FabSwingers.com forum: married fem play tomorrow night

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well to be honest im a very open sort of person - never really judge anyone too much in this - if its not for me i just sort of move on - living in glass houses etc and all that

and when a married fem of mine joined this site last week i was ok with that - i was ok she was playing away from home - and i even helped her with the 'meet me monday night' advert!

i honestly didnt expect the over the top emails she got

serioiusly some odd guys out there - honest chaps - shes a married woman cheating not a whore with no sense of smell or taste

and some couples!!!! stop judging guys - if you dont like just walk away - its not a problem

anyway - susie has left the site after only a week

and me?

me cos im a nice friend is looking out for some nice guys or cpls for her - no rush - just as i see them

and i will even take her to a social with us lol

ohhhhhhhhh that should be fun

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I am NOT PC! I do judge. If she was cheating (your word!) then I think she is wrong. It is wrong on any level to cheat and deceive a partner. Get out and then do what you want.

I also am going to judge you! Actually helping her cheat? That is an awful thing to do! It is one thing to walk on by whilst someone does it, but to be part of the lies and deceit, makes you as bad as her!

Swinging is about having fun and being able to trust people. How can she or you be trusted as you have already demonstrated that you are prepared to help someone cheating on their partner.

Then also, what about the external view of swingers? You and your friend are doing nothing to make people more accepting of swinging. All they would see is selfish people prepared to lie and cheat for a shag!

Not perhaps a reply that you want, but I would imagine you will get loads of support, so this one won't matter!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I am NOT PC! I do judge. If she was cheating (your word!) then I think she is wrong. It is wrong on any level to cheat and deceive a partner. Get out and then do what you want.

Swinging is about having fun and being able to trust people. How can she or you be trusted as you have already demonstrated that you are prepared to help someone cheating on their partner.

Not perhaps a reply that you want, but I would imagine you will get loads of support, so this one won't matter!

To be honest i cant see there is going to be much support for this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good idea to leave the site.

A real friend might have warned her of what she stands to lose by cheating on her partner and if you can't see that perhaps direct her towards one of the many "married and cheating" sites where she would not have to put up with people like me who openly disaprove of those who cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the lady in genral feels she needs to cheat on her partner, then maybe she is in the wrong relationship. As a friend being there for her is great, but to set her up is not good. You should of said 'I know this site where you can meet and have uncomplicated sex, but if you want to do, that then it's down to you if ya get caught'

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Also spare a thought for the husband and what his feelings are. I would advise staying away, when the proverbials hit the fan your name may also be mentioned. Let youer friend make her choices without direction or persuasion from anyone. Use youf open midedness to support her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am NOT PC! I do judge. If she was cheating (your word!) then I think she is wrong. It is wrong on any level to cheat and deceive a partner. Get out and then do what you want.

Swinging is about having fun and being able to trust people. How can she or you be trusted as you have already demonstrated that you are prepared to help someone cheating on their partner.

Not perhaps a reply that you want, but I would imagine you will get loads of support, so this one won't matter!

To be honest i cant see there is going to be much support for this post"

No support here, I wonder if the OP truly expected any!

If this had been posted by a man he'd be searching for his balls by now as he'd have been castrated by now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do you know what i actually admire her for being so honest in the first place yes she is cheating on her husband but as 1 who did that as well i can not slate her for it we all have reasons for doing it and ppl shouldnt be so quick to judge!!! I am sick of getting the phone call from the wifes of guys who swore blind they were single or seperated as their profile stated only to find out they not 5 times its happened to me now 5 times !!! im not judging them for cheating on partner just for not having the balls to admit it so i then have choice of whether i want to play or not !!! waits for the how can she possible play with someone knowing they married mob to slate me but at least i know with them there is no way i will get caught they a lot more careful!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do you know what i actually admire her for being so honest in the first place yes she is cheating on her husband but as 1 who did that as well i can not slate her for it we all have reasons for doing it and ppl shouldnt be so quick to judge!!! I am sick of getting the phone call from the wifes of guys who swore blind they were single or seperated as their profile stated only to find out they not 5 times its happened to me now 5 times !!! im not judging them for cheating on partner just for not having the balls to admit it so i then have choice of whether i want to play or not !!! waits for the how can she possible play with someone knowing they married mob to slate me but at least i know with them there is no way i will get caught they a lot more careful!!!!!!

