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By *ornyplaytimereturns OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dartford

Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over.........

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

A couple of times? Man, I wish I could tell you it gets better but it doesn't. Just report as a no show, block, and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, the site is now just a waste of time. We use it purely for me (male) to perve Cams and for the Missus to perform on Cam periodically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just one of those things about the site. Some like to talk and then get cold feet but shouldn't be a reason for you to leave the site.

There's some genuine ones out there

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I never f**k a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's timewasters in every walk of life. Don't let them spoil your fun.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

Never stood people up - though been messed around by plenty.

Shit happens everywhere...even in the swinging world.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I thought it was just me that has had this... Stops me planning 1 to 1s unless I know them already because of the timewasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's something to be said for having a plan B in case you get stood up. Why allow it to ruin your evening, jump in a cab and get to a club night instead. Chances are you'll get the fun you had planned after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i know if i ever arranged to meet anyone i wouldnt waste there time.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Indeed....plenty here, tis a real alternative education from the darkside

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Well i know if i ever arranged to meet anyone i wouldnt waste there time. "

That's what they all say. All of the guys who have stood me up have had verifications, and their profile always state 'if I say I'll meet you I will', but here we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be careful what you chat about when arranging the meet. answer any questions that you can but keep it as vague as possible.

you'd be surprised what men wank over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been a massive increase, recently, in (fairly obviously) attached "single" men. Along with a large numbers of grabashag tossers rather than those of us more into the lifestyle.

You need to be able to read between the lines and sort the wheat from the chaff....it comes with experience.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

Well, we avoid single males anyway, but it's not exclusive to them...

We find single women and couples are bloody useless for the most part. These days there seems to be a lot of "Yeah, we're SO up for it! Oh shit, they want to meet us?! Lets run away..." on here /endrant

If we have our time wasted, they get blocked and we keep looking, and blocking, and looking, etc....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah they probably do. But im not exactly Brad Pitt. So if i ever got the chance to meet someone then i certainly wouldnt muck them around

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"be careful what you chat about when arranging the meet. answer any questions that you can but keep it as vague as possible.

you'd be surprised what men wank over. "

Thats so true!! Its why I lose most men I swear, get to horny in chat- they fuck off and leave once finished then lol

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

My OH has just said if he were single and a woman wanted to meet him for sex that he couldn't imagine a situation where he'd just bottle it!

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By *kyhighstilettoCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Filters,filters,filters

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Filters,filters,filters "

There are no filters for 'guys who bottle it' unfortunately.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"Filters,filters,filters

There are no filters for 'guys who bottle it' unfortunately."

Exactly, show me the 'i need bigger bollocks' filter and i'll use it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noones give me a chance to meet yet and when that happens my chances are slimmer AGGHH!!

Nob head

Why did you get cold feet and stand em up

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"be careful what you chat about when arranging the meet. answer any questions that you can but keep it as vague as possible.

you'd be surprised what men wank over. "

Google "rule 34" - there's nothing you can talk about that some guys can't interpret the wrong way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all us single guys are timewasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't give up I think there someone for everyone just like me you have to keep looking

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Not all us single guys are timewasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys."

I don't buy this myself. If you're a great and genuine guy then you'd stand out wouldn't you? Not be just one of the jerks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand your frustration it's not just the men that do it on here also women do it as well. Iv been let down 3 times at the last min with some bullshit excuses.

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By *ixedblkinjectionMan
over a year ago

london

I really don't understand....if they don't want to meet, why even bother contact someone; maybe that is what they actually get off on...I couldn't pull a no show...would be like being a chicken when a child!!!! No one wants to be the chicken...

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By *igris_PardusCouple
over a year ago

Bracknell

That's life!

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow


"be careful what you chat about when arranging the meet. answer any questions that you can but keep it as vague as possible.

you'd be surprised what men wank over. "

This!

The number who have it all their head, make their keyboard sticky and move on is unreal!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Not all us single guys are timewasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys."

If you're genuine you won't stand people up, therefore will stand out as a good guy. Unfortunately only you know the truth of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not all us single guys are timewasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys."

we only have your word that you are genuine..

what does genuine even mean anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant "

Twats not tears sorry folks haha.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant "

What about us genuine women sat in pubs or waiting on station platforms, waiting for a guy who doesn't show?

