FabSwingers.com forum: Dating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

2012 I want to start dating again can't remember the last time I went out on a real proper date. So the question is how do you feel about dating. And are you single guys on here looking for a date or just sex. As I don't want to date vanilla as I still want fun swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly how you feel..would also love to start dating again but don't want to go back to a vanilla lifestyle! How or where do you go to meet other swingers who also want to date?? Have heard it can happen on fab but it's not something I have ever looked for on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met through Fab 18 months ago - wasn't a date - just the usual exchange of mails and then meeting up for a social evening before taking things further.. we met, instantly clicked, talked all night and have been with each other since that fateful day.. who knows if it will last forever, we hope so, but we didn't go looking for it at the time. Think that's true for a lot of couples on here - also think that men have some sort of radar that makes them run a mile from people wanting to get commitment - best to just go with the flow and hope to meet the right one I guess. I know I could not date a vanilla person now - the last one recoiled in horror when I mentioned I'd had a threesome!!! GOOD LUCK ladies

Janet x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i'm the same, want to date but not give up the swinging lol just need to find the right person!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im dating atm!! to be honest find half the guys boring hahahah have had sex with a couple of them and almost fell asleep on them . If only i could meet a guy on here to date aswell life would be perfect becuase every guy i have met on here has blown me away in the bed room

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By *uud 4-funMan
over a year ago

Dartford

Hi guys,

There are some men on the scene who enjoy the social side as much as the sexy bits! -If a date ends with a handshake and a smile it doesn't have to be a disappointment.

It is nice to be able to read about potential partners' preferences rather than the complicated social dancing that causes frustrating delay or pressure for either partner and that is why I like sites like this.

Cheers

Ruud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't be arsed to trawl through tons of mud in order to find a gem.

Besides, my plate off FAB is kind of full, and am content with being single and fancy free.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

i was on a dating site but came off to come on here and i must say the sex is infinatly better,dont know why but the guys on here realy know how to please,guys on dating sites dont realy want to date, they just want a shag,but unfortunatly they where all without exception useless at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my other half on here when i was a single fem,wasnt looking for a relationship just looking for fun...

We have been together 5 years now so OP maybe your Mr right could be on here xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on a dating site before i knew about fab swingers, it wasnt for me though because i wanted to meet men for a drink then have sex in their cars, the men i met were quite boring they werent as interested in sex as what i was, they just talked about their kids and their ex wives, stuff like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i was on a dating site but came off to come on here and i must say the sex is infinatly better,dont know why but the guys on here realy know how to please,guys on dating sites dont realy want to date, they just want a shag,but unfortunatly they where all without exception useless at it

Agreed. The men I have met on here really want to please, not so in the vanilla world. A beer a bj and a quickie seems the norm

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Re-write your profile and tell the swinging community EXACTLY what you want.

There are plenty of men out there that want to date a swinger, you just gotta attract them.

Don't do as many have done in the past and pretend it's not what you want and then scare the bloke witless, because it will bite you on the bum and you could get accused of being a bunny boiler.

I wish all the ladies who want to date swingers the best of British luck...... it's not easy when going from a single female to a couple as you have to think of another person, not just yourselves, but ultimately, it's worth it.

Maddie x (who married a swinger and has never regretted it)

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By *edhotminxWoman
over a year ago

Turn left at the Singing Ringing Tree

Why not try the sister site - Fabflirts. It's for singles and you might find they will be more interested in dating.

I met my other half on here, so it does happen.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Why not try the sister site - Fabflirts. It's for singles and you might find they will be more interested in dating.

I met my other half on here, so it does happen.

Is it more popular now than it used to be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why not try the sister site - Fabflirts. It's for singles and you might find they will be more interested in dating.

I met my other half on here, so it does happen.

Have tried it but full of perverts and guys I have blocked but I am due a rewrite thanks maddy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was dating a vanilla this time last year. We'd been out for a lovely meal. All very nice just how dating should be. Got back to mine and went bed. Omg...... a quick fumble and he was done. Me id not even got started. I decided id work on him abit. Haha he turned and told me to get something out the draw. That contained batteries.....

I finished it soon after that. He said I was to demanding........ Good quality sex isn't to much to ask for is it?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a dating site, men are equal to women, here men are not.

Both sites have their uses. I have got to the stage that I don't want to wait whilst the relationship grows to do 'interesting' sex. Nor do I want one partner, that can come later.

On both types i'm looking for friends to do interesting things with (Sex on Fab, Outings/holidays on dating).

Works sort of ok, though i am busier on the dating sites lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not try the sister site - Fabflirts. It's for singles and you might find they will be more interested in dating.

'Snort'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was dating a vanilla this time last year. We'd been out for a lovely meal. All very nice just how dating should be. Got back to mine and went bed. Omg...... a quick fumble and he was done. Me id not even got started. I decided id work on him abit. Haha he turned and told me to get something out the draw. That contained batteries.....

I finished it soon after that. He said I was to demanding........ Good quality sex isn't to much to ask for is it?.

you'd think, but god i have a bad habbit of picking the wrong ones, FABS has proved to have been better.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I'd like to find a date too. Hopefully fabflirts might improve in 2012!

