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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was reading a topic of how many meets in a week and wondered what people class as a meet and verification!

Meeting for a coffee with a view to future meets? At what point would you verify someone?

Personally, I have get verifications for those that I have met and then played with or enjoyed some fun.

What are others thoughts?

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By *unterslickCouple
over a year ago

tullamore

we dont have many veris,but if asked after a meet even for a coffee,we will veri someone,its a personal choice wether you verify someone or not,we personally arent bothered about veris,as to us its wether we get on with our meets rather than can we get a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont use the verifications for play only we use it to verify the person/people turned up are real and actually exist.

Personal choice how you use the system as it gives options to verify from web cam or phone too, we dont use those options at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person I am meeting to be honest some like to have verifications even if just a social meet and others dont, so i usually ask if they want me to send one

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

you have social verifications, basically stipulating you have met them, they exist, they are genuine

play veifications, indicate that you have interacted on level more personal or intimate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Was reading a topic of how many meets in a week and wondered what people class as a meet and verification!

Meeting for a coffee with a view to future meets? At what point would you verify someone?

Personally, I have get verifications for those that I have met and then played with or enjoyed some fun.

What are others thoughts?"

A verification says that you ARE who you SAY you ARE.

Giving verifications only if they have sex with you is ludicrous.

Where does it stop? I'll give you a veri for a blow job but my mate says its not sex unless it's anal ???

A verification should be for identification ONLY.

Jesus ....... soon a points system.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Nil point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite right Granny, when we verify someone it is as others have said, to say that they are honest, genuine as per thier profile, that they can hold a conversation and good to spend time with, that they turn up when they say they will.

If we do play we don't mention it, that is between us and them, even if I had great sex with them the next person might not because we all enjoy different things, what I want to know about people is, are thier photos 10 years old, do they turn up, can they chat or are they just pushy for sex etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my social verifications on show, proves who I am so to speak, but as the sex meet veri's hell they all say the same dont they girls, best blow job ever etc., etc., best this best that he he so dont show them lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Along similar lines to what others have said.

I don't have many verifications and haven't given many. I recognise some people see verifications as a tool to confirm you're real, meet and play: in reality one should suffice.

Personally I don't feel the need to verify every meet and now only verify playmates from other sites who join Fab to kick start their fun here.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


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Personally I don't feel the need to verify every meet and now only verify playmates from other sites who join Fab to kick start their fun here."

Thats what I do now,if someone has a few already I don't feel the need to give them one,and don't expect one back

Ive never verified my most regular playmates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay I'll stick my hands up. I don't put all my meets on either.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

absolutely agree with what granny said...

I thought the whole point of varification was to say that the person was genuine and they turned up.... nothing more, nothing less

I am not bothered whether that meet is a social or a play one.... in fact, to be honest I'd rather they were kept as general as possible, rather than a blow by blow which can be such a turn off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too put mainly social veris as Kitten said the more explicit ones stay hidden. I don't feel the need to repeatedly verify regular playmates, some ppls veris to each other read like a sex blog and say to me....... Hands off they are mine.

If the person you are meeting is who they say they are ie a couple, and they look like their pics or are as described in their profile, seem pleasant and can interact on a social level. Great......veri them. You have any doubts at all don't veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I leave verifications whenever I have talked on the phone, cammed or met someone in the flesh - whether that's for coffee or fun. What I say in the verification is obviously tailored to the person in question and the nature of our contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A verification on the phone does NOT mean they will meet. I will now only leave a verification if I have met them in person. I will also only meet people who have been verified by someone else through an actual meet. I've had so many timewasters, couples and ladies, who are all mouth and have no intentions of meeting.

Its also funny that these timewasters still have no verifications after over a year or delete profiles and then reappear with a different one. Why do they do it????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Was reading a topic of how many meets in a week and wondered what people class as a meet and verification!

Meeting for a coffee with a view to future meets? At what point would you verify someone?

Personally, I have get verifications for those that I have met and then played with or enjoyed some fun.

What are others thoughts?

A verification says that you ARE who you SAY you ARE.

Giving verifications only if they have sex with you is ludicrous.