Wow sounds like karma to me.If you cheating and lied about it,what makes you think other people won't do the same.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just dont like dishonest people , in whatever walk of life you encounter them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i cheated on my husband and i had my reasons for doing it as does every married person on here but the person i cheated with knew that and it was his choice to continue what i am trying to say is that i personally would much rather from day 1 know they are married then it is my personal choice to get involved and as such my personal responsabilty if we get caught to take half the blame not to be forced into taking the blame because as far as i knew they were either single or separeted as am i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And she married why???

As they say on some cheaters posts, get him on here, us real single women will show him what he has obviously been missing

thats of course after he has divorced her for adultery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am NOT PC! I do judge. If she was cheating (your word!) then I think she is wrong. It is wrong on any level to cheat and deceive a partner. Get out and then do what you want.

Swinging is about having fun and being able to trust people. How can she or you be trusted as you have already demonstrated that you are prepared to help someone cheating on their partner.

Not perhaps a reply that you want, but I would imagine you will get loads of support, so this one won't matter!

i love that post

i like the way you keep saying 'your not judging' whilst making judgemental comments all the way tho lol

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Grey you took the words out of my mouth.

To the Op, pass me her number and I will show her a good time and be there for her to take her to the solicitors when she files for divorce siting adultery. Maybe the Op can pass me the mans number that she assisted in lining her up with and then can give his name in the divorce procedings as the adulterer.

Really!!!!!

You ASSISTED her????

Sorry for shouting there, I am calm, I am calm.

The OP, did you really think that helping her was right.

If you were a friend you would sit down with her to help her decide what she wants in life, her husband or a single life with swinging involved maybe.

That would have been assisting.

Not giving her the rope to hang herself and helping her along the way.

Some people!!!

I would rather a person is honest and say they are married that then leaves people to jog on by ignoring the person. I would also prefer they go to a married and cheating site too.

Are people that cheat accepted on here I believe they are but not in my book fraid.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

A married person doesn't have to use another site , they are not barred from here just because you don't agree with it. People just have to avoid any person they don't want to play with, as always.

I personally don't give a toss what other people do, it is for their conscience only.....but I certainly wouldn't help a friend do it and lie and cover up for her.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Why anyone gets themselves so upset at what someone, they dont even know, does baffles me!

It may not be right but what right do any of us have to say so to them? If they want to do it they will anyway and it is so easy on here to pass them by if you dont like it!

As always, just my opinion and will be sticking with it too.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"A married person doesn't have to use another site , they are not barred from here just because you don't agree with it. People just have to avoid any person they don't want to play with, as always.

I personally don't give a toss what other people do, it is for their conscience only.....but I certainly wouldn't help a friend do it and lie and cover up for her."

Snap - You type far quicker than me though! I might need to start a forum complaining about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why anyone gets themselves so upset at what someone, they dont even know, does baffles me!

It may not be right but what right do any of us have to say so to them? If they want to do it they will anyway and it is so easy on here to pass them by if you dont like it!

As always, just my opinion and will be sticking with it too.

I agree!

I don't play with married men, that's my choice and it says "no married men" on my profile. It wouldn't cross my mind to write to a married man berating him for cheating: not my business at all.

However, it threads like this that annoy in as much that it appears married people, or in this case a friend of a married person, is upset their cheating is not accepted with open arms!

Why draw attention to it?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

lol @ BB.

I think thats the thing Sassy....why would people waste time mailing someone to abuse them or even to comment on something that isn't their business at all.

