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By *arebackfuckslut19 OP   Woman
over a year ago

in the van /travle lodge

I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't like profiles with massive list of likes and don't likes then they say cant accomadate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bareback is a massively divisive issue on here so you're always gonna get negative attention if you're into it. You just need to let it go over your head, and continue to do what you want, how you want to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you do is up to you, least your upfront about it. It's idiotic messages and opinions like that which makes people not be honest

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"don't like profiles with massive list of likes and don't likes then they say cant accomadate!"

What's that got to do with the OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think what OP is getting at is that if you see someone has a preference that you don't like, why message them and tell them that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you feel is right for you. There will always be someone who has an opinion and wants to shout louder than anyone else.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think what OP is getting at is that if you see someone has a preference that you don't like, why message them and tell them that?

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Indeed.

I sometimes get messages from smokers telling me that I should meet them despite what my profile says. I'm discriminating!

I'm trying not to get sick, you morons, piss off.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

get Similar for being fat.

I just completely ignore the message leave it sat unread for weeks knowing that probably bugs the shit out of them that I don’t care what they think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"don't like profiles with massive list of likes and don't likes then they say cant accomadate!

What's that got to do with the OP? "
its just another way of people not saying what they mean or meaning what they say, its just a opinion along similar lines!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get Similar for being fat.

I just completely ignore the message leave it sat unread for weeks knowing that probably bugs the shit out of them that I don’t care what they think "

Exactly... Fuck em

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"get Similar for being fat.

I just completely ignore the message leave it sat unread for weeks knowing that probably bugs the shit out of them that I don’t care what they think "

I mention going to the gym on my statuses and get equal messages telling me that I need to and that I should stop because I'm perfect. The latter ones sometimes get upset and abusive when I don't reply

But more on the topic, I also get abuse for my preferences.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"don't like profiles with massive list of likes and don't likes then they say cant accomadate!

What's that got to do with the OP? its just another way of people not saying what they mean or meaning what they say, its just a opinion along similar lines!

"

Err. They like sex but not in their house. That sounds perfectly clear to me. And nothing to do with the OP at all.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP we all get rude messages - it's just the subject matter that's different.

Just do what the rest of us do - report if they are abusive and block.

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By *arebackfuckslut19 OP   Woman
over a year ago

in the van /travle lodge


"get Similar for being fat.

I just completely ignore the message leave it sat unread for weeks knowing that probably bugs the shit out of them that I don’t care what they think "

I might do the same thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see any point in being abusive as in sending out an unsolicited nasty message but then if someone mails you and clearly doesn't read your profile then I am not going to ne nicey nicey with them as I deem them to be rude to ignore my profile and message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get Similar for being fat.

I just completely ignore the message leave it sat unread for weeks knowing that probably bugs the shit out of them that I don’t care what they think "

Is this from only men? People are so fucking cruel. I think you look amazing!

And yes... Like your idea too

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

Thankfully, them arseholes are in the minority coz curves drive a lot of potty with desire!

We got it all going on sexy lady.

More power to ya elbow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far, no abusive messages - I'm overweight and a smoker, but maybe couples don't get the same level of abuse as singles?

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

Do as you damn well please and don't listen to others who try to get in your way x

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I've heard people say they get the same sort of messages if they are married too.I would never take the time to message another person to have a go just because what they like or do isn't for me.

Block and report any abuse op

Miss

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By *ophleeCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

It happens all the time, no matter what you state in your profile some people will ignore and try to push their own agenda. Early on it's easy to just delete and block, but more annoying when you strike up a bond and then they overstep, but this is the issue especially on this site

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

It's simply not ok to send you rude messages, or anyone else. Some people have nothing else to do. All you can do is report these messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a few. Mostly transphobic / freak / disease ridden kind shouldn’t be on here .

Always mostly if I decline or ignore a request to meet lol

I just mark as unread and delete / let them drop off. Can usually tell the ranty mails by header . Sometimes I screen shot the message to post on my asshole watch twitter account for comedy value

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone gets abusive messages you should just report and let admin deal with it and with luck ban them abusive people have no place here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s social media for ya. People don’t think twice about giving their opinions on stuff. Then if you don't pander to them, they just get abusive. Keyboard warriors. If you don’t like something / someone just shut the fuck up

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Some people love telling others what to do and what to think. As if anyone cares! Ignore them and do what YOU want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP we all get rude messages - it's just the subject matter that's different.