As much as I would hate this site more if single men weren't a part of it, I suspect there are more cold feet from men than women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant "

if it means that much to you, then start your own thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant

if it means that much to you, then start your own thread "

No I just wanted to say my bit I'm all good now lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well its the time wasters who make it harder for genuine people wanting to meet for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant

What about us genuine women sat in pubs or waiting on station platforms, waiting for a guy who doesn't show?

As much as I would hate this site more if single men weren't a part of it, I suspect there are more cold feet from men than women."

Yeah that I think is out of order for sure, standing someone up when they have gone to the effort of turning up that is terrible. If you get cold feet or are in 2 minds then explain to the person that not leave them waiting that is harsh.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Well its the time wasters who make it harder for genuine people wanting to meet for fun "

Nope. Read up a bit. If you make an effort the no shows don't affect your chances at all.

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By *ambon2015Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

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By *ambon2015Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

It's near on impossible for arranging a meet at the minute. Time wasters galore really drives us crazy. We know we are looking for the holy grail but we always answer messages, always willing to make things easier for them but still nothing other than lots of messages then nothing, grrrrr ??Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i've never had a problem getting meets to turn up but take into account these things:

i was fuck and go. so met guys when they actually wanted sex. they often wanted repeat meets as i was 'easy' and could be called on any time.

never asked anyone to meet me in public...this leads me to...

they were probably all married/attached and could only get out at the time they were looking for sex and i was no risk for them to get caught in public with me.

if anyone wanted to discuss the meet i refused and classed them as not meet worthy and likely to be wanting a wank, so i only had vanilla sex mostly.

all this suited me at the time. got a bit more fussy now, i don't really attempt meets and am looking for more kinky stuff and socialising so more making the plans for that now and being patient/not expecting much but it's going better than i hoped.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley


"Not all us single guys are timewasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys.

I don't buy this myself. If you're a great and genuine guy then you'd stand out wouldn't you? Not be just one of the jerks? "

He Does, against the background, can you not see it?

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By *hynot5642Man
over a year ago

Southampton

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By *hynot5642Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Not just single guys. I have had a woman and a couple not turn up and another woman that gave a false address. But agree they a pain and ruin it for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of fantasists on here that just get off on the idea of meeting. I was stood up by 15 single men who promised they would meet me in a club one night. Not one turned up, half contacted afterwards with a BS excuse and asked for another meet. I still had a good night but the number of 'I can't get a meet' posts does make me laugh. Wasn't my selection process either as it was a mix of verified/unverified etc. Site seems to attract fantasists.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton


"i've never had a problem getting meets to turn up but take into account these things:

i was fuck and go. so met guys when they actually wanted sex. they often wanted repeat meets as i was 'easy' and could be called on any time.

never asked anyone to meet me in public...this leads me to...

they were probably all married/attached and could only get out at the time they were looking for sex and i was no risk for them to get caught in public with me.

if anyone wanted to discuss the meet i refused and classed them as not meet worthy and likely to be wanting a wank, so i only had vanilla sex mostly.

all this suited me at the time. got a bit more fussy now, i don't really attempt meets and am looking for more kinky stuff and socialising so more making the plans for that now and being patient/not expecting much but it's going better than i hoped."

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I don't see it as being fussy.

You're more selective in what you want and what may give you your levels of satisfaction or desires.

And glad it's going well for you.

Hopefully you don't encounter the 'time wasters'.

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On a side note (and not making fun of the thread or OP) as time wasters are a pain in the arse.

But I do personally like to waste time.

Nothing finer than passing several hours doing very little, either on your own or with someone. Watching the world go by.

But I would never be a time waster.

I appreciate that people's time is precious (myself included) so if you make plans? Go through with them.

It's not that difficult.

.

Oh.. I know.

Let's arrange a couple of conflicting meets.

One social and one maybe where I get sex.

Then drop the social one at the last minute (even though it's been the one I've been working on building for weeks) just for the easy sex option.

Sadly some will always take a 'better!' option.

Never knowing what they would have missed out on.

So going back to OP.

Yes it's a pain in the arse.

With all the arrangements made etc.

But most probably in the longer run people who you wouldn't have wanted to meet anyway.

So that those you do meet will be the more genuine ones.

