FabSwingers.com forum: feedback please, two couples now that have cancelled last min

By *ale009 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

hi all hope you are all well, been on here a while and had some fantastic meets and made a lot of friends, but last week i had two couple cancel on me last minute without any reason other than cant make it now, dont get me wrong that might be the case just thought i would ask,

i am looking at meeting a couple for the first time to have mmf ( i am str8 lol ) met plenty of single ladies and been to the odd social and had fun there but trying to upgrade myself

if you can help that would be great

thanks and happy humping x

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Not sure upgrade is the right word to use....

There are lots of couples looking for single guys so sure it will work out for you eventually.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Two things here.

1. Synical I know but these threads have turned out to be "look at me" threads in the past and the way it is worded rings alarm bells in that quarter. (although unusual with guys who already have been quite successful!)Apologies if I am wrong!

2. Are you sure they were couples. Believe it or not, some guys pretend to be couples just to get off on it! Some couples do it too just before I get single guys bleating!

Mind you, if you have had two cancellations on here, it must mean you have had two offers. I also see you have had some meets with lovely people. Walk away from them and move on...

Of course, could be something you have done? Good luck anyway buddy..

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Personally find the fantasy on profile offputting...but that's just me. That is a one on one meet for a stranger to abuse me.....not what threesome fun is about for us at all. If that senario was planned maybe that could explain last min cancellations? Just a thought...could be wrong. Of course you spoke to woman on phone so know they were not saddos pretending to be couples? Good luck...threesome fun can be incredible. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was wondering how much contact you had had with both couple before they cancelled on you?

If it was all very last minute contact before actually meeting, they could have just had cold feet?

If you had lots of messages, and spoken on the phone/cam etc, then sorry buddy, i dont know, just put it down to experience. probably nothing u did wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

were the couples new or inexperienced?...they may just have shit it!! when we went to meet our first guy...we were both terrified to the point of feeling sick..i even started to have a panic attack...soo not in my nature. And of course unexpected things do crop up..especially with women...periods, stomach pains..all sorts. Xx

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

I've probably had at least as many meets cancelled or postponed as I have had meets that happened - but then I've had to cancel a few meets myself and I've had the same with dates, deliveries, and doctors appointments so as far as I see it its just a general fact of life and nothing to get too worried about.

As long as you've done a little leg work in making sure the couple was genuine and you didn't make the classic newbie error of getting a little over-enthusiastic when you knew the meet was on, then the chances are it wasnt anything you did or could have done to prevent it.

Stay cool - don't let it phase you and make sure the couples know you aren't phased - there's nothing like a man with options to keep a woman interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi all hope you are all well, been on here a while and had some fantastic meets and made a lot of friends, but last week i had two couple cancel on me last minute without any reason other than cant make it now, dont get me wrong that might be the case just thought i would ask,

i am looking at meeting a couple for the first time to have mmf ( i am str8 lol ) met plenty of single ladies and been to the odd social and had fun there but trying to upgrade myself

if you can help that would be great

thanks and happy humping x"

upgrade?

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

As we know you and have met you, and you are deffinatly a great handsome guy. We would do a MMF, its just the distance and accomidation , bummer x

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By *ale009 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

cheers peeps, maybe upgrade was the wrong word, it was just in jest lol im just trying to get involved in what i see as the next step.

yeah 1st couple i saw on cam a few times and arranged about a week in advance, we did swap numbers but always talked over cam, then about 20 mins before time they were due had a text saying they couldnt make it without and reason, i text back so no problem hope nothing serious but got no reply, and the other couple was a bit short notice, it was the day before we arranged it, but maybe made an error of only speaking to the guy but he seemed genuine enough but again, i got to where we was supposed to meet, they didnt answer phone and when i got back home i had an email from them saying something had came up.

i do understand things come up and im not overly worried about it i just wanted some feedback as a bit new to arranging these type of meets n not sure if i was doing anything wrong

thanks

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By *ale009 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

hey .. cheers Hun, n dont forget good kisser lol yeah its a shame we live as far apart as we do. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally find the fantasy on profile offputting...but that's just me. "

