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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know." What part do you find off putting? The ownership of asking for permission? | |||
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"To be honest, I don't know, normally I lose the will to send a message or even giving it a thought why I feel like this. I can understand the concept in a fantasy and role playing, but in real world, I don't get it." You don’t get it and you don’t know why you feel like this? Lay down on the couch there... | |||
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"To be honest, I don't know, normally I lose the will to send a message or even giving it a thought why I feel like this. I can understand the concept in a fantasy and role playing, but in real world, I don't get it." People here are often looking to meet people that they believe they will get along with, who will understand them and help to meet their needs. If you lose the will to message these people, to understand them or your own feelings towards them, you’ve probably saved both yourself and them some time and effort. Why not view that as a positive? | |||
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"Completely agree and that's what I do every time. To me the question is "why they prefer to be owned?". May be the simple answer is : because they like it and they are "free" to be owned. Maybe we cannot go any deeper here. Thanks anyway." That's the best way to look at it. An owned woman might come along later and give you further insight. However your original post used words like off putting, that's unlikely to encourage anyone. | |||
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"Completely agree and that's what I do every time. To me the question is "why they prefer to be owned?". May be the simple answer is : because they like it and they are "free" to be owned. Maybe we cannot go any deeper here. Thanks anyway." It's escapism for them. | |||
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"Wow! But I am not sure what the girl expected, if she is a thing to be owned, why she was surprised? Your car never gets jealous if you buy another one!or your shoes or shirts!" Read a couple of non fiction books on the subject. It will help you understand the dynamic of these relationships.  | |||
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"Wow! But I am not sure what the girl expected, if she is a thing to be owned, why she was surprised? Your car never gets jealous if you buy another one!or your shoes or shirts! Read a couple of non fiction books on the subject. It will help you understand the dynamic of these relationships. "There are some really good blogs as well. | |||
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"Wow! But I am not sure what the girl expected, if she is a thing to be owned, why she was surprised? Your car never gets jealous if you buy another one!or your shoes or shirts! Read a couple of non fiction books on the subject. It will help you understand the dynamic of these relationships.
There are some really good blogs as well. "Yes, there are. I think starting a thread negatively will only make people defensive. If you bring discussion to the table and genuinely want to hear people's views and experiences it's best to start from a neutral point. | |||
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"Wow! But I am not sure what the girl expected, if she is a thing to be owned, why she was surprised? Your car never gets jealous if you buy another one!or your shoes or shirts! Read a couple of non fiction books on the subject. It will help you understand the dynamic of these relationships.
There are some really good blogs as well. "Can you please share the website address? | |||
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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know." This is a question that quite often gets banded around and the answer is get educated. Dominance and submission is not for everyone but for those that enjoy it the pleasure and enjoyment that can be found from it can be immeasurable. I am an owned and locked submissive, you may ask why let someone else control things in life and in the bedroom and I would reply with why not? It takes enormous courage and commitment to give your submission to someone else, it isn’t given lightly. I searched for five years before I found my owner. Being a submissive isn’t being lazy, I work hard at what I do. I find it liberating, enjoyable and it has made me more confident and given me some real life skills. I submit because I like to leave my everyday troubles and woes at the door and when I am in my owners company I do just that. I can relax and enjoy what I like doing and that is focus on another and do everything that I can to please them. I enjoy being used but I am never degraded, my Dom respects me and nurtures me and I devote myself to him. I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s quite empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very sexy and turned on. So to answer your initial question OP, I am sorry that you find the concept off-putting, but in reality, it is no different to having to get permission from a husband to play with the wife for instance. Just a different dynamic or take on the definition of a couple I guess. I hope that you manage to find what you are looking for but rest assures I have found what I have been looking for and I love every minute of it. sub’r’ | |||
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"Wow! But I am not sure what the girl expected, if she is a thing to be owned, why she was surprised? Your car never gets jealous if you buy another one!or your shoes or shirts! Read a couple of non fiction books on the subject. It will help you understand the dynamic of these relationships.
There are some really good blogs as well.