Still no excuses though for it and the frustrations created.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never had a problem getting meets to turn up but take into account these things:

i was fuck and go. so met guys when they actually wanted sex. they often wanted repeat meets as i was 'easy' and could be called on any time.

never asked anyone to meet me in public...this leads me to...

they were probably all married/attached and could only get out at the time they were looking for sex and i was no risk for them to get caught in public with me.

if anyone wanted to discuss the meet i refused and classed them as not meet worthy and likely to be wanting a wank, so i only had vanilla sex mostly.

all this suited me at the time. got a bit more fussy now, i don't really attempt meets and am looking for more kinky stuff and socialising so more making the plans for that now and being patient/not expecting much but it's going better than i hoped.

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I don't see it as being fussy.

You're more selective in what you want and what may give you your levels of satisfaction or desires.

And glad it's going well for you.

Hopefully you don't encounter the 'time wasters'.

..-

On a side note (and not making fun of the thread or OP) as time wasters are a pain in the arse.

But I do personally like to waste time.

Nothing finer than passing several hours doing very little, either on your own or with someone. Watching the world go by.

But I would never be a time waster.

I appreciate that people's time is precious (myself included) so if you make plans? Go through with them.

It's not that difficult.

.

Oh.. I know.

Let's arrange a couple of conflicting meets.

One social and one maybe where I get sex.

Then drop the social one at the last minute (even though it's been the one I've been working on building for weeks) just for the easy sex option.

Sadly some will always take a 'better!' option.

Never knowing what they would have missed out on.

So going back to OP.

Yes it's a pain in the arse.

With all the arrangements made etc.

But most probably in the longer run people who you wouldn't have wanted to meet anyway.

So that those you do meet will be the more genuine ones.

Still no excuses though for it and the frustrations created."

good explanation.

i do agree that those who want sex will go for actual sex rather than the option where it might not happen.

and my criteria changed from superficiality guiding who i meet to needing something more than that.

being fussy is hard for my sex drive and i struggle with that but am coping well and at least i am not focusing on looking for sex, being gratified and then straight back to looking for sex. it was too time consuming.

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester

we switched to club meets only a long time ago due to this. Although clubs are not always everyones preference if they dont show we can always still have fun .. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pity you not allowed to name and shame them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

We share your frustration. We must have had at least 7 or 8 let us down with nonsense excuses last year. What we do now is insist on a social only drink first. If they don't turn up, we have only missed out on a social drink, so no big deal. We then block them and move on. If they do turn up, then we figure that they are more likely to turn up for a second (naughty) meet. This seems to work so far. Bit of a time consuming process, but at least we don't get excited at the thought of a naughty meet and then are deflated when they let us down. Alternatively arrange one meet but with two separate guys. Of course ask them both first if they are happy with this. There's more chance that at least one will turn up if you have invited two. This worked for us recently !

I wouldn't leave the site because of the timewasters, but that's up to you I guess !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well its the time wasters who make it harder for genuine people wanting to meet for fun

Nope. Read up a bit. If you make an effort the no shows don't affect your chances at all."

They can and do affect your chances. We were let down by a number of people. After a while I was told by another fabber that as our profile showed we had been members for six months or so, and we had no verifications (this directly due to let downs), then we must be the type that don't meet ! Catch 22 I know, but there you go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, bloke's who possibly get a bigger sexual kick from messing you about and letting you down than they would if they'd met you.

We've been there, block, move on and chalk it up to experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just single guys hun. I've been let down twice now by couples not showing up. Yet they both claim to have been in the bar or pub I was sitting in alone for over an hour

Such a shit feeling going from excitement to huge disappointment

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Well its the time wasters who make it harder for genuine people wanting to meet for fun "

That's not true, see above for several comments about this lame excuse

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Not all us single guys are timewasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys.

I don't buy this myself. If you're a great and genuine guy then you'd stand out wouldn't you? Not be just one of the jerks?

He Does, against the background, can you not see it? "

By heck you're right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never let a meet down... ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had to cancel meets due to recent illness but had the decency to let people know.

I have been stood up by mostly single guys and just one couple.Neither saw me and did a runner they just didn't show'.

Just a very sad waste of precious free time so I sympathise with the op.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

It's not just men, of course but also women and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always the nan's that have been taken into hospital.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the women on here that fail to meet guys ? I think it's on both sides you can't just blame all the guys I get that there is a lot of tears on here but it fucks it up for the genuine guys, why I left this site ages ago because there was to much messing about and it's frustrating. Sorry to rant

What about us genuine women sat in pubs or waiting on station platforms, waiting for a guy who doesn't show?

As much as I would hate this site more if single men weren't a part of it, I suspect there are more cold feet from men than women."