Just do what the rest of us do - report if they are abusive and block."

Most are either idiots or bitter individuals, not worth the worry really.

We don't get many at all, but there is the occasional one trying to find a way to insult us, usually we'd put it down to either jealousy that we're happy with each other or those on a wind up of course.

I only remember replying to one, a guy in his mid-thirties, that messaged with a lot of basic and not very well substantiated put downs of us both (and not merely a wind up merchant as he'd met other well verified users) then blocked us immediately after. I had an unexpected decent chunk of free time and though I generally just chuckle over any that try to insult me (they don't know me, so who cares) I don't take very kindly at all to P being insulted. So I just went on my singles profile and messaged the buffoon, first quoted his message then categorically ripped him apart on each point in an offhand manner (including the fact he had unsuccessfully tried messaging P for a meet on her singles profile ages earlier not realising she was the same person, so that practically floored every argument he had spouted about her being unmeetable in his eyes) before turning the tables on him, picking up on every one of his "faults" that I perceived he had with evidence to back each up and barbedly ramming each point home at him.

I ended the message with my congratulations on him choosing the correct age for his profile as judging from his arguments he had a mental age of perhaps 14 and going on the fact that though I was hardly at the very pinnacle of human fitness at all I was in much better shape than he was despite being 41 so I took his physical age to be about 56 so the mean average worked pretty well! With the final point that I hadn't blocked him as I was very interested to see what other complete bollocks he could come up with that I could tear to shreds and show him up to be the muppet he was once more.

He read it, but though he didn't delete for a while as he was probably trying unsuccessfully to come up with any kind of decent argument, he didn't reply.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "
I've got to be honest I've never had a rude message

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

Report them. Whatever you're into is no one else's business, and no one should judge you for your preferences or likes, or even tell you what to do.

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I get horrible random messages calling me all sorts because I'm not meeting just now.

Simply put, some people just love to start a fight because they can. The internet means they can hide behind it as they know they will never have to face the person.

It used to really hurt me, now I don't even respond. Simple report and block and be happy in the knowledge that some folks are just that sad and bored that they need to be verbally abused to a total stranger to get their kicks!

At least you're honest OP which says a lot more for some on here. Xx

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

*abusive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People like to judge and take the high moral ground.

They'd still complain if you weren't open about it, so you can't win.

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

V true for a swingers lifestyle site there are many judgemental people here

You be who you are and do what you want as long as all involved are happy what you do is up to you and no one should judge the fact we all have different desires is what makes us all individual and special people shud respect that

That's my ten pence worth anyway xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

We get lots of messages from single guys with "safe sex only" or words to that effect on their profile looking for a meet, used to send a polite "no thanks" only to get an abusive message back, now we just block them, as I hope you do to the trolls that message you. If someone has a problem with what you are open and upfront about, then it is definitely their problem and not yours.

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses


"OP we all get rude messages - it's just the subject matter that's different.

Just do what the rest of us do - report if they are abusive and block.

Most are either idiots or bitter individuals, not worth the worry really.

We don't get many at all, but there is the occasional one trying to find a way to insult us, usually we'd put it down to either jealousy that we're happy with each other or those on a wind up of course.

I only remember replying to one, a guy in his mid-thirties, that messaged with a lot of basic and not very well substantiated put downs of us both (and not merely a wind up merchant as he'd met other well verified users) then blocked us immediately after. I had an unexpected decent chunk of free time and though I generally just chuckle over any that try to insult me (they don't know me, so who cares) I don't take very kindly at all to P being insulted. So I just went on my singles profile and messaged the buffoon, first quoted his message then categorically ripped him apart on each point in an offhand manner (including the fact he had unsuccessfully tried messaging P for a meet on her singles profile ages earlier not realising she was the same person, so that practically floored every argument he had spouted about her being unmeetable in his eyes) before turning the tables on him, picking up on every one of his "faults" that I perceived he had with evidence to back each up and barbedly ramming each point home at him.

