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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. " Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). | |||
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"Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). " As many fake verifications on here as there are fake profiles | |||
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"Congratulations . You were exactly the same as anyone else who has joined the site with zero verifications "   | |||
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"Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). As many fake verifications on here as there are fake profiles" Yep ... We have 435 of them .... All fake  | |||
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"Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). As many fake verifications on here as there are fake profiles Yep ... We have 435 of them .... All fake "Lol, didn't say they were ALL fake  | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification?" Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are "Nothing like making life harder for yourself!
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are "Haha that old chestnut. I like your angle  | |||
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 the verification system is a tool some choose to use it and some dont | |||
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"fact of the matter is, some people will seek verifications..not even just one veri..they might even like to see verifications that arent sexual(like how you were socially etc) I myself prefer those with a few, and of course no jealousy once they start getting more(if I have or havent met them)" You're back
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. " Believe it or not some of us actually don't care what total strangers think in deciding who to meet. Most of the men I've met have been unverified and the last one moved in after eight months. | |||
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). " Exactly! | |||
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"fact of the matter is, some people will seek verifications..not even just one veri..they might even like to see verifications that arent sexual(like how you were socially etc) I myself prefer those with a few, and of course no jealousy once they start getting more(if I have or havent met them) You're back
I've met a few men who weren't verified. "yup I'm back lol x I'm not saying unverified men dont get meets...but the fact of the matter is, if they want more volume in meets, having a few veris at least helps. and as everyone knows thats been on the site a while is that its pretty easy to get a veri , even in a non-sexual manner. so coming back to the OP, he gotta meet(he claims),so those that have turned him down before should now look back at how unfair theyve been, and meet him.. so many have heard things like "I havent met anyone from this site, but I have on facebook/tinder/snapchat etc",which is all great..but its not really gonna swing many peoples view, mainly on the aspect that the single male unverified ratio is very high,and in a lot of cases it is guys looking for cyber. even a summary is better than nothing..if afraid to have your filthy sundries exposed...I'll stick to the veris as well though,as the summary can be too easily misrepresented.. | |||
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"fact of the matter is, some people will seek verifications..not even just one veri..they might even like to see verifications that arent sexual(like how you were socially etc) I myself prefer those with a few, and of course no jealousy once they start getting more(if I have or havent met them) You're back
I've met a few men who weren't verified.
yup I'm back lol x
I'm not saying unverified men dont get meets...but the fact of the matter is, if they want more volume in meets, having a few veris at least helps.
and as everyone knows thats been on the site a while is that its pretty easy to get a veri , even in a non-sexual manner.
so coming back to the OP,
he gotta meet(he claims),so those that have turned him down before should now look back at how unfair theyve been, and meet him..
so many have heard things like "I havent met anyone from this site, but I have on facebook/tinder/snapchat etc",which is all great..but its not really gonna swing many peoples view, mainly on the aspect that the single male unverified ratio is very high,and in a lot of cases it is guys looking for cyber.
even a summary is better than nothing..if afraid to have your filthy sundries exposed...I'll stick to the veris as well though,as the summary can be too easily misrepresented.."You're quotes and replies are always a joy to read. You Word things very well indeed | |||
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"The tick arrives automatically when a veri has been left, as there is no tick, then I assume maybe wrongly that a veri has not been left, so in the same position as before the meet, that's if there was one "The tick does arrive automatically so it's not a case of not displaying a veri. There wasn't one to begin with. Be interesting to see if the OP gets any veris off his impending club visit to not display. | |||
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"The tick arrives automatically when a veri has been left, as there is no tick, then I assume maybe wrongly that a veri has not been left, so in the same position as before the meet, that's if there was one "Oh  | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are "Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it? Calls into question if you did actually meet? Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!  | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are "You cant hide the veri by meet tick m8 | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it! "She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are  . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile | |||
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"I don't think he ever claimed she did veri homo fairness to the OP, he simply stated he wouldn't display it if she did" lol@ homo fairness | |||
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"I don't think he ever claimed she did veri homo fairness to the OP, he simply stated he wouldn't display it if she did lol@ homo fairness "Haha Freudian slip?