Not just single guys but also couples... Many get cold feet and don't turn up...So as some one said "Plan B" go to a club (Partners) have fun and think of the time wasters as sad people...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The number of men time wasting is larger simply because there are more men in here than women or couples - it's a function of numbers, not that men have a propensity towards timewasting. Although, actually, I think they have. The Testosterone Curse....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It breaks my heart reading this. Sadly these itiots tarnish all the guys with the same brush. I will say it does happen to singles too. I recently traveled nearly 300 miles to meet a couple I was chatting with for weeks. Got to my hotel and quickly realised they had bottled it. I went to a club night instead and had a blast. I'm sad to say I think it goes with the lifestyle turf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

biggest let down is when someone does turn up and cant get it up.

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By *mojeeCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

Happens to us too. Even happens with Em on her own profile. Too many men wanting extra marital activities but are shit scared when it comes to the crunch.

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"pity you not allowed to name and shame them "

True - though of course they can be reported... For what good it will do...

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover


"biggest let down is when someone does turn up and cant get it up. "

your lucky they turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not only single guys…I arranged a meet with a lady today I was there on time at the place she didnt turn up.

Now like me a singe guy if i did that i would be slated named shamed maybe us single GENUINE guys should play hard to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over.........

Happens to us too. Even happens with Em on her own profile. Too many men wanting extra marital activities but are shit scared when it comes to the crunch. "

Why have you assumed that marriage has anything to do with it?

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By *ral DMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

All these time wasters are stopping other genuine blokes from getting meets, they use it like a free porn site, chat and chicken out. For the record ive never missed a meet even ones that have been 200+ miles away. If i say ill be there i shall be there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It breaks my heart reading this. Sadly these itiots tarnish all the guys with the same brush. I will say it does happen to singles too. I recently traveled nearly 300 miles to meet a couple I was chatting with for weeks. Got to my hotel and quickly realised they had bottled it. I went to a club night instead and had a blast. I'm sad to say I think it goes with the lifestyle turf. "

no,they dont tarnish anyone...as has been said several times above, and always ignored,this is not true. if it was,no single men would ever meet anyone,its a complete cop out...each person is only responsible for their own behaviour and women on here arent so stupid that they cant separate one persons behaviour from anothers...get really fed up with this stupid comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe me it's not just the male of the species who waste ones time. Had some great excuses in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

With how your post started i was expecting to read you've been stood up 10 or 11 times on the run...... not just 2

Just block and move on if they didn't give a valid sounding reason for not turning up.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

Don't give up

Some of us are genuine and would die for the chance of a meet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Could have been worse. Having one actually turn up then do a runner halfway through the meet was a bit soul crushing.

If they don't turn up then you have the option of believing that they never planned to. If they do and then disappear when you pop to the loo, you know its because they couldn't stand you.

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By *ral DMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Ive been stood up well over 50 times in the last six years by women and couples so its not just blokes.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

at least u didnt spend a couple of hours getting ready for them ..i assume everyones a TW until they turn up ..im usually right..just dont spend too long email chatting to them cos thats all they'll ever do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could have been worse. Having one actually turn up then do a runner halfway through the meet was a bit soul crushing.

If they don't turn up then you have the option of believing that they never planned to. If they do and then disappear when you pop to the loo, you know its because they couldn't stand you. "

Jeez that's harsh, have you green teeth ?

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford


" For the record ive never missed a meet even ones that have been 200+ miles away. If i say ill be there i shall be there."

yes all the timewasters say that ..lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Could have been worse. Having one actually turn up then do a runner halfway through the meet was a bit soul crushing.

If they don't turn up then you have the option of believing that they never planned to. If they do and then disappear when you pop to the loo, you know its because they couldn't stand you.

Jeez that's harsh, have you green teeth ? "

Not any more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought....

Do you find that paid up Fab members are more reliable?

I'm reluctant to say this as it tempts fate, but time wasters not turning up isn't an issue we have had, BUT our filters block all but couples and we only search for paid up members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've stopped meeting guys unless we have mutual friends or verifications. I know it limits us to a smaller choice but it also stops us wasting precious time when we only get one day a week to play.

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By *ackoman71Man
over a year ago

Bexleyheath

I'd never be rude to not show up. Not fair. I've had some great meets (not on this site) in the past and I'd have been an idiot to be a no show as I had some amazing nights with sexy women. One wouldn't leave me alone all weekend lol. But no, if you can't make it then how hard is it to text or call?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a couple do it twice to me didn't get a 3rd chance blocked and reported

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By *ackoman71Man
over a year ago

Bexleyheath


"Just a thought....