They must have too much time on their hands or are just plain nasty.

But, if I was playing alone, I sure wouldn't start a thread about it highlighting it.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"........

Why draw attention to it?"

Because they feel as strongly as those opposed to it do and have the right to air their anger/frustration/views/etc on any subject they want to.

Me, on the other hand, don't care what others get up to, it's their lives and their choices, whether any of us agree with them or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think at times ( not all ) that it is more to justify it to themselves (although I think they are the only person who needs to justify it) or to get a sympathy shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm trying to understand the purpose of this thread.Why was it started?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"I think at times ( not all ) that it is more to justify it to themselves (although I think they are the only person who needs to justify it) or to get a sympathy shag

The latter, more often than not!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Why anyone gets themselves so upset at what someone, they dont even know, does baffles me!

It may not be right but what right do any of us have to say so to them? If they want to do it they will anyway and it is so easy on here to pass them by if you dont like it!

As always, just my opinion and will be sticking with it too.

I think, personally, the problem is one of trust.

By it's very nature, swinging has to be about trust and honesty, after all, sexual liberation isn't about free love and shagging anything that moves. It's about liberated sex with like minded people, on the basis that the 'no strings attached' label is adhered to.

If someone meets a woman, shags her, finds out she is married, the spouse finds out and cites them in an adultery divorce...... where is the trust?

What most people (by no means all) don't like about marrieds is that in effect, they are trying to justify their cheating by hanging a swinging hat on it.

If you go out on a saturday night and shag a random stranger at a pub.... it's cheating

If you have an affair with your boss/secretary......... it's cheating

If you haul the milkman in and shag him senseless on the kitchen counter....... it's cheating.....

How does anyone justify cheating by being on a swinging site.

Also, to the OP.......... abhorent, absolutely abhorent.

I used to love your posts and was looking forward to meeting you.

Not now........ you are the kind of person who gives swinging a bad name! Your mates in trouble, get her to join a site where there's thousands of single men ripe for her picking and make them part of your/her sleazy little plan to get her leg over.

Meeting a married is one thing...... helping them cheat is base level dishonesty.

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By *osiephillCouple
over a year ago

The High Peak

"I am NOT PC! I do judge. If she was cheating (your word!) then I think she is wrong. It is wrong on any level to cheat and deceive a partner. Get out and then do what you want.

Swinging is about having fun and being able to trust people. How can she or you be trusted as you have already demonstrated that you are prepared to help someone cheating on their partner.

Not perhaps a reply that you want, but I would imagine you will get loads of support, so this one won't matter!

i love that post

i like the way you keep saying 'your not judging' whilst making judgemental comments all the way tho lol

Have I read it wrong? It looks to me that they say they 'are judging'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isn't Swinging all about "trust"? H. x

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

and i will even take her to a social with us lol

I couldn't give a toss if someone is single/married/cheating/whatever (as long as I know and can make my own choices)... it's their life and they have their reasons.

What I do give a toss about is people saying they intend to take non-members along to socials with them.

Oh I am sure the OP will have a 101 reasons why they trust this person and think it is OK .... but so will every other Tom, Dickhead and Harry who wants to take a mate along to stare at the swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why anyone gets themselves so upset at what someone, they dont even know, does baffles me!

It may not be right but what right do any of us have to say so to them? If they want to do it they will anyway and it is so easy on here to pass them by if you dont like it!

As always, just my opinion and will be sticking with it too.

I think, personally, the problem is one of trust.

If someone meets a woman, shags her, finds out she is married, the spouse finds out and cites them in an adultery divorce...... where is the trust?

What most people (by no means all) don't like about marrieds is that in effect, they are trying to justify their cheating by hanging a swinging hat on it.

If you go out on a saturday night and shag a random stranger at a pub.... it's cheating

If you have an affair with your boss/secretary......... it's cheating

If you haul the milkman in and shag him senseless on the kitchen counter....... it's cheating.....

