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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

If a man doesn't cum on a meet, how does that make you feel? Obviously this question is aimed at women, mainly the female half of a couple.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"If a man doesn't cum on a meet, how does that make you feel? Obviously this question is aimed at women, mainly the female half of a couple. "

Depends. Some won’t because if anxiety of first meet. Some just can’t for whatever reason. Maybe they had a wank before meeting lol

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's no great problem if he doesn't,don't get me wrong I prefer it when he does,but in the big scheme of thing's it's no big deal. Suppose it all depends on how he feel's about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as everyone has fun that's good

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Different scenarios...

- he struggles to cum

- I haven’t been attentive enough

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"As long as everyone has fun that's good "

+1

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Sometimes it takes ages and ages. Probably because I don’t want it to end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different scenarios...

- he struggles to cum

- I haven’t been attentive enough "

This.

Perhaps the male didn't cum for a variety of reasons. If he's a regular/other half then I'd say ask rather than dwell on it.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

as a part time girl i get a bit frustrated and disappointed if i dont get my reward. a nice big load.

but as a guy , i cant ejaculate as ive no prostate ..so consequently ive only been with one woman since the op and i felt quite inadequate about the situation ..i feel that most women would be interested in a man that couldnt spunk ..especially one that liked to crossdress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes it takes ages and ages. Probably because I don’t want it to end "

This can be a real issue I agree.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Sometimes it takes ages and ages. Probably because I don’t want it to end "

Some guys don’t cum easily. Some guys a little too easily for what they’d like. I doesn’t bother me unless I think I’ve failed them.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I think you can judge by the size of the grin and if the guy can’t keep his hands off you that you haven’t failed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it was a signpost for an underlying illness I didn’t know about. Normally regular as clockwork and quite heavy cummer I could always get hard on demand.

But a few incidents of not really hard or struggling to cum I took notice of the various signs my body had been telling me for weeks.

I was tested for lymphoma but turned out to be a significant full body infection that had been simmering.

All sorted and back to normal but the anxiety of failure was real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely cum on a meet, it's not through anxiety or anything but that doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself any less than if I did cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind as we don’t play bare back with others, so it’s not the end of the world.

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By *LCC OP   Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

My Mrs tends to be disappointed if the guy doesn't cum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been in this situation and I have to say it’s not nice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Medication hinders my ability to cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they are enjoying themselves I dont mind.

Although if they do I quite happy with that too!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Someone told me he doesnt once so when he did i was all

But it doesn't really matter.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

I struggle to cum during sex.i usually have to finish myself off,on the plus side I have a fair bit of stamina so no complaints so far lol

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I think most of us feel that the whole purpose of sex is to cum...

and that cumming kind of completes the task and often signifys the end..Others (prob a minority) dont see cumming as the bee all and end all. .

learnt behaviour??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle to cum during sex.i usually have to finish myself off,on the plus side I have a fair bit of stamina so no complaints so far lol"

and when you are a lady that quite enjoys seeing someone 'finish themselves off' there are certainly no complaints on her part!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"If a man doesn't cum on a meet, how does that make you feel? Obviously this question is aimed at women, mainly the female half of a couple. "

It makes me feel crap .

Like it’s been a complete waste of time , and I definately think I must have either not been attractive enough , or done something wrong .

Luckily it’s only happened a couple of times , and the guy has said it wasn’t down to me , it was nerves or he had wanked before meeting .

My husband loves to see me having fun with other guys , and meeting a guy from fab , I would expect him to cum . We do say as much on our profile . If you struggle to cum , meet someone else who isn’t bothered . Simple .

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

It makes me feel bad.

It makes me feel bad about myself - as if it's my failure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd feel a little disappointed, but probably with myself as I'd feel I wasn't good enough, which seems strange as I never expect a new partner to make me orgasm and I'm happy with that as I don't need an orgasm to enjoy myself.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes me feel bad.

