FabSwingers.com forum: Safeword

By *n080971 OP Man
over a year ago

Billericay

If you found yourself in a situation requiring one, what would you choose as your safeword.

On both of the previous role play situations i’ve been in which required one i’ve suggested Juliet Bravo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standard safewords in bdsm include yellow as 'some things not quite right and needs changing ' and red which is stop immediately. So long as all agree before you can choose anything but it should generally not be stop or no.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

That's ok if you one on one but if you want to warm your partner things are getting a bit too rowdy but you're not wanting to stop you need something a little bit more under the radar..

So what your (it's good but no further word)..

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

"If you found yourself in a situation requiring one, what would you choose as your safeword.

On both of the previous role play situations i’ve been in which required one i’ve suggested Juliet Bravo.

Excellent if you end up in a b&b doing a breathplay scene

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Standard safewords in bdsm include yellow as 'some things not quite right and needs changing ' and red which is stop immediately. So long as all agree before you can choose anything but it should generally not be stop or no."

Can not go wrong with the traffic lights..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use traffic light system and easy to say

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By *n080971 OP Man
over a year ago

Billericay

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"We use traffic light system and easy to say "

Unless you have a mouth full.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We use traffic light system and easy to say

Unless you have a mouth full.

Then I would agree hand signals or hold something in my hand and drop it.

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By *rystalTipsandAlistairCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

Cycle proficiency standard signs.

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By *rystalTipsandAlistairCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

Waving hand means slow down lol!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Waving hand means slow down lol!"

Not around horses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never remember Juliet bravo

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I'd never remember Juliet bravo

what about Taggart..

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By *rystalTipsandAlistairCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Waving hand means slow down lol!

Not around horses"

Hahaha no!!!!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

OP you lost interest in your post ....

He's Home right now shouting Juliet Bravo oscar oscar whiskey

at his phone to get his post back..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd never remember Juliet bravo

what about Taggart..

Vera?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"I'd never remember Juliet bravo

what about Taggart..

Vera?

Ok then let's play..

Columbo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teresa May

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd never remember Juliet bravo

what about Taggart..

Vera?

Oh I like Vera!

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By *eicsbimaleMan
over a year ago

loughborough

An ex used "fucking hell" she did not swear(screamed and moaned a lot) so that was a sure sign to move her out of the situation

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By *ruesome-twosomeCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Always have two safe words one to ease off and one to stop. We also us hand signals which is the ok hand sign to stop play and check as the ok sign is easy to see and recognise as a clenched fist or waving could happen with the play and not be picked up on.

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By *rystalTipsandAlistairCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Teresa May"

That would be a sure fire way to make an aggresive cock go floppy!

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By *rystalTipsandAlistairCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I'd never remember Juliet bravo

what about Taggart..

Vera?

Ok then let's play..

Columbo"

One last thing..... my wife is a great fan of yours! Haha.

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By *n_thy_kneesMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When Jimmy and I first met and tried anal for the first time. I came up with the word "raspberry" not idea way but I've never used it

Jenny x

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Usual traffic sign system. With some I swap amber with 'mercy' as used on a website called Kink which is in a fortress.

Breath play, a tap, if restrained a shake of the head. But I generally ask how people are doing on a regular basis.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Teresa May

That would be a sure fire way to make an aggresive cock go floppy!"

I had exactly the same thought myself. Suppose it could be code for just keep going with the same thing over and over and over again

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

"Teresa May"

Is that for 'Stop' or 'repeat again'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Teresa May

Is that for 'Stop' or 'repeat again'?"

or just keep going on and on even though nobody is having fun and nothing good is going to cum at the end of it. Could also be code for "I don't want anything hard"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found that a three level system works well when agreed and understood beforehand, using simple single syllable words or easy to make/see signals if voice is restricted. Usually along the lines of meaning 1)'that's my limit, don't stop but don't ramp it up anymore', 2)'that's too much, take things back a touch but carry on', and 3)'stop at once'.

Communication is of course always key and it's always important to discuss and understand everyone's boundaries, limits and so forth before activities commence

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If you found yourself in a situation requiring one, what would you choose as your safeword.

On both of the previous role play situations i’ve been in which required one i’ve suggested Juliet Bravo.

Isn't that two words ?

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Different words to remember just get lost in subspace.

We always stay with the traffic light system through experience.

I will also ask for a 'colour' on occasion which forced the sub to think and then apply the colour appropriate. Green can then be used as 'I'm into it carry on'.

Easier to ask without ruining the scene and also can be reassuring for those less experienced that the Dominant is checking in.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

Traffic light system for us as it means we never get to Red so play needn't stop we just change what we are doing if sub'r' uses yellow/amber. Red is always there for her to use though if she needs me to stop immediately.

When gagged she holds an object in her hand, if she drops it then it is taken as saying red and play stops immediately. So she can be ungagged and we can find out what the problem is.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

"Traffic light system for us as it means we never get to Red so play needn't stop we just change what we are doing if sub'r' uses yellow/amber. Red is always there for her to use though if she needs me to stop immediately.

When gagged she holds an object in her hand, if she drops it then it is taken as saying red and play stops immediately. So she can be ungagged and we can find out what the problem is."

This sounds like quite an effective system

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Supercalafragelistic. Or if I'm in a bit of lazy mood - if I'm a bit lazy- Blue ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jamiroquai!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

exactly this! The only thing i will add is yes it can be anything you like but it should be something that's very easy and quick to say and easy to remember.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just ask my partner to name a vegetable or fruit, that way in a situation where they can't remember the safeword, any old fruit/veg would do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Teresa May

Is that for 'Stop' or 'repeat again'?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Teresa May

Is that for 'Stop' or 'repeat again'?

or just keep going on and on even though nobody is having fun and nothing good is going to cum at the end of it. Could also be code for "I don't want anything hard"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Teresa May

That would be a sure fire way to make an aggresive cock go floppy!

I had exactly the same thought myself. Suppose it could be code for just keep going with the same thing over and over and over again "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Teresa May

That would be a sure fire way to make an aggresive cock go floppy!"
works for me ;-D

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