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Why is it some couples don't like all couples party or all couples club night

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By *ieutenant OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never experienced any 'class consciousness' issues, but we prefer a party/club with a mix of singles and couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what we fancy at the time and what night is free for us. The majority of our club nights have been couples nights with the odd singles night thrown in we have no pattern or major preference.

We know many couples who won't venture to a single males night and vice versa.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

It might be true but we prefer venues where there are couple and single men and single women.

Just because we are a couple does not mean we will click with both members of another couple.

When there are singles involved as well there is more choice and more often than not couples can swing seperately if the choose to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

upto them who they shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

I have never felt any "class" difference between couples only nights and nights with singles. We play when work allows, so go to both. As we are generally only looking to play with other couples, and couples are at both events it doesn't bother us either way. The only exception to this is the single guys that get really really close when we are trying to play.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney"

I doubt you struggle to find couples attracted to you

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I only go to clubs with my partner - hard to meet other couples to whom we are both attracted, but chatting first helps - would never go anywhere where it was just couples though ....

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By *urvyemmaWoman
over a year ago

wigan/bolton

I have never heard of this class thing..what do you mean?

We prefer a mixed night in a club with everyone there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney

I doubt you struggle to find couples attracted to you "

Very kind of you

But it does happen. I think I scare them away

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sure it's related to class? We wouldn't attend a couples only event as we seek single bi men, perhaps others are the same. The beauty of swinging is we all have our own preferences and requirements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that's us told.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney

I doubt you struggle to find couples attracted to you

Very kind of you

But it does happen. I think I scare them away

-Courtney"

Well we don't scare too easily down here in Cambridge

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"You sure it's related to class? We wouldn't attend a couples only event as we seek single bi men, perhaps others are the same. The beauty of swinging is we all have our own preferences and requirements."

It is maybe the white middle class car keys in the fishbowl view of swinging he is referring to? To be honest some of the clubs I have been to seem to be full of that stereotype - but I much prefer variety where everyone feels comfortable, but not where people are mixing with others because they are a taboo thing, just because they are open to meeting lots of different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i was in a relationship i know i wouldn't be interested in swapping partners but i would still want to enjoy 3sums so might go to clubs on nights where you can find single men or women for that. I'd just not go on couples nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never heard of this class thing..what do you mean?

We prefer a mixed night in a club with everyone there! "

We do not because of any mixed class but because we like variety. And it's easier to get what want from a mixed night.

I personally find the atmosphere odd on couples nights. Can't explain it but it just feels much less open and fun x

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"If i was in a relationship i know i wouldn't be interested in swapping partners but i would still want to enjoy 3sums so might go to clubs on nights where you can find single men or women for that. I'd just not go on couples nights."

I find it interesting that if you were in a relationship that a FMF and a MFM would be ok, but that you wouldn't be happy with a MFMF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney

I doubt you struggle to find couples attracted to you

Very kind of you

But it does happen. I think I scare them away

-Courtney

Well we don't scare too easily down here in Cambridge "

We'll keep that in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i was in a relationship i know i wouldn't be interested in swapping partners but i would still want to enjoy 3sums so might go to clubs on nights where you can find single men or women for that. I'd just not go on couples nights.

I find it interesting that if you were in a relationship that a FMF and a MFM would be ok, but that you wouldn't be happy with a MFMF."

I'd even be happy with like him going off and doing his own thing sexually with someone else and me doing the same.

Don't know really why i think like this but a couple swap just doesn't appeal to me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples night are fun mixed nights are fun mostly depends on who you are with.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

There's a stigma attached to couples nights?

Never knew that! We just go to parties or club nights that appeal to us at the time. Don't really care what others think as long as we're having fun

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I honestly think its about who people want to meet and play with, rather than being a stigma ... some couples do not like single males, and make that plain on here.

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By *ecktheHallsCouple
over a year ago

Near Leeds xx

We've only ever been to couples nights in clubs, and have had great nights everytime. We are happy to play with singles also, but the hassle off single men in some clubs puts us off. We want a fun time, not a meat market.