Where does it stop? I'll give you a veri for a blow job but my mate says its not sex unless it's anal ???

A verification should be for identification ONLY.

Jesus ....... soon a points system. "

Wow quite left of field there, so your mate has said its not sex unless its anal! Wow!

I completely understand that a verification can be used to verify someone is genuine a real person, however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger? Nothing about points systems etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I leave verifications whenever I have talked on the phone, cammed or met someone in the flesh - whether that's for coffee or fun. What I say in the verification is obviously tailored to the person in question and the nature of our contact."

Now that makes a little more sense, as long as its clear and not left all vague!

Though I agree with the chap above from sheffield about phone verifications, how do you know the voice matches the photos etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A verification on the phone does NOT mean they will meet. I will now only leave a verification if I have met them in person. I will also only meet people who have been verified by someone else through an actual meet. I've had so many timewasters, couples and ladies, who are all mouth and have no intentions of meeting. "

it just coems down to personal preferene again really. People write/show verifications that they want to write/show and those who read them interpret them how they like.

There's no right or wrong as long as the truth is told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I leave verifications whenever I have talked on the phone, cammed or met someone in the flesh - whether that's for coffee or fun. What I say in the verification is obviously tailored to the person in question and the nature of our contact.

Now that makes a little more sense, as long as its clear and not left all vague!

Though I agree with the chap above from sheffield about phone verifications, how do you know the voice matches the photos etc? "

You don't, you take them for what they are.... a phone call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A verification on the phone does NOT mean they will meet. I will now only leave a verification if I have met them in person. I will also only meet people who have been verified by someone else through an actual meet. I've had so many timewasters, couples and ladies, who are all mouth and have no intentions of meeting.

it just coems down to personal preferene again really. People write/show verifications that they want to write/show and those who read them interpret them how they like.

There's no right or wrong as long as the truth is told."

I do agree. It's not for anyone to dictate how you choose to verify or how you use verifications. We find them very useful as you can often tell who is actually active and get some idea of their participative potential too. eg the verification is all about the woman and hardly mentions the man, or all about the man's oral and how he likes to watch etc. Even better if there are regular verifications cos you can get a fairly balanced perspective. So I would say it's useful to make some comment other than these people are real. But hey just my opinion, do as it pleasures you to do. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications probably cause a halt to more meets than any other thing on this website, while they give you an idea if someone is genuine or not, they also put others of as there’s far to many judgmental people and backstabbers who hold grudges in this scene, too many it’ll put people off, none it will put people off, then there’s the ewww you met them, even if it was just at a social or party. They do more harm than they do good, and they make people lazy, rather than use their own judgments they rely on others to do it for them.

Also think they should only be viewable to people you’re actually looking for ie, if you’re only looking for couples then only couples should be able to view them, or even better, only people you invite as friends, similar to the way the friends gallery works.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I leave a verification if i have met someone in person, whether i have played with them or not

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Was reading a topic of how many meets in a week and wondered what people class as a meet and verification!

Meeting for a coffee with a view to future meets? At what point would you verify someone?

Personally, I have get verifications for those that I have met and then played with or enjoyed some fun.

What are others thoughts?

A verification says that you ARE who you SAY you ARE.

Giving verifications only if they have sex with you is ludicrous.

Where does it stop? I'll give you a veri for a blow job but my mate says its not sex unless it's anal ???

A verification should be for identification ONLY.

Jesus ....... soon a points system. "

We have social verifications from and to our friends.

We only verify 'strangers' who we've played with.

Does that make it wrong...... or are we scoring points?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications probably cause a halt to more meets than any other thing on this website, while they give you an idea if someone is genuine or not, they also put others of as there’s far to many judgmental people and backstabbers who hold grudges in this scene, too many it’ll put people off, none it will put people off, then there’s the ewww you met them, even if it was just at a social or party. They do more harm than they do good, and they make people lazy, rather than use their own judgments they rely on others to do it for them.

Also think they should only be viewable to people you’re actually looking for ie, if you’re only looking for couples then only couples should be able to view them, or even better, only people you invite as friends, similar to the way the friends gallery works.

