FabSwingers.com forum: varification question... can someone have too many?

By *abio OP Man
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

okay I have been have a perv at some of the profiles...

I was just thinking "can someone have too many of them"

I was reading and thinking:

a)"okay, so you play a lot!" but do we really need to know just how much!!!

b)well where does that leave the mystery for other people? do we need the play by play....

when people leave me feedback i ask them to be general, where's the fun in giving away some of the tricks so to speak......

i was thinking of only have 5-10 up there.... but i have seen profiles with 30, 40, and 50 feedbacks.. and thinking woah!!!!

would that many put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Fab

To be honest it does put me off a little. Just my two pen 'uth

But then I am a fussy bugger ...

xxx

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

We had this question not long ago Fabio - and dont think there was any general preferance.

Some like to see who they are playing with while others like to keep it private.

I know if i do see 50 verifications i think WHOA - but on the odd accaison i have been bothered to read them - alot of them are by phone or webcam etc- and sometimes same person more than once.

Its nice to have a few so that others that are interested can see you are real. But yeah - i agree that sometimes there is too much info!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Yes I agree that there can be too many,It sort of puts me off if im honest and we like to find out what people are like from chatting and not soley on verifications.....we've hidden ours now as I don't think they have anything to do with anyone else

Im not saying that they can't be useful but some information on verifications is like a blow by blow account lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to ask why do people over analyse every single aspect of swinging/casual sex? Surely this is what can take away the mystery for other people and not something like a number of verifications someone has on their profile??

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

EH? cos they can Gothica lol people love to over analyse every little detail until we're all in a state of confusion....well I know I am

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I have to ask why do people over analyse every single aspect of swinging/casual sex? Surely this is what can take away the mystery for other people and not something like a number of verifications someone has on their profile?? "

It's just like any other area of the net, it's all about E Peen!!! :P

Kinda funy on a swing sight though when you can see the peen lol, we arn't bothered by amount of verifications, we have some shown, but from friends we have met at clubs or known for years, not just people who we shagged..

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

depends over what time period 50 over 3 moths would ring alarm bells but over a year is ok,not all verifications are meets as well ,its a good way of deciding if you weant to meet i reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It's just like any other area of the net, it's all about E Peen!!! :P

Ok please put me out of my misery, what is peen? lol feel free to take the piss if its something really simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many verifications, and too much explicit detail definitely puts me off.

I'm fussy about who I get intimate with, and I'd like to think that my partners are equally choosy.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

It's just like any other area of the net, it's all about E Peen!!! :P

Ok please put me out of my misery, what is peen? lol feel free to take the piss if its something really simple

sorry, E-Peen is an online term, in things like gaming forums, where people measure there credibility by things such as subscrition date and post count, effectivly trying to show they are better than everyone else (mush like an old fashioned, pissing contest, or who has the biggest penis contest)

here it would be post spam, or verifications or how many pages you scroll down of there friends list to show how much more of a swinger they are :P

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

It's just like any other area of the net, it's all about E Peen!!! :P

Ok please put me out of my misery, what is peen? lol feel free to take the piss if its something really simple

here it would be post spam, or verifications or how many pages you scroll down of there friends list to show how much more of a swinger they are :P "

Ah I see what you mean lol thanks for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i know a guy who had contacted me and i later met, said one of the deciding factors was because i DIDNT have a lot of varifications.

I still had an air of mystery so to speak , he could then make up his own mind.

He did and yup, we still mates

Now thats a mystery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont really bother me to be honest im always safe so does it really matter how many they had? is a sex site after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just my personal take on it but I think verifications are now used for far more than what they were originally intended. Other sites call them different names but basically its about saying the people are reliable, genuine or just turned up as arranged. You are 'verifying' the people are who they say they are surely?

I do tend to shy away from a profile when I see a long list of very graphic verifications but I can see that some like that sort of thing. C'est la vie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said it before..

Personaly hate to see them.. It means little really.. Too many just puts us off and has done. Whatever they say is taken with a pinch..

Hardly going to post the ones that says, crap, can't won't, grubby etc etc are they lol..

We'd much rather if attracted just find out for ourselves..

They have a place in a way.. but like the op says.. to much detail is as much a turn off as nothing??

Just our thoughts....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with you Fabio, some can have to much, i was reading one guys profile and he hd obviously been to one of the social meets and he had, and ive just been back to count them to make sure lol, 27 verification for the same meet all sayng met this guy at the social nice guy etc, i can't see why someone would verify him for going to the social when 26 before me already had, i've seen that a few times from social meets, i know its nice fo people to know your genuine but thats a bit OTT lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

i recently picked some people at random and did a 4 way count of the verifications ie ...counted the verifications and the verifiers verifications and so on ...soon got into the thousands and wish i hadnt looked to be honest.so if i met these people i was sleeping with the sexual history of thousands of people ...thats without the dogging and other sites.

glad the odds are long ..!!