We always seem to find couples who we get along with, and have always ended up playing, so for us there is no desperate need for singles (although we wouldn't say no!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? "

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? "

Not sure of class consciousness but there are definitely different venues that caters for the different markets.

Personally we do attend couples only and mixed night events, even though we are not interested in single men.

We prefer a couples only night due to the dynamics. It is far more relaxed and more enjoyable for us personally and less air of pressure or desperation. And as we enjoy the social aspect, this works better for our swinging journey.

Now that is not to tarnish every man with the same brush at a mixed event. But the chances are that you will get the odd pack of wolves and I'm not blaming them for this. We are all in swinging for our own personal reasons and ultimately there for sex. And if you're paying a premium to be part of it, then of course you want a return.

I have to also state that the above scenario holds no class barriers and whether you go to the attic and pay a tenner with your four pack, or pay £35 + annual membership + your expensive glass of wine at Libs, the result is typically the same in behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like single men, I'm not bi that's why I like singles at clubs/parties wherever. No other reason. Putting a label on it is just narrow minded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't stand couples only nights , mainly because we like playing with single guys as they are way less complicated . Also as i am voyeuristic and couples often get arsey about me not always wanting to be involved .

The couples only nights also tend to be a massive social and drink fest too ... often resulting in a d*unken orgy Iin the early hours .And that's not for us at all .

Give us a quiet cemetery and a few hot guys and we are happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't stand couples only nights , mainly because we like playing with single guys as they are way less complicated . Also as i am voyeuristic and couples often get arsey about me not always wanting to be involved .

The couples only nights also tend to be a massive social and drink fest too ... often resulting in a d*unken orgy Iin the early hours .And that's not for us at all .

Give us a quiet cemetery and a few hot guys and we are happy

"

You guys are really pushing the cemetery thing, huh? I've been seeing it on lots of your posts.

-Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't stand couples only nights , mainly because we like playing with single guys as they are way less complicated . Also as i am voyeuristic and couples often get arsey about me not always wanting to be involved .

The couples only nights also tend to be a massive social and drink fest too ... often resulting in a d*unken orgy Iin the early hours .And that's not for us at all .

Give us a quiet cemetery and a few hot guys and we are happy

You guys are really pushing the cemetery thing, huh? I've been seeing it on lots of your posts.

-Courtney"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We can't stand couples only nights , mainly because we like playing with single guys as they are way less complicated . Also as i am voyeuristic and couples often get arsey about me not always wanting to be involved .

The couples only nights also tend to be a massive social and drink fest too ... often resulting in a d*unken orgy Iin the early hours .And that's not for us at all .

Give us a quiet cemetery and a few hot guys and we are happy

"

Apart from the bit about the cemetery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? "
We would prefer couples only...no singles...any club do this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money does not make you happy just gives you more to worry about

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? We would prefer couples only...no singles...any club do this?"

Yes, most of them on a Saturday night...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

We are a couples only nights type of couple.

The Mrs likes her bi girls so a night with single guys would reduce her options.

Never recall asking anyones wealth at a club.

Income type is irrelevant for fun. Some sexual intelligence is required though.

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By *ieutenant OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience"

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before."

Entirely my choice...Jane...no interest in being fucked by random single men...when you try to patronise, try not to let your assumptions make an ass of u...

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney

I doubt you struggle to find couples attracted to you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? We would prefer couples only...no singles...any club do this?

Yes, most of them on a Saturday night..."
not just couples though is it.....there are singles allowed in on Saturdays at club f even though it's couples night

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


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Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before."

Find this a bizarre attitude. Because he has been a single guy he should allow his wife/ partner to play with other single guys?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles? "

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names "

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Some clubs have unisex toilets so that wouldn't work!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney"

Yes yes, but can I have my top back now????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney

Yes yes, but can I have my top back now????

"

Whatever, it wasn't expensive enough for me anyway.

And I didn't really go to the bathroom...I snuck out, so it wouldn't matter if it was unisex anyway.

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By *ieutenant OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Entirely my choice...Jane...no interest in being fucked by random single men...when you try to patronise, try not to let your assumptions make an ass of u..."

