FabSwingers.com forum: Hidden Profiles

By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

This site is for swinging, yes we know there are the pervs and false profiles, but why hide your details, I mean just don't put on any pics at all, have a basic area where you are and what you want and leave it like that. Have I got this wrong in thinking this way,I know single/married women and men have to consider their safety if playing alone, I and everybody else knows and accepts that, but why are they on the site if nobody can get an idea of what they want, maybe there should be a Hidden Profile site , now that would be interesting. I am not intending to upset anyone by the way, I am genuinely interested in peoples thoughts, if any of course. I dont see the point of being on a site advertising the fact you want to swing, you could be anyone.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Usually it means they are taking a break from it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide my profile sometimes if meets aren't feasible for a while

But I don't message people unless they message me when hidden

Iv had people actively messaging me with a hidden profile I do find that odd

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

I have often wondered about that but came to the conclusion that maybe they were taking a break or were going through a difficult patch and wanted to lay low for a while to stop message pouring in.

I may be completely wrong but it's their profile so I guess they have a good reason,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me

It's all about me"

This is basically how this thread sounds, to Me.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Hiding your profile stops messages coming in when you already have enough people you enjoy meeting, or when you're taking a break which can be for many reasons.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I hid my profile when I was in hospital.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Hiding your profile stops messages coming in when you already have enough people you enjoy meeting, or when you're taking a break which can be for many reasons. "

This. It's not rocket science.

OP if you can't see details why the fuck would you message someone?

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Ahh never thought of that ... thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed I think hidden is when u want to take a break. I went hidden when I wanted a break but didn't want to leave the site

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"Me

It's all about me

This is basically how this thread sounds, to Me."
It's funny you say that as your posts are coming off just like that.

Got anything useful to add to the thread?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We hide our profile when we are on a break. Many delete their profiles when taking a break but we don't want to lose contact with friends or lose our verifications and have to start again.

Everybody has different reasons for being on here, it is up to them how they use the site. If there profile is hidden then don't meet them.

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thanks guys for some honest replies , makes sense now in less than a minute lol

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I dont see the point of being on a site advertising the fact you want to swing, you could be anyone."

If they're hidden they're not advertising the fact they want to swing, surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can someone tell me what op means

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Can someone tell me what op means "

Original poster (the first in any thread)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me

It's all about me

This is basically how this thread sounds, to Me.It's funny you say that as your posts are coming off just like that.

Got anything useful to add to the thread?"

The OP is complaining about how others ch9ose to run their profile. There literally nothing useful that can be contributed other than to day it's their choice and you either deal with it or move on

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Well we cant please everyone can we

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"Can someone tell me what op means "
Original Poster

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking why people do things the way they do.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Hiding your profile stops messages coming in when you already have enough people you enjoy meeting, or when you're taking a break which can be for many reasons. "

Didn't realise this was possible as fairly new, but sounds feasible. Up until now I just thought it was odd. I'm learning all the time.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"The OP is complaining about how others ch9ose to run their profile. There literally nothing useful that can be contributed other than to day it's their choice and you either deal with it or move on"
There you go, that was an answer. The OP actually asked some questions that others took the time to answer. Nothing as useful as your insight though but at least you contributed.

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

Hi guys

Sometimes we hide our profile because we want a break from the lifestyle, either for a week, month or longer.

It means our fab friends can still message us but it prevents the many other messages from arriving.

Also whilst we are on a break, we don’t really want to be seen.

We are aware that having your profile hidden can be abused but I image the majority use this facility for genuine reasons

Thanks for posting this topic.

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often hide my profile if I'm busy with more important non-Fab stuff (Kids, work family etc). It doesn't seem to bother most of my Fab Friend's. They just assume I'm taking a little break.

I do find it odd when a user who I've never spoken to messages me from a hidden profile. And tend to ignore and delete their messages

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

You're not 'advertising' yourself if you've hidden your profile. People do it for lots of reasons and it limits the interactions you can have with others on the site too. We won't have a chance to meet over March and April so will most like hide for a while but I rather enjoy chatting in the forums so will be about for that. Also, I don't want to have to upload pictures or chase people for verifications if we deleted instead.

V x

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Im not complaining I am simply asking a question in a section set aside for this, its a genuine question asking other peoples opinions , at least my head isnt stuck up my own arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think there's anything wrong with asking why people do things the way they do."

