FabSwingers.com forum: no shows!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ive had a quite a few members who arrange a meet on here or over the phone then pull out at the last minute.is this just a fact of "fab" life or preventable?any tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is just the way some people are ... But some will have a genuine reason for pulling out, Kids etc ...

That is why we dont really get too involved with people that havent been verified, But even they pull out for whatever reason.

Do what we do, Go to swing clubs and meet new people there, It is harder for them to escape then hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is just the way some people are ... But some will have a genuine reason for pulling out, Kids etc ...

That is why we dont really get too involved with people that havent been verified, But even they pull out for whatever reason.

Do what we do, Go to swing clubs and meet new people there, It is harder for them to escape then hahaha

yeh i really want to go to a club its a just a bit daunting for a single male to go alone as it would be my first time..

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By *udolphsRocketMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

If your worried about going to a club go when a social has been organised. At least that way you know there is likely to be a few more that you may have chatted to from Fab also there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

going to work my way into it first a bit,but it is definitely something i want to experience.i guess it makes it so much easier to convey to people what you are like etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to a club as a single male ... Something i have never done and not sure i could do to be honest. ... Take a lot of guts!!

But i can tell you from a couples view that single guys are very much a part of a swinging club and most have a good night.

The only tip i can give you if you do go is be freindly with the other single guys but dont stick with them, Its so off putting to see a group of guys together (Unless your looking for a gang bang lol) and just chat to people, Dont go there looking for a fuck, Go looking to meet new people and have nice night and the rest will follow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for that great advice much appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens on all sites i think they get cold feet and bk out. I only ever cancel if my daughter or myself are not well. Only had one guy get funny over it obviously wasnt worth contacting again.

It is frustrating when you are dressed ready and they dont turn up or have the courtesy to let you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It happens on all sites i think they get cold feet and bk out. I only ever cancel if my daughter or myself are not well. Only had one guy get funny over it obviously wasnt worth contacting again.

It is frustrating when you are dressed ready and they dont turn up or have the courtesy to let you know"

dont get me wrong i understand that people have "real" lives just like you say when you finnish work early get your best clobber on buy drinks etc then your left sat there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try going to a club with a friend?

Or failing that you could add it to your profile that you are interested in going along to a club with a single female ... Im sure there are plenty out there who would love to go but not alone.

A mate of mine did this and he chatted to someone for a while and then they went to a club together but just as friends, Not fuck buddies .. it was all about support and having that someone there with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes mate i have a girl who has offered and im definitely gonna take her up on it.we are meeting this week so watch this space.thanks for your tips.awsome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it is just the way some people are ... But some will have a genuine reason for pulling out, Kids etc ...

That is why we dont really get too involved with people that havent been verified, But even they pull out for whatever reason.

Do what we do, Go to swing clubs and meet new people there, It is harder for them to escape then

hahaha

Don't be such a big girls blouse lol

Get yourself to a club, no timewasters!!

What have you got to loose? x

yeh i really want to go to a club its a just a bit daunting for a single male to go alone as it would be my first time.."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't fancy taking me ha ha

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Don't fancy taking me ha ha "

3rd Annual Pussy Posse Beach Party....... huge FAB social at Chameleons in Darlaston on 28th August.

Come along, you would be very welcome and with 500+ people, guaranteed to be a hoot and you won't be on your own

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't fancy taking me ha ha

3rd Annual Pussy Posse Beach Party....... huge FAB social at Chameleons in Darlaston on 28th August.

Come along, you would be very welcome and with 500+ people, guaranteed to be a hoot and you won't be on your own

sounds like fun to me..do they have a web page?

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Don't fancy taking me ha ha

3rd Annual Pussy Posse Beach Party....... huge FAB social at Chameleons in Darlaston on 28th August.

Come along, you would be very welcome and with 500+ people, guaranteed to be a hoot and you won't be on your own

sounds like fun to me..do they have a web page?"

They? It's organised by the women on FAB.

Look under Meets and Parties Forum for 3rd Annual Pussy Posse Beach Party..... everything you need to know is there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't fancy taking me ha ha

3rd Annual Pussy Posse Beach Party....... huge FAB social at Chameleons in Darlaston on 28th August.

Come along, you would be very welcome and with 500+ people, guaranteed to be a hoot and you won't be on your own

sounds like fun to me..do they have a web page?

They? It's organised by the women on FAB.

Look under Meets and Parties Forum for 3rd Annual Pussy Posse Beach Party..... everything you need to know is there

ok thanks xx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"ive had a quite a few members who arrange a meet on here or over the phone then pull out at the last minute.is this just a fact of "fab" life or preventable?any tips"

If it has happened a few times it is worth looking at how you choose your meets.Yes it will happen, but if there is a pattern try to indentify it.

oh and enjoy the beach party

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

I think its a fact of fab life. Haven't had much of it but has happened in the past. Just shrug shoulders and forget. We usually allow another chance if our gut instinct is good but after that wish them well and tell them no thank you....we have lost interest.