Really? Random Guys. So those guys in your profile are close pal of yours? Wao.Hehehe I like that

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney"

Lol well thanks for the heads up. Definitely going to be a brand monkey when we go to secrets. We're the ones in CK, Armani, Prada and Jimmy Choo smelling of Paco Rabanne

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney

Yes yes, but can I have my top back now????

"

I wasn't aware you wear clothes. We've only seen yous naked lol

Hope you're well and maybe see you in partners on BH Sunday xx

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"

Lol well thanks for the heads up. Definitely going to be a brand monkey when we go to secrets. We're the ones in CK, Armani, Prada and Jimmy Choo smelling of Paco Rabanne "

Our asses are stamped with Nike ticks.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"

I wasn't aware you wear clothes. We've only seen yous naked lol

Hope you're well and maybe see you in partners on BH Sunday xx"

We are having a poor northerners day out in London that weekend.

Would have been nice to say hi or maybe more.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"

I wasn't aware you wear clothes. We've only seen yous naked lol

Hope you're well and maybe see you in partners on BH Sunday xx

We are having a poor northerners day out in London that weekend.

Would have been nice to say hi or maybe more."

Aww that's a shame it would have been lovely.

But enjoy London! They have stuff like electricity and all that good stuff down there

Quite jel actually as I do love Camden Town, Covent Garden and Hammersmith, Fulham & Kensington when I've got my brands on lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Entirely my choice...Jane...no interest in being fucked by random single men...when you try to patronise, try not to let your assumptions make an ass of u...

Really? Random Guys. So those guys in your profile are close pal of yours? Wao.Hehehe I like that

"

Yep...anything else as veiled passive aggressive criticism you'd like to add?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney"

I'd best snip all the labels out then

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Didn't realise we lived in a shiny happy world where everyone has to like everyone. People are entitled to associate with whoever they want for whatever reason it has nothing to do with "class".

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? We would prefer couples only...no singles...any club do this?

Yes, most of them on a Saturday night...not just couples though is it.....there are singles allowed in on Saturdays at club f even though it's couples night"

Wow that's misleading, boardering on false advertising! I have to be honest we've never seen it before. Some clubs allow single girls in on couples nights but I've personally never seen more than one or two on any given night.

We regularly go to The Vanilla Alternative have also been to Xstasia, Liberty elite and AbFabs on couples nights.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Aww that's a shame it would have been lovely.

But enjoy London! They have stuff like electricity and all that good stuff down there

Quite jel actually as I do love Camden Town, Covent Garden and Hammersmith, Fulham & Kensington when I've got my brands on lol xx"

Well I'm sure you'll have plenty of choice.

Probably London Eye and tower of London for us.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Entirely my choice...Jane...no interest in being fucked by random single men...when you try to patronise, try not to let your assumptions make an ass of u...

Really? Random Guys. So those guys in your profile are close pal of yours? Wao.Hehehe I like that

"

I don't meet couples primarily because I have been put off by some of them with a holier than thou attitude ... when I meet with my partner, its hard to find couples we both click with sexually, but we meet a lot we can have a good chat with, but in terms of play, we much more go with the flow, depending on who is there - so a couples night is not for me, whether I am out alone, or with him.

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over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? "

Have no idea where you get this idea from.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

Have no idea where you get this idea from."

Some couples have said this is the case for them though so its an interesting and valid point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Find this a bizarre attitude. Because he has been a single guy he should allow his wife/ partner to play with other single guys?"

Very strange opinion we agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Find this a bizarre attitude. Because he has been a single guy he should allow his wife/ partner to play with other single guys?

Very strange opinion we agree. "

Quite apart from the fact that it wasn't the male partner posting...

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over a year ago


"We don't have a set preference. It can be nice to have singles at a party, though, because the chances of finding a couple we are both attracted to, who are attracted to us, and who are looking for the same thing can be pretty hard for us.

-Courtney"

Agree with this entirely - which is what as always put me off swinging as a couple!

