FabSwingers.com forum: Couple looking for girl or maybe a couple?

By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Makes me feel bad for Rob when couples get in touch that are really only interested in girls and because they can't find one they then think oh well we'll go for a couple then lol

Does that make any other men feel like they would be a spare part on the night if you met up with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rob.... Who's this Rob then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happens here lol.. Noooooooo

Honey babes... Don't feel bad, Rob would feel proud.. I know i do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

It just gives me the impression that...we'll put up with the male half just so we can get at least a bit of mff even if we have to entertain him as well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhhh but i's suspect you have every bit of the sixth sense we have... and when you meet up can tell whats what.

Then its thanks.. lovely night, have a safe trip home eh..

Never been that desperate to play lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

We hav'nt ever taken it that far, if I get a dodgy feeling then thats the end of that lol

There are 2 of us not me and my driver/bodyguard

I would hate it if it was the other way round and I was there just because the couple could'nt find a single man so met a couple instead.......I know I know...like thats ever gonna happen but you know what I mean lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww..

I'm sure thats not the case that often... We'd never do it. If we both don't like .. then no point.

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

It gets my goat that even though I'm shown on our profile as straight (Mrs RH) we still often get approached by couples where the female is bi. Not that I have anything against bi, but just not with me thanks very much and their approach is usually quite clear that they expect me to play with the female. I know our profile (for those who read such lengthy ones) does infer that I may, possibly, be bi-curious, but how they expect that to turn into full-on bi instantly on their arrival is beyond me.

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

Oh yes - going to get Mr RH a nice little cocktail waiter outfit in case we ever say yes - just like his old RAF uniform - Officer and a Gentleman eat your heart out!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooerr...

Mrs Notts is only Bi if and when Both click lol... Doubt anyone would pounce on you lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It gets my goat that even though I'm shown on our profile as straight (Mrs RH) we still often get approached by couples where the female is bi. Not that I have anything against bi, but just not with me thanks very much and their approach is usually quite clear that they expect me to play with the female. I know our profile (for those who read such lengthy ones) does infer that I may, possibly, be bi-curious, but how they expect that to turn into full-on bi instantly on their arrival is beyond me.

Maybe the fact you have the strap on your dying to try out is making them get all confussed... silly sods eh

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

We have the other problem.

We get couples who want Jason cus the other bloke can't get it up/only has 2"/has a medical condition which means its up and down like a whores knickers or he's such an incredibly bad shag that the Mrs wants summat decent for once.

We stopped meeting couples for a while because of this and I have to be honest, we tend to avoid wrinkly old sows and their obsese, toothless, hairless/over hairy, smelly other halfs cus I just get stroppy and tell the bloke I'd rather wash a corpse but it still don't stop the 'normal' looking ones being just as bad.

Jason....... god bless him, just thinks it's hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say it how it is hun...

Feck me, we only asked 3 times.. we get the feckin hint lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Maybe the fact you have the strap on your dying to try out is making them get all confussed... silly sods eh "

LMAO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as a single bi fem on the site i have played with both . scples who have a bi wife /gf and cples who have bon bi wifes/gf and have come across no problems as yet . i have lot sof sinlge female friends onher ewho have tried the bi side and dont like it but we still get on well and have a laugh ,

i for one never try and leave the male out and am always looking forward to him joining me on his wife / gf so i hope this gives a little insite into a bi fems way of looking at it and not from a cples , and not all bi curious women wud be hit on by the bi lass either we too have boundries and expect respect and respect wishes of the party or parties we are going to

cheers

sioux xx

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

I have been pounced on!!! lol. We met a couple where she was bi and although we spoke on the phone and discussed my preferences and I told her that if bi play was essential for her we should not meet, she said it wasn't important, then arrived and jumped my bones!

I know from the other side of the coin as Mr RH is bi we get some guys who are worried that he's not going to be able to control himself and jump their bones. In his case, of course, as you say, there is no pouncing and stuff - only happens when & if people click and everyone is happy. Unfortunately not all people are the same though.

The original point about people taking a couple with a bi fem as a "2nd choice" when they can't find a single one, I can flip side that. We get some bi males contact us and I sometimes feel from their approach that it's Mr RH that they're interested in and I'm really surplus to requirements.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Durr!! lol

I should have put in my original post that when you look at the profile and its bi fem this bi fem that,looking for mff, hardly if any mention of mfmf...and then they send a message about how much they like the look of you....

