FabSwingers.com forum: Anyone been secretly filmed on a meet?

By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I've just had the mis-pleasure of finding that i was being secretly filmed on a meet, i raised the issue after i'd left and they told me they would delete the recording and film themselves doing the deleting. I was pondering going to the police and naming & shaming on here. Has anyone else been in that situation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don’t respond within the next 24hrs I would report it.

Hope you get it sorted soon x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

You are very trusting to believe someone who was filming you secretly and without your consent is going to genuinely film themselves deleting the video because they said they would.

Hope they do, but it sounds very unlikely.

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"If they don’t respond within the next 24hrs I would report it.

Hope you get it sorted soon x"

They have replied, when i said i thought about going to the police their reply was " OK, fine, i have nothing here. "

Fuck knows how many others they've been filming on the sly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you get proof?

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"You are very trusting to believe someone who was filming you secretly and without your consent is going to genuinely film themselves deleting the video because they said they would.

Hope they do, but it sounds very unlikely."

They have sent me a video doing so but they could have made duplicates or whoever else was watching could have recorded it. They confessed that supposedly an ex boyfriend was watching it live.

for all i know they were streaming it around the world and making money from it.

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By *hubnwife_36dd_ukCouple
over a year ago

chester

"If they don’t respond within the next 24hrs I would report it.

Hope you get it sorted soon x

They have replied, when i said i thought about going to the police their reply was " OK, fine, i have nothing here. "

Fuck knows how many others they've been filming on the sly."

"OK, fine, i have nothing here."

Don't want to worry you but all that means is that the recording apparatus isn't at the premises anymore and all their other PCs etc have nothing naughty on them.

Firstly I'd make sure I have a copy of all messages you exchanged with them then I'd make a note of the date, time, location, persons present and if possible get hold of their pics/username etc from wherever you originally met them (assuming they haven't already deleted accounts).

You can then hand copies of it to the police if you wish to go down that route as secret filming of sexual activity is illegal.

Then if your "deleted" footage surfaces you can immediately get the wheels turning again.

It's one of the reasons we would only meet on neutral ground (a hotel and in our room). No chance of someone setting up hidden cams etc before hand.

You meet at someone else's accomm (how do you even know if it is their actual accomm?) then anything may have been set up before you get there.

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"If they don’t respond within the next 24hrs I would report it.

Hope you get it sorted soon x

They have replied, when i said i thought about going to the police their reply was " OK, fine, i have nothing here. "

Fuck knows how many others they've been filming on the sly.

"OK, fine, i have nothing here."

Don't want to worry you but all that means is that the recording apparatus isn't at the premises anymore and all their other PCs etc have nothing naughty on them.

You can then hand copies of it to the police if you wish to go down that route as secret filming of sexual activity is illegal.

Then if your "deleted" footage surfaces you can immediately get the wheels turning again.

It's one of the reasons we would only meet on neutral ground (a hotel and in our room). No chance of someone setting up hidden cams etc before hand.

You meet at someone else's accomm (how do you even know if it is their actual accomm?) then anything may have been set up before you get there."

I have taken screenshots of everything, i may go to the police tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it"

But i was oblivious and didnt give consent. That is my point.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it"

The OPs point is that he didn't consent, did you?

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Omg that's awful OP, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Keep every message you have and I'd at least get some advice from the police as this is 100% against the law. I hope you're ok xxx

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've never been secretly filmed, (as far as I know). I have been filmed so who knows if it's out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are very trusting to believe someone who was filming you secretly and without your consent is going to genuinely film themselves deleting the video because they said they would.

Hope they do, but it sounds very unlikely.

They have sent me a video doing so but they could have made duplicates or whoever else was watching could have recorded it. They confessed that supposedly an ex boyfriend was watching it live.

for all i know they were streaming it around the world and making money from it."

would still contact the police because whether they've deleted it or not filming you without your permission is against the law and you have the proof because you have the messages and the video of them supposedly deleting it. I would also report them to the site as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me about 11 months ago. I was with a guy and he'd asked me before we met if he could film and I said absolutely not and he said that was no problem. We met in my home so I felt fairly safe in the fact that obviously no recording equipment etc could have been set up. Unfortunately I wasn't aware at that time that you could film things on SmartWatch if you had the phone with you. I only found out because after we finished we were having a drink he was on his phone and I happen to look over and I could see that he was sending a message with a video attached and I caught a glimpse and it was of what had just happened. He was sending it to his girlfriend who had only given him permission to meet with women If You filmed it but I'm assuming she expect him to get their consent. I made him delete it there and then but obviously I have no idea if it got shared or not. I have no idea about technology so I didn't even know that this was possible but I do now know that you can only do it if you have the phone with you thats connected to the watch. It was very poor quality and to be fair you could barely see anything but it's not the point.

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By *oolsGoldxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've just had the mis-pleasure of finding that i was being secretly filmed on a meet, i raised the issue after i'd left and they told me they would delete the recording and film themselves doing the deleting. I was pondering going to the police and naming & shaming on here. Has anyone else been in that situation?"