It makes me feel bad about myself - as if it's my failure."
this for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel dissapointed if i'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the man is ok with that it's fine. I would worry a bit about when it was time to stop, what signifies 'the end' as it were . Would take the lead from the man in that respect x

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By *verReadyGirthMan
over a year ago

city centre

If a man doesn’t cum he doesn’t love you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I don’t cum, depends on my partner at the time, what we’re doing and what’s going on. Sometimes we’re both just knackered, sometimes she has orgasmed so much that she needs a break. Sometimes I just don’t cum after ages if fucking.

It’s not essential for me.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I thought that men usually faked it.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Fuck. I’ve met guys for the evening and not even had sex let alone worried about the guy cumming.

Usually because we’ve spent all night quaffing red wine and chatting

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'd feel a little disappointed, but probably with myself as I'd feel I wasn't good enough, which seems strange as I never expect a new partner to make me orgasm and I'm happy with that as I don't need an orgasm to enjoy myself.

Ginger "

I am the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First off, the woman will be paranoid, "Did I do something wrong?, Did I not turn them on?" Etc..

In reality, it late teens and early 20's, after 6 wanks in a day, coming buckets everytime, rubbed skin off cock, he still was erect. The vibrations whilst sitting on the local bus made him stand to attention.

As you get older, coming a lot is not so easy, recovery time gets longer. Also, you still get days where he will perform well and some days, it's as though he's died.

A guys penis is hardwired to his brain. Starting to think about the condom, the feel and smell of it can cause a performing effect because your brain is now disconnected from your penis and concentrating on the condom issue. Then when you're wrestling with that, the woman's husband has always fired his load but stands in the doorway watching.

So you call it quits and the night ends. Then the woman thinks, "What did I do wrong, did I not turn him on" etc...

Also, sometimes it can just be a real turn on licking a woman to orgasm, we don't have to fuck and cum. You can go to Blackpool Pleasure Beach and feel good and get pleasure treating and watching your family having a great time, but you don't have to go on the rollercoaster as well.

But to sum up, women do get paranoid. Communication before and afterwards would prevent such an issue, us guys don't have to cum to prove we enjoyed it.

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

Oh dear this happens to me sometimes, I've been horribly I'll on and off, n sometimes I don't cum. I know I won't be getting another meet on those days. Yet I almost always still massively enjoy myself and can't keep my hands off the girl or guy. I make it clear if I'm attracted to them, but they still feel like they let me down.

When this happens, it doesn't matter if you're literally the hottest guy or girl alive, it ain't happening, that's cos its on me. My poor body has been thru so much the last 6 years (starved it, worked myself half to death, etc) its just a symptom.

I'm mentally strong enough to ride it out until I regain my full strength but dann I feel the frustration sometimes when the other person feels like shit. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm cool with it if he explains beforehand.

But yeah...i would wonder if it was me otherwise

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By *aughtyLittleMissWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I think I'd feel a little disappointed, but probably with myself as I'd feel I wasn't good enough, which seems strange as I never expect a new partner to make me orgasm and I'm happy with that as I don't need an orgasm to enjoy myself.

Ginger "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the problem, men have to show they’ve cum but women can fake it. Also, women can freely, without embarrassment, admit that they didn’t cum, but a guy always has to cum. It’s a shame that there’s this pressure on a guy to physically cum rather then just have a fantastic time without the physical “show”. It’s happened to me and I felt like shit with the lady thinking what did she do wrong.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Doesn't bother me.

It's the guys that cum and go while I am still warming up that I have the problem with

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

At least there's a joke about when its women:

Why do women fake orgasms?

Because they think guys care.

Well I think that's funny anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a male perspective and some one who's actually had this problem when with a woman I can say on a personal note it's a strange combination of wanting to cum and trust me us guys really want to cum but obviously not wanting to bust our balls with in the first few mins ( as that's no good either now is it )

And as a earlier reply said yeah it's often nerves and when relaxed it pretty much free flowing

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By *rated-BaconMan
over a year ago

medway

Coming from a slightly different personal perspective.. Sometimes I can, sometimes I can't. I can't say it's down to nerves because when I was younger I could not cum.. at all.

