FabSwingers.com forum: Awkward moment when the wife rings....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ever had this. I did today. Not seen the guy since last summer and he just got in touch yesterday asked if we could chat on the phone. I say yes of course. Dnt have your number anymore. Phone rings female voice asking if I'd met her husband. Shock horror. Thought he was divorced.

Awkward. All ended well. Wondered if this has ever happened to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many years ago. Although more recently I was the one doing the Calling to the extra females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she blame you ?

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

I once met an two women that my ex was sleeping with while he was with me. I had no idea at the time he was with either of them. One of them he had been with for years and lived together (told me he was single).

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

getting the popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did she blame you ? "

She was very nice. I just explained I'd only met him for drinks in the afternoon last summer. She proceeded to tell me how violent etc etc. I said I didn't really want to get involved as didn't really know him but felt her pain so sympathized with her

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I admire her balls (& feel sorry for u.. glad she was nice enough!!) I don’t think I’d dare ring

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Years ago i was seeing someone,not on here.

Woke up one morning to loads of missed calls,rang the number back and found it was his partner.

He was supposedly single no kids,transpires they had 2 and I wasn't the first person he had been seeing.

She was guttes it was happening again,i told her everything and ended it immediately .

Hate being lied to about stuff like that;(.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes "

Sisterhood?

From the OP it seems the man lied and claimed to be divorced when he wasn’t, so the OP did nothing wrong by being honest.

I’m sure many would want honesty if they were in the wife’s position, really can’t see how that is sour grapes.

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By *hb1Man
over a year ago

Edgbaston

I had same thing , a guy I had met and verified messaged me on here asking if we could chat I DM’d my number next thing I’ve got the wife asking did I know he was married with kids !!!! Hung up pretty quick!!!!!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Sisterhood?

From the OP it seems the man lied and claimed to be divorced when he wasn’t, so the OP did nothing wrong by being honest.

I’m sure many would want honesty if they were in the wife’s position, really can’t see how that is sour grapes. "

Agree

I was lied to too and won't cover for someone deceiving their partner.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sometimes I suppose the only way to get close to the truth is to speak to the "other woman".

If it happened to us, unlikely as we use a fuck phone, I would probably just state the bare facts and then block the number.

There's absolutely no way of knowing if the caller is telling the truth and I don't get involved in other people's relationships.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Sisterhood?

From the OP it seems the man lied and claimed to be divorced when he wasn’t, so the OP did nothing wrong by being honest.

I’m sure many would want honesty if they were in the wife’s position, really can’t see how that is sour grapes.

Agree

I was lied to too and won't cover for someone deceiving their partner."

I'm the same. If either of them had contacted me, I would have told them the full story. I would still love to hear their side too.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

A friend had a similar situation, actually ended up meeting his wife and becoming friends with her. She had no idea he was married.

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By *harliebluestockingsCouple
over a year ago

london

Ouch. No idea if there even is a right and wrong action. Sorry that an idiot can cause so many people pain. Must admit on here we only use fuck phone as some one called it ( like it ) and have no interest in people we meets real names or lives. But no idea what we would do if we got a call like that. Sucks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes "

Sour grapes? The man was nothing to me. I felt bad for her I was careful what I said because I wasn't aware shed hacked his fab account. Plus I had nothing to feel bad about off only met him for drinks. So your comment is unfounded sounds like guilty conscience to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ever had this. I did today. Not seen the guy since last summer and he just got in touch yesterday asked if we could chat on the phone. I say yes of course. Dnt have your number anymore. Phone rings female voice asking if I'd met her husband. Shock horror. Thought he was divorced.

Awkward. All ended well. Wondered if this has ever happened to anyone "
happened to a lady I used to meet she started seeing a guy I told her was married she wouldn't believe me anyway she went out with him a few times then he stopped calling but some time later his wife rang her on her mobile and gave her a load of abuse, she was mad it was on her profile she didn’t meet married guys but she liked him

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"A friend had a similar situation, actually ended up meeting his wife and becoming friends with her. She had no idea he was married. "

I had this. Felt so guilty I drove from Leeds to Salisbury to give her a hug and make sure she was ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?"