"

I agree with a lot you say but, I'm personally not bothered in a lot of the content ( eg - great bj's, great sh*g etc etc) as that doesnt decide whether I want to meet or not). Its more of an indication whether they do meet and have fun. Thats the main reason why I look for verifications. As an example. Your profile. Your are verified but I dont know to what extent as they are hidden. It might be a phone call only, so I'd be very apprehensive about travelling that distance on a phone chat verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications probably cause a halt to more meets than any other thing on this website, while they give you an idea if someone is genuine or not, they also put others of as there’s far to many judgmental people and backstabbers who hold grudges in this scene, too many it’ll put people off, none it will put people off, then there’s the ewww you met them, even if it was just at a social or party. They do more harm than they do good, and they make people lazy, rather than use their own judgments they rely on others to do it for them.

Also think they should only be viewable to people you’re actually looking for ie, if you’re only looking for couples then only couples should be able to view them, or even better, only people you invite as friends, similar to the way the friends gallery works.

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We think it's a good thing if it puts of judgementals ad backstabbers, and "ewww u met"s. Not interested in those types.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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I completely understand that a verification can be used to verify someone is genuine a real person, however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger? Nothing about points systems etc"

what it means is that they turned up as arranged, and they they didn't like you or you didn't like them enough to take it any further..... thats all!!!

just because you didn't take it any further doesn't mean they weren't genuine........ after all they turned up for the meet...

if that is your defination that you must play to be varified then you may as well take away 3/4 of mine, because they were at social meets in social gatherings........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally meet for a coffee or lunch before arranging any play meets, and if ive verified them once I see no need to verify them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications probably cause a halt to more meets than any other thing on this website, while they give you an idea if someone is genuine or not, they also put others of as there’s far to many judgmental people and backstabbers who hold grudges in this scene, too many it’ll put people off, none it will put people off, then there’s the ewww you met them, even if it was just at a social or party. They do more harm than they do good, and they make people lazy, rather than use their own judgments they rely on others to do it for them.

Also think they should only be viewable to people you’re actually looking for ie, if you’re only looking for couples then only couples should be able to view them, or even better, only people you invite as friends, similar to the way the friends gallery works.

I agree with a lot you say but, I'm personally not bothered in a lot of the content ( eg - great bj's, great sh*g etc etc) as that doesnt decide whether I want to meet or not). Its more of an indication whether they do meet and have fun. Thats the main reason why I look for verifications. As an example. Your profile. Your are verified but I dont know to what extent as they are hidden. It might be a phone call only, so I'd be very apprehensive about travelling that distance on a phone chat verification."

There hidden because we're not looking for new playmates, but that was one of the points, people rely to much on others to meet people before they pose any interest, theres people on here that would pass a profile by they like the look of because there is no verification, but a month later when they have 2 or 3 they become interested, its the same people at the end of the day, no one takes a chance these day, they want it on a plate and wait until others do the running.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications probably cause a halt to more meets than any other thing on this website, while they give you an idea if someone is genuine or not, they also put others of as there’s far to many judgmental people and backstabbers who hold grudges in this scene, too many it’ll put people off, none it will put people off, then there’s the ewww you met them, even if it was just at a social or party. They do more harm than they do good, and they make people lazy, rather than use their own judgments they rely on others to do it for them.

Also think they should only be viewable to people you’re actually looking for ie, if you’re only looking for couples then only couples should be able to view them, or even better, only people you invite as friends, similar to the way the friends gallery works.

I agree with a lot you say but, I'm personally not bothered in a lot of the content ( eg - great bj's, great sh*g etc etc) as that doesnt decide whether I want to meet or not). Its more of an indication whether they do meet and have fun. Thats the main reason why I look for verifications. As an example. Your profile. Your are verified but I dont know to what extent as they are hidden. It might be a phone call only, so I'd be very apprehensive about travelling that distance on a phone chat verification.

There hidden because we're not looking for new playmates, but that was one of the points, people rely to much on others to meet people before they pose any interest, theres people on here that would pass a profile by they like the look of because there is no verification, but a month later when they have 2 or 3 they become interested, its the same people at the end of the day, no one takes a chance these day, they want it on a plate and wait until others do the running. "

A lot in what you say is true and yes you have a point. Think its because I've had so many disappointments after traveling miles that it just makes me hesitant.