Not through wanking, oral or penetration.. Basically I had no feeling in my cock so much so half the time I couldn't even get hard.

It's alot better now but for me it seems to be the feel of the person.

Not technique, attraction or horniness.. I can either get a certain level of feeling.. And I'll cum.. or not & it'll only leave my body with the help of a scalpel

(I was sexually active for 2 years before I had my first orgasm... It hurt alot)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it. "
is that because if he cums he generally doesn't continue ?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I was often like this in my early 20s. I seriously didn't mind, as long as the girl had a good time, I was happy.

However now I'm older, I think the no cumming was all just down to nerves. Now I'm a lot more confident in myself and assured, I have no problem cumming.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it. is that because if he cums he generally doesn't continue ? "

Not really. I rarely have an orgasm with anyone but Mr N or on my own so I know that it can be difficult to achieve in certain circumstances but doesn't mean that you haven't had a lot of erotic pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it. is that because if he cums he generally doesn't continue ?

Not really. I rarely have an orgasm with anyone but Mr N or on my own so I know that it can be difficult to achieve in certain circumstances but doesn't mean that you haven't had a lot of erotic pleasure. "
exactly but in most cases its just laziness where the other person doesn't make you cum

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By *angoneinMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Aaahhhaa ha ha. That’s the funniest thing I’ve heard in a long time.

Because he’s not turned on!!!

Blue pills make it hard but no juice if the ju ju isn’t there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they want to be with me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it. is that because if he cums he generally doesn't continue ?

Not really. I rarely have an orgasm with anyone but Mr N or on my own so I know that it can be difficult to achieve in certain circumstances but doesn't mean that you haven't had a lot of erotic pleasure. exactly but in most cases its just laziness where the other person doesn't make you cum "

The men we meet aren't lazy, far from it. I suspect quite a few women would find it more difficult to orgasm with a relative stranger.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"As long as everyone has fun that's good "

This

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"As long as everyone has fun that's good

This "

With you there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wank. I'm used to my hand. Wearing a condom it lessens the sensation. If if touching you I'm enjoying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking for myself, whenever I've found myself unable to cum, or even - shocking as it may seem - unable to sustain an erection, I tend to take the opportunity to show off my oral or digital skills...

Should my partner be a Dom(me), I might also make a few self-deprecating comments about my cock having let me down; a move which usually leads to some very intense erotic teasing...

Ultimately, IMHO, it's about not allowing the 'cumshot' to become the 'be all and end all' of a scene...if it's not going to happen, so be it. Focus on other ways of giving each other pleasure...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Speaking for myself, whenever I've found myself unable to cum, or even - shocking as it may seem - unable to sustain an erection, I tend to take the opportunity to show off my oral or digital skills...

Should my partner be a Dom(me), I might also make a few self-deprecating comments about my cock having let me down; a move which usually leads to some very intense erotic teasing...

Ultimately, IMHO, it's about not allowing the 'cumshot' to become the 'be all and end all' of a scene...if it's not going to happen, so be it. Focus on other ways of giving each other pleasure..."

Exactly. The destination is enjoyable but the journey can give you so much pleasure.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton


"Speaking for myself, whenever I've found myself unable to cum, or even - shocking as it may seem - unable to sustain an erection, I tend to take the opportunity to show off my oral or digital skills...

Should my partner be a Dom(me), I might also make a few self-deprecating comments about my cock having let me down; a move which usually leads to some very intense erotic teasing...

Ultimately, IMHO, it's about not allowing the 'cumshot' to become the 'be all and end all' of a scene...if it's not going to happen, so be it. Focus on other ways of giving each other pleasure...

Exactly. The destination is enjoyable but the journey can give you so much pleasure."

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That's a thumbs up to both these replies.

It's easy to get distracted by the 'end delivery' that you do sometimes miss the fun along the way.

It all depends upon how you are playing and what's the overall goal.

