FabSwingers.com forum: what was it like before the internet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

as it says... how did people hook up as swingers before forums etc... I have this vision of lots of mishaps.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

The postmen must of been busy back then with hundreds of letters and cock pictures for the women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The postmen must of been busy back then with hundreds of letters and cock pictures for the women "

More likely men understood that flashing their cocks made them look more like a sex offender than a tempting fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Readers wives back of adult magazines loved going through my dad's collection lol x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet."

People actually went out and socialized

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"The postmen must of been busy back then with hundreds of letters and cock pictures for the women

More likely men understood that flashing their cocks made them look more like a sex offender than a tempting fuck."

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"The postmen must of been busy back then with hundreds of letters and cock pictures for the women "

I very much doubt men put cock pics in the post. People went out and socialised at venues. There would have been a lot less attitude than being on Fab.

Life was different before the internet. People spoke to each other and you actually made an effort to go out and meet people rather than hiding behind a screen and being a keyboard warrior!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I used to work for a publication that among other things carried contact ads. We supplied a box number for anonymous contact and people sent letters and polaroids in and often underwear. They often left the envelopes unsealed and the photos would drop out. The internet has just made it easier.

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By *kbloke_11Man
over a year ago

Hockley

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet.

People actually went out and socialized "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pampas grass in my front garden

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By *aren1956TV/TS
over a year ago

Fakenham

Exchange & Mart and lots of letters and Polaroid photos.

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By *utonguy2023Man
over a year ago

luton

Fucking boring lol

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"as it says... how did people hook up as swingers before forums etc... I have this vision of lots of mishaps. "

The Journal of Sex

Happy, uncomplicated days. Actually on reflection the process was very complicated!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet.

People actually went out and socialized "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pampas grass in my front garden

As strenuously denied by Mariella Frostrup after her window boxes attracted some interest (not a euphemism either)

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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago

Reading

"Readers wives back of adult magazines loved going through my dad's collection lol x"

Wasn't just me then

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

sam fox n linda lucardi mmmmmmm get in there 0898 numbers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life was brilliant tbh ... people actually lived it!

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

true now its a f ing screen and automated also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as it says... how did people hook up as swingers before forums etc... I have this vision of lots of mishaps. "
they talked to people....... I still do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as it says... how did people hook up as swingers before forums etc... I have this vision of lots of mishaps. "

Contact mags 2 months postal connection 2 months getting the right meet time 2 months planning then forgot who you had asked in the first place lol or just plant pampass grass in your front garden, yes people did this.

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

For us it was ad mag, posting a letter off to a box number for it to be forwarded with a postal order for payment. A meet today took 6 weeks to arrange, boy did we have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet.

People actually went out and socialized "

Shock horror!

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Fucking boring lol"

Just the opposite

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There was fabpigeons

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By *amescoupleCouple
over a year ago

north walsham

"Pampas grass in my front garden

So what does it mean if it’s in your back garden......rear entry only????

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

When it actually worked no fakes no wannabes and loads of hairy bush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as it says... how did people hook up as swingers before forums etc... I have this vision of lots of mishaps. "

Contact magazines and reader's wives. A work mate used yo use them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pampas grass in my front garden

If that worked you would not be on Fab

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet.

People actually went out and socialized

Shock horror!"

Noooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet."

Back when people actually had to write a letter and try to make themselves sound interesting...

I remember all the hassle, and the time spent - but I never, ever, got a letter just saying "Hi", "Wot u up 2?" or "Fancy a fuck"....!!!

Some things were definitely better back then...

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Back in the mid-90s I frequented a couple of phone chatlines - you'd leave an opening 'line' of your own, then listen to those left by women (while they listened to those left by men)...

....when you heard one you liked, you'd send them a message, then carry on browsing whilst awaiting a response from them or from someone to your opening line - and you'd send messages back and forth...

....could get expensive if you were on the line a long time (the ones I used were only about 10p a minute, but some were a lot more) - so the trick was to give your or get their phone number quickly, then talk direct...

