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"It's not always single fellas. I've been primed to go to parties with single females on three seperate occassions and each time they have got cold feet and been no shows. I've carried on anyway and had a great time but just wanted to add some balance to your statement x" Im sure its not i am only speaking from experience as a party organiser, always the single guys that dont turn up | |||
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"It's not always single fellas. I've been primed to go to parties with single females on three seperate occassions and each time they have got cold feet and been no shows. I've carried on anyway and had a great time but just wanted to add some balance to your statement xIm sure its not i am only speaking from experience as a party organiser, always the single guys that dont turn up " i have noticed this too, i think basically for a lot of couples planning,babysitting ect mean if they put their name down they are not going to waste their time.Perhaps single guys are being a bit more "spur of the moment" | |||
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"some bottle it some go out with mates instead some are married and wifie changes plans some get other meets some are wanking at the thought of meets some have genuine emergencies some will watch the fitba instead some are just fools........." he said it for me | |||
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"I'm curious too but the likelihood of them admitting to it on this post, and giving an explanation are probably even worse than the chances of them turning up... " Well they talk about everything else | |||
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"I'm curious too but the likelihood of them admitting to it on this post, and giving an explanation are probably even worse than the chances of them turning up... Well they talk about everything else " I'm sure I heard recently that you should ignore everything in a sentence that comes before the word 'but', looks like it's true with this thread title too As I said, it's not just single fellas that don't turn up, women do it too but my post seems to have been ignored in favour of some bashing... | |||
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"I'm curious too but the likelihood of them admitting to it on this post, and giving an explanation are probably even worse than the chances of them turning up... Well they talk about everything else I'm sure I heard recently that you should ignore everything in a sentence that comes before the word 'but', looks like it's true with this thread title too As I said, it's not just single fellas that don't turn up, women do it too but my post seems to have been ignored in favour of some bashing..." dont believe everything you hear | |||
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"I think its a valid question but like someone else said I don't know if you're going to get the answers At nearly every social or party that I have been to or helped plan the majority of those that were no shows have been single guys Possibly with the exception of the one I was at this weekend where I think they all decided to turn up at the same time I love single guys so its not a bashing its truth based on my experience " Maybe , most of the males are doing their own bashing. The Bishop. | |||
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"i have no frame of reference to the no-shows because i have never been one of them. All i would say is to use all of the information available to you to choose well. Verifications, especially from people you know, should be useful. if you have the luxury of time, meeting them at socials (if they turn up ) should settle the nerves of any first-timer. I try to meet people for a no-strings drink first anyway, just to make sure you get on. It's funny to think of it like a job inter_iew, especially if both sides want the job! lol Would you normally offer someone a job without an inter_iew?" so you are seriously saying that all party organisers should meet every single male that puts their name down for a party/social? | |||
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"............so you are seriously saying that all party organisers should meet every single male that puts their name down for a party/social? " Perhaps not for a social but there's steps anyone could take before accepting a request from someone an organiser doesn't know/ trust for a party invite. One question rarely asked, or answered, about no shows is why they feel the alternative they've chosen (whether that be a night in the pub, or a wank) is better than the invite they've decided to bodyswerve. I don't claim to have the answer to this but it's a question that ought to be asked. | |||
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"It's not always single fellas. I've been primed to go to parties with single females on three seperate occassions and each time they have got cold feet and been no shows. I've carried on anyway and had a great time but just wanted to add some balance to your statement xIm sure its not i am only speaking from experience as a party organiser, always the single guys that dont turn up " Maybe you are just inviting the wrong ones?? There are a lot of threads on here about how hard it is for single males to get meets and how the single women and couples have the right to pick and choose their perfect man, which is fine, but maybe its the selection process that is at fault rather than the single male as a species. Just speakimg from my experience as a single male who is very reliable but gets very few invitations. | |||
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" The first sign of trouble and I flash my white arse " Tsk...any excuse you blatant flasher you! | |||
