say if it ain't wrapped don't touch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, thats what we were thinking, older doesnt mean wiser lol

and everyone is right its not about numbers

To be honest most people are going to tell you that your mad to consider it... However I know that many say safe sex but don't practise.

Oh i think u are right, some done practice what they preach!!, we will chat it through, thanks guys

Just discuss it and work out what is right for you.

Cali "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

some of the most recent studies of sexually transmitted disease rates have shown marked increases in transmission in just that demographic group. theories vary but speculation is that the causes are that they no longer need contraception for birth control, are often recently separated or divorced later in life and believe that people in their age group are somehow safer because they've been mainly monogamous in their earlier years. clearly they're wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

safe play is a must , sorry but please lets be frank , this is a swingers site . a majority play safe but theres few who dont and do they really honestly know who they are fucking or who they have slept with. we are in a age of sexually transmitted diseases. my advice is play safe play clean .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never accept with own partner."

That, is an absolute classic!!!

(think maybe you might need and e and an x )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It surprises rhe amount of people who have " Practise safe sex" but you look at there pics and not a condom in sight. Especialy when its various cocks on display

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It surprises rhe amount of people who have " Practise safe sex" but you look at there pics and not a condom in sight. Especialy when its various cocks on display "

They make me laugh. Written in profile safe sex, only bareback with partner, and pictures of the female having sex with different guys, noticeable cos the cock colour is different. Unless of course the hubby has two cocks, one black and one white, and if he has then think of the demand they must be in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It surprises rhe amount of people who have " Practise safe sex" but you look at there pics and not a condom in sight. Especialy when its various cocks on display

They make me laugh. Written in profile safe sex, only bareback with partner, and pictures of the female having sex with different guys, noticeable cos the cock colour is different. Unless of course the hubby has two cocks, one black and one white, and if he has then think of the demand they must be in "

LOL that would be hilarious... white guy at a bbc party

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

I doubt anyone would actually put on their profile that they only want bareback cos of the response.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

i love to feel cum inside me.....but cos i only bb with him, that is quite special. Its something only we can have and no one else. Quite sweet in a dirty horny kinda way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I doubt anyone would actually put on their profile that they only want bareback cos of the response."

There are quite a lot that do..because they see it as why advertise for what they are not looking for..

Cali

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By *ibrosMan
over a year ago

harrow

We are responsible for our own health and must decide how we practice based on personal view of the risk. Unless you use condoms & dental dams for all oral play & avoid any genital contact before putting on a condom, you take some risk with every encounter.

There is no way to know or trust what your latest partners tells you about their health and previous practices.

Go to your local GUM clinic. They will tell you the facts about the risk of infection. Then you can make an informed decision regarding your own health. A regular check up will assure you that however you decide to play, you are clear at the time of the check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oo oo, i got one,..

if you wanna be a lover, put it under cover."

Oo oo, i got one also.........

If you don't want an infection underneath.......put it in a sheath .....Shall I get me coat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theyre are so getting worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are responsible for our own health and must decide how we practice based on personal view of the risk. Unless you use condoms & dental dams for all oral play & avoid any genital contact before putting on a condom, you take some risk with every encounter.

There is no way to know or trust what your latest partners tells you about their health and previous practices.

Go to your local GUM clinic. They will tell you the facts about the risk of infection. Then you can make an informed decision regarding your own health. A regular check up will assure you that however you decide to play, you are clear at the time of the check. "

Wise words. Scary Fact: Herpes can be transmitted from mouth to genitals, even when there are no visible sores. You can have an outbreak from two weeks to two months of transmission.

Oral anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm this is a funny one..

So im guessing your all against bareback???

Do you make the guys wear condoms when you have your meets and perform oral sex on him???

Or dont that bit matter??

Not saying letting loads of strangers cuming in your misses is good, but you gotta be naughty once in a while.

What is the cuck going to clean?....