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

I'm so curious to see what it's like to give rather than receive for once in my life, would love to know what it's like to be a man. Does that make me bi? Like the profile says, maybe bi-curious at a push, but does that give people the right to take it for granted that I WILL play full-on because they want to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope...

If you need to know what its like to be a man just ask Madchick...

We have never had anyone take it for granted yet... you just got lucky lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Don't you sometimes wish you'd never started a thread? as it goes so off track lol

Ill stand back and watch it evolve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Opps... sorry babes..

I'll shut up... Mwah xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"Opps... sorry babes..

I'll shut up... Mwah xx"

Aaaww noooo xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fighting back the urges here.... Fightin em lol...

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

"Nope...

We have never had anyone take it for granted yet... you just got lucky lol."

As you say you are straight, would you say that you were "lucky" if a bi guy had jumped you? Would you have such a glib attitude if I'd said "no" to a man who then raped me?

Why is it deemed as nice, silly, harmless fun if a bi woman transgresses your boundaries but totally taboo if a man does the same? Sorry but I find a lack of respect for boundaries to be totally out of order regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of the transgressor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fighting back the urges here.... Fightin em lol..."
you can handle them rope them bring them in...yeeeeehaaa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your saying then you had actually said 'stop' To this woman then.. and she just carried on regardless and you fought your way through a harrowing ordeal while your husband and hers looked on...

If a man or a woman was doing anything we didn't like, bet your life it would stop.. Absofuckinlutely it would.

If not its rape... report them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rape... Is a very very serious accusation...

I doubt if either of us had been 'raped' as you say you have.. i'd be glib and report it in a 'fun' forum.

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

"So your saying then you had actually said 'stop' To this woman then.. and she just carried on regardless and you fought your way through a harrowing ordeal while your husband and hers looked on... "

I had, as I already said, talked with this woman and told her what I would and would not do. As we got into same room play, so she worked herself into a position where she started transgressing my bounderies. Nothing horrendous to an onlooker, nothing obvious to make anyone concerned, but it was stuff I didn't want. Yes, at this point I DID call a halt to it and off they went, (albeit shouting insults over her shoulder - he went like a lamb - obviously used to it or terrified by Mr RH!) but the point was, pre-defined bounderies had not been respected.

"Rape... Is a very very serious accusation..."

Read it again, I never said that I had been raped. Following on from your
" you just got lucky lol."
comment, I was questioning why it is so acceptable for some people for a woman to disregard people's wishes when we all know the same people would be running for the rope if a MAN did the same. Just trying to draw some analogies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So.. Nothing serious to an onlooker.. nothing obvious to make anyone (them included it seems then) concerned and when you mentioned, sorry shouted insults they left, sheepish so hardly agressive and nasty people from where were sitting..

Maybe you shoud sit back and read your own post..

Playing isn't a clinical 'do this' 'do that' environment.. and while we all have our boundaries its easy for anyone to slip over the line a little.. if there is no indication something is wrong.. (easy to do we might add, let someone know gently) people naturally think your enjoying yourself... Your ad still suggests more than you scream abuse at even now..

Whilst part of me thinks, yeah can see their point most of me thinks I reckon anyone who has read this would seriously think twice before beating a path to your door guys... sorry!

People are human..

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

"Nope...

If you need to know what its like to be a man just ask Madchick...

You are in sooooooo much trouble for that!

I'm off to plot my revenge!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

" I was questioning why it is so acceptable for some people for a woman to disregard people's wishes when we all know the same people would be running for the rope if a MAN did the same. Just trying to draw some analogies. "

I don't think you will find that it is acceptable for either sex to push anyone else's boundaries.

But sexual abuse allegations are just gonna be so hard to prove against a woman that IF it happens, it just gets laughed off as some silly old tart pushing her luck!

Anyway, I don't think that any TRUE swinger would stand by and let his partner do something that was truly against their own boundaries.

I know Jason wouldn't. He'd be checking all the way through that I was ok with what ever I was doing. Not asking outright, but the right word or luck or touch from him and me and the whole thing would be stopped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely right... Theres a difference though in pushing boundaries, waiting for some sign to say.. 'enough' to someone showing no sign by their own admission (Nothing obvious I think it was said) to just snapping and crying abuse.. Find it a bit odd. No one has a right to take anything for granted.. man or woman..