I ended the message with my congratulations on him choosing the correct age for his profile as judging from his arguments he had a mental age of perhaps 14 and going on the fact that though I was hardly at the very pinnacle of human fitness at all I was in much better shape than he was despite being 41 so I took his physical age to be about 56 so the mean average worked pretty well! With the final point that I hadn't blocked him as I was very interested to see what other complete bollocks he could come up with that I could tear to shreds and show him up to be the muppet he was once more.

He read it, but though he didn't delete for a while as he was probably trying unsuccessfully to come up with any kind of decent argument, he didn't reply.

B"

Wayyy too much effort wasted on a dork

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By *eordiedanielCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it.

We get lots of messages from single guys with "safe sex only" or words to that effect on their profile looking for a meet, used to send a polite "no thanks" only to get an abusive message back, now we just block them, as I hope you do to the trolls that message you. If someone has a problem with what you are open and upfront about, then it is definitely their problem and not yours.

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By *ntraditionalwomanWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

Cam fun doesnt spread sti. Do you care about your health and that of others

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By *oyRoy06Man
over a year ago

leighton buzzard


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it.

Cam fun doesnt spread sti. Do you care about your health and that of others"

This proves the OPs point.

We are all adult enough to know the risks and make our own choices in who we meet with and what we do. If you don't like what someone else does then fine. But you don't need to go out of your way to tell them that.

Instead of the cam example; how many people mail others to telk them not to have anal or do oral because it goes against their personal tastes?

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

yes i even have had rude messages from people for things in the forums,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting read, I've been here for several years, very picky who I chat to or meet as time is limited, there seems to be alot of bitchy attitude on the site in general, it's like this post, I don't see anything wrong with any of you, your all stunning and very much what I'm in to, yet you go to other threads on here, especially the bb ones and half the people are stuck up and judgemental, putting you down just because you like things that way. Yes there are risks and if your careful you'll be fine so love and let live.

All you can do is be who you are, be nice to everyone and be open. If they don't like it fuck them "well don't actually fuck them" lol

Anyway I've said my piece, your all wonderful people and I'd be honoured to chat to you again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

I don't get it either. The fact that you are honest is amazing and wish everyone who did bareback was so honest.

If I were to take a guess I would imagine that a lot of hurt has come about through unprotected sex but that's still no excuse to take it out on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think everyone likes different things , there's nothing wrong with that at all , let them enjoy what they enjoy without the bitchiness or the judging and just do what you wanna do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve posted a few posts regarding a bareback scenario that I’m seeking help with, and I’ve had plenty of abuse, and I also get abuse over my home situation, and people know absolutely nothing. I praise you for being open, and feel for you too.

Forget what people think, and what they think they know, and you have fun, and be happy, we’re all old enough to make choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having only been on the site a few weeks, it seems there is a lot of negativity primarily from opinionated blokes.

Whilst the more considered replies are from ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because sexually transmitted disease rates are shooting up and it's highly irresponsible?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because sexually transmitted disease rates are shooting up and it's highly irresponsible? "

True what you say. But whether it justifies the sending of abusive messages is a matter for debate.

If two consenting adults decide to take the risk it's their business. Where I do have a lot of sympathy is for the "innocent" victims such as the partners of people who pass on their STDS and babies born with birth defects because of the parents irresponsibly.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

kells

She has about 3 different profiles and just uses threads like this for advertising herself and meets, pay no heed, prob just making up the abuse stories..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes i even have had rude messages from people for things in the forums, "

There's a Bradford based ‘couple’ profile on here and one from a single woman who pick up on forum posters and send them abusive messages. I’ve had it and a couple of friends of mine. I don’t think it’s personal, just their idea of a good night’s entertainment. Which sheds an interesting light on how barren the rest of their life must be.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I don't see how highlighting the danger's of unprotected sex let alone gang bangs is stuck up and judgemental??

There's ways to do it without being rude and whilst I don't agree with the OPs choice of sexual activity/meets I wouldn't resort to rude messages.

I think we are all a bit judgemental at times particularly if it's a subject that is Very controversial .

I don't think there is a problem with a healthy debate when both sides can give their opinions.

OP I don't think it's you as a person that's the issue.