Do you find that paid up Fab members are more reliable?

I'm reluctant to say this as it tempts fate, but time wasters not turning up isn't an issue we have had, BUT our filters block all but couples and we only search for paid up members. "

I'd consider it a waste of my money if I didn't show up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all we single male, couples, single females are time wasters. This is why it's so difficult for us genuine guys/couples/females to have fun? It’s sad time wasters giving genuine people a bad name on here.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Hey we are going to have fun if they turn up or not, can't understand the angst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've become a site supporter to show I'm genuine, yet to have a meet or even a verification but there's no rush as I would rather find the right people than get messed around.

It's a shame as it does take time and effort to get ready, look good, and smell nice etc. People seem to think you can just turn up like superman!

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By *tef1972TV/TS
over a year ago

blackburn

We should be able to see bad feedback too and if any reports against them for no shows one black mark against your name and your chances of meeting again would be slim to nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never let anyone down yet but then I don't promise to meet that many people. I purposely arrange meets when I'm not horny, that way I know I'm making promises with a clear mind and not just following my horn!

I think a lot of guys get horny and arrange a meet but when it comes to it aren't in the mood or something else comes up, it's a selfish attitude but that's how it seems to be these days in and outside of swinging.

It's not just guys on here who are time wasters it should be said although I've managed to avoid the female ones so far.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham

This is why I always arrange a social usually at lunchtime or straight after work, this way I'm not out wasting my time or a wasted journey if they don't show

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"We should be able to see bad feedback too and if any reports against them for no shows one black mark against your name and your chances of meeting again would be slim to nothing "

I agree however I think people would abuse this and blacken someone if they chose not to meet or talk to them in the first place

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"All these time wasters are stopping other genuine blokes from getting meets, they use it like a free porn site, chat and chicken out. For the record ive never missed a meet even ones that have been 200+ miles away. If i say ill be there i shall be there."

No one stops me getting a meet except for me and the person I'm meeting. I don't see how the actions of a man miles away and with no connection has an impact on you. It's easy to blame others. Take responsibility.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

It must something you're all doing wrong as I never get timewasted and I'm being serious. Hear all these threads about timewasters, guess I've just been lucky and careful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just Men who are time waster.

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over a year ago

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"This is why I always arrange a social usually at lunchtime or straight after work, this way I'm not out wasting my time or a wasted journey if they don't show"

I've been stood up for a social twice in the past, and will never know whether those women either bottled it at the last minute, or were secretly watching me from a distance. I'm sure they wouldn't appreciate similar treatment from guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It must something you're all doing wrong as I never get timewasted and I'm being serious. Hear all these threads about timewasters, guess I've just been lucky and careful."

Same here, presume I've just been lucky?

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"It must something you're all doing wrong as I never get timewasted and I'm being serious. Hear all these threads about timewasters, guess I've just been lucky and careful.

Same here, presume I've just been lucky? "

Who would stand you up

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"It must something you're all doing wrong as I never get timewasted and I'm being serious. Hear all these threads about timewasters, guess I've just been lucky and careful."

Bully for you. Sometimes you can do everything right and it turns out the person was just a dick. Nothing anyone can do to get round that.

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By *andi_shopWoman
over a year ago

rotherham


"It must something you're all doing wrong as I never get timewasted and I'm being serious. Hear all these threads about timewasters, guess I've just been lucky and careful.

Bully for you. Sometimes you can do everything right and it turns out the person was just a dick. Nothing anyone can do to get round that."

everything can be so right but then nothing....silence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It must something you're all doing wrong as I never get timewasted and I'm being serious. Hear all these threads about timewasters, guess I've just been lucky and careful.

Same here, presume I've just been lucky?

Who would stand you up "

Wish everyone thought like you x

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By *evonheavenCouple
over a year ago

exeter

Yup. Four out of four this weekend are no shows!!!!!

Difficult to argue those stats.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

There are some real nice people on here that do show. Not everyone is out to ruin someone's night.

Stick with it and maybe change the way you select people.

We have had a couple of people not show, but see it as part of the process,

Good luck in future meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters,filters,filters

There are no filters for 'guys who bottle it' unfortunately."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just single guys and it's not just no shows that make this site so depressing.. Here's our experience of the 4 meets we managed to set up over the past year:

1. Guy who advertises himself as 5 ft 10 but when he showed up is actually about 5 ft 5 and a good deal older than his photos.