OP has confirmed what I said tho...seems to be getting a hard time | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile "thanks for the earlier comment....but maybe YOU didnt have to tell us about you getting a meet lol..if it doesnt really bother you that much..... | |||
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"I don't think he ever claimed she did veri homo fairness to the OP, he simply stated he wouldn't display it if she did" Thank you very much for understanding what I wrote . | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile "Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference. In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy. | |||
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"I don't think he ever claimed she did veri homo fairness to the OP, he simply stated he wouldn't display it if she did Thank you very much for understanding what I wrote . "I had a mfffffffff some lastweek. Fucked everyone of them. I told them i didnt want a veri left thou  | |||
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"I don't think he ever claimed she did veri homo fairness to the OP, he simply stated he wouldn't display it if she did lol@ homo fairness
Haha Freudian slip?
OP has confirmed what I said tho...seems to be getting a hard time "yup...but I've confirmed the reasoning behind the post(I have worded it how others would commonly view it), you have to see the rational of others ways of thinking at the end of the day. | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile "Well if that's what you believe , stick to it . That's all that matters . You may be missing out though , as outside of the forum , there are a huge % of people who would rather see a meet verified on a profile before arranging a meet . | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy."I think it's along the same lines as most things here, one size doesn't fit all. Some demand them, some don't, some are put off by too few, some by too many Nothing really worth a thread over | |||
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"I don't think he ever claimed she did veri homo fairness to the OP, he simply stated he wouldn't display it if she did Thank you very much for understanding what I wrote .
I had a mfffffffff some lastweek. Fucked everyone of them. I told them i didnt want a veri left thou "Don't blame you , jealousy is a terrible thing | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy."I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they? And that is my point.... I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not! | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!"Some people view the veri as "not a time waster/unlikely to cancel last minute"...doesn't mean that's necessary the case as verified people can be a let down too, but when exercising caution with new meets it becomes important to them | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!"That's very true, except you might not be that person.... confused? Ok, basically what I'm saying is, you could have great pics, a big cock, and a great write-up.... but it could all be bollocks, you might actually be 20 years older and 10 stone heavier than the model in the pics you nicked, with a face not even your mother could love, and you might enjoy arranging meets but not turning up. Sounds stupid right? Well, there are people who do that.... but one or more veries can prove that you are who you say you are, the pics are you, and you turn up, you were witty, charming, a real gent, and to top it all off, a great shag... see what I'm getting at? Now, who do you think people would meet, the "maybe" guy, or the "for real" guy? | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!
That's very true, except you might not be that person.... confused?
Ok, basically what I'm saying is, you could have great pics, a big cock, and a great write-up.... but it could all be bollocks, you might actually be 20 years older and 10 stone heavier than the model in the pics you nicked, with a face not even your mother could love, and you might enjoy arranging meets but not turning up.
Sounds stupid right?
Well, there are people who do that.... but one or more veries can prove that you are who you say you are, the pics are you, and you turn up, you were witty, charming, a real gent, and to top it all off, a great shag... see what I'm getting at?
Now, who do you think people would meet, the "maybe" guy, or the "for real" guy?"You know what? I've never looked at it that way before. Makes perfect sense now | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!
That's very true, except you might not be that person.... confused?
Ok, basically what I'm saying is, you could have great pics, a big cock, and a great write-up.... but it could all be bollocks, you might actually be 20 years older and 10 stone heavier than the model in the pics you nicked, with a face not even your mother could love, and you might enjoy arranging meets but not turning up.
Sounds stupid right?
Well, there are people who do that.... but one or more veries can prove that you are who you say you are, the pics are you, and you turn up, you were witty, charming, a real gent, and to top it all off, a great shag... see what I'm getting at?
Now, who do you think people would meet, the "maybe" guy, or the "for real" guy?
You know what? I've never looked at it that way before. Makes perfect sense now "I think I explained it quite well beforehand lol | |||
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"fact of the matter is, some people will seek verifications..not even just one veri..they might even like to see verifications that arent sexual(like how you were socially etc) I myself prefer those with a few, and of course no jealousy once they start getting more(if I have or havent met them) You're back
I've met a few men who weren't verified.
yup I'm back lol x
I'm not saying unverified men dont get meets...but the fact of the matter is, if they want more volume in meets, having a few veris at least helps.
and as everyone knows thats been on the site a while is that its pretty easy to get a veri , even in a non-sexual manner.