Also couples sometimes have 'rules' such as no kissing, no anal except with partner etc etc. I've had some GREAT experiences with couples when I've liked both of them and they've liked me - but it's far easier to initiate play with a single! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting when you look into the specifics of who is in which camp. Perhaps there is a point after-all?

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Find this a bizarre attitude. Because he has been a single guy he should allow his wife/ partner to play with other single guys?

Very strange opinion we agree.

Quite apart from the fact that it wasn't the male partner posting..."

My partner has no problems with me meeting other guys, its me who is not into it - or rarely do I do it just because I don't have any urges in that direction with men .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

I don't get the class idea either

How the hell can you tell anyway?

Do you read the label in their clothes, check their car keys or go by the accent?

We mainly attend clubs on couples only nights but are equally happy to attend mixed ones. Though we are usually looking for other couples, we occasionally enjoy playing with single people.

If we click I don't care if they are unemployed, a cleaner or a top barrister. For that matter we might not even find out names

We always check the labels on people's clothes. Its easy when they take them off at clubs. I can sneak a peek while I go into my pocket for the condom. Really, I can't believe people don't take more precautions these days with who they fuck.

Its top-class clothing or I sneak off to the bathroom and never come back

-Courtney

I'd best snip all the labels out then "

Or just buy better clothing

-Courtney

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By *oBananas78Couple
over a year ago

London

We like both, it's good to have the option of both as they can offer different experiences and club atmospheres.

Our perfect set up is clubs that have couples only areas but then mixed areas too, my Mrs likes to show off and get plenty of make attention even if it's a case of she have full sex with them being chatted up flirting with or just being watched by single guys is a big part of our swinging experience and surpriseingly for me when we stated out the biggest turn on in terms of talking about our experiences after our night out, there is also a heightened sense of naughtiness of going to a club where there will be singles also. Key for is regarding atmosphere is that the singles numbers are controlled so there are far more couples than singles plus a couples only area, but would not really think of going to a club just because they had a 'couples only' night.

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over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

Have no idea where you get this idea from.

Some couples have said this is the case for them though so its an interesting and valid point "

That's fine. We have never come across it ourselves is all I'm saying. . .

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By *ieutenant OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Entirely my choice...Jane...no interest in being fucked by random single men...when you try to patronise, try not to let your assumptions make an ass of u...

Really? Random Guys. So those guys in your profile are close pal of yours? Wao.Hehehe I like that

Yep...anything else as veiled passive aggressive criticism you'd like to add?"

I think the only holystic approach is to ask the Web master to create different zone for single guys .i think that my suit your agenda

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone?

I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about. Why would there be any more stigma or class consciousness attached to couples than to singles?

We go to couples nights because we're uninterested in meeting single men and find that even though clubs claim to limit them, they don't actually seem to do so in our experience

Sad to hear you don't play with single guys. Remember you once a single guy before.

Entirely my choice...Jane...no interest in being fucked by random single men...when you try to patronise, try not to let your assumptions make an ass of u...

Really? Random Guys. So those guys in your profile are close pal of yours? Wao.Hehehe I like that

Yep...anything else as veiled passive aggressive criticism you'd like to add?

I think the only holystic approach is to ask the Web master to create different zone for single guys .i think that my suit your agenda "

That they only want to play with people they want to.

What a Fucking liberty.

Don't they know if you spread your legs for one person then you spread em for all.

How dare they make a choice on who they fuck. Next they will be wanting the vote.

Mark my words.

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over a year ago

We went to a few couples only nights and to be honest we got tired very quickly of the constant conversations about their conservatories, how big their extensions were, the cruise they were going on etc.

I think it was more to do with the clubs themselves, as they were trying to give off the impression that they were on a higher social standing than the average club, and therefore attracted the kind of people to whom that bullshit is important.

We also found couples only nights seemed to have a lot more competition to outdo each other in whatever aspect of conversation was going on. If you went to Butlins, they went to Sandals. If you drove a Mondeo, they drove an Audi kind of thing.

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By *ustusboth2013Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We went to a few couples only nights and to be honest we got tired very quickly of the constant conversations about their conservatories, how big their extensions were, the cruise they were going on etc.