How does anyone justify cheating by being on a swinging site.

Also, to the OP.......... abhorent, absolutely abhorent.

I used to love your posts and was looking forward to meeting you.

Meeting a married is one thing...... helping them cheat is base level dishonesty."

Wow I love a woman with passion.That was well said .

two thumbs up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fook me the swinging police are out in force again. as someone said if you dont like it move on. seems like there are alot of judgemental people on here.

live and let live I say, each to their own

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By *hirefunguyMan
over a year ago

Moray/ Inverness

Why are people so quick to judge??

We only know one side of the story usually - that is a married is looking to meet for NSA fun, there is nothing to say WHY they wish to do this.

Could it be they only want what is missing at home because, dare I suggest it the other half is already at it themselves with half the local telephone directory or members of A.N.Other website?

All I would say is if you are married - be honest and let any potential meets know up front and allow them to make their own choice.... all that is then required is a simple thanks or no thanks.

I'm not judging - just talking from personal experience and why I found myself on here to start with. Just remember there are two sides to every story.

Only my humble opinion - and we are all entitled to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever happened to "open minded" swingers?

(puts on crash helmet and hides in bunker lol)

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

as a man who has been cheated on by a dog of an ex wife i think cheating in a marrige is the lowest of the low whats wrong with a bit of honesty?if i wanted more than my wife (becky) was giving me i would leave her before ever thinking of going behind her back and i,m sorry but anyone who does is is just a dishonest dog as far i,m concerned.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Whatever happened to "open minded" swingers?

(puts on crash helmet and hides in bunker lol)"

They are all over the place... the thing is... 'playing away' is not what most swingers would class as swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"as a man who has been cheated on by a dog of an ex wife i think cheating in a marrige is the lowest of the low whats wrong with a bit of honesty?if i wanted more than my wife (becky) was giving me i would leave her before ever thinking of going behind her back and i,m sorry but anyone who does is is just a dishonest dog as far i,m concerned."

But you should not take your anger out on people you don't even know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever happened to "open minded" swingers?

(puts on crash helmet and hides in bunker lol)

They are all over the place... the thing is... 'playing away' is not what most swingers would class as swinging."

I play away and have my reasons for doing so, the swinging part I see as separate from playing away

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

" the swinging part I see as separate from playing away"

Eh? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you should not take your anger out on people you don't even know"

that's correct .At the end of the day she might be cheating because he was doing the same to her or any other reasons. Although i dont agree with how its being done I cant just make assumptions and down right blast the womnan, who for some reason lok is not on the site anymore and the OP has not commented on the topic since lol.

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By *ertnbeckyCouple
over a year ago

oldham

playing away is cheating not swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" the swinging part I see as separate from playing away

Eh? lol "

Ok met someone while playing away and got into swinging with her, won't go into my reasons for playing way but once I was the swinging part was a new direction they came out after I played away that's why I feel it's separate (bad logic I know but that's how I feel)

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

" the swinging part I see as separate from playing away

Eh? lol

Its a mans logic LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a mans logic LOL

Lol yep works for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a mans logic LOL"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and i will even take her to a social with us lol

ohhhhhhhhh that should be fun

Don't attempt to attend any Scottish socials then, as only FAB members are allowed to attend them .... no mates... no spouses... no exceptions, only way in is if they are a FAB member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be that the lady in question is in a perfectly happy relationship but isn't getting her needs satisfied in a physical way. No point in judging, just be happy that she has been driven away from the website.

just going to grab my pitch fork and round up any other people on the site who don't conform to the perfect swinger profile.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

" the swinging part I see as separate from playing away

Eh? lol

How can it be seperate? Does your other half know you are meeting other people with someone else? No, I bet.

So it is not seperate, you are just playing away with more people involved.

I don't attack people just because they are playing away.... it's their life and none of my business........ until they start trying to justify their actions on the forums and make it open business.