so coming back to the OP,
he gotta meet(he claims),so those that have turned him down before should now look back at how unfair theyve been, and meet him..
so many have heard things like "I havent met anyone from this site, but I have on facebook/tinder/snapchat etc",which is all great..but its not really gonna swing many peoples view, mainly on the aspect that the single male unverified ratio is very high,and in a lot of cases it is guys looking for cyber.
even a summary is better than nothing..if afraid to have your filthy sundries exposed...I'll stick to the veris as well though,as the summary can be too easily misrepresented.."The summary certainly can be misrepresented. Most of the meet so have from men have been from socials not sex. People won't think that, of course. Tough cheese, I say. | |||
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). " Not really, a verification by meeting shows that at least you a) turn up and b) are what/who you say you are (ish). We don't really bother with the content of them though. | |||
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"Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). As many fake verifications on here as there are fake profiles" agreed. | |||
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"Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). As many fake verifications on here as there are fake profiles agreed." It's odd that people say this , we have never had or given a fake veri | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!
That's very true, except you might not be that person.... confused?
Ok, basically what I'm saying is, you could have great pics, a big cock, and a great write-up.... but it could all be bollocks, you might actually be 20 years older and 10 stone heavier than the model in the pics you nicked, with a face not even your mother could love, and you might enjoy arranging meets but not turning up.
Sounds stupid right?
Well, there are people who do that.... but one or more veries can prove that you are who you say you are, the pics are you, and you turn up, you were witty, charming, a real gent, and to top it all off, a great shag... see what I'm getting at?
Now, who do you think people would meet, the "maybe" guy, or the "for real" guy?
You know what? I've never looked at it that way before. Makes perfect sense now "Ah, grasshopper, you have much to learn, but for now, you have learnt much.... now go out and kung fu some bad guys or summat lol! (for those under 40, ask your parents!) | |||
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"In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy." Not me! Verifications are a tool that I choose not to use. I don't read them, I don't want them, and I don't give them. The day I let some random stranger(s) influence who I have sex with is the day I hang up my FMBoots for good. I am perfectly able to choose the right guy FOR ME, all on my own. | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!
That's very true, except you might not be that person.... confused?
Ok, basically what I'm saying is, you could have great pics, a big cock, and a great write-up.... but it could all be bollocks, you might actually be 20 years older and 10 stone heavier than the model in the pics you nicked, with a face not even your mother could love, and you might enjoy arranging meets but not turning up.
Sounds stupid right?
Well, there are people who do that.... but one or more veries can prove that you are who you say you are, the pics are you, and you turn up, you were witty, charming, a real gent, and to top it all off, a great shag... see what I'm getting at?
Now, who do you think people would meet, the "maybe" guy, or the "for real" guy?
You know what? I've never looked at it that way before. Makes perfect sense now
Ah, grasshopper, you have much to learn, but for now, you have learnt much.... now go out and kung fu some bad guys or summat lol!
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). " . I always thought that verifications are totally meaningless ..A good profile and basic common sense should help you avoid the so called fakes . In any event who needs to know whom you have meet .. | |||
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"Good for you op, youve just done what everyone else on here has done when they first joined met without being verified "I was unverified for 10 minutes after joining this site. Meeting off other sites prevented me from having to meet without a verification. The horror!
I would have met the OP without a verification. I've seen his face pic. Phwooarrr! | |||
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"Good for you op, youve just done what everyone else on here has done when they first joined met without being verified
I was unverified for 10 minutes after joining this site. Meeting off other sites prevented me from having to meet without a verification. The horror!