The dishes....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

I think you will be fine as long as you play just with mature genuine couples. I mean everyone knows that STD's are age specific and tend to target fakes. So your logic is flawless and you will be fine - go for it.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire


"Theyre are so getting worse "

and on it goes lol

if you dont want an itchy packet, make him wear a jacket lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why this topic gets so heated sometimes. Such choices means people will be into different things sexually, which means chances of a meet are slim to none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

I'm amazed that you really have to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

I'm amazed that you really have to ask.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

if you dont want a sore crack, give him a rain mac

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If ya don't want to catch gonny.......stick on a johny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if ya don't want a manky root put on a rubber suit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't have a disease for a lodger, stick a rubber on ya todger

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

You lot are just making these up as you go along

Don't be silly, cover your willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You lot are just making these up as you go along

Don't be silly, cover your willy "

that's the general idea

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Surely, if you have to ask, you already know the answer

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By *imples_and_TBearCouple
over a year ago

bristol

In our opinion safe sex does not exist. There will always be an element of risk with strangers..perhaps even with people you think you know well.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Hmmm this is a funny one..

So im guessing your all against bareback???

Do you make the guys wear condoms when you have your meets and perform oral sex on him???

Or dont that bit matter??

Not saying letting loads of strangers cuming in your misses is good, but you gotta be naughty once in a while.

What is the cuck going to clean?....

The dishes....lol

"

I love it when people use this arguement... and actually laugh in a way because it kinda misses the point people are making....

at the end of the day it is about judging risk...

everything in life has risks..... whether that is crossing a road at a zebra crossing... or crossing the road in a middle of a 6 lane motorway with cars doing 70...

the only true form of safe sex is no sex whatsoever.... condoms are still only 98% safe when used "perfectly" and everything else goes down from there...

so are people against bareback... sure because the risk of catching something is much higher that not using something... catching something thru oral sex is again a much lower risk... so it is all about judging risk...

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "
We dont do it and we dont even feel the need to do it either.Id rather stay without meeting.Also we have never even met anyone who asked 4 it as we r quite clear on our profile wot we r after and will not change 4 it anyone .i am that ure even asking this question

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "
We dont do it and we dont even feel the need to do it either.Id rather stay without meeting.Also we have never even met anyone who asked 4 it as we r quite clear on our profile wot we r after and will not change 4 it anyone .i am that ure even asking this question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't have sex with strangers and be 100% safe but we can be as safe as we can make it.

We've had some great times swinging but, in retrospect, none worth dying for.

So its condoms only for us.

XXXX

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"We can't have sex with strangers and be 100% safe but we can be as safe as we can make it.

We've had some great times swinging but, in retrospect, none worth dying for.

So its condoms only for us.

XXXX"

Amen to that! Nicely put...

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

As long as you are giving oral without protection as almost everyone on here does, you are barebacking so enough of the self righteous comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as you are giving oral without protection as almost everyone on here does, you are barebacking so enough of the self righteous comments."

self righteous. Give over yourself

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By *obinhood-maidmarionCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

It is entirely down to the individuals and how you percieve risk. Alot of people on this thread say they are totally against bareback which is down to thier choices. However we as a couple have done bare back with people we have met more than once.

We only play safe with single men regardless of how many times we may meet them, we play safe first time around with couples but might go bareback if both parties are willing at a later date.

We figure (wether nievely or not) that the risk is much much smaller with couples (not fb) but thats just us

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

All sex is a risk if you have multiple sex partners. Going bareback means you place yourself on the highest end of the risk spectrum.

That said, I don't judge people who choose to play bareback. We're all adults with free will and can do what we want with our bodies.

Besides, while having a "No Bareback" policy puts you at the low end of the risk spectrum, it is by no means a guarantee that you're fully protected. It gives you peace of mind that you've taken action to protect yourself. But it doesn't mean you're protected against stuff like genital warts, herpes, etc.., which do not need penetrative sex to be passed on.., especially when you practice oral sex.

On the balance of probability, using condoms is the safest option but for those who choose not to, hope your luck holds up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "

I would say no as there are always risks involved. Some acts of intimacy are more risky than others so you make your own choice. Everyone is after all responsible for their own sexual health but you are also responsible for being honest with others you intend to play with about your past sexual activity and if you have used precautions or not.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"We are responsible for our own health and must decide how we practice based on personal view of the risk. Unless you use condoms & dental dams for all oral play & avoid any genital contact before putting on a condom, you take some risk with every encounter.

There is no way to know or trust what your latest partners tells you about their health and previous practices.

Go to your local GUM clinic. They will tell you the facts about the risk of infection. Then you can make an informed decision regarding your own health. A regular check up will assure you that however you decide to play, you are clear at the time of the check. "

+1

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"All sex is a risk if you have multiple sex partners. Going bareback means you place yourself on the highest end of the risk spectrum.