What you are doing undermines the whole ethos of swinging (in the traditional sense)… couples in secure trusting relationships… the foundation of swinging. Now being used as a handy label to illogically differentiate actions of infidelity from common playing away deceit.

Do I have a right to judge you – no.

Do I have a right to judge what you write on the forum… YES, and don’t forget it was you who put it there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

WOW

that was expected lol

ok I refuse to go into reasons as to why she 'cheats' - her choice to do so and i am not going to judge her

suffice to say she has her reasons

I am also not going to justify my helping her - i have my reasons and i will do anything my lovely darling friend wants if it makes her happy - well maybe not anything ( i wont eat veggiemite or marzipan for anyone!!)

She was honest with her profile on here and only wanted to hear from people who met her needs and were interested - it was your choice to respond to her sexual needs or not - you can not and should not set your selves up to judge her, persecute her or be offended by her - walk on by if your not happy

As for you lot - seriously - you make me laugh - you make me cry and sometimes you just make me feel sad

to all those who have now written to me saying you no longer 'like' me - thank you for letting me know that is sweet of you

to those who have sent abusive messages - i have kept them and will re read them next time i feel the need for some self flagellation

I honestly believe in this community you should not judge - you should also not be 'conned' so its important you have all the information you need to make your decision if you play with people

THAT is all you deserve - you deserve the right to say yes or no based on if the people on offer meet your needs

There is no written law for swinging, there are no 'club' rules you break - there are just as many varied likes and dislikes in this as in any walk of life

Now,,

if anyone wants to know the purpose of this post I would suggest this thread is read and noted - because if nothing else if it nudges someone into thinking twice before bringing down the gavel then its served some good

(by the way thanks to those of you have sent nice notes - xxxxxxxxxxx)

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

and i will even take her to a social with us lol

ohhhhhhhhh that should be fun

Don't attempt to attend any Scottish socials then, as only FAB members are allowed to attend them .... no mates... no spouses... no exceptions, only way in is if they are a FAB member. "

I am glad I wasn't the only one concerned by the ending statement from the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be good now little children its worse than a playground getting in here she does he can they say wtf!!!!!!!!!!!!!! swing happy fuck happy walk by those that piss u off block those you have issues with and keep fabswingers name good some just like a good old MOAN me well joined married now happily single judge me all you want my reasons are mine i swing because i enjoy it and no matter what he she r they say im staying put and taking my MOANING to bed have a good day all over and out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman in cheating shock.

Tut tut i thought it was only a male thing on Fab.

How dare she do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think its time to move on mate

lots of people have been cheated on that does not give you the right to be abusive to other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"playing away is cheating not swinging"

actually i do not agree with that

swinging is a life style and a state of mind, i personally think 2 fuck buddies can swing just as well as a married couple

swinging is NOT a marrage status, single can swing, couples can swing, fuck buddies can swing and cheater can swing

you may not agree with cheating but there are lots of people out there that would see sharing your spouce with another person just as bad if not worse

Thats not to say i do but there are lots of people who would be horrified at what your doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are people so quick to judge??

We only know one side of the story usually - that is a married is looking to meet for NSA fun, there is nothing to say WHY they wish to do this.

Could it be they only want what is missing at home because, dare I suggest it the other half is already at it themselves with half the local telephone directory or members of A.N.Other website?

All I would say is if you are married - be honest and let any potential meets know up front and allow them to make their own choice.... all that is then required is a simple thanks or no thanks.

I'm not judging - just talking from personal experience and why I found myself on here to start with. Just remember there are two sides to every story.

Only my humble opinion - and we are all entitled to that

here here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ohhhhhhhhh

ok this is where my lovely friend would tell me to sit down and just be cool

She left this site after being bought to tears because of the abusive comments and emails she got from being honest in her profile -

i would rather stand up and ask everyone in here to not be so censorious even it it risks your disapproval

In the meantime i will still be there for her for as long as she wants - in any capacity she wants - and be dammed

(flounces out of the room to go and answer the strangley odd number of emails that are growning from single men for her! perhaps i can talk her in to re joining on this basis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Grow up people please.

