FabSwingers.com forum: 'Replys'

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have been on this site a while now,& seen some nice people, but the thing that gets us, If someone sends a reply to our Add we will reply back to them even to say no thanks, so why cant other people be polite & let us know they are not interested if we reply to their Add's You cant tell us that people get so many replys they dont have time to reply with 'No Thanks'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya have to have a thick skin and move on hun.

I get so many being a single female and would spend half the day replying and i aint got time for that. I only reply to the ones im interested in.

Next!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

This subject always comes up and the general concensus is that some people reply and some don't and all for different reasons

If people don't reply take it as a no thanks and move on,I try and reply to everyone if I think they have read our profile properly but even then I sometimes don't as other things take over

Its not personal and if you think they're impolite by not responding then you would'nt want to meet them anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This issue has been covered a few times and the old threads should still be around in the older postings if you can find them.

This site is split between those that think a reply is the right and polite thing to do, and those that think nobody has to reply to a message if they so wish.

I'm so glad it's a couple posting a comment about this issue as everytime a single guy does they get the usual flurry of spiteful comments and attacks.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"This issue has been covered a few times and the old threads should still be around in the older postings if you can find them.

This site is split between those that think a reply is the right and polite thing to do, and those that think nobody has to reply to a message if they so wish.

I'm so glad it's a couple posting a comment about this issue as everytime a single guy does they get the usual flurry of spiteful comments and attacks."

Now now Gothica don't start a fight that is'nt even there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of 20 mails I've sent out in the last two weeks or so I've had three replies. Two were to say "no" (first time in a long while that someone has told me I'm too young

My experience on dating sites is the exact opposite to here. I don't have to mail anyone, they mail me, and I always try to reply, just to be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always reply....if only to point out the error of their ways lol

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Out of 20 mails I've sent out in the last two weeks or so I've had three replies. Two were to say "no" (first time in a long while that someone has told me I'm too young

My experience on dating sites is the exact opposite to here. I don't have to mail anyone, they mail me, and I always try to reply, just to be polite. "

Thats interesting what you say about dating sites,from what I know they can be as much about sex as swinging sites so are you surprised about having to send mails out to people on here?

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By *achaCouple
over a year ago

manchester

the question is, for all the people who want a polite reply, how polite are THEY in their real day to day life? can they honestly say they are polite to every person they meet?

i lose count of the ammount of people in ONE DAY that dont say thanks for holding a door open...most of them prob then go home and ask for a polite reply on swingers sites...

(this is not directed at op btw)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the question is, for all the people who want a polite reply, how polite are THEY in their real day to day life? can they honestly say they are polite to every person they meet?

i lose count of the ammount of people in ONE DAY that dont say thanks for holding a door open...most of them prob then go home and ask for a polite reply on swingers sites...

(this is not directed at op btw)

One has impeccable manners.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"the question is, for all the people who want a polite reply, how polite are THEY in their real day to day life? can they honestly say they are polite to every person they meet?

i lose count of the ammount of people in ONE DAY that dont say thanks for holding a door open...most of them prob then go home and ask for a polite reply on swingers sites...

(this is not directed at op btw)

One has impeccable manners."

bet the other one has as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thats interesting what you say about dating sites,from what I know they can be as much about sex as swinging sites so are you surprised about having to send mails out to people on here?

Not that I've seen. I know for a fact that there a lot of married men on there, trying to take advantage. One woman I dated from a well known site, said I was breath of fresh air because I was honest, clean, intelligent and not married (no modest wasn't one of them

, which are traits most of the men on there don't have full stop, let alone all four. The previous three guys she'd met had all turned out to be married.

If all I wanted was get as many notches on my bed post, I would do better by going on somewhere like Match. Its certainly quicker than here, but most women are on there looking for a relationship, and to use that site purely as a means of getting my leg over is taking advantage of them.

I'm not suprised by how many e-mails I've had to send out, just by the almost total lack of response (before anyone says anything, I'm not whining about it, I was well aware of what it would be like before I joined)

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"This issue has been covered a few times and the old threads should still be around in the older postings if you can find them.

