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By *icada 3301 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon / London

Hi everyone,

I was wondering if any sapiosexuals on here wouldn't mind having a quick look at my profile and let me know if it seems appealing to you?

Although I am only looking for women, feedback from all sapios is appreciated because I don't believe this would really make a difference as far as the profile goes

Also I realise I do not have a profile picture yet, this is because I have not decided what type of picture I wish to use (idea's also welcome).

Thanks guys, gals and aliens x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I read an article, must've been the Guardian, that the term Sapiosexuals is off putting a form of snobbery. Especially when seen on dating profiles, I used to have it on my Tinder but removed it as I thought I could come across wrong.

However I've never really seen it on here, so who knows good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a sapiosexual sorry but it looks ok to me.

I don't know if women bother reading profiles or if they just look at pics. Probably choose your profile pic wisely. Something bright that stands out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

I was wondering if any sapiosexuals on here wouldn't mind having a quick look at my profile and let me know if it seems appealing to you?

Although I am only looking for women, feedback from all sapios is appreciated because I don't believe this would really make a difference as far as the profile goes

Also I realise I do not have a profile picture yet, this is because I have not decided what type of picture I wish to use (idea's also welcome).

Thanks guys, gals and aliens x"

I doubt most people will read past the first couple of lines. I think you should structure your profile description the way you would a CV (e.g. use bullet points, be very concise and avoid walls of text)

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks

I have a long history of developing wild crushes on men I was previously not sexually attracted to based on their knowledge and passion for a subject that interests me but I know little about. So I guess I meet your criteria.

The main comment I'd make about your profile is that you don't name any of the subjects you'd like to talk about! If we went for a walk would you be pointing out animal tracks, explaining the physics behind the cloud formations or showing me what to look for to find evidence of an iron age settlement? Or would you be ranting about the latest political injustice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs Cagey here- I talk to men on my own just for the chat and banter ( not cyber sex stuff ). I like to be mentally stimulated and can be attracted more to a mind than just appearance. That said photos help, I like photos that aren’t just a cock, or a blurry face. Something that shows a bit of a person or a leading/teasing photo especially since you say that’s interesting.

I think all that puts me off is a bit that you feel unable to sell yourself without also putting others down. You can discuss your interests, your intelligence and your preferences without having to say you’re not one of the zombie mass, that would be obvious with discussion of yourself . I am hesitant when people insist they’re not like everyone else. It reads a bit superior and condescending to me which would make me uncertain.

Your sense of humour comes through and honestly I’ve come across many men here with a great sense of humour who can and do enjoy a wordy chat despite all those who can not. Stand out by being yourself.

Hopefully I’ve not been too harsh. A sense of humour and being intelligent, able to converse and have lots of passion are all wonderful qualities and what I look for on my own when chatting with men.

Sorry for the delete I accidentally did it and had to go back and try and find my words again!

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Sapiosexual.....? Will someone explain please. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sapiosexual.....? Will someone explain please. Thank you"

Someone who finds intelligence the most attractive quality.

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By *icada 3301 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon / London


"I have a long history of developing wild crushes on men I was previously not sexually attracted to based on their knowledge and passion for a subject that interests me but I know little about. So I guess I meet your criteria.

The main comment I'd make about your profile is that you don't name any of the subjects you'd like to talk about! If we went for a walk would you be pointing out animal tracks, explaining the physics behind the cloud formations or showing me what to look for to find evidence of an iron age settlement? Or would you be ranting about the latest political injustice?"

Thank you. I actually avoided putting in any specific subjects, the reason being that if I put say politics, it could easily put some people off, or physics they could think what a boring subject. I was only really trying to get across that rather than being a one liner "wanna fuck, here is my cock" guy, I am much more interested in them as a person. If that makes sense?

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By *icada 3301 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon / London


"Mrs Cagey here- I talk to men on my own just for the chat and banter ( not cyber sex stuff ). I like to be mentally stimulated and can be attracted more to a mind than just appearance. That said photos help, I like photos that aren’t just a cock, or a blurry face. Something that shows a bit of a person or a leading/teasing photo especially since you say that’s interesting.

I think all that puts me off is a bit that you feel unable to sell yourself without also putting others down. You can discuss your interests, your intelligence and your preferences without having to say you’re not one of the zombie mass, that would be obvious with discussion of yourself . I am hesitant when people insist they’re not like everyone else. It reads a bit superior and condescending to me which would make me uncertain.

Your sense of humour comes through and honestly I’ve come across many men here with a great sense of humour who can and do enjoy a wordy chat despite all those who can not. Stand out by being yourself.

Hopefully I’ve not been too harsh. A sense of humour and being intelligent, able to converse and have lots of passion are all wonderful qualities and what I look for on my own when chatting with men.

Sorry for the delete I accidentally did it and had to go back and try and find my words again! "

Hi cagey,

Thank you this is helpful.

I agree I was putting others down, I guess it comes from being on a couples profile and fed up with the volume of guys being this way. I am only really average intelligence, it is simply that compared to our experience on Fab and by what others say on the forums, the fact that I like to talk and write a lot would probably work to my advantage so to speak.

Would it be ok for me to message you? Because I would like to be a little more specific about a few points, just off a public forum and ask for your help

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks


"

Thank you. I actually avoided putting in any specific subjects, the reason being that if I put say politics, it could easily put some people off, or physics they could think what a boring subject. I was only really trying to get across that rather than being a one liner "wanna fuck, here is my cock" guy, I am much more interested in them as a person. If that makes sense? "

Being interested in them as a person isn't the same as trying to attract someone who's interested in your mind. And if they find the subjects that fascinate you boring, then it's not a good match.