2. Guy who claimed to be looking for regular fb, plays with J for one evening and then without warning dissappears off the planet. But still advertises here.

3. Couple who meet for a social. Arrange a play date but pull out at the last minute.

4. Couple who agree to meet for a 1 drink social and then move to a venue to play if all goes well, pull out at the last minute.

We've come to understand that this is a forum to play with fantasies. But if you want to actually do anything it had to be clubs.

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

louth


"There's timewasters in every walk of life. Don't let them spoil your fun."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been stood up four times by verified single women. And I'm not talking "sorry, something come up" excuses. I'm talking sitting in the agreed meeting place to find they have blocked my number

So it's not just men

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By *ornyplaytimereturns OP   Couple
over a year ago

Dartford

That's very frustrating, Mrs horny takes the time to look nice and dress sexy and bang they don't turn up......grrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's very frustrating, Mrs horny takes the time to look nice and dress sexy and bang they don't turn up......grrrrrrrrrr"

It's infuriating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been stood up four times by verified single women. And I'm not talking "sorry, something come up" excuses. I'm talking sitting in the agreed meeting place to find they have blocked my number

So it's not just men"

I had this happen to me a couple of weeks ago

Even rang me to say he was sat outside house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fair enough, if thats how you feel..

but remember the time wasters you claim are within your narrow parameters of preferences..

I'm not saying change them of course ffs...just don't be surprised if a vast majority of interested parties either dont match up with the preferences or indeed you yourselves did not choose very well.

You might have guessed...I cant stand sweeping generalisations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort."

really?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"It breaks my heart reading this. Sadly these itiots tarnish all the guys with the same brush. I will say it does happen to singles too. I recently traveled nearly 300 miles to meet a couple I was chatting with for weeks. Got to my hotel and quickly realised they had bottled it. I went to a club night instead and had a blast. I'm sad to say I think it goes with the lifestyle turf.

no,they dont tarnish anyone...as has been said several times above, and always ignored,this is not true. if it was,no single men would ever meet anyone,its a complete cop out...each person is only responsible for their own behaviour and women on here arent so stupid that they cant separate one persons behaviour from anothers...get really fed up with this stupid comment!"

It's the same as all the "Am I too old" threads. Basically without seeing who they are contacting & the type of messages sent how the heck are we supposed to know its because of their age.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fair enough, if thats how you feel..

but remember the time wasters you claim are within your narrow parameters of preferences..

I'm not saying change them of course ffs...just don't be surprised if a vast majority of interested parties either dont match up with the preferences or indeed you yourselves did not choose very well.

You might have guessed...I cant stand sweeping generalisations

"

You completely miss the point. We're talking about people who have expressed a desire to meet (winked, then messagesd) agree to meet unreservedly then either don't turn up, cancel at the last minute or, if they do turn up, are seriously different from their profiles. We're talking intentionally deceiving not just a bit of poetic licence.

These are time wasters. Not the fabbers who look at your profile and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fair enough, if thats how you feel..

but remember the time wasters you claim are within your narrow parameters of preferences..

I'm not saying change them of course ffs...just don't be surprised if a vast majority of interested parties either dont match up with the preferences or indeed you yourselves did not choose very well.

You might have guessed...I cant stand sweeping generalisations

You completely miss the point. We're talking about people who have expressed a desire to meet (winked, then messagesd) agree to meet unreservedly then either don't turn up, cancel at the last minute or, if they do turn up, are seriously different from their profiles. We're talking intentionally deceiving not just a bit of poetic licence.

These are time wasters. Not the fabbers who look at your profile and move on. "

Agreed.. a timeswaster is clearly defined as someone who arranges to meet and doesn't show hence wasting your time... looking at a profile and having no interest or chatting and it coming to nothing is not time wasting it's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort.

really?"

Yes, really. As you'd know if you ever went to one!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"fair enough, if thats how you feel..

but remember the time wasters you claim are within your narrow parameters of preferences..

I'm not saying change them of course ffs...just don't be surprised if a vast majority of interested parties either dont match up with the preferences or indeed you yourselves did not choose very well.

You might have guessed...I cant stand sweeping generalisations

"

All Scottish people say that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"be careful what you chat about when arranging the meet. answer any questions that you can but keep it as vague as possible.

you'd be surprised what men wank over. "

That's so true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well i know if i ever arranged to meet anyone i wouldnt waste there time.