Yes, medically I'm sure this is frustrating? (So it's not a knock to them).

But otherwise, just go with the flow.

And whatever happens, happens.

Being fixated on and end shot puts pressure on everyone.

So just go and enjoy the whole experience and have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would f****g hate that if I was a female...especially if it kept happening - Id tie them up and make them stay till id finished !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me at all. Too much emphasis is put on a man cummin. It's the play that's important and the fact he's thoroughly enjoyed every moment, regardless of whether he has cum or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont always but doesnt mean im not enjoying it . as long as the person or persons im with ate having a good time then cumming is not the end of the world . depends on a lot of things too ...maybe cummed out ..not being sober does it too. some guys just control it and dont want to .im not multiple cummer lol so i have learned too last as i always try to make her satisfied lil .sorry bit long heavy nite

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Most guys on the scene dont come and the fact that a guy comes during play with a lady does not mean she made him come , he might be fucking her but have the picture of another lady in his mind.

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By *ldhillhotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Old Hill


"As long as everyone has fun that's good "

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Plus I think as guys on the scene we believe we are not supposed to come and that is the first question we ask ourselves after play , if a guy says he came during play with a lady without wanking himself then it means the lady is first class in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most guys on the scene dont come and the fact that a guy comes during play with a lady does not mean she made him come , he might be fucking her but have the picture of another lady in his mind."

Where do you get that idea from, ALL the men who have fucked me have cum and they weren't thinking of other lady's either. That's 28 men in just under 4 years and all have sounded up my pussy XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most guys on the scene dont come and the fact that a guy comes during play with a lady does not mean she made him come , he might be fucking her but have the picture of another lady in his mind.

Where do you get that idea from, ALL the men who have fucked me have cum and they weren't thinking of other lady's either. That's 28 men in just under 4 years and all have sounded up my pussy XXX"
so there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most guys on the scene dont come and the fact that a guy comes during play with a lady does not mean she made him come , he might be fucking her but have the picture of another lady in his mind.

Where do you get that idea from, ALL the men who have fucked me have cum and they weren't thinking of other lady's either. That's 28 men in just under 4 years and all have sounded up my pussy XXX"

i dont get it either . if a girl has made you cum then she has no matter what you thinking lol . im not thinki g of anyo e else im far to busy enjoying who im with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel like I'm doing something wrong.

If I was, I'd hope the guy I was with would direct me to help me make it happen for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd feel like I'm doing something wrong.

If I was, I'd hope the guy I was with would direct me to help me make it happen for him. "

hope no1 makes you feel like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd feel like I'm doing something wrong.

If I was, I'd hope the guy I was with would direct me to help me make it happen for him.

hope no1 makes you feel like that "

Had one almost. Perseverance paid off in the end for both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh well better go do some Xmas shopping its only day I do it anyone cumming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle to cum sometimes, it’s not reflection on the woman or couple, but often I can finish myself off for her

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By *ssex Playfull CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Grays

Had only happen to myself (mr) on a meet once at their house with my other half. Literally he came just as I made his wife cum. Pretty much wrapped it up on the spot. Wasn’t best pleased lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd feel like I'm doing something wrong.

If I was, I'd hope the guy I was with would direct me to help me make it happen for him.

hope no1 makes you feel like that

Had one almost. Perseverance paid off in the end for both "

i have to say after a sneaky peak at your pics and profile i would be amazed if they couldnt with you . your husbands a lucky congrats mr .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a bit of a failure to be honest, a quick whisper in the ear to explain what's going on would put a girls mind at ease but guys tend to try and ignore the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel a bit of a failure to be honest, a quick whisper in the ear to explain what's going on would put a girls mind at ease but guys tend to try and ignore the issue."

ill take note

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd feel like I'm doing something wrong.

If I was, I'd hope the guy I was with would direct me to help me make it happen for him.

hope no1 makes you feel like that

Had one almost. Perseverance paid off in the end for both

i have to say after a sneaky peak at your pics and profile i would be amazed if they couldnt with you . your husbands a lucky congrats mr ."