This site is split between those that think a reply is the right and polite thing to do, and those that think nobody has to reply to a message if they so wish.

I'm so glad it's a couple posting a comment about this issue as everytime a single guy does they get the usual flurry of spiteful comments and attacks."

that I have to agree with. As you say there are many threads on the subject, mostly started by single men, and they are normally not as tame as this one.

As most have said, take it on the chin and move to the next one. Some people reply, some don't It isn't worth getting yourself het up about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Thats interesting what you say about dating sites,from what I know they can be as much about sex as swinging sites so are you surprised about having to send mails out to people on here?

, which are traits most of the men on there don't have full stop, let alone all four. The previous three guys she'd met had all turned out to be married.

Thanks for that,I only know what single female friends have told me about dating sites so thats why I was interested in what you thought about the difference on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't doubt that some women are on there purely for sex. Most are after it, but only as part of a relationship

One site has an 'intimate relationship' option from the list of what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we reply, sometimes we don't, it depends on our mood. If we're in a good happy mood, we reply to most messages even to say 'No', however if were in a neutral or a 'couldn't care less' mood we reply if someone takes our fancy and if they don't - we read the message and that's the end of it

No one is 'entitled' to a reply and personally we don't consider it to be bad manners if a reply is not forthcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No one is 'entitled' to a reply and personally we don't consider it to be bad manners if a reply is not forthcoming."

True, but I feel a little guilty if I don't reply, because I know what it feels like at the other end. Its not so bad here, because at least you know if its been read/deleted. On other sites you don't if its been read or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't send out a lot of messages really. Only when i believe i am exactly what the person is looking for. So i only send about one message a week.

The people i've messaged usually looks at my profile but never sends a reply.

I've only had one reply saying thanks but no thanks. 3 have replied and said they were interested.

I think it is just a case that because people get so many stupid messages from single guys, they just think that we don't deserve any sort of courtesy.

In reference to people being generally rude, i disagree. Although i find if you are ultra courteous to people in my job they tend to respond by being polite too.

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

Good replies from Arclight and Secondrow.

I don’t need to say what they have already said, but did want to highlight my agreement with their positions!

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By *damandlaraCouple
over a year ago

northwich

i must say that as a couple we dont get too many people mailing us, probably due to our profile but when we do we do try to mail back even if to say no, however one thing that does annoy us is when people copy and paste and obviously mass mail the same thing out to lots of people, then we dont reply, and most of these people must suffer from dementure as we get repeated mails from them over time meaning they just randomly send out mail and forget who said no thanks!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont reply to anyone, i pride myself on that, honeypot mails me everyday it hurts to ignore her, but stalking is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It says on our profile do not contact us unless you have pic's of BOTH male and female on your profile.

They still do though,a pic of boobs and another of a womans legs ffs.

Great,that really gives us an idea of what the COUPLE look like,we don't think!

This is one reason we don't always reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always reply to messages so long as they are what i have stated in my profile that i am looking for, even if its a no thanks because they not my type, however i do not reply to couples, woman, people who live miles away, guys wanting to come to my house or single guys out side the age range im am looking for simple because they have either not read my profile or read it and ignored what i have stated i want so there for why should i spend the time to reply to them? bad manners works both ways

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

I have impeccable manners.

But whether to reply or not, isn't about manners.......

It's about CHOICE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem with assumption is it invariably bites you on the bum and in this case it's left few folk on here feeling miffed.

By sending an email to someone it seems some folk have assumed they fit the bill, but how do you actually know you do. How do you know that on receipt of the email the other folk have not thought "Oh my god, what a horror" or "not for us"?

Send your email and accept that no reply means no and move on...........if thats all to difficult then go start another wingeing thread about no replies...sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep us too ,we always reply, we feeel its the right thing to do, and also lets the other person/s nkow you are perhaps not interested and allows them to move on and have fun if they are not what we are looking for. i wish more people would do same. x

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