Mistress x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive had a quite a few members who arrange a meet on here or over the phone then pull out at the last minute.is this just a fact of "fab" life or preventable?any tips"

sorry to say its just one of those things

i dont get that many no shows but i get quite a few guys cancel on me last min and some of which ive met before, so if you cant reply on someone you've already met you cant realy be 100% sure about someone you havnt

you just move onto the next one

i think what you have to remember is most people on here are looking for the best they can find and if they get a offer that they feel is better than you after they have agreed tp meet you they will cancel and go for the better option, ive had a few guys do that to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just an update...it happened again last night...local couple.arranged on phone and im still waiting!utter joke!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

have to say if its happening to you all the time then maybe be wise to relook at your selection process .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people can get so nervous that they pull out ... But yes, They should let you know!!

Maybe take longer with it?

Instead of arranging a last minute meet maybe chat and get to know them over a period of time? ... that way you should have a better idea about them etc ..

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

I agree with the 2 posts above....

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

No its called the rhythm method

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does seem a lot, tho as i said i get a fair few guy cancel as far as no shows go ive only had 3 no shows in 10 years of meeting, 2 single guys and 1 couples so yours does seem very high

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks guys..good advice all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

awww pick up a bottle of vodka and come see me i wont let you down, well not till ive d*unk all your vodka anyway lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"just an update...it happened again last night...local couple.arranged on phone and im still waiting!utter joke!"

never had a no show, hun what are u doing to check they are for real.You dont need to say here...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"awww pick up a bottle of vodka and come see me i wont let you down, well not till ive d*unk all your vodka anyway lol

just one bottle...im not that bad looking ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just an update...it happened again last night...local couple.arranged on phone and im still waiting!utter joke!

never had a no show, hun what are u doing to check they are for real.You dont need to say here...

well the feedback on both the latest ones was 1st rate..like amazingly good..though i did say to a girlfriend of mine on here that is was almost too good!!but there was loads of different verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"awww pick up a bottle of vodka and come see me i wont let you down, well not till ive d*unk all your vodka anyway lol

just one bottle...im not that bad looking ha ha"

haha ok i admit it im just after someone to go to the shop for me

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"just an update...it happened again last night...local couple.arranged on phone and im still waiting!utter joke!

never had a no show, hun what are u doing to check they are for real.You dont need to say here...

You might find some ppl (us included) never look at veris.Why do u take the word of strangers ?Trust your intinct ,no one else.

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

I have only been let down once so far which was good. I was all ready to leave the house and got a text saying they couldnt meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just an update...it happened again last night...local couple.arranged on phone and im still waiting!utter joke!

never had a no show, hun what are u doing to check they are for real.You dont need to say here...

verifications mean bugger all to me, one of the guys that did let me down was very well verified, because of this i traveled all the way to manchester, by train, to meet him which is something i usually never do, but did because not only was he verified he was verifed by two people i had met and knew so i went

When i got there i went to arranged meeting place and nothing, waited and waited and nothing, i was just going to check the train times home and see if i could change my ticket so i could travel back that day when he text me saying

Sorry change of plan im meeting someone else now so im not coming to get you

at the end of the day it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just an update...it happened again last night...local couple.arranged on phone and im still waiting!utter joke!

never had a no show, hun what are u doing to check they are for real.You dont need to say here...

Sorry change of plan im meeting someone else now so im not coming to get you

at the end of the day it happens "

I find that completely unbelievable behaviour naughty. Yes, things can 'come up' & plans change, but especially knowing your travel arrangements, there is no excuse for a text/call telling you at the earliest opportunity. I don't know how he had the nerve to give that as a reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well its meeting for nsa sex, its a big thing to most people

so your always going to get men, women and couples cancel when its not right for them or they feel guilty or just not confident to it.

never done it myself but it happens when ive arranged things, more so as couple but really its just the way these things go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well its meeting for nsa sex, its a big thing to most people

so your always going to get men, women and couples cancel when its not right for them or they feel guilty or just not confident to it.

never done it myself but it happens when ive arranged things, more so as couple but really its just the way these things go"

Cancelling, for whatever reason, and 'no-shows' are completely different. It's a courtesy to another human being to limit the amount of time/expense wasted. I have no problem with people cancelling a meet for any reason, no matter how trivial. But waiting for, or travelling to meet someone who doesn't turn up, or had no intention of turning up, is totally unacceptable behaviour on their part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what we do, Go to swing clubs and meet new people there, It is harder for them to escape then hahaha

HaHa

We like clubs, cos we can escape if neccessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive had a quite a few members who arrange a meet on here or over the phone then pull out at the last minute.is this just a fact of "fab" life or preventable?any tips"

It happens to us all at times. Just stay polite with people and avoid travelling too far if you are not 100% sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I travelled to aberdeen to meet a lady - got to the agreed place - waited 30 mins headed off - checked my fab mail 15 mins later and there was a message saying - soz I slept in!!! My mistake was to allow her a 2 nd chance - confirmed date the week , a couple of days before and the day before - and got a message in here a few hrs before the meet to say 'something's come up' that was it.

That's just someone who has no respect - but I was heading thru Aberdeen anyway on the 2nd occasion so I hadn't had to make special arrangements

Problem is that gen swingers are leaving the site because of the timewasters and if the admin aren't careful they'll only be left with the numpties on here - who can waste each others time!!!

Where's me soapbox smiley ?

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