I would be absolutely fuming!!! Imagine u had done that.. don’t tolerate that, report ASAP.

Disgusting.

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it

The OPs point is that he didn't consent, did you? "

Exactly that.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it

The OPs point is that he didn't consent, did you?

Exactly that."

Sorry to hear this has happened, but glad you are taking appropriate action. Hopefully this will be enough to stop them from doing it to anyone else. X

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Update: I have found they have multiple accounts on here and they have posted some of their meets on xhamster but i cant say for sure if they are people from fab or if its consenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you discover that they were recording?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a friend who this happened and found out via another friend seeing it on xhamster. Definitely go to the police they were brilliant, understanding and very discreet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg that's really bad

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By *rankyJAYMan
over a year ago

jarrow

It's bad but if it was in their own home nothing you can do about it wether you consented or not.

It's like you can film anyone anywhere in public etc

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"How did you discover that they were recording? "

They had there phone set up and it was facetiming too. I saw my face on the main screen.

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By *illy Gunn OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's bad but if it was in their own home nothing you can do about it wether you consented or not.

It's like you can film anyone anywhere in public etc"

I think the laws are different if you are engaging in a sexual act.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes.

A moron I had a spontaneous meet with answered his phone mid coitus using facetime to show his pal or something. Rage didn't come close.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry that happened to you mate. Yes it’s happened to me too - I noticed someone had their MacBook perched on the desk, angled toward the bed, and even though the screen was blank, the light was on next to the camera.

I was so angry I could have kicked their head in. But I just calmly slammed the lid and walked out and photographed their house and door number as I left. I think that was enough to scare them into deleting whatever they had captured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How did you discover that they were recording?

They had there phone set up and it was facetiming too. I saw my face on the main screen."

I like to think I'm a calm person but think I would seriously lose my shit if I discovered this had happened without my consent

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

"It's bad but if it was in their own home nothing you can do about it wether you consented or not.

It's like you can film anyone anywhere in public etc"

I think you can. If someone is being filmed without consent for your or another's sexual gratification then that's an offense of voyeurism.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We have filmed two meets. One was pre arranged and the guy was told it was a masquerade theme anyway so we would all be wearing those style masks throughout. The other was me using my phone openly to record what candy was getting up to, so it never showed his face.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it

But i was oblivious and didnt give consent. That is my point."

Totally illegal. Would it fall within the boundaries of the revenge porn laws?

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

"Ive been filmed by 6 couples in the past and promist a copy but never got one .men in the swinging world are just extras so get used to it

But i was oblivious and didnt give consent. That is my point.

Totally illegal. Would it fall within the boundaries of the revenge porn laws?"

No. That's a whole different thing. It's voyeurism which is also against the law if you don't know/consent.

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By *erkshireBiCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Reading

Horrible OP

I'd be tempted to name and shame if was me and take the ban.

Horrible situation to find yourself in

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Horrible OP

I'd be tempted to name and shame if was me and take the ban.

Horrible situation to find yourself in

As well as reporting them to admin. The site doesn't need those kind of people. We're all here to have fun, not be paranoid about turning up on Pornhub.

Yes, we often film our meets. But it's agreed between all parties prior to the meet being finalised and are always welcome to a copy. Also, it's always agreed that any filmed content is for private home use only.

This using hidden camera's and filming folk without their knowledge or consent is abhorrent behaviour. We're behind the OP 100%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them you are going to the police. This should make them try to delete any evidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have and just found out what do I do about it as don’t agree ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are very trusting to believe someone who was filming you secretly and without your consent is going to genuinely film themselves deleting the video because they said they would.

Hope they do, but it sounds very unlikely."

I have to agree I doubt they deleted it.

OP let them know if you find out they haven't deleted you may tell their neighbours or worse the press passing on their address. A serious threat may persuade its best to delete it.

I assume it was at theirs.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I have been filmed several times but with my consent, twice it was by a cameraman with good quality equipment. Sadly never got a copy of it, they were both specific scenarios, I wonder if I'm out there on the net somewhere?

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By *ovingyourwifeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

First ever meet was filmed and put on porn sites, I stalked the couple and found out where they lived, then I told them to take it down or face me writing to their employer which I also traced, they are no longer even on fab. It' illegal and not in the good faith of swingers and privacy. Many film it live and make money on Adultwork.com

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Look on the bright side OP at least now you can claim to be in the porn industry.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Look on the bright side OP at least now you can claim to be in the porn industry.

Bit of a daft statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you didn't consent it is against the law, report them. If you had done it to a woman or couple without their consent they would have gone straight to the police without a doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is any money to be made (there is always a way), then the perpretator will not care.. Unfortunately it is the 'way of the world'...

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

I dont know if i have ever been secretly filmed but im sure i heard someone open a can of beer from inside a wardrope once

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