FabSwingers.com forum: Bareback questions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would like to hear from people who only do bareback.

Do you not worry about catching an STD? Do you vet the people beforehand in any way to check they are disease free?

Have you ever caught anything?

Just had my timewasted by a couple who mentioned safe sex in their profile interests, arranging a GB and then I notice they like being filled with cum, so I double check and its "oh sorry, bareback only". Thanks, see ya!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

wolud never ever do bareback sex n i think the ppl who do have very little brains in their heads to take such risks

luv jacs

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres no such thing as safe sex when swinging.

Best to read profiles fully before contacting anyone though, would hardly call them time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to know a girl who frequently did bareback. Until she caught something.

She never swung bareback again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no no and NO again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually i feel quite sorry for the op who was asking to hear from people who do bareback.

All us non barebackers saying how we don't is pretty much the same as the single males who message couples who say 'no single males' on their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have regular checks and do realise the risks.

However even we were suprised when the doctor in the clinic actually said that wearing condoms was not always nessasary and our own judgement is probably the better thing.

Yes he does know we swing and he has been in his job a long time and sees many different things.

We personally dont insist on people wearing condoms

As we belive it is down to choice.

(Bit like i would not skydive or do other extreme sports but this is my choice)

However if we do meet couples who insist on condoms then thats not a problem either.

And this is clearly stated on the profile.

I personally do not see what this subject has to do with anyone other than the people concerned.

And i doubt that anyone would start a thread saying "why dont all people do bareback"

Why people loose sleep over things that they themselves dont do really does puzzle me.

Craig

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we only do bareback and enjoy it very much.

and yes i think we even have a BRAIN somewhere !!!

we have never had any STD's either.

i just dont know why because people use a condom,they think they cant get a std when you are swapping partners for sex and giving oral !!(unless worn all the time even for oral)

unless there is a constant change of the rubber sacks oh and what about girl / girl what do they use for each other ? as we all know it can be passed that way also. if we used them there would be 100s with all the swapping and changeing.(NAUGHTY);)

someone is making a profit somewhere selling them to all the (safe!!!) swingers.but each to there own if you dont like bareback you just dont do it.we are all old enough to make our own minds up.and no one can make you do something you dont want to do.

we do state on our profile we only do bareback so aslong as you dont hide it then everyone is happy

please go easy on us,you all bite very hard on here !!!!lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes totally agree (see my previous post)

What i forgot to mention is that in all the years i have been on the scene and also les since she has been with me (8 years now we have never had anything and like i said we have regular checks

Do the people who wear condoms have regular checks or do they mistakenly belive that condoms are the be all and end all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi swingmates,

sorry missed your post as writing ours.

we also have checks every month.

and enjoy lots of fun!!

each to there own

have fun,the more the better YUMmmmmm

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im pretty new to swinger been on here 3 months but not had many couples meets yet,with single guys I have always used condoms and yes I also have regular health checks as well but when with a couple it seems awkward to use condoms so havent its so hard to know whats the right thing to do. I feel comfy both ways and my last health check two weeks ago was clear so is it just a matter of judgement or have I just met a sexually healthy load of people and should just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

SDC all sorts you can get from oral sex ,,,, even kissing i know everyone should have condoms but thay can come off so easy. I find for peace of mind health checks 4 times a year.... very fast and really nice and frendly people made me feel very welcome.. told them i was a swinger she said loads of them was too ,,and was given loads of free gifts when i go ,, from lubs to condoms all sorts lol jo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" SDC all sorts you can get from oral sex ,,,, even kissing i know everyone should have condoms but thay can come off so easy. I find for peace of mind health checks 4 times a year.... very fast and really nice and frendly people made me feel very welcome.. told them i was a swinger she said loads of them was too ,,and was given loads of free gifts when i go ,, from lubs to condoms all sorts lol jo xx"

yep same at our clinic where unlike the real world we are treated like people not lepers lol

Because at a clinic the people you are talking too know the whole facts

But as i have stated in my last few posts

It boils down to personal choice no one can force you to do anything you dont want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im pretty new to swinger been on here 3 months but not had many couples meets yet,with single guys I have always used condoms and yes I also have regular health checks as well but when with a couple it seems awkward to use condoms so havent its so hard to know whats the right thing to do. I feel comfy both ways and my last health check two weeks ago was clear so is it just a matter of judgement or have I just met a sexually healthy load of people and should just go with the flow"

As for it seeming awkward with couples

Please dont let that stop you using condoms if that is your choice

Yes we bareback with likeminded people but we are adult enough to realise people make their own choices,and respect that fact

If you really want to use them with a couple then say so cant see anyone minding that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooo Missed this... this is new!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ooooo Missed this... this is new!!"

Same old story though notts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats what I meant lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will some won't ... if all honest who gives a damn cause then each and every one of us all can make up our own minds eh..

No rights, no wrongs... Simples pmsl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats what I meant lol... "

Oh blonde momment pmsl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't ... if all honest who gives a damn cause then each and every one of us all can make up our own minds eh..

No rights, no wrongs... Simples pmsl xx"

Why i didnt i come up with that instead of my two essays which when boiled down is what they said oh god im turning into victor meldrew

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for the replies, has been quite an eye opener!