Lol thank you. But why a sneaky peek, perv away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd feel like I'm doing something wrong.

If I was, I'd hope the guy I was with would direct me to help me make it happen for him.

hope no1 makes you feel like that

Had one almost. Perseverance paid off in the end for both

i have to say after a sneaky peak at your pics and profile i would be amazed if they couldnt with you . your husbands a lucky congrats mr .

Lol thank you. But why a sneaky peek, perv away "

well i will be and now you said i will enjoy even more i cant sleep so will be rude not thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it. is that because if he cums he generally doesn't continue ?

Not really. I rarely have an orgasm with anyone but Mr N or on my own so I know that it can be difficult to achieve in certain circumstances but doesn't mean that you haven't had a lot of erotic pleasure. exactly but in most cases its just laziness where the other person doesn't make you cum

The men we meet aren't lazy, far from it. I suspect quite a few women would find it more difficult to orgasm with a relative stranger."

Yes! This is me too. Reading the forums and all the women talking about their incredible and multiple orgasms on meets and men’s statements in messages along the lines of ‘I won’t cum until I’ve made you cum at least three times’ makes me feel pretty crappy about my inability to get there with anyone else. The feelings surrounding this are not just a male issue, despite earlier posts claiming it’s ok for women not to cum.

Mrs F x

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By *hechairman18Man
over a year ago

Salford Quays , Manchester


"As long as everyone has fun that's good

This "

This

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Very good chance that he's already cum before the meet in the hope it prolongs the fun with the woman or couple he's planning to meet.

A lot of us guys struggle to get a meet so we wouldn't it to be over because the lady is so flipping gorgeous

Take it as a compliment lol

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By *rtemis-AkelaCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Liverpool

Depends on my mood. If we have had a good time and he has enjoyed himself then I just assume he's having a hard time cumming or that he might be saving it up for later

If I'm feeling a little insecure I can feel like I did something wrong or wasn't enough.

And if I'm feeling needy or greedy I feel like I haven't had my reward.

Totally depends on my headspace at the time of play and what I was hoping to get from the play.

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton


"I think I'd feel a little disappointed, but probably with myself as I'd feel I wasn't good enough, which seems strange as I never expect a new partner to make me orgasm and I'm happy with that as I don't need an orgasm to enjoy myself.

Ginger "
totally this and I rarely do so...

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

Though with an old boyfriend it would be because of alcohol and we’d carry on for a couple of hours then he’d say let’s just continue in the morning and we always did the next morning and he’d cum then

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

the orgasm is a brilliant end- but if I am honest I don't fuck to cum but to enjoy myself. otherwise I could just have a 2 min wank. so why should it be different for men? if we both enjoy ourself what is the problem in not cuming? ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It doesn't bother me as long as the man's ok with it. is that because if he cums he generally doesn't continue ?

Not really. I rarely have an orgasm with anyone but Mr N or on my own so I know that it can be difficult to achieve in certain circumstances but doesn't mean that you haven't had a lot of erotic pleasure. exactly but in most cases its just laziness where the other person doesn't make you cum

The men we meet aren't lazy, far from it. I suspect quite a few women would find it more difficult to orgasm with a relative stranger.

Yes! This is me too. Reading the forums and all the women talking about their incredible and multiple orgasms on meets and men’s statements in messages along the lines of ‘I won’t cum until I’ve made you cum at least three times’ makes me feel pretty crappy about my inability to get there with anyone else. The feelings surrounding this are not just a male issue, despite earlier posts claiming it’s ok for women not to cum.