There is asking and there is asking and suggesting they should do something else. The latter part is what annoys me, even if it meant as no offense.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I often hide my profile if I'm busy with more important non-Fab stuff (Kids, work family etc). It doesn't seem to bother most of my Fab Friend's. They just assume I'm taking a little break.

I do find it odd when a user who I've never spoken to messages me from a hidden profile. And tend to ignore and delete their messages

Makes complete sense to me.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

It is simple. People can do as they wish as long as it is within the rules of the site. Others shouldn’t concern themselves with how others manage their profiles or how they use the site.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"I often hide my profile if I'm busy with more important non-Fab stuff (Kids, work family etc). It doesn't seem to bother most of my Fab Friend's. They just assume I'm taking a little break.

I do find it odd when a user who I've never spoken to messages me from a hidden profile. And tend to ignore and delete their messages

X"
Good explanation and I agree messaging from a hidden profile is a little weird. They certainly wouldn't get a reply from us.

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

I hide my profile when they are after me. Who you ask.. Them, that's who! Quick hide!!!!!!!

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"I hide my profile when they are after me. Who you ask.. Them, that's who! Quick hide!!!!!!!"

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

My personal profile is hidden at the moment. I'm just taking a break from meeting and messaging new people and it's the only way the messages stop. C.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Im not complaining I am simply asking a question in a section set aside for this, its a genuine question asking other peoples opinions , at least my head isnt stuck up my own arse"

Sounds like an extreme version of self rimming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally understand people hiding their profile if they're taking a break or not meeting for a while. However I get a few messages from mainly guys and then when I go to look at their profile it is hidden and that's a major turn off for me so I just delete the message. If you are active and messaging and wanting to meet you should display your profile it's a simple as that.

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

"Im not complaining I am simply asking a question in a section set aside for this, its a genuine question asking other peoples opinions , at least my head isnt stuck up my own arse

Sounds like an extreme version of self rimming

Or just taking this whole hiding thing to a new extreme!

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Im not complaining I am simply asking a question in a section set aside for this, its a genuine question asking other peoples opinions , at least my head isnt stuck up my own arse

Sounds like an extreme version of self rimming

Or just taking this whole hiding thing to a new extreme!"

.....peek a booooo

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"This site is for swinging, yes we know there are the pervs and false profiles, but why hide your details, I mean just don't put on any pics at all, have a basic area where you are and what you want and leave it like that. Have I got this wrong in thinking this way,I know single/married women and men have to consider their safety if playing alone, I and everybody else knows and accepts that, but why are they on the site if nobody can get an idea of what they want, maybe there should be a Hidden Profile site , now that would be interesting. I am not intending to upset anyone by the way, I am genuinely interested in peoples thoughts, if any of course. I dont see the point of being on a site advertising the fact you want to swing, you could be anyone."

I hid my profile for a while when I was too busy to meet, when I was working abroad for a few months and when I was in hospital.

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

"Im not complaining I am simply asking a question in a section set aside for this, its a genuine question asking other peoples opinions , at least my head isnt stuck up my own arse

Sounds like an extreme version of self rimming

Or just taking this whole hiding thing to a new extreme!

.....peek a booooo

Peek a boooo or peek a poooo?

Sorry, couldn't resist

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Well thats raised a few eyebrows, funny how its the men who have taken greater offence lol... Thank you for your replies and thank you to those who messaged x

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

I hid my profile for a while when I was too busy to meet, when I was working abroad for a few months and when I was in hospital.

I hid mine when I was out of the country for a few months, on the ISS. Signed Tim Peake

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Aww not to worry still plenty more time to return...Nyota Uhura

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

"Aww not to worry still plenty more time to return...Nyota Uhura"

Beam me up...

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Scotty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My single profile is hidden at the moment as I'm not using it, however, I regularly hide it when my 18yr old son comes to stay for the weekend, for all I know he could be on here and check who's near and boom, there's his mother.

I still message from it when he's here though

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By *dores blackmenWoman
over a year ago

incognito mode ;-)

I'm guilty as charged I've been hidden for 6 months

For 6 years I went to clubs/parties so put meets up to connect with friends and new people going

6 months ago I decided to have a break from clubs and parties,my break has been very pleasurable as been meeting guys privately,that I know from meeting at these places

So I keep hidden to basically read updates and forums,and catch up with friends,it's nice and peaceful without randoms asking to meet,I like it being hidden,I'm still using this site to connect and meet people,the difference is I know them

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

We have had to have your profile hidden for a while due to multiple attempts from someone local trying to out us as swingers because he thinks he knows us. Thankfully he doesn’t know us and has got us mixed up with someone else. He has set up multiple single and couples profiles to try contacting us. So we have just hidden our profile for what has been a year now. This is to protect us as we live in a small town and it isn’t fair for the couple who he thinks we are.