Cant understand the conflicting advice from the doctors though! Your doctors say its pretty much fine to not use condoms with strangers and every other doctor says take precautions!

totally agree that people ignore oral, kissing etc as ways to catch things.

I know this is an old topic, but as someone said you usually only hear from non-barebackers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks for the replies, has been quite an eye opener!

Cant understand the conflicting advice from the doctors though! Your doctors say its pretty much fine to not use condoms with strangers and every other doctor says take precautions!

totally agree that people ignore oral, kissing etc as ways to catch things.

I know this is an old topic, but as someone said you usually only hear from non-barebackers"

yes that is quite stange the local gp is condoms this condoms that (yes even he know we swing lol)

However the doctor at the clinic that deals with it all the time gives the advise in my previous post

But having said that they know a lot more about things maybe this is the answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so can someone tell my why people that do safe sex dont think about oral and kissing ?

or do people just think that they are 100% safe if using condoms ? not thinking about anything else.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only sex thats even close to 100% safe is a wank surely..

Personal injury aside that is lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant put it better myself !!

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very good point according to our clinic most infections they treat are oral

Even in people that do not use condoms often

Checks ups are more important in my opinion than anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only sex thats even close to 100% safe is a wank surely..

Personal injury aside that is lol.."

Cant that make you go blind Lmao xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only sex thats even close to 100% safe is a wank surely..

Personal injury aside that is lol..

Cant that make you go blind Lmao xx"

Only if your giving it a serious tug and your hand flies off the end and smacks BOTH eyes so badly it fooks em up lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only sex thats even close to 100% safe is a wank surely..

Personal injury aside that is lol..

Cant that make you go blind Lmao xx

Only if your giving it a serious tug and your hand flies off the end and smacks BOTH eyes so badly it fooks em up lol.... "

You bored as well then mate

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

We personally have met four couples that can think of (and probably a few more that we have met but can't think of right now) where one - or even both - partners are health professionals... nurses, midwifes etc - who also enjoyed bareback fun with us and they say that to them the additional risk is acceptable to them.

We ourselves spent a long time looking into the risks when we stated swinging, so why do some folks on here insist that you have to be stupid, little brain etc if you choose to bareback with couples?

Are these nurses etc we met stupid too?

xxx

j&r

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nurses you say....

Now... Withoiut taking sides can we just have the nurses numbers lol!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Checks ups are more important in my opinion than anything else

xx"

Well they are important, but they dont stop you getting anything. They tell you what do or dont have afterwards.

A condom is better than no protection, people need to be educated that oral has risk also which should be kinda obvious really.

Bareback with a trusted couple I can understand, but bareback with a bunch of guys you dont know is taking too much of a risk just for some sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would all love to have sex without condoms bliddy awful things, but such is life especially if your swinging its a bit dangerous. You can get and pass on STD's without even knowing, if your young enough for childbearing you can have chlamydia without knowing it will make you sterile. I used to adore sex without condoms with my hubby many years ago. I hate the bliddy things but wanna stay clean and safe and after working in the Gum Clinic for a few months hell it opens your eyes. still everyone's choice to wear or not to I personally only have safe sex but for ones that wanna shag without condoms their choice as long as we not shagging each other lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what other people do is of no interest to me at all, i dont care if they bareback with others so long as my wishes are respected if they want to meet me, i dont think people who do bare back are daft, its their life so its upto them, after all we all do bare back in one way or another cause i admit not to putting condoms on for a bj and ive never had a guy use dental dams to go down on me and i dount anyone else reading this thread as either, if a guys got something nasty im going to catch it if i give him a BJ so moralising about condoms on cocks seems hypercritical to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

anyone ever even seen a dental dam let alone experienced one??!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep ive seen them, you can buy them on ebay too lol i take it you havn't? so just out of interest why do you feel its ok to put your unporotected tounge where you wouldnt put your cock? lol

thats not a dig just curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If dead honest here... I'd be more worried about getting someone pregnant.. I know its all a risk, everything in life is..

I've asked the question before in another thread.. what would you do if you caught pregers?? Or.. someone you slept with caught pregers??

Ok.. most V.D's will clear up with a dose of anti biotics.. (Most) but a child???

Jeeze.... Now someone say it doesn't happen lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no chance of me getting preggers or my hubby getting anyone pregnant we have that well covered from both sides and i dont mean condoms lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Checks ups are more important in my opinion than anything else

Well they are important, but they dont stop you getting anything. They tell you what do or dont have afterwards.

A condom is better than no protection, people need to be educated that oral has risk also which should be kinda obvious really.

Bareback with a trusted couple I can understand, but bareback with a bunch of guys you dont know is taking too much of a risk just for some sex."

you only actually used part of my post for your post

Please read the other two long posts of mine that came before them

This will explain my last post a little better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no chance of me getting preggers or my hubby getting anyone pregnant we have that well covered from both sides and i dont mean condoms lol"

You might have...Not all though surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If dead honest here... I'd be more worried about getting someone pregnant.. I know its all a risk, everything in life is..