Can you please share the website address?"It's against forum rules to put links to other sites except certain ones such as bbc news etc. | |||
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I am learning "Every day's a school day here's a link to the forum rules https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules | |||
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"Thanks, understood If you use reply and quote we will know who you're answering
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Every day's a school day here's a link to the forum rules https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules"Thanks, can you send them privately? | |||
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Thanks, can you send them privately?"I think the site blanks them out, I'm not sure. If you type the type of thing you're interested in learning about into a search engine I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for | |||
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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know.This is a question that quite often gets banded around and the answer is get educated. Dominance and submission is not for everyone but for those that enjoy it the pleasure and enjoyment that can be found from it can be immeasurable. I am an owned and locked submissive, you may ask why let someone else control things in life and in the bedroom and I would reply with why not? It takes enormous courage and commitment to give your submission to someone else, it isn’t given lightly. I searched for five years before I found my owner. Being a submissive isn’t being lazy, I work hard at what I do. I find it liberating, enjoyable and it has made me more confident and given me some real life skills. I submit because I like to leave my everyday troubles and woes at the door and when I am in my owners company I do just that. I can relax and enjoy what I like doing and that is focus on another and do everything that I can to please them. I enjoy being used but I am never degraded, my Dom respects me and nurtures me and I devote myself to him. I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s quite empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very sexy and turned on. So to answer your initial question OP, I am sorry that you find the concept off-putting, but in reality, it is no different to having to get permission from a husband to play with the wife for instance. Just a different dynamic or take on the definition of a couple I guess. I hope that you manage to find what you are looking for but rest assures I have found what I have been looking for and I love every minute of it. sub’r’ " Thanks for sharing the experience. I don't want to be negative, but what you mentioned about leaving everyday troubles at the door, can it be a kind of escapism? Don't get me wrong, we all have different types of it. | |||
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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know.This is a question that quite often gets banded around and the answer is get educated. Dominance and submission is not for everyone but for those that enjoy it the pleasure and enjoyment that can be found from it can be immeasurable. I am an owned and locked submissive, you may ask why let someone else control things in life and in the bedroom and I would reply with why not? It takes enormous courage and commitment to give your submission to someone else, it isn’t given lightly. I searched for five years before I found my owner. Being a submissive isn’t being lazy, I work hard at what I do. I find it liberating, enjoyable and it has made me more confident and given me some real life skills. I submit because I like to leave my everyday troubles and woes at the door and when I am in my owners company I do just that. I can relax and enjoy what I like doing and that is focus on another and do everything that I can to please them. I enjoy being used but I am never degraded, my Dom respects me and nurtures me and I devote myself to him. I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s quite empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very sexy and turned on. So to answer your initial question OP, I am sorry that you find the concept off-putting, but in reality, it is no different to having to get permission from a husband to play with the wife for instance. Just a different dynamic or take on the definition of a couple I guess. I hope that you manage to find what you are looking for but rest assures I have found what I have been looking for and I love every minute of it. sub’r’ Thanks for sharing the experience. I don't want to be negative, but what you mentioned about leaving everyday troubles at the door, can it be a kind of escapism? Don't get me wrong, we all have different types of it." You could label it as escapism for some people, or having someone to help you and support you. Like any other form of relationship it is a symbiosis with both sides enjoying and benefiting from the other side. | |||
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"Thanks for sharing the experience. I don't want to be negative, but what you mentioned about leaving everyday troubles at the door, can it be a kind of escapism? Don't get me wrong, we all have different types of it." I should have been clearer, when I am in the presence of my owner I feel all of my worries and troubles just melt away. I focus on him and his enjoyment and that is very liberating. He has a very calming influence on me and I am totally relaxed in his presence. | |||
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"Thanks for sharing the experience. I don't want to be negative, but what you mentioned about leaving everyday troubles at the door, can it be a kind of escapism? Don't get me wrong, we all have different types of it.I should have been clearer, when I am in the presence of my owner I feel all of my worries and troubles just melt away. I focus on him and his enjoyment and that is very liberating. He has a very calming influence on me and I am totally relaxed in his presence." | |||
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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know.This is a question that quite often gets banded around and the answer is get educated. Dominance and submission is not for everyone but for those that enjoy it the pleasure and enjoyment that can be found from it can be immeasurable. I am an owned and locked submissive, you may ask why let someone else control things in life and in the bedroom and I would reply with why not? It takes enormous courage and commitment to give your submission to someone else, it isn’t given lightly. I searched for five years before I found my owner. Being a submissive isn’t being lazy, I work hard at what I do. I find it liberating, enjoyable and it has made me more confident and given me some real life skills. I submit because I like to leave my everyday troubles and woes at the door and when I am in my owners company I do just that. I can relax and enjoy what I like doing and that is focus on another and do everything that I can to please them. I enjoy being used but I am never degraded, my Dom respects me and nurtures me and I devote myself to him. I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s quite empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very sexy and turned on. So to answer your initial question OP, I am sorry that you find the concept off-putting, but in reality, it is no different to having to get permission from a husband to play with the wife for instance. Just a different dynamic or take on the definition of a couple I guess. I hope that you manage to find what you are looking for but rest assures I have found what I have been looking for and I love every minute of it. sub’r’ " I see you have no responce to your post. "Owned" is more in the BDSM comminity. I don't think it should be used in context in the swinging world. Those who are owned or owners know the concept. They should,nt have to explain it or expect others to understand it. We're all differant and thats what makes the world go around. I suppose meeting someone who's "Owned" could make the vanilla party weary, to if that person is consenting or not. | |||