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why "

There's no need to get defensive about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes "
why is it. As someone that has been cheated on in a bad way. I would appreciate the honest answers given. There is a girl code... shame many women these days don't use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire her balls (& feel sorry for u.. glad she was nice enough!!) I don’t think I’d dare ring "
I've been accused of being psychotic for ringing the other women my ex was seeing to find out what was what. Most weren't aware of me. And those that were. He had told them I was just a psycho he fucked occassionally.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes why is it. As someone that has been cheated on in a bad way. I would appreciate the honest answers given. There is a girl code... shame many women these days don't use it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire her balls (& feel sorry for u.. glad she was nice enough!!) I don’t think I’d dare ring I've been accused of being psychotic for ringing the other women my ex was seeing to find out what was what. Most weren't aware of me. And those that were. He had told them I was just a psycho he fucked occassionally.

You are so lucky you got him out of your life. x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've had text messages and calls and I always say nothing, as soon as I am dubious - sometimes text messages pretend to be from the husband, but they never know what to say to you, so ask questions.

I'm not having relationships with these people, so I won't be drawn into their relationships/traumas. I think it's wiser to learn and move on from such experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

Personally I think you are looking for an argument when there is no need for one. I am neither defensive or bothered about what you think. The poor woman wanted to talk I let her. Not my fault her husband is a cheat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Totally agree thank you

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By *heFilthEngineerMan
over a year ago

lichfield

few years back i noticed i had one of those unread messages facebooks hides from you if they're not a friend. the message was its self 2 years old, by some guys asking questions about me apparently seeing his mrs. I have no idea who he was referring to and if its true, i replied but never got a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are so lucky you got him out of your life. x"
I know x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all"

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all. "

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty "

So the comment about Sour grapes wasn't nasty. Maybe you should not have started it then I would not have retaliated. I m not into arguing or drama I was just asking a question you chose to snipe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty

So the comment about Sour grapes wasn't nasty. Maybe you should not have started it then I would not have retaliated. I m not into arguing or drama I was just asking a question you chose to snipe"

I made a comment that disagreed with how you'd handled a situation and gave my thoughts on it. That's what happens on a forum. It's allowed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty

So the comment about Sour grapes wasn't nasty. Maybe you should not have started it then I would not have retaliated. I m not into arguing or drama I was just asking a question you chose to snipe

I made a comment that disagreed with how you'd handled a situation and gave my thoughts on it. That's what happens on a forum. It's allowed"

I totally agree but what was the Sour grapes comment that was a personal snipe to me . And it offended as my comment offended you. Anyway I apologise if I upset you as it's not my intention to upset anyone

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

When I was in my early 20's I found out my ex was fucking another woman. She didn't know about me. I rang her. We met for a brew and I ended up fucking her brains out. We both dumped him and were together for about a year. Oh how we laughed that he was shit in bed and had never made us cum.

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I was in my early 20's I found out my ex was fucking another woman. She didn't know about me. I rang her. We met for a brew and I ended up fucking her brains out. We both dumped him and were together for about a year. Oh how we laughed that he was shit in bed and had never made us cum.

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that. "

Hahaha good for you. I applaud you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that. "

Why would you be with a man who was shit in bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that. "

I disagreed...that's not nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a call. But face book message.

. Being asked to look a certain page. To find a pic of me and the ex on it stating he was cheating on the other women with me! I replied staing excuse me we have lived together for 2 and a half years how am i the other women?? He had told this girl i was his flat mate!!! The cheeky basterd!!! Then a series of messages from 3 or 4 other girls all saying they were also seeing him. Turns out he had lied to each and everyone of us. And used his job that i got him to pull all these other girls.

He ended up single (probably not for long) and living back at his mums house.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that. "

What a success story! Haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes "

The fact the two of them had a conversation can only be positive. The lady calling was almost certainly glad the phone was answered and an adult conversation followed. People don't ask question unless they actually want an answer (however good/bad the answer is).

Would it be better if she was still

in the dark?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Would it be better if she was still

in the dark?"

She told me he was a violent man and that she was warning me if I was seeing him. I thought that was sweet considering stress the injured party. She was divorcing him on the grounds of what had done

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

Why would you be with a man who was shit in bed? "

Because he was my first boyfriend and I knew no better. We had been together 4 years. Is that ok??

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

I disagreed...that's not nasty "

I was talking about some women I know on here. I don't have a clue who you are.

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By *alking DisasterWoman
over a year ago

South Oxfordshire

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

I disagreed...that's not nasty

I was talking about some women I know on here. I don't have a clue who you are."

