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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just a quick question as Ive found quite a few on this site and more on a different site I use. But why do people, usually single women say they will meet and then never do. Do they get off on the build up to a meet, and if so should there be a different site just for people who want to flirt. I understand sometimes people lose there nerve or something comes up, but why oh why.

Sorry for the lack of punctuation marks, Im using a Portuguese computer and I dont know where they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question as Ive found quite a few on this site and more on a different site I use. But why do people, usually single women say they will meet and then never do. Do they get off on the build up to a meet, and if so should there be a different site just for people who want to flirt. I understand sometimes people lose there nerve or something comes up, but why oh why.

Sorry for the lack of punctuation marks, Im using a Portuguese computer and I dont know where they are "

go into forum search type timewasters and read them all it will give you an amzin insight..............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure that there are timewasters on all the sites, but speaking from a single female viewpoint I find that couples are the biggest timewasters for making arrangements and then not turning up.

Obviously we all have a life outside this site and things do happen to make you have to cancel arrangements but a 2 second text or quick phone call/email/message on here wouldn't hurt. After all you wouldn't arrange to meet someone without having spoken to them etc so there are the means to communicate when having to cancel.

Honesty over cancelling is always best..even if its the fact they have changed their mind. Far better than just not turning up!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question as Ive found quite a few on this site and more on a different site I use. But why do people, usually single women say they will meet and then never do. Do they get off on the build up to a meet, and if so should there be a different site just for people who want to flirt. I understand sometimes people lose there nerve or something comes up, but why oh why.

Sorry for the lack of punctuation marks, Im using a Portuguese computer and I dont know where they are "

Thankyou for asking this question. I have just finished a ten year research into single women timewasters.

The published version shows inconclusively that some people who have met 'timewasters' ( if such a thing exists ) invariably go on to waste more time by typing about it in forums.

I can vouch for my findings as I spoke personally to each and every woman. I know them all personally. As does anyone else who posts here.

Sorry about the lack of sincerity. I'm using a British Stiff Upper and keeping positive. Besides...... I have never let anone down OR been let down.

xx Gran xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a quick question as Ive

go into forum search type timewasters and read them all it will give you an amzin insight.............."

Yep, I was just about to suggest the same thing, then again, it wouldn't be the same if we didn't have our daily timewaster's post would it?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Your right just done the forum search for timewasters, FFS why do they bother, spoil fun for genuine people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just a myth that if a female talks to you on here that you’re guaranteed a shag, that’s why so many ignore messages, because when they reply or start communicating, the conclusion seems to be, they should then have to go through with a meet and shouldn’t be allowed to change their mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you there. So many men who message say What are you here for ? If you say you don't want to meet them. They seem to think that we are in a window and will fuck anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We fined a lot of people like to have kinky chat and not meet which we don't mind.

Just wished they would say that then you know where you stand.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"It’s just a myth that if a female talks to you on here that you’re guaranteed a shag, that’s why so many ignore messages, because when they reply or start communicating, the conclusion seems to be, they should then have to go through with a meet and shouldn’t be allowed to change their mind."

I'm not suggesting that there aren't men on here who have that mentality and act accordingly - the reply from Gran re-affirms what you're saying.

However, I took the initial post as being about people who have agreed to meet and then not followed through and, more importantly, contacted the other person to explain that they've cancelled.

Saying that, there are so many of these threads that it does get a bit tedious reading the same thing again and again. Maybe we could do with having a 'sticky' thread at the top of each section which says it happens, it's annoying but don't get hung up on it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s just a myth that if a female talks to you on here that you’re guaranteed a shag, that’s why so many ignore messages, because when they reply or start communicating, the conclusion seems to be, they should then have to go through with a meet and shouldn’t be allowed to change their mind.

I'm not suggesting that there aren't men on here who have that mentality and act accordingly - the reply from Gran re-affirms what you're saying.

However, I took the initial post as being about people who have agreed to meet and then not followed through and, more importantly, contacted the other person to explain that they've cancelled.