That said, I don't judge people who choose to play bareback. We're all adults with free will and can do what we want with our bodies.

Besides, while having a "No Bareback" policy puts you at the low end of the risk spectrum, it is by no means a guarantee that you're fully protected. It gives you peace of mind that you've taken action to protect yourself. But it doesn't mean you're protected against stuff like genital warts, herpes, etc.., which do not need penetrative sex to be passed on.., especially when you practice oral sex.

On the balance of probability, using condoms is the safest option but for those who choose not to, hope your luck holds up."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as you are giving oral without protection as almost everyone on here does, you are barebacking so enough of the self righteous comments."

Here Here the best answer we have seen on this question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bareback, well. I can understand two married cpls that play together and no other swingers, that do bb. But to randomly play with who ever wid no protection is just askin for bother. the risks are high enough through oral, we all know it feels nicer skin on skin, but it aint worth it. Rubber up !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it wasn't for your wellies where would you be, you'd be in the hospital or std clinic, always cover up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as you are giving oral without protection as almost everyone on here does, you are barebacking so enough of the self righteous comments.

Here Here the best answer we have seen on this question "

Sheezzzz it appears I’ve missed out on yet another "practical involvement" fabswingers survey….!. sigh !

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"As long as you are giving oral without protection as almost everyone on here does, you are barebacking so enough of the self righteous comments.

Here Here the best answer we have seen on this question "

May be good as a confidence booster for those that choose to go bareback, but not really that clever!

There is risk in all sexualy encounters, but that risk can be heavily dependant on how you play. Bareback with multiple partners for full sex is probably the most risky situation there is. Oral without condoms or some other form of protection may be a risk, but it is a much lesser risk and one that people are prepared to take!

That comment about being self righteous is just a smoke screen. It covers that some on here make the informed choice not to cover up because they believe that they can play the odds! Trouble with human nature is we never believe it will happen to us, but life has a way of biting ya bum when you are least expecting it.

But of course, people have free will and they calculate the risks and decide what is best for them! But ask yourself.. How would you feel if you caught something from someone one night and a few weeks later, before your next GUM clinic appointment, you gave it to other people? How would you feel about having to tell them?

Of course, that is assuming you go to GUM clinics! The number on here who say they do, the clinics would be overrun if you extrapolate that across the population!

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By *utty tartWoman
over a year ago

the house of sin

NO QUESTION TO ASK. NNNNOOOOTTTT NO GLOVE NO LOVE

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"oo oo, i got one,..

if you wanna be a lover, put it under cover."

Can I have a go...

If you dont want the pox..put on the rubber sock..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be a fool, cover your tool

Don't be silly, cover your willy

Don't be a mong, cover your shlong

Don't be a prick, cover your dick

Wrap your whacker before you attack her

Put on a skin before you shove it in

*I'm here all week!*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many have stated reduce the risk where a rubber. I do. Dont ask others to go bareback.

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

UK

Why would anyone even consider bareback especially in a swinging scenerio. Has the effect of HIV infection make no sense atall?

How would anyone even feel getting infected with this death-penalty disease and carelessly or knowingly infecting others?

Please lets make swinging fun and not make it unpopular with barebacking. We not pornstars, are we?

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

UK


"It is entirely down to the individuals and how you percieve risk. Alot of people on this thread say they are totally against bareback which is down to thier choices. However we as a couple have done bare back with people we have met more than once.

We only play safe with single men regardless of how many times we may meet them, we play safe first time around with couples but might go bareback if both parties are willing at a later date.

We figure (wether nievely or not) that the risk is much much smaller with couples (not fb) but thats just us"

The risk is as high with couples aswell as with singles. Some couples do not mind barebacking with singles. And when you do meet such couples, your risk go far higher.

As for me, i only do bareback with close buddy after both certified through Gum-clinic and a promise between us we protect ourselves if we do decide to meet others. That in itself is a risk but atleast you tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bare is best

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Hypothetical question...

Conditions, you have to have sex with one of the following...

Person 'A' Always uses a condom, goes to swingers clubs every weekend and has full sex with on average with 3 new/different people every week.

Person 'B' never uses a condom but only has sex with 1 new/different person per year.