I somehow think it's me as they have posted on a couple of threads where I've got into arguments with others.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

I disagreed...that's not nasty

I was talking about some women I know on here. I don't have a clue who you are.

I somehow think it's me as they have posted on a couple of threads where I've got into arguments with others."

It's definitely not you hun. Some women just feel threatened by other women on here. I find it hilarious cos I'm not a threat. I don't fuck any guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all"

Say that woman already knew you'd met her partner and possibly had pictures of you or knew your username on here (as she'd hacked his account) Say she rang you and you acted like a cunt, there's nothing stopping her from taking your pictures and uploading them somewhere or posting your fab username on social media or outing you in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

Why would you be with a man who was shit in bed?

Because he was my first boyfriend and I knew no better. We had been together 4 years. Is that ok??"

Why so defensive?

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Girl code all the way. Tho some nasty types on here don't understand that.

Why would you be with a man who was shit in bed?

Because he was my first boyfriend and I knew no better. We had been together 4 years. Is that ok??

Why so defensive? "

Because I want to be.

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By *inkvaderMan
over a year ago

london/manchester/ringwood

You are so lucky you got him out of your life. x"

It’s true .. he’s definitely missing something in his life .. this must be a gap filler or a bandaid for his marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

That's an awful lot of 'say'

I'm not gonna involve myself in someone else's drama if I can avoid it.

If I hang up I'm not acting like a cunt

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By *0deedeeWoman
over a year ago

Newtownards

yeah something similar a guy starts chatting asks for my whatsap next thing I get a message from his daughter saying will I stop seeing her dad lol so I put her straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

Well thankfully I didn't and my pics are only on friends which he wasn't so I didn't care. Plus I'm not bothered if she did out me as I've nothing to hide. My pics are tasteful. But I do understand what you are saying. Thankfully it was dealt with in an adult manner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*"

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

That's an awful lot of 'say'

I'm not gonna involve myself in someone else's drama if I can avoid it.

If I hang up I'm not acting like a cunt "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig"

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy"

Maybe you should give it a rest your the only one causing any aggro on here. I'm not rising to your attitude. Do it alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are so lucky you got him out of your life. x

It’s true .. he’s definitely missing something in his life .. this must be a gap filler or a bandaid for his marriage

Do you know him?

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy"

I think you are really trying hard to have the last word, let it go. she created the thread to express her situation and thought, of course, opinion will differ but you did the first dig.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy"

Please stop private messaging me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy

I think you are really trying hard to have the last word, let it go. she created the thread to express her situation and thought, of course, opinion will differ but you did the first dig."

It seems there are a few who use the forums to do just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

I’m glad that’s just a wild scenario of “what if” chucked into the mix.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Outing the other women would have made her a bigger “cunt” imo.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

I’m glad that’s just a wild scenario of “what if” chucked into the mix.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Outing the other women would have made her a bigger “cunt” imo."

Yes I agree but if you are hurt I guess you dnt think about anyone else's feelings. I had to feel sorry for her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy

I think you are really trying hard to have the last word, let it go. she created the thread to express her situation and thought, of course, opinion will differ but you did the first dig.

It seems there are a few who use the forums to do just that.

Thank you ladies for your support. Hopefully it will stop now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

I’m glad that’s just a wild scenario of “what if” chucked into the mix.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Outing the other women would have made her a bigger “cunt” imo.

Yes I agree but if you are hurt I guess you dnt think about anyone else's feelings. I had to feel sorry for her "

That's what I mean, she'd already hacked his account and in any situation in life it's always better to be seen as being supportive rather than adding fuel to the fire, you did the right thing.

If she was unstable and you'd just hung up and blocked her that could've made her angry, as it happens you diffused the situation, gave her answers she was looking for and that was the end of it.

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over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

I’m glad that’s just a wild scenario of “what if” chucked into the mix.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Outing the other women would have made her a bigger “cunt” imo.

Yes I agree but if you are hurt I guess you dnt think about anyone else's feelings. I had to feel sorry for her

That's what I mean, she'd already hacked his account and in any situation in life it's always better to be seen as being supportive rather than adding fuel to the fire, you did the right thing.