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" The first sign of trouble and I flash my white arse Tsk...any excuse you blatant flasher you! " ...and there's one predator that scares the crap out of me!!! | |||
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"Depending on the party/social, venue, and other logistics, I've found the absentees to be an even spread (oi oi!). As far as am concerned - when's the next party so I can put it in my diary? " Beach party for sure - I'm squeezing your bum again | |||
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"some bottle it some go out with mates instead some are married and wifie changes plans some get other meets some are wanking at the thought of meets some have genuine emergencies some will watch the fitba instead some are just fools........." there just fools !! | |||
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"Can anyone tell me why its always single males that are no shows at parties and organised events, now this isnt me pontificating i have actually researched this with other party organisers. I have always been one to stand up for single males so this is just a genuine question as im puzzled. Thanks Femme " Are they just not showing up or do they give you an excuse...sometimes life can get in the way of things and if I couldn't make it for any reason then it's genuine...I have some ladies who want to meet but it's always "next week maybe"...... haven't been to a party for a while so am open to invitation | |||
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"You really need to ask the guys that don't turn up as to what there reason is but as they don't actually turn up and typically are never heard from again we'll never really know. What we could do with is a different label for REAL SWINGER single guys and the rest of the rubbish using the label 'single male'. As has been suggested most won't be able to make it because the wife won't let them out for 'a drink with the lads'. Rubbish aside, it still takes some guts for a guy to see through such a fantasy. We are seeing a newbee single guy and now he is able to admit he was bricking it prior and at the start of out first meeting. He actually said at the end of our second meeting, "A few weeks ago I would never have thought this would actually happen, I can hardly believe that its happening now". Now hang on to his statement for a minute and think how many guys don't show because they just don't believe it will actually happen? The disappointment with gang-bang no-shows, ok so guys should NOT say they will and then not turn up but what's in it for them? Waiting in line to shag a soggy pussy! Apart from that I can imagine guys having all the best intentions during the chat and putting their name down or accepting an invitation but as the event looms closer too much trepidation can soon wash away the enthusiasm for what for most would seem like the best dream ever come true. Perhaps if single guys were treated with more respect then the respectable ones might be more forward. " Good points there i do take into consideration it can be daunting not just for single males but for anybody. I have seen parties and socials advertised here and no single males were allowed or their numbers were very limited, i for one would never do that, 99% of single males are genuine , i just wondered why such a high percentage never show up, even after numerous messages, banter etc.... i guess il never know lol Many thanks for all the input to everyone who posted Femme xxxxxx | |||
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"I spoke to Femme about this before she decided to ask the question as this specific question relates to the Pussy Posse parties. I'll give you an example. We nearly always use Chameleons in Darlaston. It's a club where you can socialise or have sex. No pressure, no expectations but food, drink, games and friends laid on. The last Annual Beach Party in 2010 had 600 people attend. Out of the no-shows (because we do keep lists), 90% of them were single men. We do the lists because it allows those without memberships to come in on MY membership for the day, so that if single guys are on the waiting list, or haven't been before, they can come along. The Red White and Blue this year was the same. Single men are always the ones that don't show. They don't let us know, they don't give us feedback and they then stick their names down for the next party and don't turn up for that one. 85-90% of the couples do turn up and those that don't, in general, will let us know why. I've only ever had a couple of no-shows from single women. Now, on the basis that I obviously can't meet 200+ single men and nor would I wish to, just so I can 'figure out where I'm going wrong,' why do people, realistically think these men don't turn up? As I pointed out to Femme, I think they are all married!!!! " Hi Madchick I pm'd u about the beach party am I on the list??? X | |||
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"I get a sudden onset of dangleberries just before a meet/party/socials. Its embarrassing and I never know what to say,I'm sure you would rather hear that I was married and not allowed out the house that nite, but I cannot tell a lie my dangleberries make me shy! " I would rather hear that you had a sudden onset of the dangleberries........ or at least talk to me or Femme.... we may both be a bit mad, but we do know what we are doing and we definately know how to throw a party.......... **And upstairs is the cock fest lol** | |||