Which will you choose? and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Re hypothetical question... I'd feel safer with person A. I have friends who have a hell of a lot of sex and I'd still do them because I know they take precautions...

And as you may be able to tell from the above, I always use condoms with anyone who isn't my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lets face it. we all want and love bareback but it's just not safe.

gutted.

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

For us it's almost always bareback. I can never get it up with a condom on and it ends up being a wasted night, so we meet mature couples and generally weigh the risk... Thing is you only live once (YOLO) so enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us it's almost always bareback. I can never get it up with a condom on and it ends up being a wasted night, so we meet mature couples and generally weigh the risk... Thing is you only live once (YOLO) so enjoy it! "

you do only live once... hence i don't want to live my life with aids... or hepatitis or etc etc etc

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"For us it's almost always bareback. I can never get it up with a condom on and it ends up being a wasted night, so we meet mature couples and generally weigh the risk... Thing is you only live once (YOLO) so enjoy it!

you do only live once... hence i don't want to live my life with aids... or hepatitis or etc etc etc"
well so long as you can tell me that every time you've ever given or received oral you used a condom or some sort of protection then you're safe from the evil clutches of AIDS, till then you're at risk... Plus I can bet you've met more couples or played in the scene three times as more than we have in 3 years, do the math!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It surprises rhe amount of people who have " Practise safe sex" but you look at there pics and not a condom in sight. Especialy when its various cocks on display "

funny i noticed that too!!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yer safe sex is best and can be fun,, if not safe make sure its clean lol

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

These safe-sex v bare-back threads always amuse me. Most if not all end up in fight...

You are bonkers/irresponsible/suicidal etc. if you play bare-back.

People who insist on safe-sex are wonderful pillars of society, will never catch an STI and live forever.

Some one made the comment, '.. and how will you feel when you pass something onto someone else!' Like if you use a condom its impossible for that to happen?

I wouldn't shout the odds about how much safer using a condom is because I don't think anyone really knows.

Now I know everyone has their way of doing it but a typical sexual event with us might involve an hour or two of sexual play but the penis/vagina penetrative fucking part will only be brief part of the whole event.

So with all the body contact, kissing, snogging, licking etc. how does the fucking part figure in terms of additional risk?

A woman might go to a club and suck-off 10 guys but only have penetrative sex with one... what's the risk factor there?

How many of you guys wash your hands before going from fingering one pussy to the next? How many women have a mouth-wash in between sucking one cock to the next?

OK so lets agree bare-back is more risky than using a condom BUT you could be MUCH safer if you considered and protect against cross contamination...

So are you irresponsible/suicidal if you do not wash in between changing partners during a session?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always wear a condom for penetration, but even im being a bit hypocritical as i dont put a condom over my tongue when im going down on a gal! each to their own i suppose! a condom is more for peace of mind i think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what i find odd is that most of us fuck our partners bare - even bf/gf.

so....how come that's not a deal???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those dissing condoms/safe sex ....if no one practised 'safe sex' ....would you feel so safe going bareback knowing that HIV and AIDS is rife? (face it... it would be, just like it is in Africa).

As someone said earlier in the thread ...it only takes one, never a truer word spoken.

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

UK


"For us it's almost always bareback. I can never get it up with a condom on and it ends up being a wasted night, so we meet mature couples and generally weigh the risk... Thing is you only live once (YOLO) so enjoy it! "

Not able to get it up with a condom on sometimes happen to us blokes, but its what we have to live with. The technique that works for me in that situation is to force the condom on the non-erect or almost half erect penis, then force it inside the pussy and by your 4th to 5th thrust, erection should come automatically. Its not rocket science, its just like reading HELEN SINGER KAPLAN book 'How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation'

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By *estless in batterseaMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"For us it's almost always bareback. I can never get it up with a condom on and it ends up being a wasted night, so we meet mature couples and generally weigh the risk... Thing is you only live once (YOLO) so enjoy it!

Not able to get it up with a condom on sometimes happen to us blokes, but its what we have to live with. The technique that works for me in that situation is to force the condom on the non-erect or almost half erect penis, then force it inside the pussy and by your 4th to 5th thrust, erection should come automatically. Its not rocket science, its just like reading HELEN SINGER KAPLAN book 'How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation' "
Jolley I shall try your hypothesis and if it works I shall bestow you with land and a knighthood

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By *ussy-StretcherMan
over a year ago

UK


"These safe-sex v bare-back threads always amuse me. Most if not all end up in fight...