I'm sure you have educated yourself regards the danger's of unprotected sex and all of the health issues that could potentially happen as a result, I would also like to think that you get tested regularly for your own health and safety as well as others.

What you do is your preference.

Perhaps people are just concerned about your well-being when messaging?

Mmm non of what I have said is an excuse for rudeness or abuse.

It's not meant to be rude or judmental.

Just my opinion.

It does make me laugh how people comment on these threads complaining about name calling and being judged and almost in the same breath start name calling and being judgemental themselves.

We don't play bareback ourselves but as long as people are honest and upfront with us we can make an informed decision to play with them or not the problem lies in that people aren't honest.

So for that I admire your honesty OP at least people know the score before meeting you.

If they then decide to carry on that's their choice.

As stated tho it's usually innocent partners who then suffer.

But that's Another discussion.

Abuse. No

Education.yes

Personal preference.yes

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I think there is a difference between a forum discussion and messaging a profile.

If someone sets up a forum asking whether people are into bareback sex. Then I think that it's fair to expect negative responses on that thread.

However, messaging someone to take issue with their sexual preferences is a different matter.

Similarly if it was a meeting thread we would not feel the need to respond to everyone who had meeting preferences that were different to our own.

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By *cotbbtopMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I do wonder why some folk are on forums like this. If they get so wound up with natural sex (i.e. bareback), maybe they shouldn't be on a swingers site in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many subjects that will create a strong response on here...bareback being just one of them.

Negativity is thrown around all too much.

It's a personal choice, if that's what you're into, crack on...just because people say shit doesn't mean you have to take that on board.

I get messages every day telling me I'm too fat or ugly or something...they're strangers on the Internet, frankly I couldn't care less what they think.

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham


"There are many subjects that will create a strong response on here...bareback being just one of them.

Negativity is thrown around all too much.

It's a personal choice, if that's what you're into, crack on...just because people say shit doesn't mean you have to take that on board.

I get messages every day telling me I'm too fat or ugly or something...they're strangers on the Internet, frankly I couldn't care less what they think.

"
very wise words far to many judgemental people here for supposed liberal minded swingers each to their own and never a need to be direspectful or rude x I may be just another stranger on the internet but you are not fat or ugly gorgeous x

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

Each person to their own, I say good for you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block or report everyone is free to do whatever they choose in their lives everyone has their turn offs and turn ons kinks etc and the swinging lifestyle should be the least judgemental people yet some seem to be the worst x

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham


"Just block or report everyone is free to do whatever they choose in their lives everyone has their turn offs and turn ons kinks etc and the swinging lifestyle should be the least judgemental people yet some seem to be the worst x"
true people who are properly into the lifestyle are but sadly things seem to be changing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

Direct, honest and to the point. Just what this site needs more of. I’d never dream of contacting someone just to be mean.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

It's a free country - at the moment, anyway. What you like is your choice and of people don't like it, they don't have to get involved. There are too many little dictators around in general and even some here, all keen to tell others that they are wrong and that THEIR way is the only way. Stuff them all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s sad to say but you will always get people who look down on what you do. No matter what it is. As long as your happy and enjoy what you do fuck them (not literally) it’s you life and right to do what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many subjects that will create a strong response on here...bareback being just one of them.

Negativity is thrown around all too much.

It's a personal choice, if that's what you're into, crack on...just because people say shit doesn't mean you have to take that on board.

I get messages every day telling me I'm too fat or ugly or something...they're strangers on the Internet, frankly I couldn't care less what they think.

very wise words far to many judgemental people here for supposed liberal minded swingers each to their own and never a need to be direspectful or rude x I may be just another stranger on the internet but you are not fat or ugly gorgeous x"

Cheers! I'm definitely fat...but not too ugly I don't think

The only people who's opinions should matter are the people who matter to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many subjects that will create a strong response on here...bareback being just one of them.

Negativity is thrown around all too much.

It's a personal choice, if that's what you're into, crack on...just because people say shit doesn't mean you have to take that on board.

