FabSwingers.com forum: whinge

By *randmrsfreaky OP Couple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield

Imgonna have a whinge, so we get a message from a couple who ask us if we are interested in meeting, we exchange a few emails over a few days and confirm we want the same thing from a meet.

They say they want to meet for a drink, we say ok, they say are you free saturday, we say no but can do next weekend no problem.

We say lets exchange phone numbers so the ladies can have a chat, they say nearer the time.

So by now we think lets sort the wheat from the chaff and ask do you have a cam, we can have a quick nosey so we all know whats what.

end of emails.

We say......another bloke.

trying to get a meet can turn into a full time job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imgonna have a whinge, so we get a message from a couple who ask us if we are interested in meeting, we exchange a few emails over a few days and confirm we want the same thing from a meet.

They say they want to meet for a drink, we say ok, they say are you free saturday, we say no but can do next weekend no problem.

We say lets exchange phone numbers so the ladies can have a chat, they say nearer the time.

So by now we think lets sort the wheat from the chaff and ask do you have a cam, we can have a quick nosey so we all know whats what.

end of emails.

We say......another bloke.

trying to get a meet can turn into a full time job."

Yep sure sounds like you got one there ... it can be hard work but worth it when you find the genuine folk ... don't give up hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never ever cam, or send nude or full frontal pics. We think a phone conversation and our face and body shots on our profile shows you who we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We never ever cam, or send nude or full frontal pics. We think a phone conversation and our face and body shots on our profile shows you who we are.

Same here, we have pics on profile of both of us, incl full body shots but nothing nude, we have face pics there and we are fully verified, cam is not necessary though Sasha will confirm on the phone if people want us to.

We never send nude pics and we don't really want them sent to us, I like to open my pressies on the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We never ever cam, or send nude or full frontal pics. We think a phone conversation and our face and body shots on our profile shows you who we are.

We never send nude pics and we don't really want them sent to us, I like to open my pressies on the day

In total agreement with you both!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of curiosity, why didn’t you just wait till nearer the time like asked?

You may well think… man, and you could well be right… however they may be genuine and thinking impatient and pushy.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"Out of curiosity, why didn’t you just wait till nearer the time like asked?

You may well think… man, and you could well be right… however they may be genuine and thinking impatient and pushy.

Waiting wouldn't have made a good topic for a whinge forum though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they were just waiting till nearer the time to cam/phone.

Or maybe they have seen this thread where they have been labelled fakes?

We have a web cam and have never used it,we have upto date face pics that we will send and when meeting couples we insist on fem/fem chat before going any further then we will arrange a meet x

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I would normally be happy to cam to prove that I look like I do in my pics. I once met a guy who I spoke with on the phone and saw a clear face pic of him before and when we met his picture was of him about 10 years ago. So a cam proves you look like your pictures so I do think it very important.

I would insist on chatting on the phone as until you chat(girles chat) you cant confirm that you would get on.

I would put it something like that.Once the ladies have chatted on the phone and they are both happy then the date is booked and confirmed.

If someone is hesitating about chatting on the the phone then I would question it.

I wouldnt want your weekend free wasted if it turns out it is a single male.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"they may be genuine and thinking impatient and pushy"

We've had contact from “pushy” members on here, working nights means I only have Saturday afternoon / Sunday free, just because a time / date suites others, it's not that easy to arrange for us, because of that, “some” members have decided we're either time-wasters or not interested, unfortunately, we don't have the opportunity to explain the reason we cannot meet when it suites them because they block us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they may be genuine and thinking impatient and pushy

what a crock of crap that your a time waster due to the free time you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will not cam because that generally means MSN and we don't use MSN for swing contacts until we have met them in person, simply because over the years every single contact we have made that have asked for msn straight away have turned out to be either seeking pics or cam sex.

We do have 80+ pics on our public gallery and they are never more than a month old, our verifications are also always recent.

We are happy to meet on a "no strings" basis, nobody we meet need feel presurised into having sex with us, if we are not sexually compatible it's ok and understandable, we know we will at least make new friends if people treat us the way we treat them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we met a guy once , our only go at the single male thing.

when we met him we realised his pic was about 10 yrs out of date but not to be labelled timewasters we went through with the whole thing which we found a complete dissapointment.

now we insist on upto date pics and a phone call at a very early stage to determine who is real and who is playing the plank

we would say now we are older and wiser and a bit further down the line we would walk away from a situation like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we met a guy once , our only go at the single male thing.

when we met him we realised his pic was about 10 yrs out of date but not to be labelled timewasters we went through with the whole thing which we found a complete dissapointment.

now we insist on upto date pics and a phone call at a very early stage to determine who is real and who is playing the plank

we would say now we are older and wiser and a bit further down the line we would walk away from a situation like that."

I would rather be labelled a timewaster!

to me, the most important thing about a meet is honesty, and if hey cant be honest enough to send an up-to-date pic, then you have to ask how you can trust them at all?

it would be him that was the timewaster by being dishonest.

glad you learnt from it though, i would do exactly the same thing (and did) and walk...though, the gent i was due to meet didnt even send a pic of himself, let alone an old one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer to use cam, even if it's faces of all parties just for a few minutes. Then everyone knows what everyone looks like and they know it's a couple at each end but each to their own.

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

We actually don't have a cam, have no need for one and regardless of how cheap they are in argos (so people have told us!) we won't be getting on.

I feel pushed into veryfing who we are. End of the day we have pics, send pics of us together when needed and can do chat on phone - we're also verified. The last 'couple' that were pushy in checking us out didn't turn up at the meet, were just FB's and it appears she had no idea she was meant to be meeting. Yet I was the one made to feel like a potential timewaster before the meet!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

We don't cam under any circumstances. We have enough verifications for people to know we are real, we have facial pictures (up to date) in our private gallery and always happy for girl to girl chats.

If a couple comes on heavy with the cam or phone us now bit, we block and move on. Can't stand pushiness....... and there are those who won't take no for an answer where cam is concerned..... and funnily enough, thats only ever been the couples.

I'm not saying you were pushy OP, just that there are those who will delete/block for things like cam, because it is within their right to.

Hope you have better luck next time.

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"We don't cam under any circumstances. We have enough verifications for people to know we are real, we have facial pictures (up to date) in our private gallery and always happy for girl to girl chats.

I'm not saying you were pushy OP, just that there are those who will delete/block for things like cam, because it is within their right to.

Hope you have better luck next time."

Glad we're not the only ones!!

I think some people take it all to seriously as well. Best meets we've had have been on the cuff, very few emails etc and no phone calls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh we take this very seriously and when you think about it most of you do too.

We don't meet anyone unless we think there is a good chance the chemistry is going to be right.

We make a lot of effort when we meet, we put on a buffet, make sure we can accommodate overnight, prepare the overnight accommodation, give the whole house an extra special spruce up, get in a selection of soft drinks and a few extra beers/bottles of wine etc and spend half the day sprucing ourselves lol.

We only get a meet every 2 or 3 months so when someone does want to meet us we want everything to be right in case the chemistry is right for all of us but also right in case it isn't because we want to spend a good night socialising if we don't play.

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By *randmrsfreaky OP Couple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield

"Out of curiosity, why didn’t you just wait till nearer the time like asked?

You may well think… man, and you could well be right… however they may be genuine and thinking impatient and pushy.

I dont think we were being pushy at all, we exchanged about 10 emails all of which were answered really quickly.

They stopped when some sort of verification was suggested.

At some point most people have experienced this and we tend to get a feeling when something changes.

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