You are bonkers/irresponsible/suicidal etc. if you play bare-back.

People who insist on safe-sex are wonderful pillars of society, will never catch an STI and live forever.

Some one made the comment, '.. and how will you feel when you pass something onto someone else!' Like if you use a condom its impossible for that to happen?

I wouldn't shout the odds about how much safer using a condom is because I don't think anyone really knows.

Now I know everyone has their way of doing it but a typical sexual event with us might involve an hour or two of sexual play but the penis/vagina penetrative fucking part will only be brief part of the whole event.

So with all the body contact, kissing, snogging, licking etc. how does the fucking part figure in terms of additional risk?

A woman might go to a club and suck-off 10 guys but only have penetrative sex with one... what's the risk factor there?

How many of you guys wash your hands before going from fingering one pussy to the next? How many women have a mouth-wash in between sucking one cock to the next?

OK so lets agree bare-back is more risky than using a condom BUT you could be MUCH safer if you considered and protect against cross contamination...

So are you irresponsible/suicidal if you do not wash in between changing partners during a session?"

For the sake of barebacking and sexing and licking and hornying or whatever that is, you're 'fuckin' bang on order there bro

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"Some one made the comment, '.. and how will you feel when you pass something onto someone else!' Like if you use a condom its impossible for that to happen?"

That was me and of course I know that infections can be passed even when precautions are taken.. But if you do the quiz of the NHS "checkurself" web site, you will see that protected sex is 98% better than unprotected sex!


"I wouldn't shout the odds about how much safer using a condom is because I don't think anyone really knows."

See above!


"Now I know everyone has their way of doing it but a typical sexual event with us might involve an hour or two of sexual play but the penis/vagina penetrative fucking part will only be brief part of the whole event."

And if a person is infected and hasn't told you or doesn't know, how many times and what duration of sex does it take to infect another?


"So with all the body contact, kissing, snogging, licking etc. how does the fucking part figure in terms of additional risk?"

See above!


"A woman might go to a club and suck-off 10 guys but only have penetrative sex with one... what's the risk factor there?"

See above!


"How many of you guys wash your hands before going from fingering one pussy to the next? How many women have a mouth-wash in between sucking one cock to the next?"

I agree, it does increase the risk, but it is still much less than full penetrative sex. It is all about risk assessment for us and although there are some risks we are prepared to accept, bareback full sex is not one of them.

And it also gives the reason why we don't play with anyone who play full sex bareback! If they get an infection, even if they agree to use condoms with us, they could still pass on an infection...

For those who think that bareback sex with more mature couples and singles is a safer bet? Over the last decade, the over 45's infection rate has doubled to over 13000 cases! The largest growth area of all...

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By *gracarCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We go with the flow, if all are happy bare it is.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Hi, hows do most couples feel about bareback on meets?? As a couple we dont have lots of meets or neither do we intend 2 and only play with mature genuine couples. So taking that into account, we are faced with the question of, should we consider bareback???? "
I cant believe that you are asking the question to be honest....

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"These safe-sex v bare-back threads always amuse me. Most if not all end up in fight...

You are bonkers/irresponsible/suicidal etc. if you play bare-back.

People who insist on safe-sex are wonderful pillars of society, will never catch an STI and live forever.

Some one made the comment, '.. and how will you feel when you pass something onto someone else!' Like if you use a condom its impossible for that to happen?

I wouldn't shout the odds about how much safer using a condom is because I don't think anyone really knows.

Now I know everyone has their way of doing it but a typical sexual event with us might involve an hour or two of sexual play but the penis/vagina penetrative fucking part will only be brief part of the whole event.

So with all the body contact, kissing, snogging, licking etc. how does the fucking part figure in terms of additional risk?

A woman might go to a club and suck-off 10 guys but only have penetrative sex with one... what's the risk factor there?

How many of you guys wash your hands before going from fingering one pussy to the next? How many women have a mouth-wash in between sucking one cock to the next?

OK so lets agree bare-back is more risky than using a condom BUT you could be MUCH safer if you considered and protect against cross contamination...

