FabSwingers.com forum: Your loss!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It amazes us how many guys take offence at being politely turned down and as a retort reply stating "your loss" to us its not a loss but a bonus as weve not wasted any time chatting or meeting them, anyone else had this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite often. I don't understand how its someone's loss when they didn't actually want to meet them anyway. It's actually their loss as they want to meet you and you don't want to meet them! Its just immature bitterness.

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By *roffGentlemanMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Not yet but if we ever did, we're sure we could endure that loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They think you're losing out by not meeting them, they said it.

Sometimes when people say something it's not about you, it's about themselves.

But yes it doesn't make sense really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate politeness, and would never have sour grapes. If they retort with a snide comment you have made the right choice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just for the record I've had women and couples say "your loss" or words to that affect. No matter who is saying it, it's childish and further proof that you made the right choice by saying not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It amazes us how many guys take offence at being politely turned down and as a retort reply stating "your loss" to us its not a loss but a bonus as weve not wasted any time chatting or meeting them, anyone else had this?"
All the time ...so funny when its them approaching us and often overweight smoking married idiots cheating on a partner...yes a loss to us all...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not personally but sounds like an over inflated ego and a fair bit of deflection...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It amazes us how many guys take offence at being politely turned down and as a retort reply stating "your loss" to us its not a loss but a bonus as weve not wasted any time chatting or meeting them, anyone else had this?All the time ...so funny when its them approaching us and often overweight smoking married idiots cheating on a partner...yes a loss to us all...

I don't see the relevance to weight or smoking. Arseholes are arseholes regardless of appearance and habits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had this, but far more common for us is when we nicely reject an older couple for being outside of our age range and then get told how they could teach us a thing or two about fucking. Indeed.

Then why would they want to meet us inexperienced youth in the first place?

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I appreciate politeness, and would never have sour grapes. If they retort with a snide comment you have made the right choice!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't ever got this. Politeness alright......then again we do block hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess their ego has been bruised and they're trying to make themselves feel better as they lack the self confidence to just take it on the chin but in fact, they make themselves look immature and bitter. Not an attractive trait.

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By *arks_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

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By *ussy.loverMan
over a year ago

heswall

Would never dream of saying such a thing you can't be everyone's cup of tea

I often don't get a reply but if I do I'm always polite even when it's a no as I'm sure s few will back up

I hate all the childishness there's no need for it And its been said earlier in the thread its not your loss but theirs !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had this, but far more common for us is when we nicely reject an older couple for being outside of our age range and then get told how they could teach us a thing or two about fucking. Indeed.

Then why would they want to meet us inexperienced youth in the first place?

-Courtney"

Having met you I very much doubt there's much you can be taught!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message yesterday(no prior contact)..just stating

"ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww"-with an added block..

I guess I've lost out on a fantastic potential meet

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I had a message yesterday(no prior contact)..just stating

"ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww"-with an added block..

I guess I've lost out on a fantastic potential meet

Yeah well, you're not bi so why would I bother?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

You have turned down what would have been the greatest sexual experience of your life, ergo your loss.

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By *ofUs4UCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

We find it amusing when they have contacted us, tell N she is sexy and what they want to do with her. Then on a polite no thanks come out with "you're not that special / sexy / etc / etc. One moron we had a social with, then got too pushy for a meet on his terms, describe us as "porcine" after N said no thank you. We laughed our socks off at the stupidity. Some people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a message yesterday(no prior contact)..just stating

"ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww"-with an added block..

I guess I've lost out on a fantastic potential meet

Yeah well, you're not bi so why would I bother?

lol-I think there was more chance in me meeting you than this unverified twatty couple..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had single men contact us even tho we have In our profile we will find you if we want a single man then when we say no thanks get all nasty

If they would read our profile before sending a message then they would no what we are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets reverse it, don't think you will never get that msg from a couple or woman if you turn them down lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have had single men contact us even tho we have In our profile we will find you if we want a single man then when we say no thanks get all nasty

If they would read our profile before sending a message then they would no what we are looking for "

Read profiles, what? You know you're asking way too much there??! I have it clear in the first few lines of my profile what I don't want but still I get people I won't be interested in messaging me and yes, some get stroppy when I say not for me for reasons already in my profile. Well it was clear, you just chose to ignore it or didn't read it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had this, but far more common for us is when we nicely reject an older couple for being outside of our age range and then get told how they could teach us a thing or two about fucking. Indeed.

Then why would they want to meet us inexperienced youth in the first place?

-Courtney

Having met you I very much doubt there's much you can be taught!"

Thanks for saying so, by no no, you have it all wrong. Ignorant youngsters, that's what we are. It's fine, our loss

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've had this, but far more common for us is when we nicely reject an older couple for being outside of our age range and then get told how they could teach us a thing or two about fucking. Indeed.

Then why would they want to meet us inexperienced youth in the first place?

-Courtney

Having met you I very much doubt there's much you can be taught!

Thanks for saying so, by no no, you have it all wrong. Ignorant youngsters, that's what we are. It's fine, our loss

-Courtney"

Its only a loss if you miss it..

A lot comes from a certain level of narcissism and refusing to take any responsibility, mixed with a certain lack of empathy...the 'I'm great, it must be you' attitude when there are a myriad reasons for declining a meet that may or may not have anything to do with them. Its not limited to fab and seems to be an attitude that is becoming more prevalent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for saying so, by no no, you have it all wrong. Ignorant youngsters, that's what we are. It's fine, our loss

-Courtney

Its only a loss if you miss it..

I was just joking given the theme of the thread. It is not our loss at all. But yes, it does seem to be a more prevalent attitude lately.

-Courtney

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