I get messages every day telling me I'm too fat or ugly or something...they're strangers on the Internet, frankly I couldn't care less what they think.

very wise words far to many judgemental people here for supposed liberal minded swingers each to their own and never a need to be direspectful or rude x I may be just another stranger on the internet but you are not fat or ugly gorgeous x

Cheers! I'm definitely fat...but not too ugly I don't think

The only people who's opinions should matter are the people who matter to you "

Very well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's personally not for me, and my preference is to not play with people who do. BUT I don't go out of my way to attack those who do. We all adults, we all know the risks, and it's our decision if we want to take the risk or not. The only person who suffers the consequences of our actions, is ourselves.... Its not place to preach what most already know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For sexual health you shouldn't but after time and trust has been built there's nothing better than bareback skin on skin sex

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By *heEvilWithinWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

Well to be fair if everyone thought fuck it about sexual health then that would become dangerous. However if you are getting checked every 4 weeks and the people you're doing bareback with are also getting checked and their partners are getting checked it's fine. But what do you want to bet a lot of you aren't getting checked...

The sexual diseases that can be tested are fine but what if one of the people has HIV imo not worth it just to be cum inside.

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

Tbf camming isn’t a health risk and right or wrong I wouldn’t honour my way to message people but maybe they only have your best interest at heart because you really should be careful, swinging should be fun not dangerous

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By *edonistic Bi.Man
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne


"So far, no abusive messages - I'm overweight and a smoker, but maybe couples don't get the same level of abuse as singles? "

We get messages of abuse, you'd be surprised... Or not.

Or the worst type. When they simply don't, acknowledge the guy, every message is about how they want to do this n that to her...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let them get to you s??, your doing what you love and if people don't like it then they can move on. Your here for you not the trolls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because sexually transmitted disease rates are going through the roof and it's selfish & irresponsibLe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP we all get rude messages - it's just the subject matter that's different.

Just do what the rest of us do - report if they are abusive and block."

I'd just like to receive a message occasionally!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking someone to engage in unsafe sex and risk their health is much more offensive than asking someone to go on webcam.

The two don’t compare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I obviously have too much time on my hands because if people become abusive I don't half love a pop back

One guy today messaged me saying simply "snooty" after I deleted his original e-mail. I replied "and sweep?" And he blocked me haha!

Another sent the word "FAKE" I replied calm down POTUS Trump....I was also blocked.

Just toy with them if you are bored it's more fun haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because sexually transmitted disease rates are going through the roof and it's selfish & irresponsibLe? "

But if said person is willing to do that isn’t that between the two participants? No need to abuse someone because they enjoy something that you don’t. Many men wouldn’t go near a tv/ts doesn’t mean you deserve abuse does it?

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

If anything, I'd say I get a fair few messages from guys or other tgurls wanting to do me bareback. Never had 1 nasty comment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "
What a turn on Sara, love to see girls luke you, well used and especially by BBC. I would clean you up on every visit.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Everyone deserves respect, even if people disagree with choices that others make. Others have the same choice, including whether they want sex with them or not.

We can never fully understand what is in the minds of others but a lot of people feel that they are somehow superior. Inevitably, they are driven by inadequacies but won't face up to this.

Always report anyone who does not behave appropriately, including those who are abusive. Adults were without rights and freedoms for much of human history, so people should respect others' freedoms

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham


"Everyone deserves respect, even if people disagree with choices that others make. Others have the same choice, including whether they want sex with them or not.

We can never fully understand what is in the minds of others but a lot of people feel that they are somehow superior. Inevitably, they are driven by inadequacies but won't face up to this.

Always report anyone who does not behave appropriately, including those who are abusive. Adults were without rights and freedoms for much of human history, so people should respect others' freedoms "

Absolutely spot on nice to see there's still a few respectful people left on fab

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"don't like profiles with massive list of likes and don't likes then they say cant accomadate!"
you are dissing someone on not being able to accommodate yet can't accommodate either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bare back has to be the ultimate in sensual pleasure and those who encourage it know the risks..unless you live in cuckoo land..

I am all for it and would endorse it if you were certain that your 'friends' were amomgst trust worthy few that are sensible and are aware of the dangers of risking a promiscuous relationship... Bare back is great if you are sensible and associate with like minded individuals...