So are you irresponsible/suicidal if you do not wash in between changing partners during a session?

For the sake of barebacking and sexing and licking and hornying or whatever that is, you're 'fuckin' bang on order there bro "

It was simply a question for debate, how can that be 'bang out of order'? I wasn't trying to convince anyone of anything, just 'asking' a question

No one can argue that using a condom is not safer, stands to reason that it is to a greater or lesser degree.

The fact of being an active swinger typically results in having sexual activity with a multitude of different partners. Essentially its a sexually promiscuous life style which is absolutely NOT practicing safe-sex.

What is 'bang out of order' is people shouting the odds about safe-sex when the only part of the principal of sex-sex that engage in is using a condom.

Everything else they do by the fact of leading a sexually promiscuous life style is NOT safe-sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex wins hands down but I've seen guys lose their erection trying to put a condom on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did say last time that I would not comment on such threads again, however...

There is more than one innoculation route with bacterial infections and viruses. There's also a route via the nasal linings and the eye. You have only to inhale droplets (poss. liquid ingress into nostrils) or wipe your eye to effect transmission. This is the same for a cold (Rhinovirus) as any other. Viruses and bacteria are much smaller than cells for a specific reason! I think that it is possible that there is more than one route that leads to rome, as these are areas where blood vessels lay close to the surface and viruses bacteria and the like have a possible entry route.

Without the opinions of a specialist it's purely guesswork. I should add at this stage that I do believe a condom is the best of a bad job (hence thankfully it's widespread advocacy) to avoid transmission, but it is by no means absolute, and as I have said before to dwell on the medical histories of others would be a big turn-off and make me seriously contemplate non-involvement, even when playing safely using such prophylactics.

Further reading, potentially...

Bacterial Infections of Humans: Epidemiology and Control

By Alfred S. Evans, Philip S. Brachman

Available at google books.

Wolf

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By *almh5Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

For me it's less about diseases and more about being dragged on Jeremy Kyle in 10 months time having to explain all about my business to get a DNA test!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's less about diseases and more about being dragged on Jeremy Kyle in 10 months time having to explain all about my business to get a DNA test! "

Lmao.....best comment yet! Imagine! X

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"For me it's less about diseases and more about being dragged on Jeremy Kyle in 10 months time having to explain all about my business to get a DNA test!

Lmao.....best comment yet! Imagine! X"

many a truth has been said in jest ...

most remarks about bareback in these forums concentrate on STD's ...

very rarely do they consider the 'other issue' of egg fertilisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me it's less about diseases and more about being dragged on Jeremy Kyle in 10 months time having to explain all about my business to get a DNA test!

Lmao.....best comment yet! Imagine! X

many a truth has been said in jest ...

most remarks about bareback in these forums concentrate on STD's ...

very rarely do they consider the 'other issue' of egg fertilisation "

I think even if someone is playing safe and only using condoms and swinging then its a bit risky... I do on occasion play bare... But I've also got implant and take the pill.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We go with the flow, if all are happy bare it is."

We have to agree with Agracar.

If everyone is happy with it then we see no problem with going bare.

We know its a risk but so is crossing a busy road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course its a risk. Before being married both of us slept with many partners over the years without any problem whatsoever. On the other hand I was in a road accident which took me to the very brink.

Since beginning swinging we have enjoyed bareback sex on a few occasions when the mood takes us & will probably again (any sexy couples feel free to say hi at this point).

On at least one other occasion condoms have burst.

Its all a matter of chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

me no daft, me no silly

me wear, condom on me willy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're having sex with different people regularly, i just can't see the logic in having unprotected sex. Far too risky for my liking.

I hate condoms but better to be safe(r) than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how unsafe is it for a partner to have 2 men cum in her mouth???(fantasy of mine)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No doubt someone on the site will give you a specific answer but as I am sure you already will have realised it is less risky than unprotected full sex but not without some risk.

The safest sex of all is of course simply fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how unsafe is it for a partner to have 2 men cum in her mouth???(fantasy of mine)?"

not sure that you can assess the risks in the count of its "x" amount.. but for instance I must have had hundreds of guys cum in my mouth in the last year.. and not had a single issue.

Its all about what is right for you.. its more risky than no one else cumming in her mouth, but Not really much more than having oral unprotected.. as the mouth has saliva which helps.

Cali

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