If she was unstable and you'd just hung up and blocked her that could've made her angry, as it happens you diffused the situation, gave her answers she was looking for and that was the end of it. "

Well I'm a mature lady and think able to talk both sympathetically and sensibly. I have blocked the account but see it's still active so I think she's going through his meets. Who knows. A woman scorned and all that

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

My problem is when she rings me and the lady isn’t bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

I’m glad that’s just a wild scenario of “what if” chucked into the mix.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Outing the other women would have made her a bigger “cunt” imo.

Yes I agree but if you are hurt I guess you dnt think about anyone else's feelings. I had to feel sorry for her

That's what I mean, she'd already hacked his account and in any situation in life it's always better to be seen as being supportive rather than adding fuel to the fire, you did the right thing.

If she was unstable and you'd just hung up and blocked her that could've made her angry, as it happens you diffused the situation, gave her answers she was looking for and that was the end of it.

Exactly, she’s probably looking for answers, clarification and a bit of closure. There’s nothing to suggest she was anything else.

Unfortunately OP, it’s the chance you take meeting people off the internet that they may not be what they allude to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

But I got my husband to answer it and say he was a works collgue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That must of been awkward for you.

Pleased it turned out ok, it could of been very different for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all

I’m glad that’s just a wild scenario of “what if” chucked into the mix.

Two wrongs don’t make a right. Outing the other women would have made her a bigger “cunt” imo.

Yes I agree but if you are hurt I guess you dnt think about anyone else's feelings. I had to feel sorry for her

That's what I mean, she'd already hacked his account and in any situation in life it's always better to be seen as being supportive rather than adding fuel to the fire, you did the right thing.

If she was unstable and you'd just hung up and blocked her that could've made her angry, as it happens you diffused the situation, gave her answers she was looking for and that was the end of it.

Exactly, she’s probably looking for answers, clarification and a bit of closure. There’s nothing to suggest she was anything else.

Unfortunately OP, it’s the chance you take meeting people off the internet that they may not be what they allude to.

Yes I know . I dnt meet married men and as I said I only went to meet him as I was across Portsmouth shopping. So nothing more. Hope she finds her peace

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Sisterhood?

From the OP it seems the man lied and claimed to be divorced when he wasn’t, so the OP did nothing wrong by being honest.

I’m sure many would want honesty if they were in the wife’s position, really can’t see how that is sour grapes. "

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

But I got my husband to answer it and say he was a works collgue

Genius move

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

God's honest truth....

Back in my 20s I was seeing a woman for 6 months and realised she was barking mad.....and I ended things as nicely as possible...

For 3 years anyone I went out with she would find out (stalker) and would call them, turn up at thier address or work place and tell them she was my wife!!!!

Yes ended getting an injunction (how embarrassing)...

The ultimate ending...(this is true!)

I took a new date out and ended up at a club on end of a pier....as we came out at the end of the night we heard a lot of screaming and shouting....., thinking it was some one worse for wear etc...we went home.......next morning received a call from hospital to say they had my wife brought in last night and she's only just come round.......she had jumped off the Pier.....tide was out and broke both her legs....

To say I wanted to fall down with laughter as like comedy sketch but thought better of it as clearly totally unhinged and not quite right........left me alone from then on but have heard she's married now with kids....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God's honest truth....

Back in my 20s I was seeing a woman for 6 months and realised she was barking mad.....and I ended things as nicely as possible...

For 3 years anyone I went out with she would find out (stalker) and would call them, turn up at thier address or work place and tell them she was my wife!!!!

Yes ended getting an injunction (how embarrassing)...

The ultimate ending...(this is true!)

That's not really funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God's honest truth....

Back in my 20s I was seeing a woman for 6 months and realised she was barking mad.....and I ended things as nicely as possible...

For 3 years anyone I went out with she would find out (stalker) and would call them, turn up at thier address or work place and tell them she was my wife!!!!

Yes ended getting an injunction (how embarrassing)...

The ultimate ending...(this is true!)

That's not really funny. "

Agree...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Sisterhood?

From the OP it seems the man lied and claimed to be divorced when he wasn’t, so the OP did nothing wrong by being honest.

I’m sure many would want honesty if they were in the wife’s position, really can’t see how that is sour grapes. "

It's not.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"God's honest truth....

Back in my 20s I was seeing a woman for 6 months and realised she was barking mad.....and I ended things as nicely as possible...

For 3 years anyone I went out with she would find out (stalker) and would call them, turn up at thier address or work place and tell them she was my wife!!!!

Yes ended getting an injunction (how embarrassing)...

The ultimate ending...(this is true!)