Mrs F x"

I don't take any notice of all that stuff. No man can guarantee an orgasm for a woman let alone more than one. I genuinely prefer men who understand that its about the whole experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the orgasm is a brilliant end- but if I am honest I don't fuck to cum but to enjoy myself. otherwise I could just have a 2 min wank. so why should it be different for men? if we both enjoy ourself what is the problem in not cuming? ? "

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Yeah am just being honest but most ladies don't like hearing the truth , that is the honest truth. How do you know the guy was thinking about you? I do this to help myself come sometimes during play, I will suggest a position where I don't see the girls face eg doggy style and think about another girl and then I would come

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah am just being honest but most ladies don't like hearing the truth , that is the honest truth. How do you know the guy was thinking about you? I do this to help myself come sometimes during play, I will suggest a position where I don't see the girls face eg doggy style and think about another girl and then I would come"

Women do this too.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Yeah am just being honest but most ladies don't like hearing the truth , that is the honest truth. How do you know the guy was thinking about you? I do this to help myself come sometimes during play, I will suggest a position where I don't see the girls face eg doggy style and think about another girl and then I would come"

Gosh

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well,too much emphasis is placed on coming , we guys sometimes need to be creative to keep the ladies sweet so they remain happy, at the end of the day the only thing that counts is you came while you were in her pussy and she enjoyed herself too, because if you don't come she is not going to be happy. Ladies do the same thing lol

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"Yeah am just being honest but most ladies don't like hearing the truth , that is the honest truth. How do you know the guy was thinking about you? I do this to help myself come sometimes during play, I will suggest a position where I don't see the girls face eg doggy style and think about another girl and then I would come"

You're hilarious James.

But in reality some men and women actually do what you've just described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then he goes

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I feel a bit of a failure to be honest, a quick whisper in the ear to explain what's going on would put a girls mind at ease but guys tend to try and ignore the issue."

Yes that's men, pretend it's not happening and then it's not happening

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"Yeah am just being honest but most ladies don't like hearing the truth , that is the honest truth. How do you know the guy was thinking about you? I do this to help myself come sometimes during play, I will suggest a position where I don't see the girls face eg doggy style and think about another girl and then I would come"

Why are you fucking girls you don't want to be fucking? I can understand a porn performer doing this as he's getting paid, but why choose to have sex with someone you don't actually want to?! Quality over quantity.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Though with an old boyfriend it would be because of alcohol and we’d carry on for a couple of hours then he’d say let’s just continue in the morning and we always did the next morning and he’d cum then "

Sex in instalments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be a bit disappointed if a guy didn't cum, have enough of this with hubby! Jay

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

This is where people miss the point,it's not a matter of quality over quantity, infact the girl you might be thinking about that makes you come might not be as beautiful as the one you are fucking, she might have even rejected you, it does not matter.

When ladies agree to a meet or agree to play with you in a club, you have to consider the hundreds of guys she has said no to and the fact that she may be there with her husband, so to them you are their star and she might also be as beautiful as angel.

As the guy you have to forget her beauty and amazing shape etc and fuck her senseless, which involves her coming multiple times and you not coming,that is the game, that is what put smiles on her face and her husbands face, also that way she begins to doubt herself lol which is where you want her to be,when you are satisfied that she has come to her maximum and she is doing her best to make you come then you can think about another girl and come.

You can't control the game by focusing on the beauty of the current lady you are fucking , if you do that you will come in two minutes and other players on the field will occupy your space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is where people miss the point,it's not a matter of quality over quantity, infact the girl you might be thinking about that makes you come might not be as beautiful as the one you are fucking, she might have even rejected you, it does not matter.

When ladies agree to a meet or agree to play with you in a club, you have to consider the hundreds of guys she has said no to and the fact that she may be there with her husband, so to them you are their star and she might also be as beautiful as angel.

As the guy you have to forget her beauty and amazing shape etc and fuck her senseless, which involves her coming multiple times and you not coming,that is the game, that is what put smiles on her face and her husbands face, also that way she begins to doubt herself lol which is where you want her to be,when you are satisfied that she has come to her maximum and she is doing her best to make you come then you can think about another girl and come.

You can't control the game by focusing on the beauty of the current lady you are fucking , if you do that you will come in two minutes and other players on the field will occupy your space."