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

"So.. Nothing serious to an onlooker.. nothing obvious to make anyone (them included it seems then) concerned and when you mentioned, sorry shouted insults they left, sheepish so hardly agressive and nasty people from where were sitting..

Maybe you shoud sit back and read your own post..

Whilst part of me thinks, yeah can see their point most of me thinks I reckon anyone who has read this would seriously think twice before beating a path to your door guys... sorry!

People are human.. "

Me sit back and read my post? I think you need to read my post again! Nowhere did I say that I had shouted. It was this extremely pushy female who shouted at me for "spoiling her fun". All I did was ask her to stop in a polite and calm way at which point she lost the plot. There is never ANY excuse for rudeness so they were asked to leave. It was her who was shouting insults as they left and her partner who went like the lamb. We were not rude or horrible to them and her partner still keeps in touch with us and has apologised for her behaviour (I doubt she knows that though!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well.. whatever the outcome, whatever peoples feelings, including your own. I'd still seriously think about changing your profile.. It does mislead slightly or even alot.. Its a shame you had a rough deal!! (Pardon the pun) Something tells me it may be a long while before you experience anything like it again..

Longer if they read all this lol...

Good luck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" We were not rude or horrible to them and her partner still keeps in touch with us and has apologised for her behaviour (I doubt she knows that though!) "

Well if there from here she probably will if she reads the forums!!!!

I would'nt like to be in his shoes lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wonder why he's still in touch..??

Classy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wonder why he's still in touch..??

Classy!!"

Maybe she's such a cow that his thankful ppl talk to him he just wont go away!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"It just gives me the impression that...we'll put up with the male half just so we can get at least a bit of mff even if we have to entertain him as well lol

i agree if you are going to meet a couple its a couple and dont sideline the guy ....it lacks class and is an instant dump off offence in my oppinion....

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

"I'd still seriously think about changing your profile.. It does mislead slightly or even alot.. "

Thanks Notts - Taken that on board - have a look now and see if that reads a bit clearer.

"Wonder why he's still in touch..??

Classy!!

Maybe she's such a cow that his thankful ppl talk to him he just wont go away!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Sword, think you've hit the nail on the head there! lol, not in our nature to be rude to him, wasn't him that was at fault. Luckily they are on another site so he still should have his nuts regardless of my comments here!

Thankfully we've never had a problem with anyone on this site (apart from timewasters - but we all know about them!). This woman was the only problem I'd had in nearly 30 years of swinging. Mr RH has been swinging for nearly 40 years now and although he has had cause to eject 2 guys from 2 separate parties many years ago, this was his first bad experience in many years and the first one ever with the woman being out of order. Guess there's always one rotton apple somewhere!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"It just gives me the impression that...we'll put up with the male half just so we can get at least a bit of mff even if we have to entertain him as well lol

i agree if you are going to meet a couple its a couple and dont sideline the guy ....it lacks class and is an instant dump off offence in my oppinion...."

XmwahX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly....??? Not really..

But seriously none of our business in any way or form. Its your profile, your way of doing things and who the hell are we or anyone else to say whats right or wrong....

We were not there.. we didn't have the chats you say you had and whatever happened should remain between you and them... Only you know.

Can't imagine what happened guys.. something thats not obvious, went un noticed as such but caused such offense to people who say they have swung for so long... If honest I find the words of your profile... and the subsequent reactions quite confusing..

Thats not to say your bad people or your wrong.. just doesn't add up in my eyes... We havn't been around anywhere near as long as you guys.. but havn't had any troubles letting people know understand and stick to what were all happy with..

Sorry!

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By *irtyduoCouple
over a year ago

nr stirling

well heres my tuppence worth lol!!

we like to play with couples which means both me and my husband like both parties of the other couple and would like to play with both parties (fem on fem not a must) if we like only i.e, the fem or the male then its not happening!!! like sum1 else said how would we feel if couples only liked the fem/male part of the couple, you'd feel like crappppppppppppp!!!!make sense???? im half gassed lol so mite not cum across right but heyho lol!! happy bloody pumpin lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes been there a few times, but we wont meet in those conditions, if you want to meet us, you need to be interested in noth us..I would not feel comfy knowing that the others did not really want my hubby there.

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