FabSwingers.com forum: Guys "pretending" to be bi

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning All,

Not often we have a whinge but we seem to keep having the same problem recently.

When meeting as a couple we make it very clear that we want fully bi guys, that means everyone getting stuck in together.

The last three meets the guy (although hot) has freaked and not done any bi play. I feel it's sometimes a lie to get at me (Mrs P).

I understand some guys don't state bi on their profile and I understand why some don't.

Has anyone else had similar problems?

Mrs P

Wife of frustrated Mr P who wants to share a good cock with me!

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By *aren1956TV/TS
over a year ago

Fakenham

You would be amazed at the number of straight guys claiming to be bi who contact me begging to be 'given a chance'. They disappear when challenged.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

There is a thread already going which has a few possible answers:

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/537874

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

It's the gay guys who pretend to be bi that confuse me...

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By *ancpl05Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

This is a common for us too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not Bi. I find that I feel the need to mention this a few times in messages and in person (not that I think the guy would want to jump on me) just to ensure no aqward moments arise, I for sure wouldn't want to feel uncomfortable.

However Cookie Is Bi and looking for a Bi Lady to play with, so this has got me thinking does this also happen the opposite way around where the ladies say they are Bi just to get to the Man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning All,

Not often we have a whinge but we seem to keep having the same problem recently.

When meeting as a couple we make it very clear that we want fully bi guys, that means everyone getting stuck in together.

The last three meets the guy (although hot) has freaked and not done any bi play. I feel it's sometimes a lie to get at me (Mrs P).

I understand some guys don't state bi on their profile and I understand why some don't.

Has anyone else had similar problems?

Mrs P

Wife of frustrated Mr P who wants to share a good cock with me!

As a point of clarification, would you consider 'fully bi' to be contingent upon the guy being willing to engage in giving/receiving anal?

I have come across a good many people who take the view that if a bi male doesn't give and/or receive anal, then he isn't 'truly' bisexual.

Personally, it pisses me off when people say that they're 'orally bi' or somesuch twaddle, as if it makes them 'less' bisexual.

Why is it that a woman who refuses to engage in anal sex is 'exercising her preferences,' but a bi or gay man who refuses to engage in anal sex is somehow 'not really bi/gay'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi here. Says on profile with Veri and I love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You would be amazed at the number of straight guys claiming to be bi who contact me begging to be 'given a chance'. They disappear when challenged."

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

"You would be amazed at the number of straight guys claiming to be bi who contact me begging to be 'given a chance'. They disappear when challenged.

First rule of seducing "straight" men - never question their sexuality

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By *andy57TV/TS
over a year ago

york

"You would be amazed at the number of straight guys claiming to be bi who contact me begging to be 'given a chance'. They disappear when challenged."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never happened to us but yes heard it does happen.

When we first got into swinging we chatted alot with a bi couple who gave us alot of advice, and it was one of the first things they warned us about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the gay guys who pretend to be bi that confuse me..."

Yes this!! It's quite funny seeing them try to have sex with a woman with a floppy! It's quite obvious when this is the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I meet a bicple I normally suck and fuck the man first to prove I am genuinely bi, but you can tell straight away in my opinion. Once you have sucked the man hard and keen to fuck him they normally guess your bi and the lady then joins in. Just my experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a few straight guys asking to suck my cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the guy just doesn't fancy Mr P. Have you asked him, would you expect him to engage in sexual acts with Mr P if he doesn't?

And out if curiosity why keep meeting the couple if your not happy with the sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I meet a bicple I normally suck and fuck the man first to prove I am genuinely bi, but you can tell straight away in my opinion. Once you have sucked the man hard and keen to fuck him they normally guess your bi and the lady then joins in. Just my experience"

See, this is what pisses me off...

You shouldn't have to 'fuck the man first to prove that you are genuinely bi.'

Not all bisexual men enjoy giving/receiving anal, just like not all bisexual women enjoy eating pussy...

Deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet with a bi couple but i havent even had a look from anyone. My top says he cant understand it cause he says he expected me to have lots of offers. Maybe time for a refresh of my profile

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Hehe - Funnily enough - Just had a full sized thread around Bi or not-so-bi guys.

Kicked off by a "straight" man messaging us saying he wanted Bi fun, then getting pissy that we queried him.

He's got no right to be pissy, IMHO, cos we get the same propositions, and suspicions.