That's not really funny. "

Definitely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God's honest truth....

Back in my 20s I was seeing a woman for 6 months and realised she was barking mad.....and I ended things as nicely as possible...

For 3 years anyone I went out with she would find out (stalker) and would call them, turn up at thier address or work place and tell them she was my wife!!!!

Yes ended getting an injunction (how embarrassing)...

The ultimate ending...(this is true!)

Well at least the break was a closing point for you and the crazy woman.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’m facepalming my way through the latter part of this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m facepalming my way through the latter part of this thread. "

I can't even begin to comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it would sound like sour grapes coming from any woman...it wasn't a personal *you*

You said and I quote. Anything else is your own sour grapes.

So how was that not a personal dig

Oh roll your sleeves down lady. It would sound like sour grapes coming from anyone caught fooling around with an attached guy"

Sour grapes? A man pursued me for 5 months. Eventually I overrode my instincts and agreed to a date. On the way back to the station the wife (who he told me he had divorced because she was crazy) came out of nowhere and physically attacked me. as he got her off me, she stole his phone and I escaped to call the police. When I waited for the police she broke free from him and ran and found me and attacked me again. He later said to me and the police she had been stalking him. So why pursue me and date me if you know someone is dangerous? To add insult, she then harrassed me by phone for two weeks because that's how long the police took to catch her after releasing her the first time. I actually believe he had been cheating and wound her up and she had something wrong mentally.

Dear men, leave me out of your domestic situations. Every time I give my number to a guy I feel a scorned woman could get hold of it.

And married men on this site continue to challenge my profile statement about me not wanting any married guys to contact me. I was mentally and physically scared for life from this situation. So to accuse the op of sour grapes is a pathetic stance to take.

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over a year ago

Had a similar thing many years ago, the one and only time I have ever played away although it was a full blown affair. It was back in the early days of mobile phones, the ex wife (before we were married) and I had identical mobiles, I started leaving mine in my car and being very paranoid about leaving it lying round etc. The ex realised I was up to no good, switches her phone for mine, Text the girl from my phone saying “hi, it’s me, I’ll be on my way to work at about 7.30, call me then” the girl calls, the ex answered and told the girl I’d told her everything and she wanted her version of it. The girl blurts out that she’s in love with me and that was the end of my life as I knew it. Awful time it was. That’ll teach me eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Why didn't you just hang up and block the number?

Because that makes me look guilty and I had nothing to feel guilty about that's why

There's no need to get defensive about it

No argument...I would have dealt with it differently is all"

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives"

Well you sure as he'll got involved in this and caused the drama. So I think may be it's time to back out of the thread. Or admit or even an apology is totally acceptable. But maybe too much to ask.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had a similar thing many years ago, the one and only time I have ever played away although it was a full blown affair. It was back in the early days of mobile phones, the ex wife (before we were married) and I had identical mobiles, I started leaving mine in my car and being very paranoid about leaving it lying round etc. The ex realised I was up to no good, switches her phone for mine, Text the girl from my phone saying “hi, it’s me, I’ll be on my way to work at about 7.30, call me then” the girl calls, the ex answered and told the girl I’d told her everything and she wanted her version of it. The girl blurts out that she’s in love with me and that was the end of my life as I knew it. Awful time it was. That’ll teach me eh."

Yes but sadly you paid a high price. I dnt condone affairs or whatever they are but these things happen and we met choose who we fall for. Lessons learnt sadly a hard one for you .

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives"

It was him bringing drama not her

She owes him nothing,he lied

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives"

You prefer not to get involved in drama yet made enough drama on this thread...

Strange that.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Not had exactly that, but many years ago I was in a Travel Lodge one afternoon with a woman when her husband rang. We were cuddling after a fuck and just about to start another session.

She signed for me to be quiet, then had a 'normal' conversation with him and said she was out shopping with a girlfriend and would be home as usual. She sounded totally relaxed and believable, I thought.

She said later he hadn't had any suspicions. Full marks for keeping cool during an embarrassing moment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like the ITV programme

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives"

You have come across as the embittered wife throughout this thread.

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over a year ago

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives

You have come across as the embittered wife throughout this thread. "

I'd be interested to hear an explanation of why you think that

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives

You have come across as the embittered wife throughout this thread.