.......Now wheres west Lothian....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what it means is that they turned up as arranged, and they they didn't like you or you didn't like them enough to take it any further..... thats all!!!

just because you didn't take it any further doesn't mean they weren't genuine........ after all they turned up for the meet...

if that is your defination that you must play to be varified then you may as well take away 3/4 of mine, because they were at social meets in social gatherings........"

Wooooah steady on Fabio. I have met people for a drink or lunch before and not taken things further that time. The verification would say that we met for a drink or lunch and maybe a little about how they were as a person blah blah. It does not mean that we didn't meet again for fun at a later time!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"what it means is that they turned up as arranged, and they they didn't like you or you didn't like them enough to take it any further..... thats all!!!

just because you didn't take it any further doesn't mean they weren't genuine........ after all they turned up for the meet...

if that is your defination that you must play to be varified then you may as well take away 3/4 of mine, because they were at social meets in social gatherings........

Wooooah steady on Fabio. I have met people for a drink or lunch before and not taken things further that time. The verification would say that we met for a drink or lunch and maybe a little about how they were as a person blah blah. It does not mean that we didn't meet again for fun at a later time!"

thats fine and that would be fine for me... but that isn't what the OP said

the OP said "however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger?"

I would said if they were "timewasters" why on earth would they turn up for the social meet in the first place???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am not a great fan of veris saying what we did on a play meet think that should be private ,i have got veris that say what we did and wont put them up prefer the ones that just say have met for a social .Having said that i was told that because my veris look like i only do social meets and not play meets i looked like a time waster so i cant win really lol never mind taken them all down now so im def a time waster lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what it means is that they turned up as arranged, and they they didn't like you or you didn't like them enough to take it any further..... thats all!!!

just because you didn't take it any further doesn't mean they weren't genuine........ after all they turned up for the meet...

if that is your defination that you must play to be varified then you may as well take away 3/4 of mine, because they were at social meets in social gatherings........

Wooooah steady on Fabio. I have met people for a drink or lunch before and not taken things further that time. The verification would say that we met for a drink or lunch and maybe a little about how they were as a person blah blah. It does not mean that we didn't meet again for fun at a later time!

thats fine and that would be fine for me... but that isn't what the OP said

the OP said "however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger?"

I would said if they were "timewasters" why on earth would they turn up for the social meet in the first place???"

I agree there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what it means is that they turned up as arranged, and they they didn't like you or you didn't like them enough to take it any further..... thats all!!!

just because you didn't take it any further doesn't mean they weren't genuine........ after all they turned up for the meet...

if that is your defination that you must play to be varified then you may as well take away 3/4 of mine, because they were at social meets in social gatherings........

Wooooah steady on Fabio. I have met people for a drink or lunch before and not taken things further that time. The verification would say that we met for a drink or lunch and maybe a little about how they were as a person blah blah. It does not mean that we didn't meet again for fun at a later time!

thats fine and that would be fine for me... but that isn't what the OP said

the OP said "however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger?"

I would said if they were "timewasters" why on earth would they turn up for the social meet in the first place???"

Chill out chap, its not worth raising your blood pressure, I was just intrigued as to what others felt and how they used the verifications process, personally I think it comes down to interpretation, and there are no rules other than making sure you only validate a genuine person. Wasn't intending folk to go off on one! For fricks sake its the weekend!

Enjoy the weekend folks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just read my original post again, can see some of the confusion

Personally, I have get verifications for those that I have met

and then for those I've played with or enjoyed some fun.

Just wanted to gather others opinions on the matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what it means is that they turned up as arranged, and they they didn't like you or you didn't like them enough to take it any further..... thats all!!!

just because you didn't take it any further doesn't mean they weren't genuine........ after all they turned up for the meet...

if that is your defination that you must play to be varified then you may as well take away 3/4 of mine, because they were at social meets in social gatherings........