What a crock of shit

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Oh well see it as you want, that is one way we control the meet and stay on top of our game, the lady or couple did not go through all that effort for a two minute or 30 minute man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah am just being honest but most ladies don't like hearing the truth , that is the honest truth. How do you know the guy was thinking about you? I do this to help myself come sometimes during play, I will suggest a position where I don't see the girls face eg doggy style and think about another girl and then I would come

Why are you fucking girls you don't want to be fucking? I can understand a porn performer doing this as he's getting paid, but why choose to have sex with someone you don't actually want to?! Quality over quantity. "

Thats a good question

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I just explained what is happening , I actually don't want to come or be able to control when I come that's all lol

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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

First meets can be awkward. Pressure to perform etc. I’ve had s couple of meets where they struggled to get hard for a while. Some where they cane as soon as I touched them. And yes a couple where they don’t cum. It knocked my ego thinking they were not attracted. But it’s not so bad if they ask to meet again.

If you don’t see them again then yeah still made me feel unattractive. Dont get me wrong I don’t think I’m model material but still feel bad. However there’s nothing you can do about it. They could be several reasons. So I just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh well see it as you want, that is one way we control the meet and stay on top of our game, the lady or couple did not go through all that effort for a two minute or 30 minute man lol"

It very much is quality over quantity, or to put it another way having sex with women I fancy rather than those I don't.

The only thing I'm thinking about is the woman I'm with. A meet of any kind club or hotel etc. doesn’t involve the woman coming x amount of times before I cum. It involves 2 or more people enjoying themselves and having fun, orgasms are the icing on the cake.

Some women cum very easily, some find it almost impossible, the same extremes apply to guys. 2 minutes, 30 minutes or 2 hours to cum, who cares. If it happens early great, rest and go again, if it doesn't happen no big deal. You can stay on top of your game either way.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"

Why are you fucking girls you don't want to be fucking? I can understand a porn performer doing this as he's getting paid, but why choose to have sex with someone you don't actually want to?! Quality over quantity.

Thats a good question"

Yeah, claiming you were a porn star so you had to fuck me just to keep in practice was a crap excuse

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Oh well see it as you want, that is one way we control the meet and stay on top of our game, the lady or couple did not go through all that effort for a two minute or 30 minute man lol

It very much is quality over quantity, or to put it another way having sex with women I fancy rather than those I don't.

The only thing I'm thinking about is the woman I'm with. A meet of any kind club or hotel etc. doesn’t involve the woman coming x amount of times before I cum. It involves 2 or more people enjoying themselves and having fun, orgasms are the icing on the cake.

Some women cum very easily, some find it almost impossible, the same extremes apply to guys. 2 minutes, 30 minutes or 2 hours to cum, who cares. If it happens early great, rest and go again, if it doesn't happen no big deal. You can stay on top of your game either way.

"

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well people are different in the way they think but you are not listening to what the ladies are saying, when you don't come , you are knocking their ego which forces them to improve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well people are different in the way they think but you are not listening to what the ladies are saying, when you don't come , you are knocking their ego which forces them to improve. "

Again, a crock of shit. I have difficulty in cumming, I usually mention this before a meet so she is aware and doesn't start to worry. I always let her know I'm enjoying myself in other ways. I'm there with her because I want to be and she will know that from my behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that anyone gives any thought to the medical aspect, not being able to cum could be a first sign of a wellbeing or low testosterone problem...and how would I know...I have testosterone injections every couple of months. Beforehand even viagra couldn't get me hard, don't need viagra at all now, saying that, i haven't fucked in 4 years to put it to the test... :-/

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well I think you are talking from a standpoint of a relationship or companionship which is where you pull your analogy from, that's ok, am talking about swinging, I am explaining what I meant by thinking about another girl and coming, it's nothing personal just conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive beem struggling to cum all day today, just need a fab woman to help me out...

Kidding aside, i used to manage to cum quite a few times in one session, but age or lack of practice has started to affect this talent...