I would have met the OP without a verification. I've seen his face pic. Phwooarrr! "Yeah I don't know why it has taken him so long | |||
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"Whilst I've never really bothered about verifications let alone read them after this wk it's now something I will be giving more thought too... social 1- with a guy who's been on here 8mths ... no verifications. I can fully understand why now as within 20 mins I had got up and walked out . social 2 - with a guy who's been on here 5 mths again no verifcations. Exceptionally good looking and nice to talk too. Last minute cancellation with a rubbish excuse and tbh he wouldn't of even of let me know had I not been the one to contact him. Has made me think twice now and question why they haven't got any verifications "while some people appear to have the meeting non verifieds as ok..on the whole...to thousands of members the above is the most likely of scenarios. | |||
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"Whilst I've never really bothered about verifications let alone read them after this wk it's now something I will be giving more thought too... social 1- with a guy who's been on here 8mths ... no verifications. I can fully understand why now as within 20 mins I had got up and walked out . social 2 - with a guy who's been on here 5 mths again no verifcations. Exceptionally good looking and nice to talk too. Last minute cancellation with a rubbish excuse and tbh he wouldn't of even of let me know had I not been the one to contact him. Has made me think twice now and question why they haven't got any verifications
while some people appear to have the meeting non verifieds as ok..on the whole...to thousands of members the above is the most likely of scenarios."Oh I know but I was trying to keep an open mind and not judge them. | |||
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"I have met people in the past who weren't verified, and I didn't verify them after I met them either... too much importance is placed on a device which is at best subjective and at worst a very biased and singular opinion whereas I would rather make my own mind up about a person "I think most people fail to grasp the single male viewpoint on getting meets/more meets:- with thousands more of us-many with no intent to actually meet, it can be difficult for a single guy to get a foothold on the scene.Even once verified, its essentially something that needs kept up to date somewhat..so a veri from 2013 might not be an accurate reflection on the persons physical look now. I know how difficult it is(thankfully I've known lots of people almost a decade),to restart as a fresh member, when there are many more well verified guys. those that dont care about verifications , just so happen to be the smaller groups most of the time..who could essentially get 2,3,4,5 meets a day/week if they wanted to...most guys are lucky to get a meet every couple of months. so in the OP's case...he might make a second post about his second meet in a few months.....I'd still be flummoxed trying to sell myself to people who mostly require something thats going to put them at ease and not have their time wasted(sometimes money wasted), I could easily just show that tick/summary/veri. I know there are other sites that dont have any feedback system...thats where I get 95.6% of my meets...just believe me n shag me. 
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"I have met people in the past who weren't verified, and I didn't verify them after I met them either... too much importance is placed on a device which is at best subjective and at worst a very biased and singular opinion whereas I would rather make my own mind up about a person
I think most people fail to grasp the single male viewpoint on getting meets/more meets:-
with thousands more of us-many with no intent to actually meet, it can be difficult for a single guy to get a foothold on the scene.Even once verified, its essentially something that needs kept up to date somewhat..so a veri from 2013 might not be an accurate reflection on the persons physical look now.
I know how difficult it is(thankfully I've known lots of people almost a decade),to restart as a fresh member, when there are many more well verified guys.
those that dont care about verifications , just so happen to be the smaller groups most of the time..who could essentially get 2,3,4,5 meets a day/week if they wanted to...most guys are lucky to get a meet every couple of months.
so in the OP's case...he might make a second post about his second meet in a few months.....I'd still be flummoxed trying to sell myself to people who mostly require something thats going to put them at ease and not have their time wasted(sometimes money wasted), I could easily just show that tick/summary/veri.
I know there are other sites that dont have any feedback system...thats where I get 95.6% of my meets...just believe me n shag me.
"I think what a lot of people don't realise is not everyone has 3+ nights a week they can meet so when getting stood up it can potentially be another month before meeting again. Verifications are a pretty decent tool to give indication of wether they will actually meet or just wanna text sex and trade pictures
We treat verifications like EBay feedback, I'm rather more inclined to buy that £800 LCD TV from someone with positive feedback than I am from someone with none. | |||
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). " Everyone does things differently, that doesn't make them idiots!! | |||
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"I have met people in the past who weren't verified, and I didn't verify them after I met them either... too much importance is placed on a device which is at best subjective and at worst a very biased and singular opinion whereas I would rather make my own mind up about a person
I think most people fail to grasp the single male viewpoint on getting meets/more meets:-
with thousands more of us-many with no intent to actually meet, it can be difficult for a single guy to get a foothold on the scene.Even once verified, its essentially something that needs kept up to date somewhat..so a veri from 2013 might not be an accurate reflection on the persons physical look now.
I know how difficult it is(thankfully I've known lots of people almost a decade),to restart as a fresh member, when there are many more well verified guys.
those that dont care about verifications , just so happen to be the smaller groups most of the time..who could essentially get 2,3,4,5 meets a day/week if they wanted to...most guys are lucky to get a meet every couple of months.
so in the OP's case...he might make a second post about his second meet in a few months.....I'd still be flummoxed trying to sell myself to people who mostly require something thats going to put them at ease and not have their time wasted(sometimes money wasted), I could easily just show that tick/summary/veri.