That's what they all say. All of the guys who have stood me up have had verifications, and their profile always state 'if I say I'll meet you I will', but here we are."

im yet to let anyone down on that. not all single guys are the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have also had women time wasters who say they will turn up normally i travel their area so they are more confutable with the meet then they don't turn up no tex no call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have also had women time wasters who say they will turn up normally i travel their area so they are more confutable with the meet then they don't turn up no tex no call "

Yep I can agree with this.. I have experienced both male and females that don't turn up and don't even have the decency to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought....

Do you find that paid up Fab members are more reliable?

I'm reluctant to say this as it tempts fate, but time wasters not turning up isn't an issue we have had, BUT our filters block all but couples and we only search for paid up members. "

Don't think it makes a difference at all. A guy wanted a last minute meet this morning, we were up.for it. Loads of verifications, silver member, site verified.....he didn't show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been stood up four times by verified single women. And I'm not talking "sorry, something come up" excuses. I'm talking sitting in the agreed meeting place to find they have blocked my number

So it's not just men

I had this happen to me a couple of weeks ago

Even rang me to say he was sat outside house

"

Had the same thing too. Gave us local landmarks then messaged today outside. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time wasters are people who've just decided not to meet you for whatever reason, which I've had. There's always plenty of other folk who will. I've met three very nice non-time wasters in the last few weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time wasters are people who've just decided not to meet you for whatever reason, which I've had. There's always plenty of other folk who will. I've met three very nice non-time wasters in the last few weeks. "

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By *ischief ManagedCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort.

really?

Yes, really. As you'd know if you ever went to one!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort."

I've had some great meets, it's certainly not a waste of time and effort for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort.

really?

Yes, really. As you'd know if you ever went to one!"

I've been to clubs all over britain...but to say the sites users are useless...well...that just makes me think your selection process is useless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"fair enough, if thats how you feel..

but remember the time wasters you claim are within your narrow parameters of preferences..

I'm not saying change them of course ffs...just don't be surprised if a vast majority of interested parties either dont match up with the preferences or indeed you yourselves did not choose very well.

You might have guessed...I cant stand sweeping generalisations

All Scottish people say that "

we start with "Och!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry but I love time wasters... they have made my swinging life much better

Do you know how many times I've gotten a email from a couple/female , to come play after a time waster has let them down..

These have been my best meets over the years , no social, no small talk , just come over and have fun.

So thank you to all the time wasters...... without you guys , I wouldn't be a back up plan...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less chance of finding timewasters when they've bothered to go to a club and have paid for the privilege.

As a means of actually getting to play, this site is one huge waste of time and effort."

As you rightly say ' one huge waste of time'

Although it wasn't like this when we first joined but now there seems to be much more time wasters than actual swingers, and as you say if you go to a club you are meeting real people who do want to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been stood up a few times, so to cut down the chaff we are only interested in couples who are photo verified, verified recently in a meet, have recent photos. Even then it's synchronising free time with others, so it's all club meets lately. Socials are a good way of meeting others, we've organised one ourselves, sometimes they can lead onto fun afterwards too.

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By *inkyChrissy99TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol


"We've been stood up a few times, so to cut down the chaff we are only interested in couples who are photo verified, verified recently in a meet, have recent photos. Even then it's synchronising free time with others, so it's all club meets lately. Socials are a good way of meeting others, we've organised one ourselves, sometimes they can lead onto fun afterwards too."

Thats some good pointers I think I will follow a similar path- I already agree clubs and socials are easier more fun ways to meet x

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"Wtf is it with all the single male time wasters on here?

They contact you, exchange numbers and chat on phone to arrange a meet then don't turn up!!

Happened a couple of times now to us and is making us think about leaving this site

Rant over........."

Bye

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By *om8420Man
over a year ago

Sunderland

As Fab has grown in numbers, obviously there are more unreliable people. There are lots of 'couples' on here who are single guys, so they obviously won't turn up. (Advice - Call and speak to the fem first!). There are couples on here who are husbands hoping their wives will play (Advice - As before). Single guys who just want to perv and chat and wank (Advice - Social meet first)

There are also lots of genuine guys who lose their bottle, whether its there first meet or not, it happens (Guys - a phone call to apologize wouldn't hurt)

But there are still lots and lots of good, genuine, reliable single men, women and couples on here just wanting to have some fun

Don't give up

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