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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As in people teaching you the ropes, anyone have any? Wish they had?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"As in people teaching you the ropes, anyone have any? Wish they had?

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see.... this is what I don't get so excuse me for asking.... but what in fact needs to be "taught" as such.....,

for me, most of it is just basic common sense... as in no means no, treat people like you would like to be treated, and play safe........

so yes... a mentor as in the fact of "asking questions".... but we all learnt as we go along and learnt from those mistakes.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As in people teaching you the ropes, anyone have any? Wish they had?

see.... this is what I don't get so excuse me for asking.... but what in fact needs to be "taught" as such.....,

for me, most of it is just basic common sense... as in no means no, treat people like you would like to be treated, and play safe........

so yes... a mentor as in the fact of "asking questions".... but we all learnt as we go along and learnt from those mistakes.....

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Well yeah that's a good point, but some people would want to go to a couple and kinda talk the scene through, just wondering is all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt the ropes all by myself....I'm dead clever like that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I learnt the ropes all by myself....I'm dead clever like that! "

who's a show off :P

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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Well yeah that's a good point, but some people would want to go to a couple and kinda talk the scene through, just wondering is all"

so are you wanting to "talk" to this mythical couple... or just use them as a guarenteed shag?.... because if you want the couple for the the "talking" part, can't be done anywhere...

many people do that online... and do that before they get to the meeting stuf.... heck.... that is what we are doing here isn't it?

so thats why i don't get the "please hold me hand" stuff....big enough and adult enough to join a site like "these" so why wouldn't you want to do some kind of research before ya jump in? which brings it back to the "talking".......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Well yeah that's a good point, but some people would want to go to a couple and kinda talk the scene through, just wondering is all

so are you wanting to "talk" to this mythical couple... or just use them as a guarenteed shag?.... because if you want the couple for the the "talking" part, can't be done anywhere...

many people do that online... and do that before they get to the meeting stuf.... heck.... that is what we are doing here isn't it?

so thats why i don't get the "please hold me hand" stuff....big enough and adult enough to join a site like "these" so why wouldn't you want to do some kind of research before ya jump in? which brings it back to the "talking"......."

I never said i wasnt big enough or hold my hand, or anything like that think you're taking it a bit out of context, I was talking to someone who said when they were younger they met a couple and developed through the scene with help from them, just curious as to wether anyone else had this sort of experience or some what similar.

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By *nnebell70Couple
over a year ago

somewhere

I can remeber my first outing to a club............ went with a large group and stil felt very shy and nervouse........yer I hear all those that know me laughing as they read this lol. I was a total bag of nerves and was so glad that those I went with held my hand and helped me through my first few times at a club.

I have had a few friends who I have introduced to the scene and I have been more than happy todo so. It can be hard for us singles to break into the scene and having somebody to support us can be a great confidence booster.

What's so wrong with having a swing buddy, FF MM or even god forbid MF, its just a cause of feeling comfatable How many timesdo we tend to pass by those shrinking violets and vacant startled caught in headlites kind of folks sat around the edge of the rooms at parties and clubs, to go for the more relaxed or confident looking 1s.

Horses for courses I say..........let's just have fun and enjoy what we enjoy, and leave those to enjoy theor likes dislikes and what ever else they want or need to enjoy this wonderful life style.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

but that brings us back to this "talking" lark.... does it not?......is that not how someone "develops"... thru asking questions and a matter of understanding....

so thinking about this topic I was trying to think of one question that you would need to ask someone "face to face" that you couldn't ask via e-mails... and to be honest I couldn't really think of one

if you ask people questions, I am sure people would impart there wisdom on you... and others in your position...

for example... great thread going on at the moment about a couples first time going to a club.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I learnt the ropes all by myself....I'm dead clever like that! "

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I always meet for a drink or a cuppa on a first meet. That way you can chat about the do's n dnt's get to know the person/people and if you dnt click then nothing is lost. And maybe just maybe you have a found a new none play friend.

My only advice for what its worth is.......respect all others and their wishes but abouve all relax and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope, i just dove right in and picked it up myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As in people teaching you the ropes, anyone have any? Wish they had?

see.... this is what I don't get so excuse me for asking.... but what in fact needs to be "taught" as such.....,

for me, most of it is just basic common sense... as in no means no, treat people like you would like to be treated, and play safe........

so yes... a mentor as in the fact of "asking questions".... but we all learnt as we go along and learnt from those mistakes.....

"

Im a willing pupil, well behaved too and i will bring you an apple every day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"but that brings us back to this "talking" lark.... does it not?......is that not how someone "develops"... thru asking questions and a matter of understanding....

so thinking about this topic I was trying to think of one question that you would need to ask someone "face to face" that you couldn't ask via e-mails... and to be honest I couldn't really think of one

if you ask people questions, I am sure people would impart there wisdom on you... and others in your position...

for example... great thread going on at the moment about a couples first time going to a club....... "

Suppose its alot easier now obviously with developments in technology, this person is of an older age so might not obviously of had the resources that we have.

Thanks for the replies guys, first thread and all, quite a friendly bunch really ain't ya haha

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"As in people teaching you the ropes, anyone have any? Wish they had?

see.... this is what I don't get so excuse me for asking.... but what in fact needs to be "taught" as such.....,

for me, most of it is just basic common sense... as in no means no, treat people like you would like to be treated, and play safe........

so yes... a mentor as in the fact of "asking questions".... but we all learnt as we go along and learnt from those mistakes.....

Im a willing pupil, well behaved too and i will bring you an apple every day "

You don't need teaching dear..........

I remember you and the jacuzzi!!!!!

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

The first ever lady who I met at a social became my mentor! She is now also my best friend on the scene too. She gave me loads of "first evers" and helped me gain loads of confidence after having a long and sexless relationship that I should have ditched years before.

So glad I met her when I did!

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