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

I am put off by too many verifications (This is Mrs RH and Mr RH doesn't think the same). I can't give much of an argument why, after all I've been there, got the t-shirt etc. Closest argument I can find to support this, we all know how difficult it is to get a genuine meet at times, so these people with a verification every day or so must be very indiscriminate

I have my own maximum for verifications on our profile and edit out an older comment to make for new ones when needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its like one of the posters said earlier ,, it was i think intenened to prove genuinity and reliability ,, i personaly have only a few but even those few put one lady off ,, said i was a hardenened swinger ,,, what ever that is .... i personally are on here to make friends as much as the sex aspect ,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i dont think there is any harm on how many verifications you have or show. Its the same as going out picking sumone up in a bar and having sex with them only that its public for everyone to see who they have met.

May i add also that most of the the guys i have spoke to who have a lot of veris are very good friends with majority of them, and myself also my veris are from good friends not one offs.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

Depends on how long a time span the verifications cover as well as if they were phone calls/cam fun/face to face meets.

Also you dont have to show all your verifications(although we do)so you can only post the ones you want to if you wish.

We tend to use the verifications so we can try to judge if we would be the type of couple some one else would like to meet.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Surely no one would be judged for having regular sex on such a site as this… or would they?

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By *heekychezzaWoman
over a year ago

warrington

"Surely no one would be judged for having regular sex on such a site as this… or would they?

You only have to read through the threads to see just how often people are judged...virtually for anything and everything.

Just be true to yourself...enjoy your life....at the end of the day, who you have sex with is the business only of yourself and the other person(s) concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people presume that being verified means people have played with each other ?

We have 50+ verifications, we have played with no more than 3 of those people.

The remainder are people we have met socially at Chameleons or other swingers clubs, our verification for them simply points out that we met at a club, had a nice chat, that they are sociable, genuine as in like thier photographs portray them to be, good fun to spend time with, not pushy etc.

I would have thought that this type of verification was more usefull, after all a verification that says "wow fantastic blow job" says nothing, it does not mean that you will enjoy sex with them just because we did.

We arranged a meet with a couple in Wales, we didn't play because it turns out that we are not what they were looking for, we had a great time with them socially and have since met up with them on a couple of other occasions, it will always only be socially and our verifications for each other reflect that, but they are genuine, they are real fun and we would recommend anybody to meet up with them.

Verifications dont have to be about sex they need to be about genuine people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its some sort of look at me thing in my opinion, it dont bother me either way

don't stress over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

something else have offendered wondered is why does the same person feel the need to verify someone every time they meet, if you meet someone and verify them thats makes them genuine? is you verify then several times, ever time you meet does that make them more genuine? lmao i just dont get that, how many times do you feel the need to say i have met this person?

And also what i never get is people who go into the whole sexual history of a meet in a verification, if i met someone what happens on that meet is between us not he whole of the site, if i take it up the arse or give a good blow job, to me, that don't need to be said to show im genuine, and to be honest if i meet someone who verifies me by put something that i think is a little indiscrete i wont put it on public view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh look a typical instance

Naughtynymphos, verified by me but we have never played, I just like to think we are really good mates and I know just how genuine people that are good to spend time with they are.

But if people think that those of us with lot's of verifications are just "showing off or trying to impress" that's cool too because it means they won't get in touch with us and they are not on the same wavelength as us anyway so we are all winners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i suppose we are all different ...thats what makes swinging exciting...our choice what our likes and dislikes are.....personally if someone has like 200 friends and loads and loads of verifications....then thats not for us..........we use our own verification system rather than fabs. so if we fancy meeting someone after some messages we would speak on fone and maybe webcam.....and then use our instinct.....normally our gut feeling tends to be right..........and when its wrong.....make your excuses and leave...ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally a long list of friends and verifications puts me off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"something else have offendered wondered is why does the same person feel the need to verify someone every time they meet, if you meet someone and verify them thats makes them genuine? is you verify then several times, ever time you meet does that make them more genuine? lmao i just dont get that, how many times do you feel the need to say i have met this person?

I still dont think theres a problem with what they have in a veri or how many veris someone has, gud job we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally a long list of friends and verifications puts me off! "

why does a long list of verifs put u off??? im curious to know xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the amount of verifications don't bother me at all its when you get 20+ people all verifying from the same social meet of several verification from the same person i don't get, if you have 50+ all from different people on different occasions that i can understand but if you meet someone and verify them after your first meet why do some feel the need to verify them again after every other meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, gotta say this as it's been doing my head in everytime I look at the forum list and see this thread's title....

I know Fabio doesn't have dyslexia and I've read enough of his posts over the years to know he's an intelligent bloke...

It's VERIFICATION..... not varification.