I'd be interested to hear an explanation of why you think that"

You meet people you want to meet without any comeback (and hang up), yet when others meet people and answer a phone they are somehow culpable of them getting their own back for failed relationships (sour grapes).

It seems you are free to meet without repercussion yet when others have a moral issue with not meeting married men/women, they are defensive for not blocking the number and hanging the phone up.

You sound like someone who has stepped on toes in the past or is doing. Someone who is relationship meddling - as someone has stepped on yours but you are treating it as their fault, as they shouldn't be swinging, as 'I'll hang up'.

Each to their own, agreed, yes.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think there's any need to comment personally on people's motives because they have a differing opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives

You have come across as the embittered wife throughout this thread.

I'd be interested to hear an explanation of why you think that

It seems you are free to meet without repercussion yet when others have a moral issue with not meeting married men/women, they are defensive for not blocking the number and hanging the phone up.

Each to their own, agreed, yes.

Thanks. You've clearly given a lot of thought trying to determine the motive behind me indicating I would just hang up.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Tbh the way you would of dealt with it shows the kind of person you must be

I'm the kind of person who prefers not to get involved in the drama of others folks lives

You have come across as the embittered wife throughout this thread.

I'd be interested to hear an explanation of why you think that

It seems you are free to meet without repercussion yet when others have a moral issue with not meeting married men/women, they are defensive for not blocking the number and hanging the phone up.

Each to their own, agreed, yes.

Thanks. You've clearly given a lot of thought trying to determine the motive behind me indicating I would just hang up."

No, you asked me why. I answered, given your huge contribution to this thread.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty

So the comment about Sour grapes wasn't nasty. Maybe you should not have started it then I would not have retaliated. I m not into arguing or drama I was just asking a question you chose to snipe

I made a comment that disagreed with how you'd handled a situation and gave my thoughts on it. "

You didn't , you told her what she should have done

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over a year ago

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty

So the comment about Sour grapes wasn't nasty. Maybe you should not have started it then I would not have retaliated. I m not into arguing or drama I was just asking a question you chose to snipe

I made a comment that disagreed with how you'd handled a situation and gave my thoughts on it.

You didn't , you told her what she should have done"

I agree I could have worded it more clearly to make it evident that I would have handled things differently

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good for you. I'm only pleased it was me she got in touch with and not you. So there is a god after all.

I find that comment a little unnecessary and quite antagonistic tbh. It helps to remember we don't all think the same and that's perfectly okay.

Nasty snipes are...nasty

So the comment about Sour grapes wasn't nasty. Maybe you should not have started it then I would not have retaliated. I m not into arguing or drama I was just asking a question you chose to snipe

I made a comment that disagreed with how you'd handled a situation and gave my thoughts on it.

You didn't , you told her what she should have done"

As someone who is a very sympathetic person and I had no ties to this man other than I chatted and met him once for a drink I felt I should hear what she had to say. On the whole she was a very nice lady. I dnt know her or had any reason to slam down the phone . I could not really help her in as much as I'd not really spoken to him for a few months until he popped up on my looks or she did lol. So I had no axe to grind or any reason for sour grapes because I was a scorned woman. I felt sorry for her. There is such a thing as compassion. Some of us should possibly learn from that and find some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting a little aggro on this thread now.

Think im guna leave you all too it as it seems to me like people have forgotten everyone is entitled to their own opinion and peoples moral compass all point in a diffrent direction.

We are all diffrent. People react to diffrent situations in a diffrent manner.

I listend to the women that telephoned me saying she was seeing my other half. I didnt put the phone down because i needed to know so i could make a choice. To either stay or leave him.

And thats what it comes down too. Choice. We all have them to make.

Talking to the other women or ignoring her. How it is handled with the man whom thinks he has a right to treat to women like that is also a choice.

Peace out lovers

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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We had it once on another site where she logged into his account on the PC they shared. Up until that point we didn't know he was attached ...he always answered mails/ text / calls /met up at weekends/even stayed over on one meet so he didn't seem attached .

Even so we still felt like crap knowing we have been a part of his deceit . She was fine about it ( although if she had blamed us I would have told her where to get off. )

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes "

Seemed like a humanhood thread to me.

Bitter much?

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over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Seemed like a humanhood thread to me.

Bitter much?

Lol yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate these sisterhood threads.

Hang up the phone and say nothing.

Anything else is just your own sour grapes

Seemed like a humanhood thread to me.

Bitter much?

Why do you ask?

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