Saying that, there are so many of these threads that it does get a bit tedious reading the same thing again and again. Maybe we could do with having a 'sticky' thread at the top of each section which says it happens, it's annoying but don't get hung up on it and move on."

i think i would be very embarrased if i followed through on a meet...... xx

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"i think i would be very embarrased if i followed through on a meet...... xx"

LOL... hadn't thought of it like that when I was typing it, but now that you mention it I see that I didn't choose my words very well.

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend


"It’s just a myth that if a female talks to you on here that you’re guaranteed a shag, that’s why so many ignore messages, because when they reply or start communicating, the conclusion seems to be, they should then have to go through with a meet and shouldn’t be allowed to change their mind.

I'm not suggesting that there aren't men on here who have that mentality and act accordingly - the reply from Gran re-affirms what you're saying.

However, I took the initial post as being about people who have agreed to meet and then not followed through and, more importantly, contacted the other person to explain that they've cancelled.

Saying that, there are so many of these threads that it does get a bit tedious reading the same thing again and again. Maybe we could do with having a 'sticky' thread at the top of each section which says it happens, it's annoying but don't get hung up on it and move on.

i think i would be very embarrased if i followed through on a meet...... xx"

pmsl nearly spat my coffee out then. Reminded me of that guy's post when 2 fems shat themselves when he fucked them lol

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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago

Bridgend


"It’s just a myth that if a female talks to you on here that you’re guaranteed a shag, that’s why so many ignore messages, because when they reply or start communicating, the conclusion seems to be, they should then have to go through with a meet and shouldn’t be allowed to change their mind.

I'm not suggesting that there aren't men on here who have that mentality and act accordingly - the reply from Gran re-affirms what you're saying.

However, I took the initial post as being about people who have agreed to meet and then not followed through and, more importantly, contacted the other person to explain that they've cancelled.

Saying that, there are so many of these threads that it does get a bit tedious reading the same thing again and again. Maybe we could do with having a 'sticky' thread at the top of each section which says it happens, it's annoying but don't get hung up on it and move on.

i think i would be very embarrased if i followed through on a meet...... xx

pmsl nearly spat my coffee out then. Reminded me of that guy's post when 2 fems shat themselves when he fucked them lol "

soz, he actually said "when he was sexing them"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh god yeah the sexing them line had me in stitches for hrs!! xx

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I am not a timewaster

I meet BUT NOT EVERYONE THAT ASKS

I have more free time than most single ladies do so its a lot easier for me

I dont know why people choose to ignore a message

It literally does take seconds to type

"thanks but its a no" then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I have more free time than most single ladies do so its a lot easier for me

"

You've answered your own question hun!

I've had to hide my profile as I had "not meeting" but still they send messages.

My life won't be long enough to send "no thanks" messages to people when I've already said I'm not meeting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i sooooo agree with you

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"

I have more free time than most single ladies do so its a lot easier for me

You've answered your own question hun!

I've had to hide my profile as I had "not meeting" but still they send messages.

My life won't be long enough to send "no thanks" messages to people when I've already said I'm not meeting! "

I routinely block someone I have thought I will never EVER meet

I find it saves repeated explanations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we should ask ADMIN for a chat room just for Timewasters lol wud be fun to see who owned up to being a timewaster lol. I been lucky aint been stood up Well not so far lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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go into forum search type timewasters and read them all it will give you an amzin insight.............."

Stop giving the guy false leads - there are no threads about timewasters - this is the 1st one I've ever read ...

Oh sorry, you mean there's a thread about Portugese computers and how to find the !! mark

Sorry OP, only pissing with you ... have faith and all wil be well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think there's more good than bad on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree,we have met lots of lovely people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe we should ask ADMIN for a chat room just for Timewasters lol wud be fun to see who owned up to being a timewaster lol. I been lucky aint been stood up Well not so far lol"

Ditto, neither have I. Well not left my house for someone to not show up anyway (touch wood). I find it's pretty obvious within moments of speaking to someone whether they are serious or not, instincts will serve you well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have not had a meet yet waiting for the right ones lol.

Most of the people we have spoken to on here and by have been really nice.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"Just a quick question as Ive found quite a few on this site and more on a different site I use. But why do people, usually single women say they will meet and then never do. Do they get off on the build up to a meet, and if so should there be a different site just for people who want to flirt. I understand sometimes people lose there nerve or something comes up, but why oh why.

