FabSwingers.com forum: Winks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.

Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?

Your thoughts peeps

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming."

Agree, after uploading a couple of new pics this morning we received something like 20+ winks. Haven’t got either the time nor inclination to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We reply to ones which takes our fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We reply to ones which takes our fancy "

This

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Kirky

"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming."
so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile?

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"We reply to ones which takes our fancy "
Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wimk back and message back if it takes our fancy

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

It can seem to be lazy but I see it as an easy way to establish whether there is any interest from the other party send a wink and see if they respond with one before messaging instead of putting a lot of effort into constructing a message just to have it deleted...I always read the profile to make sure I'm what they are looking for before winking as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see anything wrong with winks. A show of interest as far as m concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Best all round ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming. so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile? "

Yes, agree with this. Surely you would be doing your "work" either way. Shouldn't the onus be on both parties to check out each others profile or is it purely a one way street?

I like the idea of the Op's thought process with this - a wink is a nice way of just saying "I like your profile, let me know if you'd like to talk". If you don't like the person, just delete the wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We wimk back and message back if it takes our fancy "

Dito

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Completely harmless

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming. so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile? "

Yes but we get far fewer messages than winks so it's manageable plus there's more chance that someone who has messaged has taken the time to read our profile.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming. so if someone messaged you you wouldn't check their profile?

Yes, agree with this. Surely you would be doing your "work" either way. Shouldn't the onus be on both parties to check out each others profile or is it purely a one way street?

Ok....so far today....180 winks....say 3 minutes to check a profile and a little more to create a short message...that's at least 9 hours "work"....this isn't a full time job and we're not paid for it.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I'll wink back to someone who's profile I like..then let them send the first messat

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

"It can seem to be lazy but I see it as an easy way to establish whether there is any interest from the other party send a wink and see if they respond with one before messaging instead of putting a lot of effort into constructing a message just to have it deleted...I always read the profile to make sure I'm what they are looking for before winking as well

This works for us. Whoever winks first sends the first message if the wink is returned. Would rather have a wink than a shit one line message.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If we get winked we look and if they take our fancy we will respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.

Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?

Your thoughts peeps"

Totally agree winks are useful for the shy, who get tonguetied and not good at expressing themselves

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

I just ignore them and leave them sitting there so they can't send another one for a few weeks lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lazy and bulk deleted....a wink means the onus is on the receiver to do all the work checking profiles.....too time consuming."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wink to show interest. If we receive a wink back we take it that the other party is also interested in us and then we message. We do check all received winks as well and message or wink back if we think it could lead somewhere. However some winks clearly show that our profile hasn't been read or has been read and no notice taken. Works as filter for such cases.

Mrs

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

"Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.

Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?

Your thoughts peeps"

No I personally hate them. I dont see the point. In my opinion they are just for people who are just too lazy to try and strike up a conversation. Bulk delete along with the friend requests off people who havent even chatted x

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Intrigued to find out peoples thoughts and the difference answers between couples and singles.

Most people see them as a lazy attempt at making contact? however, shouldn't they be taken on face value and judged as a discreet, non pushy way of identifying interest?

Your thoughts peeps"

For us, it generally prompts us to look at their profile. If they look alright we may message back.

On the other hand, we will ALWAYS respond to a message.

Cal

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun"

This

It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.

If the wink is reciprocated then you'd possibly go and chat to the person, or they may approach you and strike up conversation. During that conversation you'd determine whether or not to pursue any further engagement at another time.

In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.

Lazy is far from what a wink is.

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun

This

It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.

In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.

Lazy is far from what a wink is.

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "

Completely agree, this is my approach.

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By *veready69Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun

This

It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.

In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.

Lazy is far from what a wink is.

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "

This

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

It works for us... we read profiles b4 tho. Not into random winking hahaaa. I think it's the main reason people copy and paste msgs 2 xx

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By *veready69Man
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

I have a general purpose 1st contact e-mail that I tailour to each profile I send it to. I don't see it as being cheesy or lazy, more like a tailored cover letter when you're looking for a new job. A wink would be a quicker way of gauging mutual interest though. Seems odd to be applyng for a shag....