I've asked the question before in another thread.. what would you do if you caught pregers?? Or.. someone you slept with caught pregers??

Ok.. most V.D's will clear up with a dose of anti biotics.. (Most) but a child???

Jeeze.... Now someone say it doesn't happen lol!!"

Yep it happens actually know someone who it happened too

We both jaffas now So that bit is not a problem for us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything in life is dangerous trust me i know from experience.

Surely its down to each person as an individual if they do bareback or not.

GOOD LUCK EVERY ONE PLAY SAFE BE HAPPY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will some won't ... if all honest who gives a damn cause then each and every one of us all can make up our own minds eh..

No rights, no wrongs... Simples pmsl xx"

Thats what we said earlier .. spot on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is very true

each person rules their own life.

be safe have fun be happy

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"If dead honest here... I'd be more worried about getting someone pregnant.. I know its all a risk, everything in life is..

I've asked the question before in another thread.. what would you do if you caught pregers?? Or.. someone you slept with caught pregers??

Ok.. most V.D's will clear up with a dose of anti biotics.. (Most) but a child???

Jeeze.... Now someone say it doesn't happen lol!!"

Too true Notts.

And those that know me know that Jason's ex shagged, bareback, anything that moved (all in the name of swinging) just so she could get pregnant.

Such a shame that the married man who eventually got her pregnant, now has no wife, no two lovely little children, no house, and no friends........ all because he was stupid enough to believe that she was 'protected' and he was stupid enough not to wear a condom.

Regardless of what debates rage about bareback -vs- condoms...... any protection is better than nothing at all when it comes to STD's and pregnancy.

And there was also a couple on here where the bloke couldn;t have children and they wanted a child and told teh single males that he (the single male) shouldn't worry if the missus 'caught' as they would take care of the baby!!!

I mean people.........WTF!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the fence as usual maddy? lol luv ya hun ... debs xxx

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

No doubt it has happened, but then again any lady as determined as that could use your used condom and her fingers in an attempt to inseminate herself. We have noticed swingers generally don't tend to take their litter home with them lol

And don't broody lesbians rifle through swingers bins in an attempt to do the same thing in a very bizarre act of 'identity theft'... or at least so we have heard

xxxxx

Ju & Rich

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"On the fence as usual maddy? lol luv ya hun ... debs xxx"

I luvs you too debs............

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that lesbians in bins story cant be true surely?!

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

We heard about that one on another swingers website... who knows lol with all this identity theft stuff these days we'd bet there is an element of truth to it!

BTW how refreshing to have a bareback thread on here without those who prefer to use one calling those who prefer not to nasty names

Good stuff

This place is definitely getting better these days

xxxx

Ju & Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We personally have met four couples that can think of (and probably a few more that we have met but can't think of right now) where one - or even both - partners are health professionals... nurses, midwifes etc - who also enjoyed bareback fun with us and they say that to them the additional risk is acceptable to them.

We ourselves spent a long time looking into the risks when we stated swinging, so why do some folks on here insist that you have to be stupid, little brain etc if you choose to bareback with couples?

Are these nurses etc we met stupid too?

xxx

j&r"

Lot's of nurses smoke like trains and drink like fish too,plus eat all manner of junk.Just look how many overweight out of shape nurses you see,I'd say 3 or 4 in 5.

Yet you'd think someone in their profession would be the epitome of healthy living.Not so,obviously.

So I wouldn't take too much notice of nurses when it comes to setting an example.

XXXX

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Fair point ric... as ever

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Guess that end of the day most people do what THEY think is right or acceptable. Look at smokers, EVERYONE tells you its bad for you, can give you cancer, makes you smell awful, stinks your clothes, ages your skin etc etc but people still smoke or still take it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guess that end of the day most people do what THEY think is right or acceptable. Look at smokers, EVERYONE tells you its bad for you, can give you cancer, makes you smell awful, stinks your clothes, ages your skin etc etc but people still smoke or still take it up.

PMSL ok we get the message you dont like smokers either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but I think its a crazy idea.....you can catch loads of horrible stuff including HIV and why would you want a strangers fluids inside you?? Your partner yes but strangers, personally no way!!! A porn star in USA has just found out she is HIV postative and they get checked every month, isn't this the same thing, but the porn industry is safer.....once you get AIDS there is no getting rid of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

PMSL ok we get the message you dont like smokers either lol"

no no, i dont hate smokers, I just hate the smell and taste of stale smoke!!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"thanks for the replies, has been quite an eye opener!

Cant understand the conflicting advice from the doctors though! Your doctors say its pretty much fine to not use condoms with strangers and every other doctor says take precautions!

totally agree that people ignore oral, kissing etc as ways to catch things.

I know this is an old topic, but as someone said you usually only hear from non-barebackers"

no the precvious thread had posters from both sides and statistical analysis of current chances of contracting the big one ...use search to find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally agree with previous comment about pregnancy. obviously diseases can be passed on by oral, kissing etc but i know im less likely to get someone pregnant whilst wearing one, and yes i always dispose of my own condom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate bareback, it is killer on the inside of the thighs and there is nowhere for me to put my fags out if i dont have a saddle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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