I tend to translate 'wide range of subjects' as 'competent at Googling and spouting bullshit convincingly'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mrs Cagey here- I talk to men on my own just for the chat and banter ( not cyber sex stuff ). I like to be mentally stimulated and can be attracted more to a mind than just appearance. That said photos help, I like photos that aren’t just a cock, or a blurry face. Something that shows a bit of a person or a leading/teasing photo especially since you say that’s interesting.

I think all that puts me off is a bit that you feel unable to sell yourself without also putting others down. You can discuss your interests, your intelligence and your preferences without having to say you’re not one of the zombie mass, that would be obvious with discussion of yourself . I am hesitant when people insist they’re not like everyone else. It reads a bit superior and condescending to me which would make me uncertain.

Your sense of humour comes through and honestly I’ve come across many men here with a great sense of humour who can and do enjoy a wordy chat despite all those who can not. Stand out by being yourself.

Hopefully I’ve not been too harsh. A sense of humour and being intelligent, able to converse and have lots of passion are all wonderful qualities and what I look for on my own when chatting with men.

Sorry for the delete I accidentally did it and had to go back and try and find my words again!

Hi cagey,

Thank you this is helpful.

I agree I was putting others down, I guess it comes from being on a couples profile and fed up with the volume of guys being this way. I am only really average intelligence, it is simply that compared to our experience on Fab and by what others say on the forums, the fact that I like to talk and write a lot would probably work to my advantage so to speak.

Would it be ok for me to message you? Because I would like to be a little more specific about a few points, just off a public forum and ask for your help "
yeah it would be ok, thanks for asking first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the part about brain cells and referring to most guys having one in their head and the other in their trousers, wasn’t needed.

I’m personally put off by profiles that speak negatively or not so nice on other members, there’s no need to mention them in my opinion.

I find intelligence incredibly sexy but if they aren’t the full package I’m not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intellect is arousing, but so are good manners and wit.

I think there's some very constructive advice for you on this thread, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sapiosexual = pseudo intellectual who likes a fuck, i.e. 86% of fab.

You'll do well OP

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

bolton


"Hi everyone,

I was wondering if any sapiosexuals on here wouldn't mind having a quick look at my profile and let me know if it seems appealing to you?

Although I am only looking for women, feedback from all sapios is appreciated because I don't believe this would really make a difference as far as the profile goes

Also I realise I do not have a profile picture yet, this is because I have not decided what type of picture I wish to use (idea's also welcome).

Thanks guys, gals and aliens x"

This site just keeps on giving

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it comes across a bit arrogant and trying too hard. Intellect is often best borne lightly.

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop


"Hi everyone,

I was wondering if any sapiosexuals on here wouldn't mind having a quick look at my profile and let me know if it seems appealing to you?

Although I am only looking for women, feedback from all sapios is appreciated because I don't believe this would really make a difference as far as the profile goes

Also I realise I do not have a profile picture yet, this is because I have not decided what type of picture I wish to use (idea's also welcome).

Thanks guys, gals and aliens x"

I was quite interested until I found out you’re part of a couple.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I suspect sapiosexuals don’t need to ask, they have the means to read posts and decide what attracts them.

Equally, I find the goldfish in my pond fascinating.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"I think it comes across a bit arrogant and trying too hard. Intellect is often best borne lightly. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely intelligence and a certain level of sophistication should naturally come across in a profile without having to make that the main focus?

Unfortunately, your profile only reinforces the idea that the majority of sapiosexuals are deeply insecure pseudo-intellectuals who have to look down at others in order to put themselves on a pedestal.

Especially with lines like "I can promise that you have never met somebody like me before." which sounds like it was hooked straight from the softboi handbook.

Take the advice on this thread and tone down the obnoxiousness OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely intelligence and a certain level of sophistication should naturally come across in a profile without having to make that the main focus?

Unfortunately, your profile only reinforces the idea that the majority of sapiosexuals are deeply insecure pseudo-intellectuals who have to look down at others in order to put themselves on a pedestal.

Especially with lines like "I can promise that you have never met somebody like me before." which sounds like it was hooked straight from the softboi handbook.

Take the advice on this thread and tone down the obnoxiousness OP."

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By *icada 3301 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon / London

Thank you everyone for your constructive criticism. I honestly didn't mean for it to be so condescending as it sounds and that has really helped. I am actually quite embarrassed by it now

A couple of people have mentioned the sentence "I can promise that you have never met somebody like me before". I had a guy feeling this was the wrong way to phrase it, it actually has nothing to do with intelligence at all.

I think I need to rewrite a lot of it to be honest

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

I think it depends how you define snobbery. Meaning... One person's snobby behaviour may only rub certain types of people the wrong way.

If you're intelligent imo you don't need to point it out. That comes across in the way you talk and act and the types of conversations you can have. And I think it pays to be a down to earth person who can have conversations with all types of people rather than just intelligent ones. Intelligence is subjective really. If you're a complete dumbass you might think you're intelligent when actually you're just an idiot who thinks they're smart.

As for being sapiosexual. Wouldn't it be better to write that you find intelligence the most attractive quality so that people who don't know how to use Google understand what it is and then you don't come across as being douchey off the bat.

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By *icada 3301 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon / London


" come across as being douchey off the bat. "

Now, now little miss bratty. Has somebody not had TheEvilDEEPWithin for a while?

Just so people know, we met on Fab a while ago and talk on whatsapp. I didn't just say that to a random person lol

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley


" come across as being douchey off the bat.

Now, now little miss bratty. Has somebody not had TheEvilDEEPWithin for a while?

Just so people know, we met on Fab a while ago and talk on whatsapp. I didn't just say that to a random person lol"

Hahaha

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