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"I have a general purpose 1st contact e-mail that I tailour to each profile I send it to. I don't see it as being cheesy or lazy, more like a tailored cover letter when you're looking for a new job. A wink would be a quicker way of gauging mutual interest though. Seems odd to be applyng for a shag...."
spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with this too. I’d much rather send a wink, receive one back, then put the effort into a good message. Can be a right pain seeing your message get deleted without being read

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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago

nr Bradford

A well placed wink can save all concerned unnecessary effort, certainly not offended.

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun

This

It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.

In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.

Lazy is far from what a wink is.

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "

Comical.. Would you wink at someone with a bag on there head, or bk of someone's head, because just like your profile with zero pics most on here don't show there face's... So therfore we find it pointless

but according to you it's just like walking down a street winking at ppl who you have no idea of what they look like

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

You can always ask for face pics. We have plenty!

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

"You can always ask for face pics. We have plenty!"

LOL you can't ask for face pics on a wink... So might as well just go in with a message straight from the off

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them? "

Only once...that's how I met Paul

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

No but once u receive a wink u can request pics

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

"We wink to show interest. If we receive a wink back we take it that the other party is also interested in us and then we message. We do check all received winks as well and message or wink back if we think it could lead somewhere. However some winks clearly show that our profile hasn't been read or has been read and no notice taken. Works as filter for such cases.

Mrs"

This works for us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to send quite a few winks just because most people will look at your profile and reply or not reply..whereas with messages I've done the short messages and the long personalised messages and no luck with either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll carry on winking. If someone thinks that's lazy then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun

This

It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.

In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.

Lazy is far from what a wink is.

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them?

but according to you it's just like walking down a street winking at ppl who you have no idea of what they look like

Did I once say I winked at those blank profiles or blank cover photo images? Nope, I've checked and I most certainly didn't. In the exact same way I wouldn't wink at someone who I'd heard talking in a manner I didn't like, or wink at someone I couldn't see.

My pics are in my private gallery.. Just like 'winks', it's a function provided to be used by choice of the member. You choose to have photos on display, I don't. Same as you choose not to like winks and I do.

I gave a valid point for using winks, I have a valid point for not having public profile pics.. I could potentially simply screenshot your pics, send them off to a few websites or post up on social media and earn money off them if I was that way inclined. Whether it bothers you personally or not, it would certainly bother other people. So next time, before lambasting someone's choice simply because it differs from yours, maybe think about choices YOU make with the way you manage your account. Remember, it's an opinion I shared, that's all.

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

"It's not lazy it's a way of saying hi

It gets boring writing a heartfelt msg only for it to sit unread then deleted. I've seen people ask for code words in messages.

We send winks. If they get deleted u ain't for us. Not looking for a long term relationship. Just fun

This

It's not dissimilar to winking at someone in real life who takes your fancy. It's a non committal gesture that signals an interest... Nothing more.

In a nutshell, it's just a way of saying 'hi, I'm here, come and chat if you'd like to'.. A way of being noticed and drawing the attention of someone who may otherwise have missed you.

Lazy is far from what a wink is.

How often would you walk up to a total stranger and start a full blown conversation about how you find them attractive and would possibly like to f*ck them?

but according to you it's just like walking down a street winking at ppl who you have no idea of what they look like

The fact that it even entered your head to screen shot pics and make them public just shows what type of person you are... Probably should of guessed with your rude and arrogant profile, anyway your blocked now as don't want your type browsing

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

I only reply to the ones I take interest in

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By *r lotharioMan
over a year ago

newcastle-under-lyme

nothing wrong with a wink - shame i don't get more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a good wink from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single Male you can send a msg and it could get by passed and not read. I use the wink as a “I’m interested tool” if I receive a wink back I msg. I normally msg in regards to something written on the profile, never sleazy.

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