And, fwiw, we don't mind the orally Bi qualification of some bi guys... Some times that's all you want.

But yeah, it's a problem

Regards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, this is what pisses me off...

You shouldn't have to 'fuck the man first to prove that you are genuinely bi.'

Not all bisexual men enjoy giving/receiving anal, just like not all bisexual women enjoy eating pussy...

Deal with it."

But that is mainly what we seek from a meet so we only meet bi men who are interested in it...they can be as bi as they wish to describe themselves but if they only want to suck cock it would ultimately be an unsatisfactory meet for us so we don't meet them...nobody has to prove anything but we do reserve the right to seek out what we want...

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Yeah, we do ask, up front "Are you a top?".

It asks / states it's what we are looking for on the profile, but, lol for profile readers being thin on the ground.

(And it might not always happen... but at least we know it can...)

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'm fully bi and will give and take, just a shame that not many want to meet a 54 yr old smoker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, this is what pisses me off...

You shouldn't have to 'fuck the man first to prove that you are genuinely bi.'

Not all bisexual men enjoy giving/receiving anal, just like not all bisexual women enjoy eating pussy...

Deal with it.

"Deal with it" ! Do you have any idea how arrogant and self centred that sounds ? If you want to meet people who are only orally bisexual , fair enough , but that comes across as expecting people who want full bisexuality to accept you in their bedroom even though YOU are not what they seek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, this is what pisses me off...

You shouldn't have to 'fuck the man first to prove that you are genuinely bi.'

Not all bisexual men enjoy giving/receiving anal, just like not all bisexual women enjoy eating pussy...

Deal with it."

Deal with it ? Never going to deal with you with that attitude !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning All,

Not often we have a whinge but we seem to keep having the same problem recently.

When meeting as a couple we make it very clear that we want fully bi guys, that means everyone getting stuck in together.

The last three meets the guy (although hot) has freaked and not done any bi play. I feel it's sometimes a lie to get at me (Mrs P).

I understand some guys don't state bi on their profile and I understand why some don't.

Has anyone else had similar problems?

Mrs P

Wife of frustrated Mr P who wants to share a good cock with me!

As a point of clarification, would you consider 'fully bi' to be contingent upon the guy being willing to engage in giving/receiving anal?

I have come across a good many people who take the view that if a bi male doesn't give and/or receive anal, then he isn't 'truly' bisexual.

Personally, it pisses me off when people say that they're 'orally bi' or somesuch twaddle, as if it makes them 'less' bisexual.

Why is it that a woman who refuses to engage in anal sex is 'exercising her preferences,' but a bi or gay man who refuses to engage in anal sex is somehow 'not really bi/gay'?"

You have a point . However it's our experience that almost every "bi" man who bisexuality extends to letting our chap suck his cock , hopes to bonk both us girls in our bottoms . Funny that eh ?

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By *hloe sussexTV/TS
over a year ago

Larne

"You would be amazed at the number of straight guys claiming to be bi who contact me begging to be 'given a chance'. They disappear when challenged."

I get so many so called straight guys msg and I play devils advocate with them and say but the profile says your straight ,most common answer I get is that they are bi but dont put it as it puts woman of ,so they dont want to.upset woman ,but hey t girls Dont matter to which I say you just showered me with complements (the nice ones,the others tell me in the most graphic terms of what they would like to do to me ) and I say you think I'm so special be proud enough to say so ie put bi on your profile ,otherwise your alienating half your target audience right ,?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you chat to them first? About what you all want from the meet, if they are 'just' orally bi etc?

Never had a problem with meeting bi guys as a couple. We would both chat to them and suss out if it would work for us all. We even met 'straight' men in couples and singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive witnessed this happen both ways during meets. Once i met a couple and another guy came who was only interested in the guys then another time i met a guy who was clearly there just for the girl.

Its a shame that people are not honest about their intentions it just makes for awkward situations and nobody really gets what they want.

For the record i appreciate both men and women equally so bi couples give me a shout xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Deal with it" ! Do you have any idea how arrogant and self centred that sounds ? If you want to meet people who are only orally bisexual , fair enough , but that comes across as expecting people who want full bisexuality to accept you in their bedroom even though YOU are not what they seek "

Sorry, but the whole notion of 'full' bisexuality is utter garbage.