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"I get a sudden onset of dangleberries just before a meet/party/socials. Its embarrassing and I never know what to say,I'm sure you would rather hear that I was married and not allowed out the house that nite, but I cannot tell a lie my dangleberries make me shy! I would rather hear that you had a sudden onset of the dangleberries........ or at least talk to me or Femme.... we may both be a bit mad, but we do know what we are doing and we definately know how to throw a party.......... **And upstairs is the cock fest lol**" ] But I'm wearing a short skirt and no knickers, everyone will see them as i walk up the stairs to the cockfest!!! | |||
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"I get a sudden onset of dangleberries just before a meet/party/socials. Its embarrassing and I never know what to say,I'm sure you would rather hear that I was married and not allowed out the house that nite, but I cannot tell a lie my dangleberries make me shy! I would rather hear that you had a sudden onset of the dangleberries........ or at least talk to me or Femme.... we may both be a bit mad, but we do know what we are doing and we definately know how to throw a party.......... **And upstairs is the cock fest lol**] But I'm wearing a short skirt and no knickers, everyone will see them as i walk up the stairs to the cockfest!!!" Yes.......... and? your point is? | |||
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"Why's it always couples and females stand up us single guys" Never stood up a single guy without an explaination and apology first and never at last minute. Have been stood up by single guys though . " I would say most of us are genuine on here but there are some Nutters who like the idea . but cant go through with it . Probably like diets for most " This is a thread specifically about the parties we organise and the amount of single men who just don't turn up. Their loss, there are always plenty of single women and hundreds of couples to choose from. | |||
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"I get a sudden onset of dangleberries just before a meet/party/socials. Its embarrassing and I never know what to say,I'm sure you would rather hear that I was married and not allowed out the house that nite, but I cannot tell a lie my dangleberries make me shy! I would rather hear that you had a sudden onset of the dangleberries........ or at least talk to me or Femme.... we may both be a bit mad, but we do know what we are doing and we definately know how to throw a party.......... **And upstairs is the cock fest lol**] But I'm wearing a short skirt and no knickers, everyone will see them as i walk up the stairs to the cockfest!!! Yes.......... and? your point is? " well they hurt when I clench my arsecheeks...have sympathy eh!???? | |||
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" well they hurt when I clench my arsecheeks...have sympathy eh!???? " Don't clench ya arse cheeks and let us all have a good look! Honestly.........throw a girl a bone! | |||
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"Sheer bad manners and lack of respect means that the selfish few spoil it for all." Trouble is its not 'the selfish few' its the majority. We get 100's and 100's of PM's from wannbee tumble so on that basis we could have 100's and 100's of no-shows if we were to consider them. This is also supported by what is being said about the Pussy Posse Parties. As for the couples that don't show, you don't actually know if it is a couple if they don't show! Equally the single fem no-shows could be a frustrated hubby playing about. Still not convinced? Look up the traffic stats for this site and it will tell you that most of the traffic here, like 85% is married middle-aged men. I can't remember the percentage of connections from schools but they are there too It's a fact - something like 95% of the fakes on here are married men posing/appearing as every conceivable type/configuration of swinger but mostly they pose as 'single men'. We've never bashed single men who actually are who they say they are, what we might call REAL SWINGERS I doubt anyone ever has. It's just that real ones and the fakes are of the same species | |||
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" These are generally open to anyone and are a great way to get to know others and get that veri so many single guys seem to value. " And thats part of the point Jemima. So many single guys want the verification because some won't meet singles without one....... never ending vicious circle. But come to a munch/social/club meet..... you will get one. If a single guy takes the trouble to talk to a couple/single woman/me.... and then leaves them a verification, they will (in all probability) leave him one. Or, he can talk to me and I'll leave him one as the party organiser. At least it will show who he is and that he's real and not got 3 heads! I've come to the conclusion that single men are a strange variable. They want it all and they want it NOW but most won't put in the slightest bit of effort to get it! | |||
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" These are generally open to anyone and are a great way to get to know others and get that veri so many single guys seem to value. And thats part of the point Jemima. So many single guys want the verification because some won't meet singles without one....... never ending vicious circle. But come to a munch/social/club meet..... you will get one. If a single guy takes the trouble to talk to a couple/single woman/me.... and then leaves them a verification, they will (in all probability) leave him one. Or, he can talk to me and I'll leave him one as the party organiser. At least it will show who he is and that he's real and not got 3 heads! I've come to the conclusion that single men are a strange variable. They want it all and they want it NOW but most won't put in the slightest bit of effort to get it! " Or they could come,shag me and get a veri ! | |||
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