....in the couple of years I used them, I think I averaged a meet a month - including my first ever with a couple...

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

The whole scene worked much better in those days. Guys were scared to pose as couples as they didn't know which day the postman might post a reply to their ad, through the letterbox.

Only genuine people bothered to write to a third party and have their letter/photos forwarded on for a sum of money.

Still friends with couples we met way back then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pampas grass in my front garden

So what does it mean if it’s in your back garden......rear entry only????

Lol I never found that one out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Contact magazines and clubs.....the world was simpler before the Internet.

Back when people actually had to write a letter and try to make themselves sound interesting...

I remember all the hassle, and the time spent - but I never, ever, got a letter just saying "Hi", "Wot u up 2?" or "Fancy a fuck"....!!!

Some things were definitely better back then...

Indeed

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By *hisismeXXXMan
over a year ago

Welsh Wales

Loot the weekly free ads paper was where I first stumbled across the scene as an 18 year old living in London for a year.

Scouring the ads, taking the time to write a letter, enclose a stamped addressed envelope and a face and full length photo, walk to the post box and then wait.

Met 3 couples via Loot that year one of them introduced me to parties and away I went.

It was actually easier for single males in those days as I guess the couples knew that if you were giving them your home address and landline phone number you were most likely being honest and were genuinely single.

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

Desire magazine contacts section hand written letters and Polaroids it took longer but because of effort people only did it if they were totally genuine

I found it so much beter then having been out the scene and come back the internet is great but it kinda bombards u and it's to easy for people who arnt real or genuine just to post for whatever reason they do which I don't understand myself but that's a hole new thread

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I would imagine quite a few parties were held as well.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Pampas grass in my front garden

Was that / is that really a thing? My parents had pampas grass in their front garden. Just thought it was a 1970s thing

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

For swinging the positives of the Internet is the increase in the number of people who want to try swinging and the ease of connecting having seen photos etc.

The negatives of the Internet is the increase in the number of people who want to try swinging and the ease of connecting having seen photos etc!

Basically it has allowed too many people who are either fake or time wasters or dreamers to dabble. As there is almost no effort required it means any Tom dick or Harriet can dip their toe in and not worry about offending people or actually making the effort to hold a conversation first.

Lost count of the number of people who don't even want to swap phone numbers and have a real chat before arranging a meet! We never meet them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Portsmouth evening news

(There were thousands of local papers)

Had lots of personal ads with box numbers

Much the same as the internet but slower and photos were simply more difficult to take and expensive

(And for gay/bi most public toilets had at least one glory hole (and there was no cctv))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply People made a effort back then...

Socialised talked & flirted.

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By *W1967Man
over a year ago

South Leicestershire

I tried contact mags (New Direction if I remember). Lots of stamped addressed envelopes, and rarely anything back as a single guy.Never got a meet from them. I had more luck just going out on the town but it wasn't really swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boring, went out less as harder to arrange as that is also pre mobiles. Stuck with awful TV as pre Netflix and sky was just taking off.

The Internet provides a lot of crap but as an entertainment and communication medium it has changed the world for the better.

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

LooT

And a lot more successful than here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Box of OMO waging powder in the window

Meant on my own

Or a pair of nickers in the window

Pub or nightclub

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

I've still got the hand written letters and pics I received

Like a time capsule of smut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we used contact magazines like Experience and Vibrations. As it was relatively expensive to make contact you knew that behind every letter was a genuine desire to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pubs nightclubs in the street see i pretty girl go say hi see what happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The postmen must of been busy back then with hundreds of letters and cock pictures for the women "
i bet women still ignored letters and mass binned them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Handkerchief and chloroform

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

From a partner/relationship basis I,ve spent most of my life on my own... If you can,t share with someone there,s no point otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Box of OMO waging powder in the window

Meant on my own

Or a pair of nickers in the window

Pub or nightclub "

I heard that when squaddie's wives put a packet of OMO in the window it meant "old man out." so many uses from one pack of washing powder!

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