The fact that people are mailing these people and not keeping their feelings in the forum makes whoever you are look childish and bullish. Grow up and mind your own business.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Grow up people please.

The fact that people are mailing these people and not keeping their feelings in the forum makes whoever you are look childish and bullish. Grow up and mind your own business.

Not wishing to nit-pick... (OK I am)... actually it doesn't make them look childish and bullish as the messages are being sent privately... so it doesn't make them look anything at all from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it does why the need to send personal messags based on something said in here ,and sending abusive messages at that . I will say again grow the hell up and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres loads of men doing this on sites like this ......... and just because its a woman your singling her out ,,,,, Look at the bigger pic ,,,,, loads of couples here not even couples but singles i find ,, and some singles when you get to really know them married playing away. Yes her friend was there for her ,, it dont make her a bad person ....... She is her friend and a good one is there for you what ever you do. I am lucky i am married over 20 years same man and happy swinging he know what i do and it spice up our lifes ,,, but if she is really unhappy and staying there for her family holding it together we dont know The in s,,, and outs of her life DO WE? jo xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ohhhhhhhhh

ok this is where my lovely friend would tell me to sit down and just be cool

She left this site after being bought to tears because of the abusive comments and emails she got from being honest in her profile -

i would rather stand up and ask everyone in here to not be so censorious even it it risks your disapproval

In the meantime i will still be there for her for as long as she wants - in any capacity she wants - and be dammed

(flounces out of the room to go and answer the strangley odd number of emails that are growning from single men for her! perhaps i can talk her in to re joining on this basis

) "

why didnt she just report the abuse?

Isnt sending abusing messages to other members against the AUPs on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that bloody careful if you've had ranting wives on the phone 5 times. Just an observation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ohhhhhhhhh

ok this is where my lovely friend would tell me to sit down and just be cool

She left this site after being bought to tears because of the abusive comments and emails she got from being honest in her profile -

i would rather stand up and ask everyone in here to not be so censorious even it it risks your disapproval

In the meantime i will still be there for her for as long as she wants - in any capacity she wants - and be dammed

(flounces out of the room to go and answer the strangley odd number of emails that are growning from single men for her! perhaps i can talk her in to re joining on this basis

)

why didnt she just report the abuse?

yes i did tell her to ........ that would have been my response......... actually my first abusive message bought me to the forum for support (which i got) and i found that a great way of managing ...... her response was just to block

after a while though she just thought it isnt worth it ... she just expected something different from our world ..... so she just found it easier to leave

Isnt sending abusing messages to other members against the AUPs on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to see who sent the mail ? and what sort of people couples or singles ... was it she would not meet them ? I can get them nasty if i dont at times and thay keep mailing ..........But like some say here she should have mailed the site and got the people who was doing this to her of the site ,,,,,, its a site for everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I would like to see who sent the mail ? and what sort of people couples or singles ... was it she would not meet them ? I can get them nasty if i dont at times and thay keep mailing ..........But like some say here she should have mailed the site and got the people who was doing this to her of the site ,,,,,, its a site for everyone x"

well said by a very sexy poster lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i read this mail and i was reading what others was saying its because of how hurt thay have been from others doing this to them playing away and them finding out ,,, and i under stand how thay must feel ...... but everyones life is very diffrent ,, I will give you 1 or two of my girl friends ,, one of my girl friends married her husband cancer very ill and had this 3 years ,,,, she was very low and so i had her come out with me ... one more of my girl friends husband over seas very unhappy again we meet have a drink she is bi we have fun mmm i see nothing wronge ,,,, we are only on this earth one time so lets be happy.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

" ... its a site for everyone x"

You really should consider the implications of such a wide open statement.

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