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"I see you have no responce to your post. "Owned" is more in the BDSM comminity. I don't think it should be used in context in the swinging world. Those who are owned or owners know the concept. They should,nt have to explain it or expect others to understand it. We're all differant and thats what makes the world go around. I suppose meeting someone who's "Owned" could make the vanilla party weary, to if that person is consenting or not. " Thank you for your response (not the first one). The concept of ownership does reside in the BDSM community but members of that community can be swingers too, they are not mutually exclusive.No-one owes anyone else an explanation as to they way that they play. My reply was in response to the OP question and as such that is why I explained my thoughts. Your last paragraph was interesting as often people forget that even though a submissive is owned he or she can still refuse an action by using their safe word system. This is respected (the BDSM community is built on soncent) which is often not the case when dealing with couples where sometimes the female half look as if they are coerced into situations. Horses for courses I guess. sub'r' | |||
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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know.This is a question that quite often gets banded around and the answer is get educated. Dominance and submission is not for everyone but for those that enjoy it the pleasure and enjoyment that can be found from it can be immeasurable. I am an owned and locked submissive, you may ask why let someone else control things in life and in the bedroom and I would reply with why not? It takes enormous courage and commitment to give your submission to someone else, it isn’t given lightly. I searched for five years before I found my owner. Being a submissive isn’t being lazy, I work hard at what I do. I find it liberating, enjoyable and it has made me more confident and given me some real life skills. I submit because I like to leave my everyday troubles and woes at the door and when I am in my owners company I do just that. I can relax and enjoy what I like doing and that is focus on another and do everything that I can to please them. I enjoy being used but I am never degraded, my Dom respects me and nurtures me and I devote myself to him. I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s quite empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very sexy and turned on. So to answer your initial question OP, I am sorry that you find the concept off-putting, but in reality, it is no different to having to get permission from a husband to play with the wife for instance. Just a different dynamic or take on the definition of a couple I guess. I hope that you manage to find what you are looking for but rest assures I have found what I have been looking for and I love every minute of it. sub’r’ I see you have no responce to your post. "Owned" is more in the BDSM comminity. I don't think it should be used in context in the swinging world. Those who are owned or owners know the concept. They should,nt have to explain it or expect others to understand it. We're all differant and thats what makes the world go around. I suppose meeting someone who's "Owned" could make the vanilla party weary, to if that person is consenting or not. " As in swinging the majority of bdsm relationships are based on trust and full agreement. It's just as likely that you need to be wary of swinging couples. | |||
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"As in swinging the majority of bdsm relationships are based on trust and full agreement. It's just as likely that you need to be wary of swinging couples." | |||
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"Recently I came across few profiles which the lady claims they are owned and they need their owners permission. Although generally I don't get much response anyway, but I found this very off putting. What is everyone else's idea? Just interested to know.This is a question that quite often gets banded around and the answer is get educated. Dominance and submission is not for everyone but for those that enjoy it the pleasure and enjoyment that can be found from it can be immeasurable. I am an owned and locked submissive, you may ask why let someone else control things in life and in the bedroom and I would reply with why not? It takes enormous courage and commitment to give your submission to someone else, it isn’t given lightly. I searched for five years before I found my owner. Being a submissive isn’t being lazy, I work hard at what I do. I find it liberating, enjoyable and it has made me more confident and given me some real life skills. I submit because I like to leave my everyday troubles and woes at the door and when I am in my owners company I do just that. I can relax and enjoy what I like doing and that is focus on another and do everything that I can to please them. I enjoy being used but I am never degraded, my Dom respects me and nurtures me and I devote myself to him. I don’t feel diminished or lesser because of it, in fact it’s quite empowering being a sub – it makes me feel very sexy and turned on. So to answer your initial question OP, I am sorry that you find the concept off-putting, but in reality, it is no different to having to get permission from a husband to play with the wife for instance. Just a different dynamic or take on the definition of a couple I guess. I hope that you manage to find what you are looking for but rest assures I have found what I have been looking for and I love every minute of it. sub’r’ " Nah you are just been abused, hope you find your way out one day. | |||
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"Nah you are just been abused, hope you find your way out one day. " Haha spoken like someone who has absolutely no idea what she is talking about. Please don't kink shame me for opening up on here. You have no knowledge of the scene or my relationship otherwise you wouldn't have made that ridiculous blanket statement. I hope you are as happy as I am but I doubt that. | |||
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