It has put us off swinging for a bit due to idiots like this as we don’t want everyone local to us knowing our business because we don’t play with people on our home patch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often hide my profile for a variety reasons ... I'm not meeting, can't be arsed to receive messages off illiterate people with no manners, just chatting to people I already know, haven't got time or the inclination, taking a break ... and more but not sure why it's a problem?

When I do have the time and the inclination, I unhide it

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

"We have had to have your profile hidden for a while due to multiple attempts from someone local trying to out us as swingers because he thinks he knows us. Thankfully he doesn’t know us and has got us mixed up with someone else. He has set up multiple single and couples profiles to try contacting us. So we have just hidden our profile for what has been a year now. This is to protect us as we live in a small town and it isn’t fair for the couple who he thinks we are.

It has put us off swinging for a bit due to idiots like this as we don’t want everyone local to us knowing our business because we don’t play with people on our home patch."

I mean it's been a year? I doubt he'd be still on here trying to get at you? Why not change your location and your name. You don't have to put your postcode, just explain when people message you live else where.

I mean I just don't see the enjoyment of being on here if you're doing that because of one insignificant person. Change a few things up like name, location and pictures and he'll be none the wiser.

Anyway I find it a useful tool, I wish you wouldn't receive messages full stop if you hid but you still do. I generally use it when I get bored and want a break or if I get annoyed

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thanks for taking the time to reply, I have had some great replies on here and privately and I can see why people do hide their profiles... makes a lot of sense, I just didn't see it initially, and I thought I would ask for opinions, but in my case I wouldn't hide my profile but thats what is great about the site you can or cant, as you said when people with no manners dont take no for an answer we block them. Great reply and thank you again

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By *ce-cream float OP Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Thank you for taking the time to reply, I have been enlightened by some really nice people, there were a couple of arseholes and people may think I am one for asking the question initially, but thats what the forum is for I suppose. Sound advise you have given out and many thanks.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

"Usually it means they are taking a break from it all "

Thats it in a nutshell though when people mail from one I automatically block them as its creepy.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I do sometimes mail from mine when I’m hidden especially if I see someone who looks nice or I see someone is going to a club and i suggest meeting up.

If I do that I send some pictures and might Unhide briefly to let them see who I am.

Like I said. We all do it differently.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Usually it means they are taking a break from it all

Thats it in a nutshell though when people mail from one I automatically block them as its creepy. "

Same here it is just creepy to me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually hide mine when the idiots who DON'T read profiles, come in droves!

Just stops new people from messaging for a bit.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I think you are looking at it wrong: I doubt people with hidden profiles send meet messages! Mine is hidden as health issues mean I can't play at the moment.

I truly struggle to understand why people don't us the site how they want and allow others the same courtesy!

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

It has put us off swinging for a bit due to idiots like this as we don’t want everyone local to us knowing our business because we don’t play with people on our home patch.

I mean I just don't see the enjoyment of being on here if you're doing that because of one insignificant person. Change a few things up like name, location and pictures and he'll be none the wiser.

Anyway I find it a useful tool, I wish you wouldn't receive messages full stop if you hid but you still do. I generally use it when I get bored and want a break or if I get annoyed

We have done that once and we also closed our account from another similar site SH... and it involved sensitive issues that could have an effect on our ability to earn an income. He thinks he is being clever because we won’t meet him. But because we live in a low population area it does not take long to re find us to try and out us for living the lifestyle.. it just means we have to play and get involved with different ways of communication and by using clubs instead...

We have also unhidden our account on a couple of occasions keeping the privacy settings high only to have same problem. It has also got to the point where we have considered not using the net at all for this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine us hidden because all It says is I'm not going on Cam until I am ready

Yet fucking idiots keep mailing asking to meet

It gets to a point when you just get sick of it.

It doesn't take much to read a profile but even that is too much for some ignorant twats

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

Just had a wink from a hidden profile, what is that all about?

If I can't see a profile I am not going to send a message as I know absolutely nothing about the clandestine winker.

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