You verify someone not varify them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the amount of verifications don't bother me at all its when you get 20+ people all verifying from the same social meet of several verification from the same person i don't get, if you have 50+ all from different people on different occasions that i can understand but if you meet someone and verify them after your first meet why do some feel the need to verify them again after every other meet?"

sometimes its due to the fact that maybe they havent seen the person or cpl for a good while an was nice seeing them again or just to say about the exploits that person got up to at socail with them an why does havin verifications bother some folk . ud awe be complaing if there was no veries an u cudnt see who or what they had been doing.

yes its nice when people take the time to say yip he / she / they worth the meeting even if it was only a social visit .

its up to the individual if they show all verifications an i for one like to see some social ones as well as playing ones gives a bit of insight into the person your meeting .

just my opinion tho take care an have fun xxxxxxxx sioux xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have never thought that the people of someones verification list are people they have played with. ours is people we have met but not necessarily played with.

now excessive friends lists do put me off. you know the ones were it takes you ten minutes to scroll down them all lol. the click happy bunch who except everybody

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By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester

same here, a long list of friends or verifications does put me off..

Going back to a previous msg 'not all verifications mean you have had sex with them', but unfortunatly who reads them closely to find this out??

This is why it puts me off and maybe others............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications by phone are not worth the bandwidth and we simply ignore them.

Verifications by webcam are too easy to fake so we simply ignore them.

Verifications along the lines of “we met as promised, nice people, had fun” tell us that the person providing the verification is polite and discrete which we like a lot in others. Also the folk being verified are the real deal and above all are discrete which is exactly what we look for in potential playmates.

Verifications along the lines of “well what can I say but it was well worth the wait! Had a fun filled night, …………… loves to suck cock and squirts for England ( if you can hit the spot lol ) and is horny as fuck..” tell us the person providing the verification is about as indiscrete as you get and revealing all in this “kiss and tell” manner is extremely rude. It also says a lot about those being verified and this kind of disregard with regards to privacy means we completely discount people of this type.

Profiles in general tell you a lot about people, we consider ourselves to be a polite, reliable and extremely discrete couple and if a profile gives us the slightest doubt about others being the same we simply pass them by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we came across a long read verification list then we would hope & pray that they would be able to teach us a thing or two;)

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

"Verifications along the lines of “we met as promised, nice people, had fun” tell us that the person providing the verification is polite and discrete which we like a lot in others. Also the folk being verified are the real deal and above all are discrete which is exactly what we look for in potential playmates.

As someone said - good job we don't all like the same things! I tend to "read between the lines" and the first verification that you mention, I would actually read as something like "they've been pestering us to verify and they were nice people so what can we say without being unkind and mentioning that their hallitosis was so bad we made polite excuses and left?" Whereas the second one tells me that the verifiees (probably made up word) are the real deal and the verifier had a fantastic time playing with them. I know just because it was good for them doesn't mean it'll be good for you, but at least you know they are shaggable, horny little toads - just like us!

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By *Brinksy xxWoman
over a year ago

Halesowen

"depends over what time period 50 over 3 moths would ring alarm bells but over a year is ok,not all verifications are meets as well ,its a good way of deciding if you weant to meet i reckon

pd "

talking about verifications..... where's mine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing i would say, if a couple have only been verified by phone, ie f to f chat,and have been members on here for a while, whose to say there still together, and still playing. We only contact genuine couples and have since found guys still saying there couples when in fact they have split

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Yes people can have too many.

With certain couples and even singles it makes it look like they are desperate enough to shag absolutely anything to prove they can pull.

Mind you, verifications and looking at who wrote them can tell you an awful lot about the type of people they play with and whether or not they have ANY morals and ethics whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel that maybe if site enables you to choose which verification you wish to show keep at maybe 5 say,I don't feel it's the number of verification that one may have it's the time it takes to read through the whole profile in all really x It doesn't matter I don't think if s1 has 1 verification or good few though as stated just show 5 at most x Although others have 1-5 I reckon that even one notice stating the fact would be ample x As for what is described puplicly within these verification upon ones profile wouldn't it be a better idea just to wait n see if u meet up with the person in question n find out for yourself ? X More mystery there n more of a surprise in the waiting hehehe mwah tgc you all Namaste x

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Some people have all their verifications up because they assume that it makes them look like they are better swingers.

To be honest, if I see a rack of verifications, I move on by. We don't have much in common with people who swing because it is their life!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"its like one of the posters said earlier ,, it was i think intenened to prove genuinity and reliability ,, i personaly have only a few but even those few put one lady off ,, said i was a hardenened swinger ,,, what ever that is .... i personally are on here to make friends as much as the sex aspect ,,"

Is it possible that she wanted you to herself, but in her opinion you were too much of a tart? (ie, good enough to want but too good as wanted by many?)

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