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

"I'd like to find a date too. Hopefully fabflirts might improve in 2012!"
me too...at least you have one thing in common to begin with n a swingers site. Im on pof...what a load of tripe and lots of men on fab are on pof too same as me....why not just jib off pof and concentrate on fab dating?? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me im afraid, i have no intentions of getting into another relationship so datings not something i will be doing

However i bet there are hundreds of guys on here looking for a partner who swings so im sure you'll have no problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was also on the named dating site and found it to be full of tripe and hidden adgenda's when most of the people on there are also on here hahaha I quickly moved over for what I was looking for honest and open fun (with hopefully long term in mind) which I stated in my profile. But recently I have started dating Vanilla and he is amazing in bed but.....when I suggested a 3some or swinging he was nearly sick. So for the moment my fantasy remains just that until I decide if it is worth giving it up for the right man. But at the moment I still enjoy the social side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on POF before I joined here... its crap. Ive also realised im pretty shite at dateing and casual sex is sooooooooo the way to go for me... but, yeh, sometimes it would be nice to have someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I was chatting to this morning, said that he would like to date me but surely that's vanilla stuff not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2012 I want to start dating again can't remember the last time I went out on a real proper date. So the question is how do you feel about dating. And are you single guys on here looking for a date or just sex. As I don't want to date vanilla as I still want fun swinging."

Then you're in the right place!

Good luck to you.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I would also like to date but I love to swing and have always done that alone. Was also on Pof and ended up to a malicious caller so had to get police involved.

Dating to me is scary as not many men want confident ladies with kids and little totally free time.

Swinging works for me as it gives me the sex and dont have to trust anyone really.

Really cant see me dating again but wont say never but very unlikely.

My problem is also that the men I like dont float my boat enough sexually.

O well...will carry on being naughty and having fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would also like to date but I love to swing and have always done that alone. Was also on Pof and ended up to a malicious caller so had to get police involved.

Dating to me is scary as not many men want confident ladies with kids and little totally free time.

Swinging works for me as it gives me the sex and dont have to trust anyone really.

Really cant see me dating again but wont say never but very unlikely.

My problem is also that the men I like dont float my boat enough sexually.

O well...will carry on being naughty and having fun x"

I'm sure there's someone out there for you!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm sure there's someone out there for you!

Oooh I know this is meant well but I hate it when people say that. I've been single for 6 years now so unless they're a hermit on top of a mountain I'm pretty sure there is no-one out there for me.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

6 years for ne too...I tend assume I will be single now full stop as.been single so long now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im in exactly the same boat, split with my girlfriend / swinging pardner...

...yeehaw......

So tomorrow im on a date with a girl i met in the pub boxing day....

So im doing an experiment, im going to be straight up with my lifestyle choice....

I'll let you know what happend...

The last vanilla date, i was upfront with about it before we even went out on the date, we went out, she said she didnt think she could deal with my past, so fair enough, then her mate called had a go, called me bastard, i explained i had been straight up, the her mate had a go becuase i wouldnt change.....sheeesh bloody cheek of it.

Anyway ill post tomorrow what happens...

What can i do keep it quiet, get involved then, tell....or just blab right out.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just been thinking... (dont do it often) any guys reading this will be running for the hills!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am also very honest too.

If I think there could be a second date I always tend to try leave hints about having fun and living life since my ex.

Rather they run immediately than not be honest and tell them further down the line and be accused of lying.

Not easy to explain that although I adore men I need.or want to be intimate with women too and like to do this in swinging clubs......yep...most men tend to run at honest bi ladies wanting to be naughty like me

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

"I'm sure there's someone out there for you!

Oooh I know this is meant well but I hate it when people say that. I've been single for 6 years now so unless they're a hermit on top of a mountain I'm pretty sure there is no-one out there for me."
16 years for me,im damn sure theres no one out there for me so i will carry on ,carrying on lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I'm sure there's someone out there for you!

Oooh I know this is meant well but I hate it when people say that. I've been single for 6 years now so unless they're a hermit on top of a mountain I'm pretty sure there is no-one out there for me. 16 years for me,im damn sure theres no one out there for me so i will carry on ,carrying on lol

Sisters are doing it for themselves!

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By *esmond70Man
over a year ago

tavistock

dating and swinging would. be ideal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best laugh about some of the dating sites, about people. A few I recognised(I have meet them), as being on there and here, have on their dating profiles, not looking for casual or intimate relationships, chuckling as I write now, lololol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive just been thinking... (dont do it often) any guys reading this will be running for the hills!

Lol...some might be, i find the whole discussion enlightening, and proves every one is looking for different things, i only ever run for the hills from those who say they are only looking for fun but after meeting get possessive etc, it does happen on occasion though thankfully rarely.

If someone is up front about how they view things i don't find that intimidating or scary at all, its deception and conflicting signals that sets my panic buttons off.,

Personally mulling over dating myself, and have the same dilemmas others do, of can i go back to vanilla and i enjoy the freedom swinging brings to the table.

So im likely to just go with the flow and see what happens. Life is usually more interesting that way anyway.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Ive just been thinking... (dont do it often) any guys reading this will be running for the hills!

OR thinking "great, if I tell her what she wants to hear, I will have a swinging partner and have more luck on here"!!!

Want a "proper" date?

Join a dating site, after a while introduce him to the swinging scene....

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