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton


"Though with an old boyfriend it would be because of alcohol and we’d carry on for a couple of hours then he’d say let’s just continue in the morning and we always did the next morning and he’d cum then

Sex in instalments? "
kind of x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys don't want to cum...for some the fun is in the foreplay and fucking and cumming is a bit of a let down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happen a few times.... but normally after the 3rd or 4th time when I'm getting knackered..... and matey down stairs is getting less sensitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man doesn't cum on a meet, how does that make you feel? Obviously this question is aimed at women, mainly the female half of a couple. "

You have to consider a few factors here, 1- many men who have swollen prostrate or are on medication for it do not ejaculate, but we still orgasm, 2 - men who use viagra, but who do not need it can got for very long periods without cumming, 3- many women do not cum but it does not bother them. 4 - 50% of 40+ men cannot even get an erection unaided.

I do not feel that any of these does not make a meet worthwhile, many people cannot make me cum, but it makes it all the more special when I do. Meets should be about making friends and having a good times, that does not mean we have to cum, performance anxiety can affect anyone,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it hard to cum from oral... or from her on top.... some men are just different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met blokes who either cant cum or can't maintain an erection due to medication. One younger man said he'd never cum while having sex and thought it was because of habitual porn use growing up.

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By *ittle earsMan
over a year ago

south oxfordshire


"Fuck. I’ve met guys for the evening and not even had sex let alone worried about the guy cumming.

Usually because we’ve spent all night quaffing red wine and chatting

V x "

That’s because you are an entertaining chatterbox V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not cumming doesnt necessarily mean that the guy hasnt enjoyed himself.

Ive had at least 2 very memorable long sessions that ive never ejaculated and thats nothing to do with the woman not pleasing me. Sometimes the penis can get numb that if affects the sensation but you still maintain a lovely hard cock for her to enjoy. I actually love those types of evenings as you really can fuck all night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen, it can be quite embarrassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't bother me. Chances are I wouldn't cum either, doesn't mean I don't enjoy it, so I wouldn't assume the same for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man doesn't cum on a meet, how does that make you feel? Obviously this question is aimed at women, mainly the female half of a couple. "

Depends I've met guys who've been out drinking the night before and while they've been rock hard, No amount of sex or oral will help, so in that situation it doesn't really bother me.

But if Its clear a guy isn't into me and take ages to get hard, loses his erection and just isn't turned on enough to cum then it's a bit of a knock on the confidence, won't meet him again although I doubt he would want to anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive just seen your 12th April photo - and nearly came BEFORE I met you! ( :

Fabulous.X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I deliberately avoid worrying whether I cum or not.

Of course it's better if I do, but I just lose myself in the process: the more enjoyable the sex itself is and the longer I go on enjoying it, the more likely I am to cum, and the better the orgasm will be.

Never, ever TRY to come. A recipe for a soft cock disaster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has happened to me about 2/3 times, but it’s always on some 3rd/4th load.

And it’s not a women’s fault, it’s all in head.

Thinking of something like Oh sh*t, after 10 min I have to go or She’s so sexy in this position, but I want to finish in different one...

It’s all in head...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Hey OP, probably the same as a lady if she hasn’t cum.

It’s not always a done deal, however if the build up is right...

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"It makes me feel bad.

It makes me feel bad about myself - as if it's my failure."

I agree thats how i feel

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By *un chickWoman
over a year ago

Fermanagh


"I think I'd feel a little disappointed, but probably with myself as I'd feel I wasn't good enough, which seems strange as I never expect a new partner to make me orgasm and I'm happy with that as I don't need an orgasm to enjoy myself.

Ginger "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be disappointed if a man didn't orgasm. I'm a bit of an over analyzer and would be worrying that I hadn't turned them on enough or pleased them enough. I understand that some may find it difficult, but I'd likely still feel that it was somehow my fault, in all honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a down right insult !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cum so am disappointed if a guy can't cum... I also like them to have those lovely feelings i get with a good fuck so sad for them.

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