Bisexuality/hete

exibility/homoflexibility has nothing whatsoever to do with what sexual activities you enjoy.

The fact that I love oral sex and receiving anal, but am somewhat 'meh' when it comes to giving anal sex to people of any gender, does not make me 'less' bisexual than you.

I'm not your performing monkey, and I will not engage in any form of sexual activity just to 'prove' my credentials as a bisexual male.

If you feel that I am 'arrogant and self-centred' for expressing my sexual preferences and limits, then don't worry yourself, because I won't be asking to meet you.

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By *iamondjoeMan
over a year ago

Glastonbury

Sorry, but the whole notion of 'full' bisexuality is utter garbage.

Bisexuality/hete

exibility/homoflexibility has nothing whatsoever to do with what sexual activities you enjoy.

The fact that I love oral sex and receiving anal, but am somewhat 'meh' when it comes to giving anal sex to people of any gender, does not make me 'less' bisexual than you.

I'm not your performing monkey, and I will not engage in any form of sexual activity just to 'prove' my credentials as a bisexual male.

If you feel that I am 'arrogant and self-centred' for expressing my sexual preferences and limits, then don't worry yourself, because I won't be asking to meet you."

Hurrah!

Whoever you are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have a point . However it's our experience that almost every "bi" man who bisexuality extends to letting our chap suck his cock, hopes to bonk both us girls in our bottoms . Funny that eh? "

You've got nothing to worry about from me then...personally, I can take or leave giving anal sex to people of any gender.

My point is simple. I object to being told that I have to 'prove' my sexuality to anyone, or being told that only someone willing to take/give anal sex qualifies as 'fully' bixsexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, no idea why I had a smiley in the middle of one of my comments...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You would be amazed at the number of straight guys claiming to be bi who contact me begging to be 'given a chance'. They disappear when challenged.

Alienating half your target audience is an excellent way of putting it it's one of the most common threads on Fab forums so it clearly an issue for many

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By *SandJ both BiCouple
over a year ago

Brandon

"Morning All,

Not often we have a whinge but we seem to keep having the same problem recently.

When meeting as a couple we make it very clear that we want fully bi guys, that means everyone getting stuck in together.

The last three meets the guy (although hot) has freaked and not done any bi play. I feel it's sometimes a lie to get at me (Mrs P).

I understand some guys don't state bi on their profile and I understand why some don't.

Has anyone else had similar problems?

Mrs P

Wife of frustrated Mr P who wants to share a good cock with me!

We had a meet a year ago with a "Bi" couple at the hotel we was staying at.

Sat having a drink together and seemed to it off, so back to our room and let the fun begin!

All seemed well when the lady had the 2 of us naked inside a few minutes and CS and myself plus this very sexy lady was soon in tangle on the bed but the guy sat on a chair at the other end of the room.

After about 15 minutes CS tried to get him to join us but just said "no I'm quite happy sitting here"

This was one of our first full swap meets and we had informed them of this when they first messaged us, CS took it to mean he didn't fancy her and was quite upset, so we just ended things there and then.

Checked their profile a few days later and he's no longer Bi but straight.

We decided that the profile was changed to fit in with what we was looking for.

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

Some times you just want to shag a bloke in front of his misses

women get so jealous afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the guys who are bi and pretend to be straight are worse.

As a result of it people often think its okay to message straight guys for bi play because you never know...

Then again you can argue they do it because of the stigma behind being a bisexual male. Confusing world we live in.

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

"I think the guys who are bi and pretend to be straight are worse.

As a result of it people often think its okay to message straight guys for bi play because you never know...

Then again you can argue they do it because of the stigma behind being a bisexual male. Confusing world we live in."

Any meets i have have ever had ( not from fab ) you know who is bi & who is pretending .

my problem is finding a couple kinky enough .

still when it hits , then damn its good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning All,

Not often we have a whinge but we seem to keep having the same problem recently.

When meeting as a couple we make it very clear that we want fully bi guys, that means everyone getting stuck in

together.

The last three meets the guy (although hot) has freaked and not done any bi play. I feel it's sometimes a lie to get at me (Mrs P).

I understand some guys don't state bi on their profile and I understand why some don't.

Has anyone else had similar problems?

Mrs P

Wife of frustrated Mr P who wants to share a good cock with me!

I had the exact problem when I was with my partner, its really frustrating.

Hope you find your bi guy x

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