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By *horpey1980 OP   Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Why am I finding it hard to get a female to chat to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why am I finding it hard to get a female to chat to me? "

You're not alone on here! I know it feels like it alot but there's always that gem who is decent enough to engage in conversation

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

OP saying your proper bored as your status doesn't encourage me to chat to you and your about me section tells me nothing to make me want to chat to you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you're not exactly giving them much to work with looking at your profile.

Your main pic is very dark and doesn't show your features well at all, and you've not put anything about your likes or what you're looking for...

How is anyone supposed to know if you're the guy for them if they know nothing about you and can barely see you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP saying your proper bored as your status doesn't encourage me to chat to you and your about me section tells me nothing to make me want to chat to you xxx"

Can you give me some pointers on my profile please? I'm having a bit of trouble on here also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you 35 or 41?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you 35 or 41? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even more confusingly, the username contains 1980 which is 37 years ago...

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts


"OP saying your proper bored as your status doesn't encourage me to chat to you and your about me section tells me nothing to make me want to chat to you xxx

Can you give me some pointers on my profile please? I'm having a bit of trouble on here also "

OK. Pics personally don't in time me as nondescript and impersonal. The bit in your profile about everyone deserves a chance sounds a bit desperate and nothing in about me bit stands out and makes want to explore your thoughts and series.

Drop the disclaimer too

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts


"Are you 35 or 41? "

Missed that. How slack of me.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts


"Even more confusingly, the username contains 1980 which is 37 years ago..."

And missed that too.

Are we guessing down the middle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even more confusingly, the username contains 1980 which is 37 years ago...

And missed that too.

Are we guessing down the middle lol"

I'll say 37

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even more confusingly, the username contains 1980 which is 37 years ago...

And missed that too.

Are we guessing down the middle lol

I'll say 37"

Seeing as I used my year too I'll go 37 as well... doesn't make sense why you'd go higher in the age box though with 40...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP saying your proper bored as your status doesn't encourage me to chat to you and your about me section tells me nothing to make me want to chat to you xxx

Can you give me some pointers on my profile please? I'm having a bit of trouble on here also

OK. Pics personally don't in time me as nondescript and impersonal. The bit in your profile about everyone deserves a chance sounds a bit desperate and nothing in about me bit stands out and makes want to explore your thoughts and series.

Drop the disclaimer too "

Thank you madam!

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts


"OP saying your proper bored as your status doesn't encourage me to chat to you and your about me section tells me nothing to make me want to chat to you xxx

Can you give me some pointers on my profile please? I'm having a bit of trouble on here also

OK. Pics personally don't in time me as nondescript and impersonal. The bit in your profile about everyone deserves a chance sounds a bit desperate and nothing in about me bit stands out and makes want to explore your thoughts and series.

Drop the disclaimer too

Thank you madam! "

Now probs. I did a typo meant desires not series*

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

You get out of here what you put in, try searching a few of the more successful guys profiles, then see how their profiles are set out and written.

When you message send a polite detailed message to the person your mailing, read their profile, mention what you've read, be polite, respect and manners goes a long way

Get yourself to a club or a social, break the first veri barrier

Come across as positive, no one wants to meet a misery guts!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi lovely. Get rid of the bored status. Women like to chat to men who seem interesting. That doesn't inspire someone to want to reply to a message. The age thing is very confusing. That might put some off. You're either 35 or 41. Pick one. If you are 35 and can't change your date of birth, say so in your text. No need to say about you being tee-total not because you can't handle your drink. Women are not interested in that. Inject some personality into your profile. Women look at profiles before they open messages. Make that your first selling point. Maybe change up your public gallery. Get more pics on there. I hope that helps OP. We are friends on here, so feel free to PM if you want a little more advice. Good luck lovely .

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Just say you are a purveyor of fine shoes and handbags or a chocolatier, you'll be inundated

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By *ouble_The_DelightCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Just say you are a purveyor of fine shoes and handbags or a chocolatier, you'll be inundated "

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Write a half decent profile, put a few pics up (torso & bum), treat the ladies on here as you would in real life, and above all have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you want.

If it's any hole's a goal then fill your profile with generic shite that lots of guys on here think women want to read such as....Licking pussy is my favourite pastime n I love to do it for hours n can breathe through my ears!......n looks not important n other such lies

Or you can spend half an hour trying to think how describe yourself n what you seek in a humorous manner that shows a bit of your own personality.

You'll get less meets but will be more likely to attract folk on a similar wavelength to yourself.

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused. You haven't replied to anything anyone has said on your own thread.

Chatty ain't ya?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused. You haven't replied to anything anyone has said on your own thread.

Chatty ain't ya?"

Haha....yep,very poor following up the convo skills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

patience is a virtue on this site lol, have you tried the chat roome?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused. You haven't replied to anything anyone has said on your own thread.

Chatty ain't ya?

Haha....yep,very poor following up the convo skills!"

Same thing yesterday. I guy complains that people are rude because they don't reply to his messages. A lot of people went to a lot of trouble to explain things to him but he never replied to anything, not even to say thank you. Now THAT was rude!

To me FAB is about engaging people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't speak for others, but to me, someone who can't entertain himself and doesn't seem to know what age he wants to be is very unlikely to pique my intetest

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"To me FAB is about engaging people."

Are you proposing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they didn't realise that your a special little snow flake delicate and unique, just like all the other single men

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Which horizon are you considering to broaden?

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By *eus n EuropaCouple
over a year ago

louth

Why are peole ignoring me?

Next one please

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

'Chat' is usually a poorly hidden euphemism for 'I want wank fodder', especially when requested from someone hundreds of miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We decline all random requests to chat. We joined Fab to go out, have fun, go to parties, make friends to have sex with. Happy to chat with people we've got to know on the scene, but can't be arsed with meaningless on line chit chat.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they're busy chatting to others possibly

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Because they're busy chatting to others possibly "

Me actually

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

OP it doesn't matter what you do, what you say, what you show, where you go, who you're with, what you're selling, what you do, what you look like, what you're into because if someone is going to chat or meet you then they will. So ignore all advice and do your own thing pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are busy chatting to people who aren't looking for some boredom relief.

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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago

secret town


"Why am I finding it hard to get a female to chat to me? "

Because you smell of piss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are not the only one here the women and couples are very picky who they chat too on here.

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