The choice is always your own..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it. "

Cam fun doesn't aid in the potential spread of diseases. You can't compare the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately sometimes what people say here in their infinite wisdom stirs up emotions and they comment, being abusively rude is never acceptable, people have strong feelings about certain things it's life and this place is a bandwagon people jump on it just because others have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you care what a bunch of strangers in your phone think of what you do sexually?

Pay them no mind, do you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do you care what a bunch of strangers in your phone think of what you do sexually?

Pay them no mind, do you "
and this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wondered if any one else gets rude messages about what there in to. I try to be honest and be up front about who I am and what I am looking for. So why do people feel it is OK to message and be rude.for example I don't like cam fun but I don't message people and tell them not to do it.

Cam fun doesn't aid in the potential spread of diseases. You can't compare the two."

They will catch something nasty one day and they deserve what they catch dirty gits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really should be like real life in that if someone's into something different to you and it's doing you no harm then keep ya fecking nose out and pass by . I'm not personally into bareback and if I see it on a profile it's really easy to push the back button on the phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't please all of the people all of the time, what do you care what a bunch of strangers think, I chatted to a woman for 18 months I met her to, we chatted on the phone quite often, she referred to me as a stranger once she apologised but it really wasn't a great feeling so I stopped chatting, don't take crap be happy what you're doing or don't do it.

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By *irkydirkyMan
over a year ago

kells


"You can't please all of the people all of the time, what do you care what a bunch of strangers think, I chatted to a woman for 18 months I met her to, we chatted on the phone quite often, she referred to me as a stranger once she apologised but it really wasn't a great feeling so I stopped chatting, don't take crap be happy what you're doing or don't do it. "

At least you didn’t overreact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can't please all of the people all of the time, what do you care what a bunch of strangers think, I chatted to a woman for 18 months I met her to, we chatted on the phone quite often, she referred to me as a stranger once she apologised but it really wasn't a great feeling so I stopped chatting, don't take crap be happy what you're doing or don't do it.

At least you didn’t overreact "
over react by name calling I really liked the woman thought we were friends but guess not

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Messaging someone to abuse another is wrong, post it on the forum you'll get replies you don't want but this forum is for everyone to read and learn hopefully.

I think its great when barebackers are upfront and honest

Their verifications are useful means those people I can avoid.

People who only have safe sex want their sex to be as low risk as possible. Using a condom with a barebacker is too risky because condoms break.

Then youre left with higher chance of an std than you would like.

Condom users should get regular checks but barebackers I would say should be getting tested as regular as sex workers who bareback there is no difference whether you get paid or not you're doing the same deeds. Every 2 weeks tested if you're willing to let any dick to spunk in you. None of you know their true history and would someone even tell you they carry a nontreatable only manageable condition? All for the sake of fun?

I had a potential meet long time ago swore he never did bareback. Till I found his verification on a notorious profile. Stating how much he loved filling her pussy after another guy just did minutes before and was excited for the fact the guy waiting his turn was going to dip his cock in his spunk.

He was blocked verifications can be really helpful at times.

I understand the risk is part of the thrill. But barebacking between just two people isn't just two people if they also bareback others.

How many barebackers on fab have caught antibiotic resistant gnonoreah, syphilis, HIV, chlamydia, herpes the list goes on. How many of you informed your previous sexual partners of the std?

Duty to inform them so they get tested and not prevent the spread. Very few because it is of course embarrassing to admit you caught something that for the most part is preventable.

Swinging is meant be fun not worrying if you catch something every time you have sex. Worse still there's people deliberately infecting people for God knows what ever reason.

Have to also consider while a few std can be found early as 2 weeks after infection some take months to be diagnosed in that time you can be giving it to every person you have sex with.

That isn't being responsible and it isn't fair on the swinging community as a whole.

Do people even get up to date proof before they decide to bareback with someone or throw a bareback gangbang party? Say you invite 10 guys that's a lot of chances to get an std why is the pleasure worth so much risk?

That one time can mean a life time of a multitude of drugs for one stupid mistake in the name of a good time.

Want the freedom of bareback sex get yourself a reliable and trustworthy fuck buddy /playmate /companion whatever and only go bare with that person.

Because one day the luck will run out barebacking everyone and you don't get an std youd damn well lucky but the odds will always be against you.

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