I think it was more to do with the clubs themselves, as they were trying to give off the impression that they were on a higher social standing than the average club, and therefore attracted the kind of people to whom that bullshit is important.

We also found couples only nights seemed to have a lot more competition to outdo each other in whatever aspect of conversation was going on. If you went to Butlins, they went to Sandals. If you drove a Mondeo, they drove an Audi kind of thing."

Not sure if we would agree with your experience of couples only nights.

Like opinions and we all have varying ones, we all have different requirements from swinging.

I think a lots of swingers have identified the vibe from couples only nights now. And typically, as an example, if people have a preference to cut out the idle chat, a quick drink and straight to it, then a place like chams (where you're immediately dressed down) seems to be the preferred venue of choice.

However, if people are looking for a more social approach, dressed to impress, music to build the mood, then they will opt for a xtasia experience. No right or wrong here.

We prefer the later approach and genuinely enjoy the more social approach to swinging. Indeed we like to get down and dirty, hence being on the scene. And to be brutally honest about ourselves we often socialise a lot more than we swing.

That's not because we are timewasters, do not fancy swinging with the people we meet (there's a lot of sexy people we have met and would most definitely swing with, and believe they would with us) or want to brag about what we have or try and get the upper hand. It's just that we are people's people first and foremost, which continues into our swinging life and if the night flows we go on to swing.

Take _uckandbunny. A great couple, very sexy and we had a nice chat with them. We got invited to go upstairs with them but carried on chatting with a few others in the hottub, as it was a great night. We went upstairs to join them a little while after but they were occupied.

Maybe we will swing another time. But we didn't get the impression that they felt they were blanked by us and got miffed about it and it certainly wasn't that we were not interested; far from it! It just didn't happen and we're still chatting and having some banter, which suggests to us that they are our kind of people we relate to on the swinging scene. We have met many with this attitude and approach to swinging and look forward to seeing them again.

We go into a night with no expectations and if something happens, great. If it doesn't, then great also.

But we do appreciate there are swingers out there with a "no nonsense" approach. And maybe one day, we step out of our typical approach, which we have done occasionally.

Either way, I don't think there is a right or wrong way to swinging, just a different way. Different methods, same objective. And I would say the class thing does happen, but on a very small scale in the general swinging clubs.

What I would say, as an observation, is that a lot of couples that do have the no nonsense approach. If they don't get a "result" at the end of the night, definitely have a different persona about them and look moody and have the hump. #JustSaying

Not sure if anyone else would concur.

I hope my post gives some food for thought and that swingers should first look at swinging from the other persons eyes before their own. We all have need, wants, fantasies and requirements and should all respect this, even if we are not aligned. xx

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over a year ago


"Some couples don't like all couples party due to some stigma of class consciousness associated with it.majority of couples prefer mixed grill of vetted single females and males involved . Is that true. So where is your comfort zone? We would prefer couples only...no singles...any club do this?

Yes, most of them on a Saturday night...not just couples though is it.....there are singles allowed in on Saturdays at club f even though it's couples night

Wow that's misleading, boardering on false advertising! I have to be honest we've never seen it before. Some clubs allow single girls in on couples nights but I've personally never seen more than one or two on any given night.

We regularly go to The Vanilla Alternative have also been to Xstasia, Liberty elite and AbFabs on couples nights."
Yes in our view if clubs are letting in select men on a Saturday it should be classed as mixed and not couples night and its misleading ...its the same men every week also which simply isnt for us ...its like a social club for a few select men and this is the reason we do not use it.

They of course pay more to get in...........

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"We went to a few couples only nights and to be honest we got tired very quickly of the constant conversations about their conservatories, how big their extensions were, the cruise they were going on etc.

I think it was more to do with the clubs themselves, as they were trying to give off the impression that they were on a higher social standing than the average club, and therefore attracted the kind of people to whom that bullshit is important.

We also found couples only nights seemed to have a lot more competition to outdo each other in whatever aspect of conversation was going on. If you went to Butlins, they went to Sandals. If you drove a Mondeo, they drove an Audi kind of thing."

Blooming heck sounds like being in the stands at a Fulham game ...

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