Sorry for the lack of punctuation marks, Im using a Portuguese computer and I dont know where they are "

The only people we have ever been let down by are..........

Single Men!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"

The only people we have ever been let down by are..........

Single Men!

"

No single man ever let me down....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe we should ask ADMIN for a chat room just for Timewasters lol wud be fun to see who owned up to being a timewaster lol. I been lucky aint been stood up Well not so far lol

Ditto, neither have I. Well not left my house for someone to not show up anyway (touch wood). I find it's pretty obvious within moments of speaking to someone whether they are serious or not, instincts will serve you well. "

Likewise, not happened to me either.

I agree timewasters are very easy to spot. If people keep encountering timewasters you wonder how they're selecting them!! Are they beguiled by photographs and overlook red flags?!!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"

The only people we have ever been let down by are..........

Single Men!

No single man ever let me down.... "

Behave you!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ere we go again.... Rolls Eyes...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


" Are they beguiled by photographs and overlook red flags?!! "

I think this is the crux of it

Hard cock when looking at a pic and imagining a meet = brains turned to mush and not thinking straight,there fore all warning signs are ignored

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

Is there some hidden war going on between couples and single men?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Is there some hidden war going on between couples and single men? "

Not from me.....I love single men

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Is there some hidden war going on between couples and single men? "

Not from us, they are our source of fun

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Is there some hidden war going on between couples and single men? "

I like single men but I couldnt eat a whole one

Would give it a damn good try though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there some hidden war going on between couples and single men? "

Not from us either,we meet a lot of single men and met some lovely guys over the years

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By *ovCpl40sCouple
over a year ago

coventry

After over a decade on "the scene" we have used a few sites and can say IOHO that timewasters are everywhere!!!

Yes folks have lives and "things" happen but as has been noted a text takes seconds to send!

Can say we have found that some folks do seem to rush into meets and from experience these are disasters waiting to happen ..... if they actually happen.

Chin up move on and there are plenty more fish in the sea lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the term "timewaster" carries the association that somebody deliberately sets you up for a meet, raising expectations only to pull out (pardon the pun) at the last minute thus wasting the other person(s) time.

It could also be somebody who likes the idea of talking/ emailing etc for ages without actually meeting.

Now is it not possible that some people just like toying with the idea of meeting and have genuine anxieties/ reservations about the actual meet? Those would not be time wasters in my mind, people do have the right to change their minds and to take things at their pace.

I can honestly say we have never encountered time wasters, perhaps we have been fortunate. But then we trust our judgement when talking to people and if the gut instinct raises the smallest of doubt - we don't go there.

At least not until we are genuinely satisfied that the potential meeting is safe and what we both want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

again, and as i said on another link about timewasters, there are different types.

I consider it a waste of my time if a guy turns up, cums and goes so to speak. I've met men that just want to masturbate and they know that but dont mention it beforehand. that to me is timewasting...could save my time waxing my bits for that!

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

i had a meet arranged for sat, we agreed where and what time, i was at the place and time arranged and he never turned up no text nothing to say why not showed, got home and i was blocked so to me thats a time waster as i made the effort to go

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside


"i had a meet arranged for sat, we agreed where and what time, i was at the place and time arranged and he never turned up no text nothing to say why not showed, got home and i was blocked so to me thats a time waster as i made the effort to go "

Not again Justy - You really don't have much luck do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Are they beguiled by photographs and overlook red flags?!!

I think this is the crux of it

Hard cock when looking at a pic and imagining a meet = brains turned to mush and not thinking straight,there fore all warning signs are ignored "

It's not just the men!!

There are some ladies that post every other day about being stood up for a meet!!

You have to then ask yourself what am I doing wrong: I must be putting them off in some way for it to happen every time!

Only once did playmates not turn up. I'd arranged for my two subs to play with me together for the first time. They were both straight and nervous: what did I have planned!

Ten minutes before the meet they both chickened out!

When each learnt the other had chickened out the offered to come and please me: but their offer declined.

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