That is off putting. And wasn;t that fantasy posted a few times on the forums last week? Call me a jaded cynic but it makes me think that this may be right

"1. Synical I know but these threads have turned out to be "look at me" threads in the past and the way it is worded rings alarm bells in that quarter. "

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By *ale009 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hey. Yeah my fantasy was posted a few times n it's the first time I had used the forums n kept putting it on because once I had posted it I couldn't find it so did it again n then realised that it had when someone told me so took em off,

And my fantasies are mine n I'm entitled to them as you are yours, if that makes me wrong in your eyes then so be it,

I was just asking for some advice not a ribbing

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I was just asking for some advice not a ribbing"

You can tell you're new on the forums. I'm afraid you're unlikely to get without t'other.

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By *ale009 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Oh lol is that what it's like lol. Great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the club , have been let down on 3 differant occasions now , twice by the same couple

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Welcome to the club , have been let down on 3 differant occasions now , twice by the same couple

Yeah, just been stood up for the second time by a guy. Blocked and reported now - no third chance.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

FFS!! I must apologise to all of you! I have just noticed I spelt cynical with an "S". Brain freeze or what..

Thank god the spelling police didn't see it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FFS!! I must apologise to all of you! I have just noticed I spelt cynical with an "S". Brain freeze or what..

Thank god the spelling police didn't see it!

I spotted it but didn't want to draw attention to it

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"FFS!! I must apologise to all of you! I have just noticed I spelt cynical with an "S". Brain freeze or what..

Thank god the spelling police didn't see it!

I spotted it but didn't want to draw attention to it

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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago

thanet

"FFS!! I must apologise to all of you! I have just noticed I spelt cynical with an "S". Brain freeze or what..

Thank god the spelling police didn't see it!

Oh please don't tell me there are still "Spelling Police" on here! FFS.

_rummps x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And my fantasies are mine n I'm entitled to them as you are yours, if that makes me wrong in your eyes then so be it,

I was just asking for some advice not a ribbing"

I don't recall saying your fantasy was wrong. Just that by stating that putting it as your opening on your profile is going to put people off, well unless they share it that is. You asked for advice - cannot you see why that may be linked to no shows? Maybe the couple got to thinking whether you really wanted a 3sum or just wanted to fuck the female and thought that the only way you could do it was as part of a 3sum? Any couple will tell you that it is not unknown to encounter men and couples who are far more interested in the female part of a couple.

So it was advice, though maybe not the advice you wanted, if you wabted ribbing I'd have questioned why you are seeking your first 3sum when your first verification is: "sneakycpl (45), Couple (MF) on 18 March 2010 by Meeting in person:

Met this hot sexy guy recently, great comapany & had a giggle...boy can he talk tho lol...but wen it came down to it we had some great horny sex , all i can say is the bed n me got v v wet :P..... look forward 2 our next meet hun xxx T"

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By *ale009 OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Look fair enough don't want to argue

I met sneakycpl on her own but was arranged with both,

Look I really want to take the next step I'm just a little nervous that's all

Cheers anyway

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

"And my fantasies are mine n I'm entitled to them as you are yours, if that makes me wrong in your eyes then so be it,

I was just asking for some advice not a ribbing

Agree with everything you just said. From a couple point of view... I found the profile offputting. Others may like, we are all different. Chances are though others would have their doubts too. Nothing wrong with fantasies, but if you are looking for a proper threesome then posting a fantasy along those lines that you have would def read better. Just trying to be helpful. Its no good posting an appeal for advice then getting arsey when you dont want to hear it. Accept all advice then make up your own mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am looking at meeting a couple for the first time to have mmf ( i am str8 lol ) met plenty of single ladies and been to the odd social and had fun there but trying to upgrade myself

if you can help that would be great

thanks and happy humping x"

The best thing to do is politely ask them. That or put it down to one of those things and move on.

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