Wooooah steady on Fabio. I have met people for a drink or lunch before and not taken things further that time. The verification would say that we met for a drink or lunch and maybe a little about how they were as a person blah blah. It does not mean that we didn't meet again for fun at a later time!

thats fine and that would be fine for me... but that isn't what the OP said

the OP said "however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger?"

I would said if they were "timewasters" why on earth would they turn up for the social meet in the first place???"

True, but turning up to a social meet doesn’t make anyone a genuine swinger, it only makes them reliable, there’s many people on here who have had social meets and frequently attend socials that have never actually swung, and they’ll happily admit that, but with the long list of verifications showing many will see them as genuine swingers, personally speaking, to be a genuine swinger you have to have swung.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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True, but turning up to a social meet doesn’t make anyone a genuine swinger, it only makes them reliable, there’s many people on here who have had social meets and frequently attend socials that have never actually swung, and they’ll happily admit that, but with the long list of verifications showing many will see them as genuine swingers, personally speaking, to be a genuine swinger you have to have swung."

but if that is the case... and we are only now verifying people that we have played with.... then I think the verification system then becomes very indiscrete,... well a lot more that it is at the moment...

if that was the case, I for one, would take all mine down and leave it private.... and I am sure I wouldn't be the only one...

I am sure it would be the situation more awkward....

"genuine" for me means they they are who they say they are and they turned up what they said they were going to... nothing more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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True, but turning up to a social meet doesn’t make anyone a genuine swinger, it only makes them reliable, there’s many people on here who have had social meets and frequently attend socials that have never actually swung, and they’ll happily admit that, but with the long list of verifications showing many will see them as genuine swingers, personally speaking, to be a genuine swinger you have to have swung.

but if that is the case... and we are only now verifying people that we have played with.... then I think the verification system then becomes very indiscrete,... well a lot more that it is at the moment...

if that was the case, I for one, would take all mine down and leave it private.... and I am sure I wouldn't be the only one...

I am sure it would be the situation more awkward....

"genuine" for me means they they are who they say they are and they turned up what they said they were going to... nothing more....

"

I would agree with that if we were only to verify people you have played with then what is the next step? Will we have to put full particulars down about the meet? To us a verification is just that. We verify it was a male or female or couple and that they were as stated and looked like their pictures. Its more about them being who they say they are not their sexual prowess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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True, but turning up to a social meet doesn’t make anyone a genuine swinger, it only makes them reliable, there’s many people on here who have had social meets and frequently attend socials that have never actually swung, and they’ll happily admit that, but with the long list of verifications showing many will see them as genuine swingers, personally speaking, to be a genuine swinger you have to have swung.

but if that is the case... and we are only now verifying people that we have played with.... then I think the verification system then becomes very indiscrete,... well a lot more that it is at the moment...

if that was the case, I for one, would take all mine down and leave it private.... and I am sure I wouldn't be the only one...

I am sure it would be the situation more awkward....

"genuine" for me means they they are who they say they are and they turned up what they said they were going to... nothing more....

"

I agree with you, hence the original post that verifications sometimes actually do more harm than good

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By *andcCouple
over a year ago

London and Cheshire


"Was reading a topic of how many meets in a week and wondered what people class as a meet and verification!

Meeting for a coffee with a view to future meets? At what point would you verify someone?

Personally, I have get verifications for those that I have met and then played with or enjoyed some fun.

What are others thoughts?

A verification says that you ARE who you SAY you ARE.

Giving verifications only if they have sex with you is ludicrous.

Where does it stop? I'll give you a veri for a blow job but my mate says its not sex unless it's anal ???

A verification should be for identification ONLY.

Jesus ....... soon a points system. "

Thats your personal opinion, we have met people for a social meet, with a view to meet them again to play, but we have NEVER verified anybody who we have only met at a social and NEVER would.

why is it ludicrous to verify only those who you have had sex with?

It is just a ludicrous to verify someone because they had a coffee with you!

We see this has a swingers site we want to meet people who have sex with others, not coffee drinkers etc.. While we do understand that just because someone has had sex with one member that doesn't mean they will with you or that it will be as good for you, but it is a good indicator that they are 'PLAYERS' and not dreamers.

finally your point about you Are who you Say you ARE, again that should be you look like you do in your pics, how do you know who they are? So verifications based on they look like their pics is nonsense I will see that when I meet them myself.