I know there are other sites that dont have any feedback system...thats where I get 95.6% of my meets...just believe me n shag me.
I think what a lot of people don't realise is not everyone has 3+ nights a week they can meet so when getting stood up it can potentially be another month before meeting again.
Verifications are a pretty decent tool to give indication of wether they will actually meet or just wanna text sex and trade pictures
We treat verifications like EBay feedback, I'm rather more inclined to buy that £800 LCD TV from someone with positive feedback than I am from someone with none."yep this makes sense | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification? Nope. Going to leave things exactly how they are
Well, paint me cynical and all that jazz, but I don't see a green tick, so is there a very slight possibility that she didn't veri you, even tho you say she has but you are not going to show it?
Calls into question if you did actually meet?
Oh my, someone on the interwebby told a fib, who'd a thunk it!
She hasn't verified me! We spoke about it and agreed to leave things as they are . It doesn't bother me if I have a veri or not as I personally believe that it make little or no difference what so ever with those who view my profile
Well, as a couple who have been on here about 7 years, very active in the chatrooms, socials, parties and clubs etc, I think I can confidently say it does make a big difference.
In a choice between a profile of two guys, all things being equal except one has a veri and one doesn't, I would say the majority would pick the veried guy.
I know where you are coming from but I am firm believer that if someone likes ones profile, Irespective of if they have a veri or not, the interested individual or couple will still make contact with the OP. Why wouldn't they?
And that is my point....
I'm still that same person in the profile whether I have been verified or not!"This is how I view it ^^ If I like the person / profile I don't immediately search to see if they've been verified. I make my own mind up by chatting with them. | |||
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. " That's sounds great enjoy Saw a guy's veri the other day which read chatting to this guy on fab seems very nice | |||
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"Only idiots rely purely on the word of a stranger (verifications). As many fake verifications on here as there are fake profiles" your right there mate | |||
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"Verifications are like condoms I think. It is better to have them and not need them, than to need them and not have them. For those who don't care about verifications, they won't decide not to meet you because you've got verifications. For those who use verifications as part of their decision making, they may decide not to meet you because you've got none." I think that's a very neat summary of the purpose of verifications and the two opposing views of their value | |||
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"Veris are wholly subjective, often fake, and, when negative, hidden away. But can there be a better system, on a site and a scene that requires a great deal of discretion?" Yup, there is a better way. Go to organised socials, some in South Wales are attended by well over 100 people. Socialise, chat and network, make friends, and pick up on the scuttle-butt about who is, or isn't, genuine. Arrange meets with the friends you have made. Simples. | |||
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. " I speak to people at work ...they dont have a green tick either,or women in bars...etc etc,will take yer word for it op but whats your point,no one knows if your bullshitting or not in reality | |||
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"Veris are wholly subjective, often fake, and, when negative, hidden away. But can there be a better system, on a site and a scene that requires a great deal of discretion?" Mine are all hidden away....most are from repeat meets....I must be a truly shit shag | |||
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"Veris are wholly subjective, often fake, and, when negative, hidden away. But can there be a better system, on a site and a scene that requires a great deal of discretion?" Nobody ever leaves negative verifications though, they may hide them because they don't really want everyone to know who they have met. | |||
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"Veris are wholly subjective, often fake, and, when negative, hidden away. But can there be a better system, on a site and a scene that requires a great deal of discretion? Nobody ever leaves negative verifications though, they may hide them because they don't really want everyone to know who they have met." We have not only had a negative veri, but we actually show it to.... but don't all rush to look, you'd have to have been there to figure out which one it was lol! | |||
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"Had the pleasure of finally meeting a girl this week and all without the need of a verification. We got on like a house of fire and looks like we will be seeing more of each other in the future. I'm not an axe murderer, a fake or a time waster. If people are open minded enough they can no doubt see through the bullshit without the need of having Green tick boxes next to your profile to say otherwise. " verifications are subjective.... but they are to help people... some use them, some dont but if you decided not to use one of the tools that are there to help you.... i just hope you aren't waiting as long for the next meet.... and you have no one else to blame...  | |||
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"Will you be displaying her verification?" He might be displaying her head somewhere tho | |||
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