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By *andcCouple
over a year ago

London and Cheshire


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True, but turning up to a social meet doesn’t make anyone a genuine swinger, it only makes them reliable, there’s many people on here who have had social meets and frequently attend socials that have never actually swung, and they’ll happily admit that, but with the long list of verifications showing many will see them as genuine swingers, personally speaking, to be a genuine swinger you have to have swung.

but if that is the case... and we are only now verifying people that we have played with.... then I think the verification system then becomes very indiscrete,... well a lot more that it is at the moment...

if that was the case, I for one, would take all mine down and leave it private.... and I am sure I wouldn't be the only one...

I am sure it would be the situation more awkward....

"genuine" for me means they they are who they say they are and they turned up what they said they were going to... nothing more....

I agree with you, hence the original post that verifications sometimes actually do more harm than good "

The fab verification system has worked well for us, we have travelled to London several times to meet people with a 100% success rate(so far) a long way to travel for us to be let down.

We look at the general wording of the verifications the amount of verifications, only one verification would not be as good as say 5, when the verifications where posted newer ones are obviously better than last year and while we don't generally take to much notice of the verification wording because that is someones opinion on their meet, the lack of wording/generalisations etc.. say much more.

Just are personal opinion on the verification system, but has we have said in a previous thread, we would like the option to hide verifications and either attach to messages or just friends list has opposed to the general membership, just like you can with pics, would be a good idea, and keep verifications more discrete.

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By *andcCouple
over a year ago

London and Cheshire


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the OP said "however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger?"

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NO! it means they like to drink coffee, of course they could also be a genuine swinger and actually play, but how would you know that from having a cuppa tea with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to verify people both from a social meet and a play meet, that is because sometimes i don't always have a play meet with someone I have had a social meet with.

I don't verify anyone that i meet that is a bad meet; the single guy who couldnt handle his drink and the couple where the female preferred to drink and smoke in the lounge than play in the bedroom.

I like to read someone's profile and that includes the verifications, as it gives me some idea of the person and whether i would like to meet them. I have met guys without verifications, and those with only one that claimed they had met and played with loads, I'm afraid that i did not believe them at all but then I'm not sure that was more because though i met them socially, i wasn't enamoured to meet them again.

I've been messaged by a guy, so up his ass, he thought the verifications were enough to make anyone want to meet him, I told him he was arrogant and that i prefer to read all a profile not just the verifications. He didn't reply so i guess he wasn't impressed lol

For me, I prefer to see a picture of them and think, yes i like, or see them on the forums and think the same from their comments, not just base my decision on verfications, a person is more important than the verifications

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

we use the veri's to check people are who they say they are! Although we are happy to meet new members with no veri's we'd be wary of meeting a couple who had been site members for over a year with no veri's as there are so many fake profiles on here. So whether a veri is for a social meet or a play meet is irrelevant, we just want to know that a couple is indeed a couple or a single female is indeed a single female.

somebody elses opinion on whether sombody is gorgeous or good at oral etc is just that, their opinion!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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the OP said "however does meeting for a coffee mean they are a genuine swinger?"

NO! it means they like to drink coffee, of course they could also be a genuine swinger and actually play, but how would you know that from having a cuppa tea with them?"

but then it goes back to the point people made earlier on... which is "are we now only to varify people we have played with?"

I think it is interesting.... that we could meet up, feel that something just doesn't click and not play.....

I would be more than happy to varify you.... because you are genuine, and you turned up, but you wouldn't varify me because we didn't play......

kinda ironic.....

and this is why people look at varifications in different ways....

so if a newbie comes in an says "how do i get varified.. a lot would say go on cam in the chatroom, which is a fair enough idea,

not good enough for some people.....

so the next suggestion people make is "well get yourself to one of the upteen socials organised every weekend on the site"..... again not a bad suggestion

but again... since no "play" is involved, not good enough for some people....

some people just can't win, and you made it harder for newbies where they won't get meets without varifications, but they can't get varifications without meets......

catch 22.......

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